Throughout time, every man has asked himself: what is attraction? When am I and am I not creating attraction? Here are some answers for you…
But beware: once you know what attraction is, your life will change… in a good way!
That’s because understanding attraction lets you see things that have been going on right under your nose since you were born. Things like what is attraction in male-female interactions and what will surely lead to failure.
Once you see… you’ll attract women almost effortlessly. So, check out my thoughts on what attraction is inside the newsletter(s) and blog post(s) below now…
» What is attraction?
Posted by Carlos | Posted in What is attraction? | Posted on 02-02-2010
A fan of mine asked me: what is attraction? My answer explains what attraction is and how to create attraction pretty damn well, so I’m sharing it with you.
Enjoy this newsletter turned blog post that answers the million dollar question: what is attraction?
QUESTION FROM A READER
Heya D. Thanks for your email about what women want. It cleared the air for me in several ways caus’ I used to have no clue of what’s attractive to women you know. At least I understand the basics now and I’m sure they’ll go a long way in giving me more success in the dating game and I’m definitely going to buy your Simple Inner Game System caus’ I noticed a real difference in how the honey’s respond to me. Thanks for showing the way.
I’m still a bit confused about creating attraction because while you say character trait this and character trait that are irresistible to chicks, they still post their wish lists on dating sites or talk about their ideal man in much the same way. None of these lists contain all of the traits you mentioned, so what am I missing here?
Jack B, Washington DC, …
» What is attraction?
Posted by RockyJJP | Posted in What is attraction? | Posted on 03-10-2009
Comfort is the bedrock of any interaction. It’s much easier to like, invest and fall in love with someone you feel comfortable around, someone you’ve bonded with. Most men starting out don’t build enough comfort though… it’s the single greatest mistake they make.
These jackasses read books and posts about negging (blowing a girl out/ giving her a backhanded compliment that’s more like an insult than a compliment) and they see that as cool and like it’s the thing that makes them stand out the most. So they try it way too soon into the interaction and end up insulting the girl they’re talking too. I was like this too at first. I was not building nearly enough comfort before disqualifying a girl. I sat and thought about how to change this. So I developed a system to be in a safe zone of comfort before making my seductive moves (by disqualifying her with backhanded compliments, being picky and so forth.)
The single best way to learn how to get with a girl is to learn how to build comfort and to spark the attraction is by getting an investment through what I call A&A (Affirm And Ask).
How do you do it? You …
Why Learn What Attraction Is?
Let’s first state the obvious: learning what is attraction… and what is NOT attraction… makes it easier to attract women in ANY conversation you’re having with them.
But it also makes it easier for you to spot opportunities for creating attraction, like when a woman is approached by another guy and she is clearly showing him all the signals of “f*ck off I’m not interested.” That’s when you can step in and make her day by “rescuing” her from that punk.
And last but not least: knowing what attraction is, what it really is, makes you realize all the mistakes you’ve made in the past.
It makes it crystal clear for you that this ex and that ex didn’t leave you because there was something wrong with you. No. You just didn’t attract women enough…
It makes you conclude all those girl who rejected you big time in the club didn’t do so because you sucked. No. You just didn’t understand attraction at the time.
In short: knowing what attraction is does some much needed repair work for your self-esteem.
Now you’re convinced of the benefits of learning about attraction, let’s do some mythbusting, shall we?
What Is Attraction – A Common Myth
The biggest myth of what attraction is, is that women are attracted to money, cars, power, fame, and all that other materialistic crap.
Not true. Why?
Because even in this day and age, most of the relationships and marriages don’t happen because both the guy and the girl love each other. Oh no, usually the woman is looking for a provider. Someone who’ll give her security.
There’s no attraction there. None at all. She just wants a guy with a good job, good income, a house, a car, and all that so she knows she’s taken care of financially.
THAT’S why the myth of “what is attraction… it’s having things” persists. But the truth is…
Attraction is a feeling based on emotions that are triggered by certain character traits of a man. Mind you, these traits are NOT chosen by women. They can’t choose who they fall in love with. These emotions have been programmed into women by their genes.
For example, a major attraction generating trait is dominance. When humans still lived in tribes, the most dominant males (back then the physically strongest men) could claim the most food, clothing, housing, and so on as their own. Because of this they could give their offspring a higher chance of survival than males who were less dominant.
The result: women started to sexually select guys for their dominance because it would give them and their offspring the highest chance of survival. It was in a woman’s own genes good to like dominance if you will.
So women can SAY they want this or that and argue with someone about it, they may even emotionally feel they need a nice guy after being cheated on by their ex, but their innermost emotions will always look for dominance in a man because it let’s the human species survive.
Who would have thought Darwin could teach you a thing or two about what attraction is, huh?
And now that you know the answer to the question “what is attraction?” I highly recommend you check out my tips for how to get that girl
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