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Why Learn What Attraction Is?

Let’s first state the obvious: learning what is attraction… and what is NOT attraction… makes it easier to attract women in ANY conversation you’re having with them.

But it also makes it easier for you to spot opportunities for creating attraction, like when a woman is approached by another guy and she is clearly showing him all the signals of “f*ck off I’m not interested.” That’s when you can step in and make her day by “rescuing” her from that punk.

And last but not least: knowing what attraction is, what it really is, makes you realize all the mistakes you’ve made in the past.

It makes it crystal clear for you that this ex and that ex didn’t leave you because there was something wrong with you. No. You just didn’t attract women enough…

It makes you conclude all those girl who rejected you big time in the club didn’t do so because you sucked. No. You just didn’t understand attraction at the time.

In short: knowing what attraction is does some much needed repair work for your self-esteem.

Now you’re convinced of the benefits of learning about attraction, let’s do some mythbusting, shall we?

What Is Attraction – A Common Myth

The biggest myth of what attraction is, is that women are attracted to money, cars, power, fame, and all that other materialistic crap.

Not true. Why?

Because even in this day and age, most of the relationships and marriages don’t happen because both the guy and the girl love each other. Oh no, usually the woman is looking for a provider. Someone who’ll give her security.

There’s no attraction there. None at all. She just wants a guy with a good job, good income, a house, a car, and all that so she knows she’s taken care of financially.

THAT’S why the myth of “what is attraction… it’s having things” persists. But the truth is…

Attraction is a feeling based on emotions that are triggered by certain character traits of a man. Mind you, these traits are NOT chosen by women. They can’t choose who they fall in love with. These emotions have been programmed into women by their genes.

For example, a major attraction generating trait is dominance. When humans still lived in tribes, the most dominant males (back then the physically strongest men) could claim the most food, clothing, housing, and so on as their own. Because of this they could give their offspring a higher chance of survival than males who were less dominant.

The result: women started to sexually select guys for their dominance because it would give them and their offspring the highest chance of survival. It was in a woman’s own genes good to like dominance if you will.

So women can SAY they want this or that and argue with someone about it, they may even emotionally feel they need a nice guy after being cheated on by their ex, but their innermost emotions will always look for dominance in a man because it let’s the human species survive.

Who would have thought Darwin could teach you a thing or two about what attraction is, huh?

And now that you know the answer to the question “what is attraction?” I highly recommend you check out my tips for how to get that girl you like for specific things to do and say to create attraction.

Hope you liked my thoughts on what attraction is. There’s more coming soon!

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women