The Single Biggest Mistake Men Make
With Online Dating (Sample Chapter)

This is a sample chapter of my Online Mentorship Program...

People often think online dating is about profiles and messages, and that's it...and they could never be so WRONG! I already showed you that knowing where to FIND women online and the assumed "limitations" around it are also VERY important, but today...TODAY I'm going to tell you everything there is to know about yet ANOTHER reason for why online dating isn't about profiles and messages alone...and it's called the INBOX.

There are some things YOU need to keep in mind about them...

Inbox Paranoia
Sure, getting messages and replies from women can be the very BEST feeling in the WORLD (especially when it has been a while since your last date)...but that doesn't mean you need to become ADDICTED to your inbox.

I call this inbox paranoia, and the symptoms of this oh so terrible disease are:
- Constantly checking whether or not someone has sent you messages, and it's evil brother...because it makes you NEEDY for a woman’s attention and love (which makes you go into the conversation all wrong: from an overly desperate position which will make you UNATTRACTIVE in a matter of minutes)
- When, after a long enough time, there are no new messages...you start talking to women who you previously sent a message to and basically spam their *ss to DEATH because you’re desperate for a reply
- IMMEDIATELY hurrying you way over to the site you're on when you receive an email notification of someone who sent you a message and it's satanic twin sister:
- Hastily responding without ANY thought whatsoever TO a message you received one second ago (what you're trying to pull off here...Guiness World Book Record of fastest reply ever? LOL) Put some thought into man, and think about how you’re going to get that contact information

There are two KEY insights that you need to know about your OWN inbox if you truly want to MASTER meeting girls online, and these are...

Lesson #1: Time is of the essence
Let me tell you a story...

When you want to beat Tiger Woods freakin' ASS with golf, TWO times in a row, and you first start to learn golf...do you think you'll be just as good as him? If you really have a burning desire to do so, off course you'll win! BUT...when you play golf for < 5 minutes at school as soon as you get an invite, continue with homework, stop hours later and play for < 5 minutes, and at the end of the day play for another < 5 minutes...and continue to do that one week, one month, one year up to MULTIPLE years..do you REALLY think you'll be the golf chamption? ehhhhhh! (buzz after a wrong answer)

But what happens when you do your things with a 100% attention, focus and energy during the day, and practice your game INTENSIVELY being totally focused, turning off anything that could interrupt you or distract you...for one FULL hour per day, every day? You would be a golfing GIANT after multiple years...one that kicks Tigers booty like it's just a regular training...

And it's the same with meeting girls online: don't try to reply to every single message whenever a woman decides to respond to you or send you some...reply when YOU decide it is the best time for replying during your day (or reply within 2-3 days, or they'll forget about you...but it's YOUR choice WHEN to send the message during those days).

The moral of the story is: plan a block of time (one hour or more) every day that you'll spend on learning how to pick up women online...and ONLY message during that block, makes life AND becoming an online dating GOD so much easier!

Lesson #2: Are you inventing things to do to avoid the important?
I see....

- Men sending an OUTRAGEOUS message to women not replying anymore: once, twice, FOUR times...
- Men doing EXACTLY the same with women who didn't reply AT ALL!
- Men messaging women with no photos at all on their profiles
- Guys writing AMAZING things...to an in-active member (a woman who hasn't been online for 3+ weeks and will probably never login again, EVER)
- Fellas writing POWERFUL messages...to overly cautious women that refuse to give their numbers or emails to them once, twice, three times, and yep…even FOUR times...
- Gents that keep sending compelling notes to girls who clearly seem to enjoy the attention, but AVOID the contact info exchange on purpose...

The result? Full inboxes...yeuhhh...NOT! Because your Inbox will be filled with messages, true, but messages from the WRONG people: people that consume and just plain WASTE a LOT of your time. You came here to MEET women online, not to beat around the bush online didn't you?

So...

- AVOID in-active members and members with no photos altogether AND...
- Walk away from attention seekers, overly cautious women and women that don't reply to your first reminder

And use that time on women who ARE eager to reply...

THEIR Inbox
I hear plenty of guys talk about how they felt rejected, like a failure or that hurt their confidence because a certain kind of woman didn't reply anymore...OR didn't reply at all. Feeling sorry for these guys, I want to point out a few MISTAKES they, and possibly even you yourself, they make about a woman's inbox.

Why is it...that women don't reply anymore, or not at all?

1. Think math my friend...any given women receives, on average, 30-50 messages PER DAY and with the average display page containing 20 messages PER PAGE, guess what happens? Number 21 up until number 50 end up on the second or even third page she is MUCH less likely to view...because of all the lame, predictable, needy, BORING spam she received 20 or 49 times BEFORE it! And these are calculations for a woman who checks her inbox DAILY, but when women DON'T? Chances are, your message got lost in a sea of neverending spam..so try again, once. 

(1.1) The power of the subject...read number one again and you already know why the HEADLINE of your message is so important: the more it stands out, the easier she'll see it in the shit creek full of spam. The best technique for this is a compelling choice of words that teases her ( Heyyy Bollywood addict :P would be a compelling subject for any Hindu lady) about her life and identity, which will IMMEDIATELY grab her attention and make her say "how dare he?" or "who in the HELL is this guy"...and then they open your message to find out!

2. She's busy...let's face it, far from all women online are cruising the internet for dudes...which is why you'll quite possibly WON'T find them online because they have a life: work, school, friends, family, travel, etc. So don't freak out the next day when there's no reply, just send her a reminder if she still hasn't replied after 5 days (why 5? because of the workweek routine in society dumb ass, 90% has a job or goes to school!) and remember: patience pays...as you'll soon discover!

(2.1) Alternatives to the message...I wonder why no man has taught this simple, yet VERY effective trick BEFORE! Most sites have "send email notification in case of a new message or comment" as their default settings, which means women receive an email on their personal account whenever there's either a new message...OR a new comment. And I'm the first to say: use comments to your advantage already! Here's why:

- Women, on average, receive maybe 1 to 5 comments EACH day (if they're lucky)...which means she'll DEFINITELY see yours when you send her something
- The only thing of the messages in her inbox being displayed is the subject, but with comments? They see it ALL...RIGHT AWAY! This means she sees your compelling subject PLUS content, which makes success easier to achieve.
- When OTHER women see the flirty comments on your profile, they know they have competition...which already gives you an "unfair" edge on other men.
One minor advantage: posting comments takes more time (you have to scroll, click numerous times..and sometimes you scroll only to find out she turned the comment option off)..but still, KNOW it's an option all you diehards out there...

3. Flawed escalation...it can and will happen that the conversation bleeds dry, sometimes because she was busy and almsot forgot who you are, sometimes because your last message was crappy and you need to reignite the fire again..OR sometimes because you just took TOO damn long to escalate. You don't own a profile to get as many PEN PALS a man can possibly have, you did it to get as many WOMEN a man con possible have. Look at the previous messages (just scroll down because replying leaves the message history below the current reply), think about what you did wrong and either learn and correct, or learn and say neeeext more than the same named TV show.

4. SHE is not right for you...if she doesn't reply to your very masculine, attraction building message because oof shallow things such as your looks, status, money, age or whatever. That's HER problem, because SHE will miss out on alll the fun YOUR life, YOUR personality..and YOUR dirty mind has to offer! Do you even want to be with such a boring, predictable, materialistic, shallow, probably grumpy all men resenting woman? Nope. Also, some women just have the hots for...for example very dark colored men with bodybuilder like bodies and rasta hair, it's called a fetisj...which is not the fault of YOU being freaky, but THEM being freaky! Some people only drink water and only fall for Asians or albinos or very skinny men, others are just plain resentful against men because of past relationships and maybe take themselves a little TOO serious. Here's my big, top secret "solution" for both: neeeext please!

You can find lots of other online dating techniques that will show you a simply way for meeting women online and getting date after date..after date..inside the Online Mentorship Program.

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