Having A Lack of Confidence... And What To Do About It
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QUESTION FROM A READER
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Dear Dennis, I find it really, really difficult to approach women but
I don't know what's causing it. Whenever I see a beautiful woman
I want to approach I just freeze and end up not talking to her at all!
Sometimes I do manage to get their attention, but I start stuttering
like seconds after I said hi or something.
What's wrong with me?? Can you please help!
Dean P, New York City, USA
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MY COMMENTS
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I know what's wrong with you...
You don't have the balls to do what a man's gotta do and therefore you must secretly be a woman trapped in a man's body!
But at least you have the guts to admit there's something wrong and
that you need help.
Here's the story...
The majority of regular guys understand the fact that if they have
trouble approaching women and can't get themselves to start talking
to a woman, that they need to start building their confidence because
they're to AFRAID to approach women.
BUT…
There are many more signs of a lack of confidence that they either
don't recognize or ignore, and so I want to give you a checklist of
tell-tale signs that hint at you having an inner issue that needs to be
taken care of... unless you want to keep being a desperate little wussy.
And then I´ll show you how to get rid of your lack of confidence...
Below I'll ask you a number of questions, and if you answer "No"
to all of 'em you'll be just fine and I suggest you immediately
unsubscribe from my newsletter...
But the brutal truth is that there's almost ALWAYS a "Yes"…
when you're honest about yourself!
The checklist will only take a minute of your time or less, so start
answering the questions for yourself below now.
The "Inner Game" Checklist
1) Have you ever felt uncomfortable when you found yourself alone
in a room with a woman you thought was attractive?
2) Have you ever acted differently towards your friends or family
during a social gathering (a birthday, a party at someone's place, etc.)
when an attractive woman you didn't know was there too?
3) Have you ever felt jealous and like you were losing control of your
emotions when a woman you liked talked about another man, or
when you saw her with another man (that includes an ex)?
4) Have you ever gotten angry or lost control of your emotions
when a woman said something about you that you didn't like
(example: she teases you or is being picky about something you do
and you felt insulted)?
5) Do you ever get carried away in a woman's emotions on a regular
basis? Example: she felt down at the start of the conversation and you
became less and less happy as well during the conversation.
6) Have you ever hesitated when you wanted to approach and talk
to a woman, ended up not talking to her at all, and then beat yourself
up about it and felt bummed out about it?
7) Have you ever wanted to approach and talk to a woman but didn't
do it at all because you were scared of rejection or failure…
or simply didn't know what to say to her?
8) Have you ever felt like your job, where you live (for example:
with your parents), the amount of money you earn, the clothes
you wear, the people you know, a lack of a social circle, the car
and other stuff you own and so forth… prevent you from
having the success with women that you want?
9) Have you ever wondered why I woman was still with you,
in a relationship with you or still dating you because you didn't
deserve it? That you were unworthy of getting her and
keeping her?
10) And have you ever felt like you were out of a woman's league
and didn't have enough value to "get the girl"?
11) Have you ever gotten angry or felt like you were losing control
of your emotions when people (and women in particular) criticized
you for doing (or NOT doing) something?
12) Have you ever felt insecure during sex because you thought
you wouldn't be able to satisfy her needs? Or that you had
a lack of experience to be able to pleasure her sexually?
13) Have you ever chased a woman more than usual when you
felt like you were losing her? That you tried to call her, talk to her,
IM with her, email with her and see her more than before because
you were scared you would lose her for whatever reason?
And did you react angry or insecure when she didn't reply
to your attempts to contact her within a day or so?
Answer the questions I just gave you honestly, and even if you only
answered "Yes" one time there's a high chance that you need to
resolve some inner issues... that your "Inner Game" needs fixing.
It's important that you realize this... AND that you start improving your Inner Game and confidence right away, because 9 out of 10 times
one minor issue is just the tip of the iceberg...
That seemingly unimportant behavior is caused by an insecurity,
which in turn is caused by a limiting belief that LIMITS not only
the dating success but also the social success you will achieve
if you don't fix it.
If you work on expanding your self image, you expand the limits
of what's possible to achieve in your life.
So how can you start doing that?
Most men, including myself 5 years ago, are scared shitless of
approaching women... they don't dare or can't find the words to say...
Why?
Because you fear that a woman will respond in a negative way
to you because there's something wrong with you.
And in come your INSECURITIES, the things you think are wrong
with you. You need to get rid of your insecurities for good because you're thinking:
Women won't like me because...
- I'm bald
- I'm fat (or overweight)
- I wear glasses
- I don't have any social status (money, looks, or power)
- Etc.
These limits to your own thinking, "limiting beliefs", prevent you
from getting the results with women you truly want... so it's best
if you kicked their ass and got rid of them!
And I can show you how to do that quickly and without much effort,
with my Simple Inner Game System. It gives you access to living
the Axe Effect Lifestyle: being the envy of your friends because
woman after woman... after woman will CHASE YOU around until
you date her and sleep with her. Your success with women will be
off the charts until it will actually make your friends think that Axe
really DOES work as well as in the commercials!
All because you will have extreme confidence and no longer suffer
from the effects of insecurities, the FEAR OF REJECTION, or the
FEAR OF FAILURE... and other "limiting beliefs".
Imagine how your life would be if you lived the Axe Effect Lifestyle
as I call it, how would you feel? Would things be better for you than
they are now?
If your answer is "Yes", then I highly recommend you check out
my Simple Inner Game System now by clicking the link below:
The Simple Inner Game System
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SUCCESS STORY
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Dennis your Simple Inner Game System really has given me an
Axe Effect Lifestyle!! I can't believe it. It has been 3 weeks since
I joined the first lesson on MSN Messenger and my confidence
has gone through the roof while I used to be scared of women.
That's right: scared! Scared of what they might say if I would
approach them.
I'm starting to notice the effects of more confidence. Last night
the cool brunette who moved in next door a couple weeks back
asked me out on a date, I never had someone ask me out on a date!
And my ex suddenly started calling me way more often this week,
says she wants to hang out with me soon and stuff. You rock!
Can't wait for the second lesson to start!
Hank M, Boston, USA
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MY COMMENTS
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Now that's what I'm talking about: all the women you know are
slowly turning into near-stalkers hehehe.
Don't say I didn't warn you about the effects of having an Axe
Effect Lifestyle though!
And if you're reading this and want the Simple Inner Game System
to give you more confidence and more results with women too,
then click the link below now to find out how:
The Simple Inner Game System
To A Better Lifestyle,
Your Friend Dennis Miedema