You may have switched into “provider” mode and are focusing on success.

You have stopped the “courting” phase, and your lady is drifting and you donʼt know why, or maybe you donʼt even see it.

You think you are doing everything right, but something feels wrong.

This goes for whether you are seeing different ladies, or you have found one that you really like and have been together awhile. No matter where you are, the more solid your foundation is, the more solid your game will be.

Kai Zen - constantly improving yourself, can strengthen that foundation and you will be far more aware and in control of your dating and/or relationship status.

If you know something is going wrong, you can fix it!

Maybe you have been in that situation before, or headed there soon. You may already be there and truly not know it, like I was. No matter where you are, it may not be too late to turn it around. You can not only save a dying relationship, but you can strengthen it, and your business success, at the same time.

This is a true win-win scenario.

When you cement your foundation internally, your entire structure solidifies. So start focusing on the root of all your issues - YOU.

“Seek and ye shall find.” We have all heard this before.

Because it is true. It is only a matter of time.

Now is when you must start to strengthen your inner foundation. Regardless of how strong you believe it already may be. Leaders in any industry always stay on top of the game, working to better their businesses and themselves.

If you have been looking, keep it up. If you have not begun, there is no better time than right now!

Fortunately, foundations can be remade stronger than before. In the real estate biz, I used to hire companies to rebuild fractured, unstable, cement foundations on houses.

Some good, some bad, some really bad and cost me way more than I paid them. But when I found the good ones, I stuck with them. The point is, if you follow the right advice, you can strengthen your foundation better than the original. KEEP LOOKING!

Seek wisely and you will find the right path. The beauty of this search is the change you will not see. It will simply happen. The ladies in your life will see the change in you. By constantly improving who you are on the inside, you automatically become more attractive!

There is no down side to this quest. NONE! You will learn more about yourself, you will understand women more, your business will grow. In some cases, you may realize that you are on the wrong path entirely and you may need to switch your business (or lady) altogether.

Iʼm not advocating divorce, of course, but if you are in an unhappy relationship due to a weak foundation, you may have to adjust all aspects of your life. If you are at a dead end, itʼs time for a U-turn

When you seek, do not search for an answer. You will get many.

Seek knowledge. That knowledge will guide you to where you need to be.

Whether you know it or not, you are becoming more than you realize. One day it will happen. You will simply arrive and realize that you are strong.

And believe me, when a woman senses Kai Zen in a MAN, she knows it!

She will find you, my friend, and she will help you be the most you can possibly be.

A woman who truly believes in and respects you is the bedrock to your foundation. So, by being the best man you can be, constantly and consistently, you will naturally attract the woman you need and deserve.

So take a minute. Self evaluate. Are you truly happy? Is your spouse, girlfriend, and/or family truly happy?

Ask them. Ask how they and others see you as a person. Take nothing for granted.

As a MAN and a leader it is your job to check on these things. If you are afraid of what others think; you have a lot of work to do. You should welcome input, examine it, and execute accordingly what will be of the highest and best use in your life and business.

As you grow, so will everything around you.

Go On, Be Strong

Spike Spencer, the Dating Sage
www.DontKillYourDate.com

Or “No, not tonight…”

Or “We’re moving too fast…”

I’m sure you’ve heard one of those, or maybe even a few others.

All of them basically tell you one thing:

You’re not getting laid tonight.

Wouldn’t it be better if you knew this in advance? So you could cut your losses?

Maybe go home and watch a movie or get a few hours extra sleep.

Well, I’m going to share a few of the signs that tell you you’re not getting laid so you can spot this roadblock way in advance.

Sign #1 that you’re not getting laid tonight:

She’s cold and “different.”

You sense a change in the climate with her. She’s nothing like she was the other night when you were all sunshine and cuddly kittens together.

And the more you try to get that affection and spark going, the more she seems to resist you.

Frankly, the best thing you can do in this situation is to just do a 180 and freeze her out a little. Don’t act like you’re a spoiled kid who can’t get his way, mind you. If you look like you’re retaliating against her, you’ll probably never see her again.

Instead, make and excuse to go sit in a chair away from her. Flip through some comedies, and chill.

Keep your good humor, and just let her feel the pressure of possible rejection. Let HER sweat it a little.

You’d be amazed how quickly this will turn that attitude around.

Sign #2 that you’re not getting laid tonight:

She talks about how she’s emotionally “fragile” or wounded in some way.

She mentions some kind of emotional “trauma”

This is different from talking about not wanting a boyfriend. That’s just a sign she’s looking for no-strings sex.

But when she talks about how she’s been hurt, and her heart is mending, and all that crap…

You can be sure that she’s in desperate need of validation.

You can give her a little of that validation, but don’t let her push you into wussy behavior as a result. This is where guys go WAY wrong with a woman and start turning into nurturing care-bears.

She doesn’t need (or want) your inner mom. Just listen to her (for a little) and then change the subject to something fun and positive. If she resists the change and wants to drone about her heartache, run for the hills.

Really, man. I know it doesn’t sound “sympathetic,” but you’re not going to be able to help her. And you’ll just drag your own attitude down as a result.

Sign #3 that you’re not getting laid tonight:

She wants to just “cuddle.”

Cuddling is the cheap tactic women pull out of their hat when you’re at the finish line and she wants to slam on the brakes.

Yeah, you might hear something like the aforementioned:

“No, I’m not ready…”

Or “No, not tonight…”

Or “We’re moving too fast…”

But she’s doing one of two things:

1) She’s trying to test you and see if you can handle her putting on the brakes.

This is a HUGE test of a guy and it tells her a ton about you.

If you get all whiney and pushy and bratty about not getting some, then she knows you’re trying to get the sex more than you are actually into her.

And guess what happens next? Yep, she’ll be nice and try to appease you, but you’re not getting any.

2) She’s not feeling the kind of hot & heavy attraction (or connection) that she needs to sleep with you.

This usually means that you missed a step somewhere along the way. It’s going to be up to you to re-establish that missed ingredient to get her into you again.

There are many other signs that a woman isn’t ready to sleep with you, but these are a few of the big ones you can spot right away.

And ultimately they all trace back to your ability to move her forward to the finish line.

…and it’s up to YOU to make this happen.

There’s a whole roadmap of going from “hello” to “good morning” with a woman. And you have to know every step along the way if you want to avoid the dreaded: “Not tonight” from a woman.

And the fact is that guys make 4 very simple but HUGE mistakes with women.

And these four mistakes make it nearly impossible for them to get sexual with her.

If you want to learn what those mistakes are, just GO HERE…

And before I give you this incredibly long and pretty awesome list of what to text a girl in specific situations, I just want to say that these are guidelines. These aren’t rules you MUST follow dude…

Because you don’t have to use ALL my examples of what to text a girl to GET the girl. Just experiment, see what works best for you, and keep doing what works.

And secretly?

I want to show you WHY all of these examples work so well, so you can invent many more yourself and become a rock star of texting girls. But more on that later…

Let’s check out some examples of what to text a girl already!

What To Text A Girl When You’ve Just Met Her

When you’ve just met her it’s important to keep the attraction going. To keep her interested.

What does that mean when it comes to what to text a girl?

It means challenging her, teasing her, being picky, being mysterious, being hard to get, being dominant… and the list of things you can do via text to keep her interested goes on and on.

Let’s see what to text a girl to keep her interested is all about…

1. “Hey you. Yeah YOU! Can you keep a secret?”

Of course when you text a girl like this she’ll be curious and say “YES” and ask why, after which you’ll say:

“Don’t tell anyone, but I met this insanely cute girl the other day. Her name is NAME OF THE GIRL YOU’RE TEXTING. It was a shame she didn’t have bigger boobs though.”

Now THAT is a great example of what to text a girl if you want to tease her. Don’t look at me that way man. This works because you’ll be one of the few guys who’s not impressed with an attractive girl’s looks and kissing her ass. That means you’re hard to get. Girls want that.

And if you still don’t believe me, then I’ll just go ahead and say: bad boys are attractive to girls. And making a comment like that? That’s definitely being a bad ass!

So remember this when it comes to what to text a girl: it may not feel right to text her that at first, but it will once you see the level of success you’ll achieve with these samples.

2. “Uhm heyyyy… you? Who is this again? I have this new number in my phone but I don’t know who it belongs to!”

This works well for the same reasons I gave you for example of what to text a girl #1.

3. “You know what? You’re actually the first girl I’ve met in ages that isn’t stalking me with texts after one day already. Then again, this super saintly saint always falls for bad girls because I am sooo sweet and saintly and innocent…”

Instead of directly letting a girl know you’re a bad boy by making a crude comment, you’re indirectly letting her know by over-emphasizing that you’re Mr. Right so much so, it’s unbelievable.

It’s what to text a girl if you like to use a more… subtle approach for coming across as a bad ass.

4. “Can I ask you something? Are you a thief, because you stole my heart…”

Stop right there! DON’T think I’m telling you to use a real cheesy pick up line when you text a girl. I’m telling you to use it… and then immediately afterwards say:

“Would it work? Would a cheesy pick up line like that work on you? Oh come on! Be honest!”

As you can see: I’m mocking other guys in the dating game. And let me tell you: chicks LOVE that! It shows them you’re above and beyond slime balls who use stuff like that.

Don’t ask me why girls think that’s hot. They just do. That’s why I use it as an example of what to text a girl.

5. “Ok, let’s pretend for a sec that you’re a guy and I’m a hot girl like you. What would you do to try and pick me up?”

This example of what to text a girl works in a similar way as the previous one, the difference being that after she admits what she would use on you? You tease her by then using it on her and asking if it worked.

6. “Quick, quick! Wine or cocktail! Wine or cocktaillll!”

When you text a girl that, she’ll be like: “What the f*ck?”

And then she’ll play along.

Then, depending on her answer, you ask her a follow-up question the same way: “Red or white wine! Red or whiteeeee.” I think you get the picture.

Then you ask her to pick one of two foods and afterwards you say: “Thanks!” and you’re quiet. Now THAT is what to text a girl if you want to create attraction by being unpredictable.

And… it’s a very good way to ask a girl out too, but more on that later…

7. “You know, I just saw this smelly homeless guy with yellow teeth, these crazy looking eyes, and the most raggedy pair of jeans I’ve ever seen. He reminded me of you!”

Don’t force me to explain why this is a good example of what to text a girl if you want to tease her…

8. “I’m telling you a story right now and in the middle of the story, just before the moral of the story rears it’s ugly head I just…”

Stop telling you. Whenever she asks for the whole story, the whole story of ANYTHING, stop halfway through.

She’ll tell you she only got half your message. She’ll beg you to tell her more… and you’ll tell her she only gets to hear the rest if she gives you a… little kiss, a drink. You decide!

The basic principle behind all these examples of what to text a girl is simple: create more tension. Sexual tension. And to do that long enough for her to want to go out with you.

I’d say sending 3-4 of these awesome texts to a girl is more than enough.

What To Text A Girl Who Likes You

These examples of what to text a girl are just to make a point, the point being that you need to grow balls and cut to the chase if you know OR if you can say with 90% certainty that a girl likes you.

9. “Let’s be honest. I know you like me and I know I like you. What are we going to do about it?”

10. “Honestly? I like you. You’re a lot of fun to be around and you’re pretty hot too, so let’s go somewhere together already!”

Trust me when I say that girls LOVE it when you’re direct, almost too direct, with them.

Why is it great to learn how to be direct when you want to learn what to text a girl?

Well, compare it with a girl’s male best friend who tells her that “No! I’m absolutely not in love with you. We’re just friends…” and who later admits that he does love her.

Other men beat around the bush, you don’t. You get what you want, when you want it. That’s what to text a girl who already likes you.

Let’s keep going!

What To Text A Girl Who Stopped Responding

These samples of what to text a girl are for when, for whatever reason, she stops responding to your text messages or calls. There’s a way around it that STILL gets you the girl you know.

How? Just watch me text a girl:

11. “You seem to be busy right now, so I’ll leave you alone so you can do your thing!”

This lets a girl know you won’t waste time waiting on her, but also that you’re not desperate for her to get back to you.

And hey, it’s also a good way to know if she’s really busy or just didn’t bother to reply to you earlier on… because if a girl isn’t busy and reads this text? She’ll reply because she doesn’t want to insult you by making you think you’re bothering her.

Pretty awesome trick if you want to learn what to text a girl, right? I know!

12. “Wow! You’re playing hard to get already? Aren’t we moving a little too fast lady? We haven’t even dated yet!”

13. “I have to tell you a little secret: even my grandmother types a text message faster than YOU do. Damn girl!”

14. “Awhhh. She’s giving me the silent treatment. How cute! Love you too honey!”

15. “What is the epitome of boredom? Being so bored by yourself that you fall asleep while watching yourself type a text message. Hint hint!”

16. “You’re not sending text messages via snail mail are you? Because even sleepwalkers can move their fingers faster than you type text messages woman!”

Here are my final thoughts on what to text a girl that stopped responding: what makes you think it was because of YOU?

Maybe she’s at work, sick, having a bad hair day, having her period, having a shitty day, and so on. Girls are emotional creatures, so frankly?

There are six million ways to make her lose interest in talking to ANYONE. That can include you, the guy she likes.

What To Text A Girl To Get A Date

I can give you so damn many examples of how to text a girl and get her out on a date. So you know what? I will, damn it!

17. “You know what? We’ve been texting back and forth for a while now. But let’s do what normal people do and grab a drink somewhere to talk some more.”

18. “Hey, I know this great places where they have XYZ. Let’s go there tomorrow!”

That’s what to text a girl if you want to ask her out but don’t want to be too obvious about it.

19. “You seem to be a person who has an opinion and likes to have fun, just like me. So, let’s have fun together by going to XYZ tomorrow!”

20. “You know what? If you promise you’ll be my tour guide tomorrow when I’m in XYZ, I’ll give you some lessons in XYZ in return.”

Here, you ask her to be your tour guide in her city or neighbourhood, in exchange for some lessons in whatever you do best… like playing the guitar.

21. “You’re bored? Well, if you play your cards right, I might take you to this awesome place where they have XYZ later today!”

This is what to text a girl when mentions she’s bored.

22. “You’re not doing anything right now? Then allow me to take you to XYZ, where they have the best XYZ ever!”

Use this one if a girl mentions she doesn’t have much to do or ASK if she has anything to do and then tell her this.

23. “Hey, me and my friends are about to hang out at a buddy’s place. If you can make it, you’re invited.”

Probably the most casual of all examples of what to text a girl, but it still works because she’ll get to see how awesome you are when among friends. Girl are attracted to such “social proof”

24. “Party at my place at XYZ PM! Be sure to bring me my favorite liquor or you won’t get in!”

Another widely used example. But widely used doesn’t mean it sucks. It means it probably works!

25. “It was fun meeting you earlier today. You seemed to be a party girl so I just HAVE TO ask: what are your plans for the evening you party animal you?”

Just because you got her number earlier today doesn’t mean you can’t text her TODAY. It depends on a girl-by-girl basis, so try your luck with this one and see what happens.

26. “Tell me: do you have plans for the weekend? Or are you just going to sit around like a true couch potatoe?”

This is what to text a girl in a non-desperate way if you want to know if you can ask her out or not.

27. “Thank you for telling me what you would like to do on our date tomorrow. I’ll pick you up around, say, eight-ish?”

Remember example #6 where you asked a girl to quickly choose one of two options several times? Well, you can go out and buy the things she chose so she’ll drink and eat what she prefers on a date with you.

And in case you were wondering: I’ve used XYZ in several examples of what to text a girl, but don’t actually text a girl that dude! Fill in what you think is best there, for example a movie theatre when telling her you want to take her to some place nice.

One more thing: if you’re unsure not about what to text a girl after reading so far, but about WHEN to text a girl, and after how many times to ask her out?

Then don’t worry bro! I got you covered! I’ll give you all the tips you’ll ever need to successfully text girls (and date them too) inside my Calling and Texting Newsletter.

Moving on… on towards more examples of what to text girl that is!

What To Text A Girl When In Doubt

I can almost hear you think: “What do you mean… what to text a girl when in doubt Carlos? In doubt about WHAT exactly?”

It’s simple, really. What follows are examples of things to text a girl if she’s not sure she can hang out with you or gives you ANY other kind of excuse about going on a date with you.

28. “You’re going to PLACE XYZ tomorrow? Wow! That sounds incredibly… lame. Come with me. You know I’m much more fun than that place.”

29. “Great! When are WE going?”

This is what to text a girl when she mentions she’s going somewhere. To a party for example.

30. “Oh come on! Play nice. I promise I won’t get drunk and embarrass you in public (yet!)”

31. “Oh come on! You’re so boring! Ok, ok. You can pick the place we’ll go to, but you have to promise me you’ll by me a drink when we’re there.”

32. “Ahh don’t worry about it. No is a good answer too. Just don’t be surprised when you find out that I’m not the kind of guy who gives up when he’s genuinely interested in a girl!”

Now that’s what to text a girl if all else fails. It’s playing the honesty card: straight up telling her how you feel and that you won’t stop trying to get what you want.

And you want her.

33. “Ok, you know what? Have you ever heard of the Lemon Law? It works like this: we go somewhere to get a drink. If we don’t like each other’s company after five minutes, we’re both free to leave. That way we don’t hurt each other’s feelings and we also don’t have to stick it out until the end of the night if we hate each other.”

You have to thank fictional womanizer Barney Stinson for that last one.

Guess what? It works!

And just when you thought you saw enough examples of what to text a girl? I’m giving you some more…

What To Text A Girl After A Date

If you think you’re done finding out what to text a girl, and with creating attraction in general, after you’ve been on a date with a girl? Guess again!

I seriously thank GOD that you’re not a general if you think that way, because it would mean you would have thought we’ve won a war after winning the first battle.

THE way to guarantee yourself a second date, and possibly more, is knowing what to text a girl AFTER the first date. And it’s this…

34. “I had so much fun today! We should do this again some time!”

Another example of what to text a girl after a date:

35. “I have to be honest with you. Today was one of the most boring, nightmarish, and sleep inducing experiences I’ve ever been through. Just kidding! It was great!”

Decide for yourself if you have the guts to say example of what to text a girl #35, or not.

36. “You’re lots of fun to hang out with. I just know we’re going to be the best friends ever!”

This works if you want to let her know you only want to be friends with her, but it’s also what to text a girl if you want to make yourself hard to get. Because if she likes you?

She’ll try even harder to make sure you’ll NOT be her friend, but her lover. Girls like a challenge.

Neeext!

What To Text A Girl You Like If You Think You’re Losing Her

Look, sometimes you do everything in your power to get the girl but you still feel like she’s out of reach. Out of your league.

And sometimes, you wonder what to text a girl you like because you feel like she’s losing interest in you. Here’s what to use then:

37. “Hi, this is me taking much longer than usual to respond to your text messages.”

Of course this isn’t what to text a girl word-for-word, but it is what you need to do: when you feel a girl is losing interest, the worst possibly thing you could EVER do is chase her more and harder than before.

Why?

Because it only makes you look desperate, so worse, than before. No good will come of this.

Instead, what you should do is make yourself scarce. Make yourself harder to get than you were. More difficult to understand. More difficult to keep.

Do that and a girl will realize she has to fight for your attention. That’s all it takes to get her to work her ass off for you if she ever liked you, even if she only liked you a little bit.

So, the above example and the following 4 examples of what to text a girl are all about how to make yourself harder to get (and keep):

38. “Hi, this is me acting way more distant than usual when I respond to your text messages.”

Again, when you think you’re losing her interest it’s all about making yourself hard to get, so you can repair any damage you may have done.

And again, it’s advice for what to text a girl, not something you should literally text a girl

39. “Hi, this is me texting you less often than I used to do.”

40. “Hi, this is me avoiding your questions with indirect answers for a while.”

41. “This is me texting you how much fun I’m having without you.”

Enough with the examples of how to turn things around when you THINK you screwed things up already! Let’s look at some examples of what to text a girl that will, 100% guaranteed, screw things up for you.

In other words: check out what NOT to do when you text a girl below…

What To Text A Girl If You Pray For A “Fatality”

Sorry. Got a little carried away there with my addiction to Mortal Kombat games. I’ve been a Scorpion fan for years! I know it’s wrong. I know those games are pretty violent. I say: f*ck it. Who’s with me!?

But what I mean is that you should NOT text a girl the following if you don’t want to do a fatality on attraction: if you don’t want to KILL the attraction.

42. “Are you a thief? Because you stole my heart!”

Cheesy pick up lines don’t work if you’re dead serious when using them.

43. “Do you believe in love at first sight? OR should I walk by again?”

This was an example just to stress the fact that NO, cheesy pick up lines don’t work. Ever. Unless you make fun of them. Which is the pinnacle of awesomeness.

Please, please, pleeeease remember that cheesy pick up lines are NOT what to text a girl.

44. “I don’t know if I’m your type, but…”

Don’t you EVER say this if you DON’T want to be seen as an insecure wussbag with a capital S painted on it. That S stands for SUPER by the way. Super wuss.

45. “Would you like to go out with me some time?”

Could you make it even more obvious that you’re insecure about yourself and/or her liking you? Man up for a change and don’t ASK her to go out with you. Tell her you want to go out with her. Now that is what to text a girl to get her on a date with you.

46. “Why aren’t you responding to my text messages? Are you ignoring me?”

Getting angry doesn’t solve a damn thing. Getting angry only scares a girl away from you, even if she was attracted to you before. Anger stuff is not what to text a girl man. Definitely not.

Trust me, I’m a hot tempered guy so I had to learn this the hard way.

47. “Hi! This is me sending you my 27th text message today!”

Don’t come across like you have no life of your own AT ALL. That’s a major turnoff. Have fun while you text a girl and with what to text a girl, but always leave her wanting more.

48. “Hi! This is me responding to your text in less than 4 seconds!”

Responding within a minute after getting a text from her says a lot about you. It could tell her you’re really interested, but mostly? Mostly, it says that you were waiting for her to text you and that you have nothing better to do than just that: waiting for her.

That gives her one thing: a major desperation alert!

49. “Hi, this is me responding to your message in a way that leaves nothing for you to say.”

One of the most fatal yet common mistakes when it comes to what to text a girl, is to respond to questions she asks or to tell her stuff… and then leave nothing for her to say.

If you said everything there was to say, then why continue? So, if you want to get enough time to get a date with her, then ask questions and ask them often.

Keep her talking, so you give yourself a better chance of getting a date with her with one of the examples of what to text a girl to date her I just showed you!

50. “Hi, I’m a guy who gives up at the first attempt to get the girl!”

Of course, several of these last few examples aren’t things you’ll text to girls. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to bring them up though, because here’s the thing about giving up on what to text a girl and when:

Just because girls, and people in general, take their smartphone with them wherever they go doesn’t mean they’ll actually HEAR every text message they’ll ever get.

Hell, I know I don’t when I’m driving with insanely loud music on, you know? Don’t take it personal when you don’t get a reply from her.

That’s a long list with examples of what to text a girl, isn’t it? Yet still, there are many more moments when you’ll want to know something to freaking say. Moments like…

Birthdays, shitty days, holidays, when she just broke up with her ex. You name it!

And I’ll share many more examples of what to text a girl and why inside my Calling Women and Texting Women newsletter. You should definitely check it out, if you know what’s good for you.

I hope you liked these 50 examples of what to text a girl dude! Stay tuned to the Win With Women blog for more no-nonsense tips to improve your love life and social life with.

Check out the rest of the How To Text A Girl series.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Because knowing the best places to meet women is one thing, another is knowing all the good places to pick up women AND how to “get the girl” there. But you know what?

I won’t stop there, because don’t you just HATE it when you’re looking for the best places to meet women and everyone’s telling you to go there and there… and then you actually go there and leave the place freaking empty handed? With ZERO phone numbers OR dates?

If you hate that, then you’re in luck my friend… because today I’ll show you both the best places to meet women and how to get what you came for in them… AND…

The worst places to pick up women plus the reasons why they suck, so you can avoid them and let the single douchebags who think they know better but can’t get a date worry about it on their own.

Now let’s check out the best places to meet women already, shall we? For your convenience, I’ve categorized the places to pick up women based on different types of women.

The Best Places To Meet Women Who Are “The Girl Next Door”

Some of us guys have an acquired taste and some of us just want a cute looking, ordinary chick.

And these are the best places to meet women who are your ordinary, girl next door type a girl…

1) The malls and stores. Malls and stores are some of the best places to pick up women, because it’s easy to get to know women there. Why? Because women shop around. They never walk into 1 store, get what they need, and leave like men do. They spend entire DAYS in malls and think that’s fun. The best way to meet women there is to ask them to help you with your shopping. Tell them you need to buy a gift for your sister but have no clue on what to get or that you want a female’s opinion on a suit you need to get for work.

Women will love helping you, you have plenty time to talk to them, and you could even get their number by telling them you want to call if you ever need another shopping guide.

This is why malls and stores are among the best places to meet women who are just like you.

2) The supermarket. Going to the supermarket is, again, stepping on “female turf” because it’s assumed that women cook way better than men do. So, why not use that to your advantage? Tell women you want to make a certain dish but don’t know which ingredients to put in it. Or you can go to another part of town that you usually never go to so you have to FORCE yourself to ask women in the market for directions to whatever you always need.

3) The sidewalk. Yes, you heard me. The sidewalks and streets of your local city or town are some of the best places to meet women simply because they don’t expect it! You see, in clubs and bars women have their “game face on”, but on the streets? They’re usually going somewhere. Other guys don’t approach them because they think it’s scary because other people might notice. Funny thing is though, no one does. EVERYONE needs to go somewhere so they really don’t care who talks to who because they have places to go and people to see.

On the streets you can ask them for directions to start a conversation, then ask why they know the place so well (or not at all), introduce yourself, tease her, tell her you want her to be your tour guide some time (if she knows the place) or that she gets another chance to be a GOOD tour guide instead of a crappy one by giving you a tour of her hometown, and so on.

4) Public transportation. In the US, people aren’t big on public transportation… but that doesn’t mean there’s no subway, bus, train or plane (or cable car in San Fransisco hehe). People need to wait before their mode of transportation arrives and are bored until it does, so why not meet women at the station/airport/harbor and make it less boring for them? Plus, they need to wait until they get where they want to go too, which is another opportunity to meet women.

Long story short: all public transportation places are among the best places to meet women, ordinary women.

Now, maybe your type of woman isn’t “ordinary.” No problem dude, just check out one of the other best places to meet women that match your wish list below…

The Best Places To Meet Women Who Are The Sporty Type

If you’re into athletic women, then pay attention because these are some of the best places to meet women who are your type…

5) Exercise classes. Contrary to popular beliefs, gyms where Arnold Schwarzenegger look-a-likes go to aren’t among the best places to pick up women, but more on that later because exercise classes are! I’m talking Tae Bo, aerobics, cycling, yoga, and all that other stuff here. These classes are filled with women who are easy to meet if you talk about common interests (like working out and working out together if she likes you).

6) Parks. Parks are included in my list of best places to meet women simply because there are lots of women there. Take Central Park in New York City for example. Women jog there, do yoga there, rollerskate there, etc. An easy way to get to talking is by joining what they’re doing, teasing them with how they’re trying to work all the damage done by junk food at work away, and so on.

7) Marathons and other sports events. If you’re in terrible shape, then this won’t be where I tell you to join what the women here are doing. Duh! But you can always walk up to them and talk about how good they were, that they deserve a bunch of medals… and then tease them with how their work out shoes suck though, that no you don’t want a hug because you don’t like sweaty women. I think you get the idea here.

Moving on… on towards the best places to meet women who are foreign

Places To Pick Up Women Who Are Foreign

Here’s a short overview of the best places to meet women who are from other countries…

8 ) National holiday parties, parades, etc. Not all countries have their own parade or otherwise public celebration of a national holiday like, for example, Spanish people do with their Cinco de Mayo.

But that doesn’t mean women from other countries don’t wear special things on a holiday! So, depending on which country you like the women of, Google and Wikipedia a bit to find out their holidays and go out and meet those women on the holidays. All you need to do to get to talking is ask about their holiday and tell them what you know already. They don’t expect you to know that since you’re not from their country.

9) Performances from music artists. Some artists are national: they’re popular in their own countries but unknown outside. You can find them via Google by looking for, for example, Japanese top 40 or Polish top 40. Then simply look for tour dates and see when (if at all) they’re doing a tour in your country.

10) Theme parties. Over here in Holland there are Asian Pride parties (which attracts mostly Indonesians and Chinese women)…

And then there’s the Summer carnival (mostly Surinam women), and the list goes on and on.

Just keep a close eye on the clubs and bars in town and see when there’s another theme party. You’ll be surprised by how many there are, which is why they’re among the best places to meet women from other countries.

11) Stores where they sell country-specific foods and drinks are THE best places to meet women from other countries in my opinion. Here in Holland, Turkish people have their own stores. Polish people do too, so if I want to meet a Polish woman then where do I go? That’s right! Same goes for your country. Use the examples of what to do in supermarkets (see place #2) to start conversations.

Side Note About The Best Places To Meet Women

I feel I had to mention something here while I’m discussing the best places to meet women at, and it’s this…

In case you’re thinking: “It’s easy for him to talk about places to pick up women, but starting conversations is a lot harder than you make it sound…”

Then you’re right. I know it is. You need to have a certain level of confidence before you have the guts to walk up to a woman you don’t even know and start talking with her.

Hell, maybe you even need to overcome your fear of rejection and failure before you can do or say anything. But you know what? That’s okay. It’s okay… and I’ve got your back.

I’ve got your back because, inside my free Inner Game Newsletter, I’ll reveal how to overcome your fears and insecurities, how to build your confidence afterwards, and last but not least… what to say to women to attract them in all the best places to meet women.

That’s why I highly recommend you sign up for my Inner Game Newsletter right now.

Onward…

Places To Pick Up Women, Classy Women

By classy women I mean educated, intelligent, sophisticated women. So, prudes and nerds! Haha. Quiet types. These are the best places to pick up women like that…

12) Bookstores. Yes, ordinary women go there too but the difference between them and classy women is that ordinary women look for popular books and sleazy romance novels, while classy women look for philosophy, history, and those kinds of books. To make this one of the best places to meet women, all you need to do is be interested in what they like because it allows you to talk about common interests, tease her with how she’s such a nerd, etc.

13) Wine tastings. This is where you’ll only find refined women (don’t forget though that most women like wine) and older women. If that’s your thing, then read up on different kinds of wines and start talking with women about it during a tasting. Again, talking about common interests make things a whole lot easier for you.

14) High society places. By that I mean clothing stores with upper class (business like) clothing for women. Golf tournaments. Tennis clubs and tournaments. Horse riding clubs and events. These are all places the high society usually goes to, which is why they’re some of the best places to meet women. Classy women aren’t really my type, so the best advice I can give you is (starting to sound like a broken record here) talk about common interests.

The Best Places To Meet Women, Career Women That Is

The best places to meet women who are independent and all about their careers are…

15) Networking events. Request your local Chamber of Commerce for information about networking events and you’ll find out where they are near you in no time. These events always include some keynote speeches, drinks, some snacks, and… of course… a lot of time for business-minded people to network and connect. This is why these events are among the best places to pick up women who are all about their careers.

16) The first class section of any public transportation. Business trips. Need I say more? Use the public transportation examples (see place #4) I gave you earlier on. They work well in first class too.

17) Stores with suits, ties, and the whole nine yards. This is where you’ll find women looking for business outfits for themselves. The easiest way to start talking to them is by (just like before) talking about common interests: the job, career, bosses, etc. Professional stuff.

Continue reading below if you want to know the best places to meet women who are artsy…

The Best Places To Meet Women Who Are Artsy

Are there any special places to meet women who are into art and culture? Duh!

18) Art galleries. If you like artsy women then you must be into art yourself (why else would you like them? Booooring! Just kidding…), so galleries are among the best places to meet women for you because it’s easy to talk about a common interest, appreciate the art in front of you, invite her to discuss art some more over a drink at XYZ (or at your place).

19) Museums. Plenty museums have art collections and all kinds of refined culture waiting for an enthusiastic eye to be seen, so it’s likely you’ll find women there. You can follow the same “routine” as with art galleries here.

20) Culture trips on vacation. I’m talking all-in tours in a foreign country AND all-inclusive cultural vacations here. Of course you’ll find artsy women on these kinds of trips and vacations man! You can talk with them about the country you’re about to enjoy, what they want to see, offer to check some history out together, etc. These trips and vacations are the most fun and thus best places to meet women who’s middle names are Art and Culture.

And last but not least: it’s time to check out some of the WORST places to pick up women that won’t do you any good…

Or… which are simply too difficult when you’re just starting to learn how to meet and date women.

The Worst Places To Pick Up Women

So… what are some of the worst places to pick up women? I think you’ll be very surprised…

21) Clubs and bars. They’re loud. They’re often so crowded that it’s hard to move. They’re full of drunken people who are easily pissed off. And oh yeah, did I mention already that all the women there have their “game face” on, making it hard for you to get their attention… let alone attract them?

Sure, it’s doable, but why go through all the trouble when you can, for example, meet a woman in a supermarket in less than a minute and easily get her number? The only exception I know of when clubs ARE among the best places to meet women is when there are theme parties that foreign women go to.

22) Gyms. And by gyms I mean the work out section where the halters and dumbbells are. Gyms are filled with mirrors AND steroid filled men with a macho syndrome, both of which make most women very uncomfortable. It’s better to check out the exercise classes than to go to the regular workouts trying to pick up women.

23) Colleges and job sites. Yes, you can meet women in college and at work, but is it easy? Hell no! They’re closed environments and that means that when you screw up, you could hear it for months (or years) to come. Again, why make things hard for yourself when there are other, easier places to go to? That’s why colleges and the workplace are not in my list of best places to meet women.

And now you know everything about where and where not to find women… and all the best places to meet women who are exactly your type… don’t you want to know more about how to attract those women? Don’t you want to know the exact words to say to get their number?

And don’t you want to know what to do to go on a date with them?

If so, then I highly recommend you check out the free tips inside my Inner Game Newsletter because they’ll reveal secrets of attraction most men will never know…

I hope you liked my thoughts on the best places to meet women (and the worst places to pick up women). Stay tuned to the Win With Women blog for more tips!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

P.S. What you've learned today is only the tip of the iceberg of what most men will never know about women and dating. And if you want to know more about how to meet women without much effort, then get instant access to more tips by signing up for our FREE Inner Game Insider.

But before I give you some tips on romance that are 100% wussy free, I have to point out here that most romance tips make things even worse than “just” turning you into a wussbag.

That’s because most tips on romance don’t even work during ALL stages of dating a woman: the first time you meet her, the first call, the first date, and so on. Those other romance tips suck because they only talk about what to do on a date…

But if you want to “get the girl,” then you have to start bringing the romance wayyy earlier than the first date. If you don’t, she might think you’re just not that interested, that you’re a player…

Or worse…

That you’re trying to impress her with romantic gestures to make up for something. That you don’t think you’re good enough by being yourself so you’re trying to buy her approval, which is a HUGE sign of insecurity that will scare most women away.

Do you see now why most tips on romance do more harm than good?

That’s why I wanted to write this blog post today: to stop you from looking like an insecure wussy AND to show you how to use romance during all the stages of dating women.

Let’s start with setting the record straight. With what romance REALLY is, because it’s not what you think it is… and most men never get to know what it is.

Tips On Romance: A Definition Of Romance

The tips on romance you’re about to get all assume that you know romance is nothing more and nothing less than showing a genuine interest in a woman.

That you like her for who she is as a person, not for her looks. That you like her alone, and don’t sound like you’re using a canned OR original pick up line.

That’s very different from how many people think about romance, isn’t it? All other tips on romance are based on the idea that you need romance to impress women…

But thinking you need to impress women, with or without romance tips, is assuming you are LESS than them. It’s thinking something along the lines of: “woman, you are superior to me so please allow me to please you so I may one day perhaps get your approval.”

I say: f*ck that! We as men are women’s equals. We don’t beg or need approval. We’re ourselves, show our interest if any, and if you don’t like it? Then screw you!

All of my tips on romance are based on the assumption you’re talking to an equal, a woman, not some superior being (like females are goddesses or something) that most tips try to make you believe.

Now, let’s check out some tips on romance for the first stage of dating…

Tips On Romance When You First Meet Her

The trick behind the tips on romance that follow below is to let a woman know you want her, without making her think you NEED her.

The first is based on sexual tension, also known as attraction… while the latter is based on desperation. Big difference, huh?

So, you just started a conversation with her. You just met her. What do you do to let her know you’re genuinely (and sexually) interested in her?

Well, here are some romance tips for you for different types of women:

1) Some women simply have a beautiful face that stands out. So, after about a minute of talking to a woman with one, interrupt her when she’s talking and tell her something along the lines of “Did you know you have a real photogenic face? I’m just noticing it now! Have you ever done any modelling work?” And when she says no, then tell her she’s crazy and tease her with how she’s way too shy for her looks.

2) Some women have big, pretty eyes that stand out with that glimmer in them, the ones that always seem to be talking to you more than her mouth does. So, after talking to a woman with a pair of eyes just like this, ask her “Be honest here: are you wearing colored contact lenses?” Usually she says no, after which you tell her you don’t believe her because her pretty eyes really stand out so they must be fake. Now THAT’S one of those tips on romance (showing a genuine interest) you don’t learn anywhere but here.

3) Some women have a certain style or color of clothing that’s easy to notice. It’s cool and you notice them earlier than other women. This is a good time of accusing them of being gold diggers because they look like they’re wearing the most expensive fashion. Then they’ll tell you they’re “normal” clothes, you tell them that’s BS and that they would stand out in any fashion crowd, plus accuse them of being on their way to a catwalk to do a fashion show with the beautiful clothes they have on.

I can almost hear you thinking: “Why should these tips on romance work while you claim others don’t work man?”

In each and every one of the three examples I gave you above, you’re telling a woman she’s beautiful… but in a playful way. You tease her with what you like most about her, you make her laugh, but you still think she’s beautiful.

And that’s the thing with my tips on romance:

By playfully teasing a woman you attract her because you let her know you’re NOT impressed by her looks and expect more then just a pretty face, while you just let her know you were impressed by her looks!

Result: a typical “he likes me, he likes me not” situation where you’re unpredictable. Being unpredictable alone creates attraction. Playful teasing does too. That’s why this works.

Tips On Romance When You First Call Her

Let’s look at some tips on romance when you first call her below…

The situation has changed a little bit because she’s now somewhat interested in you and you in her, so this is where you can shift into the next gear with these tips on romance:

1) Let’s use the photogenic face example. The moment she answers the phone (she knows it’s you when you gave her your number after she gave you hers) you say “Yes, is this HER NAME? Hi there! I represent a modelling agency looking for a pretty face. Are you interested or are you dealing with a pimple situation right now?” She’ll laugh and say she’s interested, which is when you say you only want to do a photoshoot if she promises to stay away from chocolate, chips, and other junk foods. She’ll say yes, you tease her with being a liar, etc.

2) Let’s use the colored contact lenses example. Call her and pretend you represent a company selling contact lenses looking to make a commercial and you want her in it because she has the most beautiful eyes when she’s wearing colored contact lenses.

3) Do you see where I’m going with these romance tips? You continue the joke you made before. It’s okay to interrupt her a couple times and say you really think she has a pretty face/pair of eyes/clothing style. She gave you her number because she’s interested remember, so showing more interest while teasing her will do you good.

Romance Tips For On The First Date

This is where most guys turn into full-blown wussies, but you won’t… with my tips on romance that you’ll find below…

But first, realize the situation you’re in: she’s now really interested, you are too, so almost anything goes. I have to emphasize ALMOST here, because gifts, candlelit dinners, chocolate, flowers, and all that still don’t work here…

It’s STILL coming across like you’re buying her approval with gifts like you need to make up for something.

Women like flowers and all the stuff I mentioned before, sure, but they LOVE getting a gift that’s about them… truly about them… no matter how small it is. They consider the standard gifts to be nice, but the special item about them to be romantic.

And this is where my tips on romance get interesting because…

Because what you’ll be doing is giving them what you’ve teased them with all along, so it’s romantic, showing a genuine interest. But you’re also still teasing them and creating attraction because of it, which is the only wuss free way to go on a first date!

Here’s what you do…

1) For the chick with the pretty face you teased about being a model. Bring your camera (or phone with camera) on the first date. Make photos of her, meanwhile teasing her with how she IS a model because no one looks that good on photos without practising. Halfway through the date, and after plenty of pictures, tell her this will be her modelling portfolio of photos which will only cost her $200 per photo to get. Now THAT’S teasing!

2) More tips on romance with small gifts: the contact lenses girl. This one’s obvious. Get her colored contact lenses, give it to her halfway through the date, and tell her you always want her to have beautiful eyes like she has now… so you bought her some replacement lenses for when the ones she’s wearing are used up.

3) And for the catwalk chick, you get her anything that has to do with cats and tease her with it for the entire freaking date. ‘Nuff said.

Romance Tips For When You’re In A Relationship

I’ve been bashing on traditional gifts like flowers, chocolate, and what not so hard I feel like I need to give you some more tips on romance.

You see, all that stuff DOES work when you’re in a relationship… and when you surprise her with it.

That’s because you’re way beyond the point of getting her to like you so she won’t feel like you’re trying to buy her approval or make up for personal flaws.

One More Thing About Romance…

As you can see by now, creating romance and creating attraction go hand in hand:

Playful teasing to create attraction only works half as well as when you mix it up with genuine compliments… and genuine compliments only work so so, while mixing it with teasing makes them incredibly effective.

BUT… there are other things you can do to create attraction (or romance) that I haven’t even mentioned here yet in my romance tips. The stuff the world’s most infamous player, Casanova, used to make women all across Europe fall in love with him…

And I’m not saying you should get more tips on romance so you can be a player like Casanova, but I AM saying knowing what he did makes getting women… and keeping them… way easier.

So if you want to know more about romance, attraction or Casanova to get and keep women without much effort, then be sure to check out the free tips inside my Newsletter.

I hope you liked my tips on romance! Do leave a comment if you have questions or want to comment.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

P.S. What you've learned today is only the tip of the iceberg of what most men will never know about women and dating. And if you want to know more about how to meet women without much effort, then get instant access to more tips by signing up for our FREE Inner Game Insider.

Let’s cut what happens when you call her into little pieces, see what goes where and why, and put it all back together again so you know how to call her and get what you want.

It’s not often that I do this, but since most regular guys like you and me ask a girl for her number and then want to know everything there is to know about how to call her so we can’t screw up?

I thought I’d give it a try. Here we go!

How To Call Her: Initial Anxiety

The first stage of figuring out how to call her is all about getting past the initial anxiety.

It’s when you get nervous and start sweating the moment the phone starts dialing… duuuu… duuuu… and then she answers the phone (or not).

Let’s assume she answers the phone so I can show you how to call her by overcoming your stage fright.

Do you start to ask yourself if you have something witty to say at this point? And/Or are you having trouble speaking in the first place because it feels like there’s an enormous potato stuck in your throat that prevents you from talking?

Then relax dude. You’re making too much of an issue out of a silly phone call. There’s nothing to be afraid about, because women are far from scary:

- They have insecurities, just like you do. They just worry about different stuff you haven’t thought of yourself (example: fat ankles, big thighs, and other silly stuff)

- Women poop. And it smells too.

- Although you’re afraid of rejection, women have a heart too. Hell, they’re way more emotional than you’ll ever be. Do you think they LIKE rejecting guys? No they don’t.

In short: when it comes to learning how to call her, the first thing you should remember is that it’s no big deal. It’s nothing scary.

And if you’re still afraid of rejection, then know this: it’s nothing more than a childhood trauma, but you’re not a child anymore.

You see, when you were young and growing up? You were impressionable, meaning that it was easy for lots of things to have a big impact on you and to influence the way you think.

Now, this is where conditional love comes in: your parents would reward you (love you) for doing what they wanted, but punish you (withdraw your love) when you did not do it.

In other words: you got the idea that if you don’t do what people like, you will be rejected. That if you don’t get someone’s approval, they will not love you. This is a major clue!

Because you’re ASSUMING now that women don’t like to be approached by men such as yourself who have sexual intentions, so you assume you will be rejected.

You can’t see how a woman would approve of you wanting to have sex with her, so you assume she won’t like you… while women want to date guys as much as guys want to date women.

Doesn’t knowing this make learning how to call her WAY easier?

How To Call Her Step 2: Conversation Starters

Now that you’re not scared anymore, let’s look at the beginning of how to call her: conversation starters.

First off, reminding her of who you are as soon as she answers the phone is desperate. Think about it: you assume you’re not important enough to be remembered, so you try to make her remember.

Doing the opposite (not reminding her) makes you come across much more confident, because you’re indirectly telling her that you ARE important.

So don’t you dare ask if she knows who you are. That’s NOT how to call her!

Use one of the conversation starters you’ll find below instead.

If you’ve never been to the Win With Women blog before, then don’t discard my tips as “I can’t say that, it’s rude” because there IS a method to the madness. I explain things below an example so you’ll understand…

You: “Yes, hello, is this XYZ (replace XYZ with her name)?”
Her: “Yes”
You: “Are you sure? Because you sound like a man and XYZ (her name) is this cute girl I met the other day…”

This is how to call her and create attraction with playful teasing. It works because while most are quiet or start stuttering because they’re impressed by a woman’s looks, you’re not impressed. You let a woman know you expect more than a pretty face before you can like her, which makes you hard to get…

And no one really wants something they can easily get. Therefore, by being hard to get you’re more attractive to her than other guys who are not.

As I explain inside my Calling Women and Texting Women Program, there are many other ways of creating attraction besides teasing, but let’s continue with more examples of how to call her for now…

You: “Hey Sandra! How are you?”
Her: “What? Who’s Sandra?”
You: “Oh sorry, I mix up people’s names all the time. Hey uhh… you!”

Not only is this being hard to get by playfully teasing her, it’s also being hard to get by letting her know she needs to fight for you because she has competition.

You: “Hey, how are you! Did you manage to … (replace … with whatever she was trying to do when you met her)?”
Her: “Bla bla bla”
You: “Sorry, you were saying? I was distracted by the memory of your curves shaking away from me after we met.”

This is being direct with a woman: showing her you’re sexually interested without beating around the bush. It can be extremely attractive to women because it shows you have more confidence than most guys she’s met (because almost no one dares to say this)…

And confidence is what to women? That’s right, attractive.

How To Call Her Step 3: Connect & Attract

So we started the conversation in a great way, but when it comes to how to call her? Most men screw up what follows next…

It’s the middle of the conversation. The part where you need to figure out how to call her and create enough attraction AND connection for her to want to get to know you better.

By now, you should already had the feeling that attraction is sexual interest, sexual tension or whatever you want to call it. But what about connection?

Creating a connection is all about making her feel comfortable and safe. About making her see you as trustworthy enough. Don’t create it and you will NEVER get a date.

You simply must create an emotional/mental connection before you can proceed with the next steps of how to call her.

And most average guys like you and me get it all wrong. We try to come up with conversation topics and witty things to say and bla bla bla… and sooner or later, there are awkward silences. That’s what happens when you start with attraction.

You need to start with connection: let HER do the talking. Let HER explain.

Why?

Because the more she tells you, the more you can use “against” her to create attraction with. You can’t tease her about her grandmother who’s obsessed with donuts if she never tells you, know what I mean?

So first connect, then attract.

Put differently: get something from her (information), give something to her (reaction which creates attraction).

That’s the easiest way for how to call her.

And in case you’re wondering: “how do you create a connection when you call her?”

Ask open-ended questions (questions that require more than a yes/no) like these…

- What’s the …-est (scariest, happiest, weirdest, dumbest, etc.) thing that’s ever happened to you?
- If you could be someone else for a day, who would you be and why?
- Where do you see yourself 5 years from now?
- Be honest: what’s the one thing you never understood about guys?
- What’s the hone thing someone can wake you up for in the middle of the night?

Some of these questions lead to deep answers, others are the perfect set up for teasing her, and still others invite her to use her fantasy.

NOTE: you may need to go ahead and answer these questions first to lure her out of her safe house or so to speak and make her feel comfortable enough to give you some answers.

How To Call Her Step 4: Changing Topics

When learning how to call her, it’s rare to have a need to change topics when you first create a connection and then boost the attraction…

But still, it may happen, so I want to prepare you for it.

You can tell when it’s time to change topics when you’re, for example, teasing her and she goes from responding with laughs and giggles to being pretty quiet. That’s when the teasing stops being funny to her, so you need to move on.

So here are some tips for how to call her and change topics…

- Regression therapy: go back… to the first moment you two met. What was she wearing? What was she doing? Start asking questions and comment on that.

- Obi Yawn Kenobi: I know, I’m using weird creative names right now. But you know what? They make it easier for you to remember. This is where she says something and you say “Booooooring” and change the topic to something exciting, like questions about how adventurous she is (has she ever gone skydiving, stuff like that) that you can tease her with (most people don’t do risky stuff, so call her a chicken for not dating it)

- Debate club: whenever she asks you something you don’t want to tell (or you’ve gone a little too far with the teasing), the best thing you can do is talk about what interests women most: men, dating, other women. Start the “debate” about why women give fake phone numbers instead of straight up rejecting guys, if women who dress sex should be taken seriously in a work situation, etc. Typical boy versus girl stuff will do the trick.

That’s how to call her and change topics, should you ever need to do it.

How To Call Her Step 5: Asking Her Out

The previous 4 steps of how to call her can take place in a matter of minutes or in a matter of hours. It depends…

What does it depend on? On how quick you are to cut to the chase dude! Remember that calling her is a means to an end: you want to end up dating her, not end up calling her some more.

That means that after you get past the initial anxiety, starting the conversation well when you call her, connecting and attracting, and changing topics (if you needed to)? You have to ask her out if you want the conversation to go anywhere.

And when it comes to how to call her, you don’t need hours for the middle part of the conversation. Create some connection, create some attraction, but that’s it. Time to cash in, you know?

The easiest way to cash in on the phone call is to let it progress naturally like so:

“You know what? I have to go now, but let’s continue this conversation later over coffee.”

It doesn’t have to be coffee by the way, I’m just saying that because I’m a coffee junkie. It can also be over drinks, over cherry pie, over some French fries. Doesn’t matter.

What DOES matter is that you didn’t ask her to date you. You told her so. The first is desperate and let’s her lead you, the latter is confident and lets you lead her. The latter always gets the girl, the first one rarely does.

Don’t ask her for a time either. Tell her the best time for you would be on … at such and such time. The only time you ask her when it comes to getting a date is if she says she can’t make it then. Then you ask which days she’s available and then tell her a time.

Now THAT’S how to call her and “ask” her out properly.

How To Call Her Step 6: Dealing With Objections

I can almost hear you think: “But how to call her and get a date when she says no?”

Don’t worry, because here’s your how to call her and deal with objections lesson (wew, that was quite a mouthful):

- “I’m busy” => If she says it once, fine, but twice or more? She’s avoiding you! This objection simply means she’s not interested… and the only way to deal with it is to move on

- “I don’t know you that well yet” => Don’t think this is a definite no. It’s a no, not yet. This means you need to connect more, attract more, and try again. If unsuccessful, call her some other time and try again. Still no luck? Move on dude.

- “I don’t feel comfortable going out with you alone” => Again, this is a not yet instead of a definite no. This is where you need to find a wingman, tell her to bring a friend, and go on a double date.

How To Call Her Step 7: The X-Factor

If you managed to read this far, then congratulations! You’ve almost mastered learning how to call her…

I said almost, because there’s always an X-factor… other things you need to know but didn’t expect, like if the woman you’re calling doesn’t like being teased AT ALL. In those cases it’s best to create attraction by being mysterious, dominant or by being picky.

Plus, I haven’t even discussed things like what to say to get a second date and when to say it.

But don’t worry my friend, because I reveal all of this, and more, inside my Calling Women and Texting Women Program.

It shows you how to get a first date, second, third, etc. when you call her 9 out of 10 times… and all without much effort… so check it out now:

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I hope you liked this step-by-step explanation of how to call her and get a date. Now start using it already and be sure to check out the Program for even more awesome tips!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

Let’s be honest here: you don’t seduce females by buying them flowers, dinners, gifts, and I don’t know what else Hollywood tries to make you believe…

And you can’t seduce females and have long term dating success (or an actual relationship) by using pick up artist tricks and routines that transform both you and women into robots. You just can’t expect to seduce a female by pushing a button, waiting for a response and then pushing another button…

I can almost hear you think: “So what is the real way of learning how to seduce females then?”

It’s following a number of rules of how women work. To be more specific: they’re guidelines for how to seduce a female that will serve as training wheels until you have enough experience to do it yourself.

Ready to check out the rules of how to seduce females? Ready or not, here we go!

The 8 Rules Of How To Seduce Females

The following rules of how to seduce a female cover not only what you need to do, but also what you need to be… and what you need to believe…

1) Rejection is better than regret: were you ever walking somewhere, only to see the most beautiful brunette you’ve seen in quite some time walk towards you… but you didn’t say anything to her although you wanted to? Did you feel bad about it for hours afterwards because you were an idiot for not taking the chance you had? Then know this about how to seduce females: you can never get a “YES” if you never ask.

2) You do not have to change for success. All you have to do is go back to when you were a child. Remember how you were pulling girls’ hairs, maybe even throwing dirt at them? Well, guess who are the most successful with women? Bad boys. In a way, bad boys are just like children: they take VERY uncalculated risks, treat girls like spoiled little brats, and so on. So you don’t have to change to seduce females, you just have to remember what it’s like to be a young boy again.

3) People want what they can’t have, and that includes women. Most regular guys like you and me chase women, call or text them many times if we don’t hear from them, etc. That’s being easy to get. That’s being like all the other guys: boring. Predictable. TOO easy. So, what makes you stand out? Being hard to get. It makes you exciting and unpredictable. It makes you stand out.

So, learning how to seduce a female is learning counterintuitive things: the less you want them, the more they want you. The more distance you try to create between you and them, the closer they want to be with you. The less available you are to them, the more available they’ll be for you. I think you get the picture.

4) Out of this rule flows the next one: the person who is least available is always the most desired and has all the power. Hell, a woman will make time for you at the level of interest she has for you, so don’t fall for the “I’m busy right now but maybe later” trap. Don’t let females seduce you to wait for them. It’s only okay to focus on only one chick if you’re in a relationship. PERIOD. And even then, you seduce females by letting THEM wait for YOU… not the other way around.

5) There is no technique of techniques. No routine of routines. There is nothing that always works in every situation. So know this: you can’t control the situation but you can control yourself, your own emotions, and your life. Start improving self confidence (which includes all of these three things in my opinion) to improve your chances to seduce females.

6) An old saying goes “As you think, you shall become.” In order to be successful in the world, you must first be successful in your mind. Put simply, there is no seducing females without confidence. Without believing in yourself. Success is a state of mind.

7) Attraction is a FEELING based on EMOTIONS. Always remember that if you want to seduce females, because it makes what women say and think irrelevant. They may voice the opinion that they’ll never a date a guy who doesn’t treat them right, but yet still… women date bad boys… a lot! They may think they want a guy who’s sweet and nice and sensitive, but that’s all said with logical reasoning… while emotions are the most illogical things in existence and attraction is based on those illogical freaking emotions dude!

8 ) Another old saying: “Foresight teaches gently, error teaches brutally.” Instead of mindlessly and randomly going out to seduce a female, ANY female you meet? Put some thought into it. After approaching someone for example, ask yourself what she responded well too. Say you tried starting the conversation with a goofy question like if she can help you find the nearest UFO and she laughs and laughs, then start the conversation with the UFO question from now on and throw all the things that didn’t go well right out the window.

Then continue until you find something for every part of the conversation (the start, attraction, bonding with her, touching her, closing the deal, etc.) that works and you can seduce females with.

This gives you the perfect conversation to seduce females with that ends in them giving you their number in no time…

While blindly trying everything and anything will be a brutal teacher for you because you keep getting rejected until you “get lucky”… if you ever do.

There are many other rules of how to seduce females, but I’ll tell you more about them later…

If You Want To Seduce A Female, Each Conversation Must…

There’s a method to the madness of learning to seduce females, because there are certain elements you must include in a conversation if you want to “get the girl.”

So to finish the sentence here: if you want to seduce a female, then each conversation must:

1) Create attraction. In the broadest sense of the words, this means making a woman feel better while having a conversation with you than she felt before it. You can do that by playfully teasing her, cracking jokes, being dominant, disapproving of her and her behavior and the list goes on, and on… and on (more on this later…)

2) Create a connection. Everyone who has ever tried playfully teasing, cocky and funny or whatever you want to call it… thinking that it was the only thing that should be done? Knows what I mean when I say: you need to do more than turn women into targets to seduce females. You need a bond with them. Make them feel comfortable. Make them trust you. Make them open up to you. Best way to do it: asking open-ended questions. That’s all there is to it!

You don’t have to use these two things 50-50 to seduce females, you know…

Because you can also tease them half to death, then quickly find some common interests and move on (lots of attraction, little connection)…

… Or you can make her feel like she’s known you all her life during the first conversation and only tease her with those funny looking shoes she’s wearing (little attraction, lots of connection).

Attraction and connection are like yin and yang. Treat them as such to get women by the dozen.

As long as both attraction AND connection are present in a conversation, then you can seduce females anywhere, at any time, and even when they’re with anyone.

I can almost hear you think: “Why didn’t you talk about the start of a conversation? Or about the end of it? Don’t I need to know about that stuff if I want to seduce females?”

Nope.

You see, I’ve started conversations with females by saying “Hi.” Or just by waving my hand, seeing them smile and walking up to them. The start of the conversation is irrelevant because…

It’s not about what you do or say that lets you seduce a female… it’s how you RESPOND to what she says and does.

And about the end: this is when simpleminded dating gurus will tell you to get her number and walk away… and I wonder why.

Just because you want to date her, doesn’t mean you need to meet her, get the number, call, and then date. The guy who invented this “routine” that most guys follow was an IDIOT.

Because why not ask what a woman’s doing right now? Who knows, you might be going on the first date a minute from now… know what I mean?

Hell, if you try to seduce females in the club and you want to leave, why not leave WITH them and take them back to your place? Sure, that requires skill. But it’s not rocket science.

Proof: I’m not a rocket scientist

Final Thoughts On How To Seduce Females

Remember how I mentioned that there are more rules of how to seduce a female and more character traits to seduce females with (being mysterious, playful teasing, etc.)?

Well, would you like to discover them ALL?

Do you want to get your hands on all of them so you can seduce female after female, after female… after female until you have a hard time remembering their names and making room for yet another “stupid” date on your schedule?

If so, then be sure to get the FREE tips inside my members-only Inner Game Newsletter today, because it gives you the amazing (and brutal) truth about how the dating game REALLY works.

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And I hope you liked my thoughts on how to seduce females! I could talk about how to seduce a female all day, but I won’t for a change hehe.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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In case you’re thinking to yourself right now: “Should I even call after a first date in the first place?”

Then the answer (if you want to see her again) is hell yeah! But… you need to call after a first date in a different way than most guys do. And WHEN you call after a first date is important too…

Why?

Because you don’t want to come across like you’re indifferent, too cool for school or whatever you want to call it. You don’t want to be seen as a player…

On the other hand, you don’t want to come across too excited either because desperate little wussies scare women away faster than spiders and mice do COMBINED!

Needless to say, there’s an “art” to calling after a first date: call after a first date too late or don’t say enough and you’re screwed, but you’re also screwed when you call too early or say too much.

I don’t want to put pressure on you, but the reality is that there’s a fine line between the first way of screwing up and the second way. And you need to walk it to get more than a first date.

Here’s how to walk that fine line, call after a first date, and get more dates with a woman WITHOUT screwing up…

When To Call After A First Date

If you’re wondering when to call after a first date to have her begging for more, it’s NOT later on the same day you dated…

No. It’s the day after a first date.

That’s because when she gets home after going on an amazing date with you and lies in her bed waiting to fall asleep, she’ll think back to all the events that happened that day. Why? Because that’s what the majority of people do at the end of the day before they fall asleep.

In her case, she’ll think about how much fun she had with you and she’ll wonder if you feel the same…

She’ll start to wonder what it is that you feel for her in general, so she’ll hope to hear more from you soon. She’ll be looking forward to it…

So by the time you call after a first date, which is the day after, she’ll have missed you like CRAZY. She’ll be excited to get to know you better.

And that’s always better than never hearing from her again because she found out you were a total wussbag because you called her too fast…

OR never hearing from her again because she thinks you’re a player because you call after a first date wayyyyy too late, wouldn’t you agree?

How To Call After A First Date To Get A Second One

Now let’s check out some things you can say when you call after a first date to get a second date and more, shall we?

As I mentioned before, there’s a fine line between showing TOO MUCH interest and showing TOO LITTLE interest after a first date… and you need to take that into account when you think of things to say when you call after a first date:

- When you call her, tell her you had a great time and try to give her a specific reason why. This shows you have a genuine interest in her and women want that in a man.

- Don’t be greedy and immediately ask for a second date though, because that’s showing too much interest. Tell her you’re kind of busy right now and just wanted to call and say “Hi.”

- This gets her in a “he loves me, he loves me not” mind state because she’s not sure if you like her when you say that, because every single guy she’s met so far chased her long and intensively while you haven’t so far.

When you call after a first date and follow these steps, keep talking for a couple minutes and then hang up.

Whenever you feel like going on a second date, all you have to do at this point is call her and ask her out. Why? Because you made sure she doesn’t see you as a player (by showing a genuine interest in her) AND not as a desperate loser (by not being too greedy and by not calling her a couple hours after the first date).

More On How To Call After A First Date And Calling Women…

Let’s be real for a second here: you might have won the battle but you still need to win the war when you call after a first date like I just told you.

Because you still need to keep her attracted to you until the second date and you still need to ask her out to go on that second date. That may sound difficult at first, but you know what?

The free tips inside my Calling Women and Texting Women Newsletter help you get there. They’ll show you what to say to her over the phone and via text to attract her even more… to have her begging for more… to have her hoping and waiting for that second date!

So sign up and get those tips okay? They’re free anyway, so there’s no reason not to

Anyways, it’s time for me to shut up and let you practice with my tips for how to call after a first date. This horror junkie wants to watch himself some True Blood anyhow… so I don’t mind telling you to grab your phone and start honing your “phone game” skills RIGHT NOW.

I hope you liked my tips for when and how to call after a first date!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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First, we have to bust a myth about when to call her that has existed for ages which will actually DESTROY your chances of getting her… and we don’t want that now, do we?

Then, we’ll look at when to call her so she answers the phone and dates you in multiple situations. Because let’s face it: no hot chick is the same.

And giving you 1 technique that works in every single situation would be foolish because there is NO technique like that (although other dating coaches try to make you believe there is)…

So I want to be 100% sure that you can get a date when you call her no matter what the f*ck was happening when you met her… and no matter what the f*ck is happening in her life right now.

That’s right, I’ll be throwing some foul language at you, but it’s for your own good. Someone has to give you the brutal truth about when to call her and I’m that guy. Love me or hate me for it, I don’t care, because you need to hear this:

When To Call Her: It’s NOT After 3 Days!

Hollywood did it’s best to teach you when to call her with it’s “Three Day Rule”, but you know what? It failed.

Hell, it crashed and burned! Because it’s little Three Day Rule tells you to wait for three days with the first phone call after you get a woman’s number. That may work in “realistic” movies like The Hangover…

But in the real world? In the real world that’s not when to call her because:

- When you wait for days or weeks with calling, then she’ll think you were not that interested. So when you do call her? She’s not that interested either, if you know what I mean. Women want a guy who has a genuine interest in them and waiting 3 days or more is not being genuinely interested.

- There are plenty of women who will get the wrong idea if you keep them waiting. They’ll think you’re playing games… and once they do? They’ll return the favor with test after test, after test… most of which regular guys like you and me don’t get = rejection!

- Attractive, interesting women get approached by guys in one way or another 6 times a day. Sure, some attempts are pathetic, but what makes you say she’ll remember you after days or weeks? She might as well have met a great guy, which has made your efforts a waste of your freaking time.

Do you now know why listening to tips for when to call her that say you need to wait for days/weeks is a bad idea?

I can almost hear you think: “So what is the right time for when to call her then?”

And on weekdays (Monday ‘til Thursday) it’s one day after you get her digits, because it shows her you have a genuine interest but that you’re not a desperate wussy, that you’re not playing games… and she’ll still clearly remember who you are when you call her.

And here’s a juicy secret about when to call her: do you know how many guys literally tell a woman WHEN they’ll call her?

How many tell her what they’ll do with her number?

HINT: it’s less than one. That’s right. NONE.

And it’s stupid because when you tell a woman you’ll call her tomorrow, then she’ll immediately know you’re really interested and not playing games…

AND…

There’ll be a whole lot more anticipation. She’ll wait for your call. Think about it: when you’re about to get that thing you ordered via Amazon that you’ve wanted for a long time, then are you looking forward to getting it more when you don’t know when it’s coming… or when you know it’s coming tomorrow?

I know you know the answer. So when it comes to when to call her on weekdays, call her the next day AND tell her you’ll call her then.

When To Call Her During Weekends

During weekends, there’s a better time for when to call her than after one day on weekdays…

Here’s why: most people go out and have fun on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Clubs, bars, restaurants, the movies, bowling, midget golf, ice skating, BBQ, and so on and so forth.

And it makes sense because your Average Joe needs to work or go to college on weekdays but not during weekends. Same goes for women: they’re already planning on having fun because their week was boring, so why not take advantage of that?

Instead of figuring out when to call her so you two can meet up on Tuesday or whatever when it’s probably only for a little while because she needs to work/go to college…

Why not get her number and call her somewhere early on in the evening the same day and say something alone the lines of:

“You know what? I had so much fun with you earlier today that I want you to join me for XYZ so we can have some more fun. I insist.”

You can replace the XYZ with a club, bar, restaurant or any of the other stuff I mentioned before and there you go. You got yourself a date!

And that’s when to call her during weekends. In my opinion it’s easier than calling her on weekdays.

Now let’s look at a more difficult situation below: what to do if she’s busy…

When To Call Her If She’s Busy

Let’s get one thing straight right away about when to call her if she’s busy: I mean two different situations when I say busy.

When to call her situation 1: she answers the phone but is distracted
When it comes to when to call her, one of the worst things you can do (EVER) is still trying to talk to her when she answers the phone and is obviously distracted.

Some common distractions include:

- She’s with friends. You can tell by her avoiding intimate questions and giving short answers
- It takes her a while to reply (she’s looking at/for something or thinking about other stuff)
- She’s going somewhere and it’s noisy (lots of people, public transportation noise, etc.)

In all these situations you can forget about having ANY real conversation with her, let alone asking her out on a date! So whenever she does anything I described above, tell her:

“You sound kind of busy, so I’ll let you do your thing and I’ll call you some other time.”

Then hang up. Yes, even before she gets a chance to reply. Because even if she wants to talk to you she can’t because of circumstances. It will be a pain in the ass to try, so don’t even try.

It’s a GREAT way to test if she’s interested in you by the way: does she call you back or text asking why you hung up or saying she does have time to talk? Then you know she wants you.

Anyways, call her again after a couple days so she knows you’re not desperate. Now THAT’S when to call her if she’s busy (distracted), wouldn’t you agree?

When to call her situation 2: she doesn’t pick up the phone at all
When it comes to when to call her, there will always be times when there’s no response.

Don’t freak out over it because everybody has a life. People work, go to college, go see their family, want to stay in shape, etc. So freaking out and calling multiple times will only make you look desperate and it’ll scare women away.

And here’s another don’t of when to call her: if she doesn’t answer the phone, don’t leave a voicemail. She already sees she has a missed call from you, but leaving a voicemail too?
That’s desperate… and less and less people listen to their voicemail anyways nowadays.

Try again after a couple days if you can’t reach her and see what happens then…

One More Thing About Knowing When To Call Her…

Now you know the brutal truth about when to call her you may be wondering HOW to call her.

To be a little more specific: do you want to know how to call her and attract her enough to ask her out and hear a “YES”? And do you want to know the EXACT words you can say to ask her out without much effort?

If so, then you should definitely get the free tips inside my Calling Women and Texting Women Newsletter. Inside, you’ll find everything you need to know about calling women and getting dates… and they’re tips I don’t share ANYWHERE else.

Oeh! Did I mention the tips inside the Newsletter are free already? Sign up now dude!

And hey, also be sure to leave a comment on these tips for when to call her, alright?

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Whether you want to get internet date tips to meet women on internet dating sites, social networks or Yahoo/MSN Messenger… it doesn’t matter to me. Because today?

Today I will reveal, in alphabetical order, the principles I’ve used to meet one woman after the other, after the other… after the other while internet dating. Within moments, YOU will be able to do the same with my “back to basics” internet date tips.

So, fasten your seatbelts, because here we go!

The A-E Of Internet Date Tips

A: Always exceed other guys. Internet date tips that fail to mention that are unrealistic.

That almost sounded like you have to compete like CRAZY just to “get the girl”, didn’t it?

But it actually works both ways and here’s why:

- Start regularly checking what other guys in your area have on their profile. If they all have lots of cool photos, a funny description and all of that, then you’re dealing with stiff competition and you have to go beyond what they’ve done.

- On the other hand, when you check the profiles of the guys in your area and they’re all simple, crappy, cheesy, and have really bad pictures? Then using tons of cool photos, humor, a long and high quality description of yourself and so on can come across like you’re overdoing it. Like you’re too good to be true. Like you’re a player.

My internet date tips will show you how to match and exceed what your worthless and already defeated rivals… uhh… I mean formidable adversaries… are doing on their profiles.

B: Be aware of what women typically receive.

One of the best internet date tips I can ever give you is that you should get yourself a fake female profile with photos of a hot chick on there.

Why?

When you see what kind of idiotic messages other guys send women and how many idiots try to get a woman’s attention in your inbox, the way you view internet dating will be changed forever.

Because here’s the brutal truth most internet date tips neglect:

- Attractive women get an average of 30-50 messages from idiots a day

- Of those messages, half don’t even have a message subject so why should they open one of those?

- Of the remaining half, half has a subject that says “Hi” or is a cheesy pick up line (again: why would they open one of those?)

Thinking along those lines, internet date tips should better start telling you that internet dating is mostly about how to stand out in the sea of jackasses that don’t even take the time to send a woman a REAL message.

C: Calm down. Or as Samuel L. Jackson said in Pulp Fiction: “Tell that b*tch to chill!”

When women don’t reply to your message or stopped replying, don’t you freak out on me! And especially don’t send them 5 angry messages demanding an explanation (a lot of guys do that, trust me). Calm down…

Because here’s something to think about: since attractive women who are into internet dating receive so much junk mail from idiots every day, imagine what happens if they aren’t online for a day or two…

Do you really think they want to open hundreds of message that are all lame, predictable, boring, and cheesy? They’ll stop opening messages fast and it’s likely they simply haven’t seen your message yet.

So calm down and try again after a week or so because a woman might read your message the second time around. Now THIS is a realistic internet date tip.

I’m sorry for ranting here, but those “cloud nine”, Fantasy Land based internet date tips most people give you that don’t work really piss me off!

D: Do or die, that’s what the land of internet dating is like.

Here’s another piece of realism for you: since most women get so much junk from jackasses who have no genuine interest in them at all, they get bored with a site FAST.

That’s why you’ll quickly discover that most “members” of internet dating sites are actually women who gave up on the site a long time ago and who are never online anymore.

In short: new female members of a site are easier to talk to (try finding them by looking at the dates chicks signed up for the site)… AND… new dating sites and social networks are a great place for you to meet women (since they haven’t been junk mailed to death there yet).

E: Every response you get because of my internet date tips is a good one.

Yes, that’s true even when you tease a woman and she replies all pissed off. And yes, it’s also true even when a lady says “NO” when you ask for her number.

Think about it: interesting women get 30-50 messages a day on average. That means you have to stand out in a sea of freaking messages every time you send them one, so getting a reply thanks to my internet date tips means hitting their emotional sweet spot enough for them to reply.

And remember: attraction is a FEELING based on emotions, so even when you get an angry emotion thrown at you? You still did better than 99% of the men why try to meet women online that NEVER get a reply.

So, you just have to calm down that angry chick, make her laugh, and you’ve got her in the pocket. And I can tell you that from experience, because hot tempered women are my favorite and I dated many of them thanks to internet dating!

The F-I Of Internet Date Tips That Spark The Chemistry

F: Fugget about it.

Forget about getting dates by meeting women online if you reply to their messages within minutes of getting them. That looks like you’ve been waiting for their reply all damn day!

Forget about getting dates with my internet date tips when you never attempt to take things offline and into the real world. You can hide behind a computer screen all you want, but a date still happens face-to-face my friend.

Forget about ages, especially on social networks, because you won’t believe how many women say they’re 99 or 11 on purpose just so you stay of their case. Just so no one can find them. Guess why? They got tired of all the junk mail idiots always sent them.

In other words: read up on the don’ts, then check out some of my samples of dating profiles so you know what the do’s are too.

G: Go beyond websites to meet more women online.

There’s more out there than dating sites and social networks you know. Take forums for people (including women) who share a common interest for example.

And take apps like Foursquare and other location-based services.

Experiment until you find the best place to meet and date women online.

H: Hold it together man! Use my internet date tips to hold your dating profile together!

Now when I say hold it together I mean your profile on a social network.

You see, most social networks give you a BILLION things you can put on your profile: photos, comments, videos, groups, interests, and the list goes on and on.

That’s a blessing if you try and use every single area of your profile for attracting women, but it can seriously hurt your chances of getting the girl if you have attractive photos… but the rest of your profile is total garbage that ruins the perfect picture you’re trying to paint, know what I’m saying?

That means you need to go hard or go home (offline): either pimp your entire internet dating profile to attract the women you would want in your life or don’t even freaking bother.

I: If you build it, they will NOT come.

There are too many losers out there trying to tell you with their internet date tips that if you write a dating profile, then smoking hot women will magically fall into your lap.

That’s not reality. That’s wishful thinking.

You have to actively start messaging women if you want to get yourself some dates, because internet dating is a numbers game: not all women will respond, of those who respond not all of them give you their number… and of those that do, not all of them will go on a date with you.

So it’s safe to say that the more women you talk to online… the higher your chances of getting women will be. That’s a “minor” detail most internet date tips fail to tell you.

The J-N Of Internet Date Tips That Make Women Want You

J: Just text. It’s what makes internet dating and thus internet date tips different.

I’ll give you a hint here and let you do the math…

In clubs, bars, stores and what not, you can use your body language, voice tone, eye contact, clothing style, female friends, and much more to attract women. Online you can’t. Online there’s only text you can talk to women with. And, remember, attraction is a feeling based on emotions.

Do you realize what this means? It means you have to find ways to create as much emotion with text as possible to attract women. You can do that with emoticons, EMPHASIZING words, and with pauses… just like the one in this sentence.

K: Kama Sutra.

Wait a minute! Did I just mention an overly sexual book in a blog post with internet date tips? Yep! And here’s why…

Guess why most guys try to meet women online? Usually because they feel uncomfortable talking to women face-to-face because they lack the confidence, social skills or conversational skills to do so.

The result: most guys who talk to women online beat around the bush. They’re not to the point. They don’t directly say what they want, how they feel, and so on and so forth.

Guess how you stand out in the internet dating world of the overly timid dudes? Correct: by being overly sexual. So, by being VERY direct.

Example: instead of chatting up a woman about her hobbies, job and I don’t know what else, be very direct after you’ve made her laugh and say something along the lines of…

“Look, I normally don’t do this but I think you’re absolutely beautiful from head to toe and you’re funny too. Just the way I like it, so let’s continue this conversation over a cup of coffee.”

That’s being direct, wouldn’t you agree?

L: Love comes AFTER the date, not by talking to someone online.

You will come across women online who are lonely but don’t want a relationship. And you will meet women online who say “NO” for months before you can date them (if they ever agree to date you that is).

And over time, you get to know those women. Get to know them well. What kind of person they are, their ambitions, their likes and dislikes and bla bla bla. Most guys (including me once) tend to confuse having lots of fun with a woman online with love. Don’t.

Because the moment you say the three magic words (I love you), you’ll scare them away. Plus, how do you know if you love someone when you haven’t ever met them in person?

M: Multiply.

Since woman A can be on site 1 while woman B can be on site 2 but not on 1, internet date tips that say you don’t need multiple profiles can do nothing but SUCK.

That says it all really. You can increase your chances of achieving internet dating success just by having more than one profile at any one time.

N: No means not yet.

When you ask a woman for her number online and she says “NO”, never forget that you managed to stand out in a sea of messages from jackasses remember?

There’s an emotional connection there, because if she didn’t care then she would have just read your request and never respond to it. But she did. That tells you something: that she’s not sure she’s NOT interested. And that means she’s not ready… yet!

All you have to do then is persist. Tease her by saying you promise you will only call her 10,000 times a day.

If it’s still no, then attract her some more. Get to know her a little better. Then try again.

The O-R Of Internet Date Tips

O: Overly confident is what all internet date tips should show you how to be.

Why?

Because like I said before: most guys who sign up for internet dating are NOT the confident types. They tend to be shy, to have no clue of what they should say, etc. Meanwhile, women are attracted to confidence.

So it’s easy to stand out in the crowd by being slightly too confident. Examples:

Her: “You’re sweet”
You: “I know!”

Her: “Why do you want my number? I don’t give my number to strangers”
You: “I want it because I know you’ll like me even more when you can hear my voice”

P: Protect your interests man.

I just know I’m going to piss off female readers with this, but I’m still saying it because my goal is to help MEN succeed online with my internet date tips… not women.

Dude, when on a social network, never forget that people can see everything. So when you got a girl’s number on Facebook and add a different girl as a friend the next day for example?

Don’t be surprised if you get questions about it. Hell, don’t even be surprised if the girl that gave you her number sends a message filled with jealousy to the new chick if she really likes you.

That happened to me all the time back in the day.

So do yourself a favor and protect your interests by not befriending every girl you meet and/or get the number from, otherwise you may end up with a Wall filled with hate messages (like I did).

Q: Questions keep things going.

Were you looking for internet date tips about how to talk to women online when you started reading this blog post? Of course you were. So keep this in mind:

Keep asking questions. If you only tease a woman to create attraction, comment on what she says or answer her question and that’s it… then why would she respond?

The only good response would be a “hahaha” but what good will that do you when you want to get dates? So always ask a question, even if it’s as basic as asking her what she’s going to do or did this weekend.

It keeps her talking which, in turn, makes her trust you more and feel more comfortable around you. You need both trust and comfort before you can get a woman’s number.

R: Regularly redesigning your profile is a smart move.

Because although most women wait for men to respond to their profiles, there are plenty of women who will actively search for guys and show their interest in them.

Guess how they try to find guys? By using a site’s search engine of course.

Do you know how the search engine has been built on most internet dating sites? By displaying the people who are online or were most recently online on top.

And by regularly redesigning your profile you make sure you were online most recently a lot, which means you’ll be found by more women. Pretty awesome right?

The S-Z Of Internet Date Tips That Attract Women

S: Store everything you can use later.

If you notice that a certain playful comment about, say, True Blood that you tease her with works, then try it again on a different woman. Still works? Then store it somewhere so every time when True Blood comes up you can boost the attraction by copy and pasting a freaking piece of text.

Now THAT is one of those internet date tips that will last you a lifetime.

T: Terminator + internet dating = winning!

In other words: do you feel like it will take ages until you can finally get her number? Terminate the conversation. Don’t even bother. Save yourself the time and energy.

Do you feel like a certain site sucks because you’ve been using my internet date tips but still haven’t gotten results with women online? It’s a useless site for you. Maybe all the women there are not online as much as the site led you to be believe. Go somewhere else.

V: Violating socially accepted behavior can be a good thing.

Why? Because whether they like it or not, women fall for bad boys over and over again. And guess what bad boys do? They don’t give a shit about socially accepted behavior.

So be rude for once. Be indifferent about a woman’s feelings for once. It can help you get over your desperation.

W: Why change a winning team of internet date tips?

I should have said internet date techniques. Anyways, just like it’s a smart move to store sentences about certain topics that always work… also look for patterns in entire conversations.

Have you noticed that you most often get a woman’s number by teasing them first, then being serious, then teasing, and then asking for the digits? Write it down and most of all: keep doing it!

Have you noticed most women respond in similar ways? Why not test what’s the best reply to all of the most common replies and then never change your winning “team” of replies?

X: xxx, better known as K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Stupid!)

When in doubt about what to say to women online to show you have a genuine interest in them, find something on her profile that’s easiest for you to comment on.

Remember, your job is not to impress women. It’s to attract them. Big difference.

Y: Why so serious?

Yeah here I come with the Batman quotes again. But seriously, why are you making a life and death situation out of internet dating?

Relax!

If a woman stops replying altogether, there’ll be more. Look at it this way: sure you want to meet Miss Right, but the more women you practice your skills with? The better prepared you’ll be when Miss Right does come around.

So ANY practice, even when you don’t get a number, is good practice!

Z: Zero in on your perfect target

Don’t just write a profile for anyone, including for yourself. No.

Use my internet date tips to write a dating profile that attracts YOUR type of woman. After all, would you rather be insanely dateable to 5 women or not so attractive they’d date you to a million women?

One More Thing About These Internet Date Tips…

These are the 26 basic internet date tips that’ll help you get girls to notice you online, but I understand if you crave some specific techniques right now. Some things to say. That’s no problem because you can easily gain access to more tips for free!

How? By getting the tips inside my members-only Online Dating Newsletter. That’s how!

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to stuff my face with Pringles chips right now. It’s my latest and greatest addiction. Anyways, I hope you liked my internet date tips!

Check out the rest of the Profile For Dating series.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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First off, you should know that some good first date topics do more than just prevent those awkward silences we’ve all experienced (and HATED) on first dates in the past.

Why? Because if you play your cards right, then my first date topics will not only help you keep the conversation going… no there’s more…

Because they’ll also boost the attraction and have her begging for a kiss from you.

Do you want proof of how my first date topics make it possible? Makes sense, so here’s your proof…

Why Some First Date Topics Make Her Beg For A Kiss…

Most regular guys like you and me that start learning how to create attraction think it’s done with fancy techniques that require a lot of guts, much macho type behavior, and all that.

Nothing could be further from the truth. That’s not the full story of what attraction is and my first date topics can prove it!

You see, no matter how much you make a woman feel attracted to you with ANY kind of technique, if she doesn’t feel comfortable and safe around you then she WON’T take things to the next level with you.

Ever.

She needs to feel safe around you, and comfortable, and that you’re a trustworthy guy and not some creep with rape fantasies if you know what I mean. Good first date topics help you make her feel that way.

And get this: each step of the way she needs to feel comfort and trust even more. For example, she needs 10 times as much trust/comfort to sleep with you than to kiss with you…

So your dating success ALSO depends on creating comfort and trust whether you like it or not. That’s why talking with her is important.

And it’s also why good first date topics can mean the difference between saying goodnight without a kiss… and crashing at her place for the night

The Definition Of Good First Date Topics

Thinking along the lines of how much of a difference good first date topics can make, here’s a definition of what IS and what is NOT a good first date topic…

First date topic do’s
1) It creates trust by revealing very personal details about you or about her of course, preferably details you or she wouldn’t reveal to most people

2) A good first date topic creates comfort by making her relax. Using humor is a good way to do it. Another way is to talk about stuff that interests most women.

3) It gives examples of why you’re a trustworthy guy by using themes like loyalty in your questions and answers

4) Good first date topics challenge her to think about herself or the world in new ways while she didn’t expect that, which makes you unpredictable (that alone creates attraction) and makes you stand out from all the guys she’s dated before

First date topic don’ts
1) It doesn’t create discomfort with negative themes like her or your ex, what sucks about her/your job or other crap. In other words: always keep the fun going.

2) It shouldn’t be about you, because A) the more she reveals about herself, the more she automatically must trust you with that info and B) the more she reveals, the more you can attract her with (by teasing her with it, disapproving it, etc.) In other words: keep her talking!

3) Bad first date topics consist of predictable stuff like how the weather is, how her day was, what her hobbies are. You have to dig deeper to make her trust you AND to attract her…

Now let’s check out some examples of first date topics already, shall we?

First Date Topics: Examples, Examples, Examples

Alright, now we know that good first date topics are about very personal stuff, are relaxing, challenge her, and are about trust themes? Let’s see some examples…

“What’s the funniest thing that ever happened to you?”

This starts one of those first date conversations that will do you much good, because it’s a nice way to break the ice and make her relax.

“What 2-3 major events in your life made you who you are today?”

This is one of the best first date topics, because it tells you what she thinks is important (and thus if she’s really your type), it probably reveals her ambitions (who she wants to be), and it tells you how well she knows herself (if she doesn’t know at all, you can bet your ass that she doesn’t have much confidence).

If you see her doubting whether she should tell you or not, go first. This goes for all the examples of first date topics I’m giving you today, because going first creates trust.

“Fun question: you have a best friend you’ve known all your life and who means everything to you. Out of nowhere, you get an offer that will make you a million dollars BUT accepting the offer would ruin your friendship forever because he/she is against the people who made you the offer for very personal reasons. Would you accept or decline the offer?”

Now THAT is how you determine whether she’s loyal or not (which is important in a relationship) and how you can show her that you’re a trustworthy guy.

“Question. When guys sleep with multiple girls in one week they’re called heroes by most people around them, but when a girl sleeps with multiple girls in one week? She’s called a slut. What do you think is the reason for that?”

First date topics that involve situations in the dating game always work because women love talking about it.

Plus, it’s also a way for you to show your experience with women. How much you know about women. And women want a man who knows what to do around women.

“What are you afraid of?”

Someone’s fears reveal a lot about them and it’s also a very personal topic to talk about.

It can also be quite funny, because you won’t believe what women can be afraid of: most are afraid of spiders and mice, but you’ll hear stuff like birds, fish, and other crazy things.

More First Date Topics…

There are many other first date topics you can attract women with. Would you like to know them?

And I’m willing to bet you that you want to know more about what to do on a first date in general too, right?

Do you want to know more about how to be confident on the first date for example, how to look confident, when to kiss her, and how to make her come inside with you?

If your answer was “YES” to one or more of my questions, then I highly recommend you check out my Simple Inner Game System.

Because it’s an inexpensive product (less than 25 bucks) crammed with tips on what to do on a first date (including more first date topics), how to build the confidence to get the kiss and the date in the first place, and so much more…

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And right about now this movie addict is going to watch himself some Green Lantern while enjoying a gigantic “bucket” of coffee (a huge cup, and yes I’m a coffee junkie too).

What did you think of my thoughts on first date topics? Be sure to leave a comment!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

Because today I’ve got some tips for texting girls for you that guys who are incredibly successful with texting (guys like players and dating gurus) would hate to share with you because they make the dating game a hell of a lot easier.

I had to stalk some of those womanizers to get these tips for texting for you…

But it was worth it because don’t you, too, want to make the dating game a hell of a lot easier for yourself by making texting girls so easy a baby could do it?

In short: move over amateurish tips for texting that you can easily come up with yourself. Make room for pro tips from insiders that you won’t find anywhere else…

Tips For Texting: Right Click, Save As…

Most people who want tips for texting don’t realize that what they say makes texting “difficult” is also it’s greatest advantage:

It’s text-based.

Sure, you only have text to attract girls with… where you have your body language, eye contact, your voice tone, clothing style, and more in person. But you know what?

You CAN’T store every conversation you have with girls face-to-face, but you CAN store every conversation you have via text.

I can almost hear you think: “Why is this one of the best tips for texting?”

Think about it man: the more girls you meet, the more it becomes clear to you that you often find yourself in similar situations with them:

- Girls are shopping and you’re texting them about it

- You’re texting girls about exes, how guys and girls think about each other and other dating-related topics

- Girls are going out or in a club right now and you’re texting them about it

Not all girls are made equal, but they often like to do similar stuff. Shopping, talking about dating, gossiping, partying, drinking, fashion, sunbathing, and so on and so forth.

And this is where my tips for texting come in…

Because since you can’t avoid texting girls about similar stuff, why not take note of which replies you sent got the best reaction? If you tease a girl about sunbathing in a certain way and you notice she’s laughing her ass off, then save that text message somewhere or write it down.

I don’t care how you store a text message for later use, as long as you do it you’ll be a master of attracting girls through text thanks to these tips for texting in no time…

Because next time a different girl starts talking about sunbathing as well?

You re-use what you’ve already said before instead of forcing yourself to figure out what to text a girl over and over. Plus, it won’t be long before you figure out what the majority of girls respond extremely well too because you’ll see patterns.

The result: over time you will end up with several great things to say to girls via text that always attract them.

So, if you only remember one of the tips for texting I’ll give you today, make sure it’s this one because it’s the most powerful of the bunch.

Secret Tips For Texting: The Weekend Hook Up

Forget about those tips for texting that tell you to only text a hot chick after several days or that you should text her the next day…

Because the weekend (Friday, Saturday, and Sunday) is a MAJOR exception to the rule. Keep using tips for texting, and tips for getting girls in general, and you’ll find that every rule has awesome exceptions, but that’s an entirely different story…

Why is the weekend different you ask?

Because texting is a means to an end. Texting gets you the date, but not the girl. That’s why you should see texting girls as the step before victory, not as victory itself… unless you don’t mind becoming pen pals with every single girl you meet

Whether you like it or not, the weekend is party time. Most girls who have a life love to go to the clubs and bars Friday through Sunday, hell, on Thursday too if they’re college chicks…

So why not use that to your advantage? Here are some tips for texting to use it to your advantage…

Okay, say you get a girls number on Monday. Not many people go out on Monday, so stick to whatever rule it is that you’re following about how long you should wait with contacting her.

Now let’s say it’s one of the days in the weekend. If you get a girls number during the day, then why not text her later that night and tell her to meet you in club XYZ?

Hell, if you get a number in club XYZ on night 1, then why not text that girl on day 2 and tell her to meet you at the same place, same time on night 2?

The result of using these tips for texting in a club/bar situation:

- It will feel like a date to her whether other people (her friends or yours) are there or not

- It’s much easier to kiss and go crazy in a club where people lose their inhibitions with alcohol or without it, then for example in the middle of the street

- If there is alcohol involved, it could make it easier. I’m not saying you should make girls drunk and act like a rapist. All I’m saying is alcohol CAN help you out a little.

Secret Tips For Texting Girls: The Mass Appeal

This is one of the most forgotten but easiest tips for texting girls. Because all it means, in a way, is not wasting your own freaking time!

Why?

Because chances are you’re texting multiple girls at the same time. I mean, why wouldn’t you be because not every girl you text will end up dating you…

So you need to spread your eggs across multiple baskets instead of putting them in one.

Anyways, if you’re texting girls (multiple of them), then why not text them at the same time? Did you forget that you can send one text message to more than 1 person?

I’m talking about a mass text here. Sending the same thing to a few girls at once. In case you wonder when you would use tips for texting such as mass texts, then here are some examples:

1) It’s the weekend and you want to see who is ready to “date” you in a local club or bar, then why not text several girls? If one cancels, you’ll have others. If they can all make it, then you’ll have the time of your life if you meet them in different clubs!

2) You want to organize a party at your place. You know several girls that like you and invite them all. Some cancel but some will come. Because they like you and see you flirting with one of the others, they get jealous. Making girls jealous can get you dates VERY fast.

3) You want to go on a date, but not get cancelled on. Then mass text girls so there will always be one who can make it, cancel the others, and you’ll seem hard to get for them = you become more attractive to them!

Now THAT is what I call one of the best tips for texting: something you can always use but which not many guys actually use.

Secret Tips For Texting: I’m Standing Right Here You Know

I hate to give bad news to people, but when a girl’s single you’re not the only one she gives her number to 9 out of 10 times. So, you need to stand out.

That’s where the next two tips for texting girls come in: they easily make you stand out so women will remember you and be more attracted to you than to other, boring dudes.

Okay, let’s say you just got a cute girl’s number. Instead of walking away, stand next to her after you get the number, and text her pretending she’s someone else.

How? By saying something along the lines of:

“Wow! I just met this cute looking girl and it seems like she has a fantastic personality! I would love to take her out some time…”

Of course, she will read your text, be surprised and shy, and then you pretend to get shy and tell her you were supposed to send that to your best friend instead of her.

Then you can immediately ask her out now she already knows you want to!

Tips For Texting: You’re Standing Right There You Know

This texting tips builds on previous tips for texting girls, because you use it when you’re about to meet a chick somewhere.

Here’s the deal:

- Carefully approach the place where you two are supposed to meet and wait until you see her (make sure she doesn’t see you). She’ll probably wonder where you are…

- Text her and tell her you’re waiting for her and just saw the most beautiful girl and she was wearing … (describe exactly what she’s wearing: colors, clothing style, etc.)

- Then walk up to her and tell her you saw her

Now THAT is how you show a genuine interest in a woman and make her shy and attracted to you!

Tips For Texting: Cocky And Texting

Let’s take a step back for a sec and look at tips for texting BEFORE you actually get a girl’s number. Is that even possible? Yes it is!

Because when you have the balls to do this, it’s very, very… very unlikely that a girl will NOT give you her number.

That’s because you’ll be showing a loooot of confidence with this move.

Here’s the deal:

The moment you want to get her number, don’t ask for it. Tell her to wait a second because you think you just got a text message. And while you’re checking your phone, she’s thinking to yourself that you’re incredibly rude…

So guess how surprised she’ll be when you say you just got a text from her but don’t know how to reply because you don’t have her number?

Then tell her to give you her number so you can text back (and if you really want to be smooth, then “text her back” and say that yes you’re not, but she’s hotter).

It’s a bold move, it’s cocky…

But I’ve seen it work. I’ve seen all the tips for texting I’ve given you today work in my own life AND in other people’s lives, even when they weren’t players or dating gurus…

These techniques have given a lot of people some amazing results with women…

So, what are you waiting for? Start using these tips for texting already man!

And if you want even more highly effective texting tips that attract girls like crazy and get you dates, I highly recommend you get the FREE tips inside my Calling Girls and Texting Girls Newsletter.

Don’t wait… get those free tips right away, okay?

I hope you liked these secret tips for texting, as I put a lot of time in getting them from some of the best players and dating gurus I know!

Check out the rest of the How To Text A Girl series.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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And in case you’re asking yourself what made ME the expert on how to do flirting, then my answer’s: I didn’t, but women did. You see, I know how women think in the dating game.

I know because I’ve been trying to learn how to do flirting myself for many, many years now. Plus, I’ve successfully coached hundreds of guys with meeting and dating women during the last 3 years or so… so you could say that I know what I’m talking about.

Hey, I’m not saying I have ALL the answers when it comes to how to do flirting, but I will tell you this:

Once you know how women think and what attracts them when you’re flirting with them like I know? It’s a matter of time before you’ll get dates here, there, and every freaking where!

So, let’s see what knowing how to do flirting boils down to, shall we?

Learning How To Do Flirting Is Learning A “Secret Language”

The most important thing you can ever learn about how to do flirting with women is that normal language and social behavior DO NOT WORK.

There’s a “secret language” that people speak when they’re flirting successfully and it’s completely different from what’s socially accepted.

Hell, learning how to do flirting with women in a way means UNLEARNING everything you’ve been taught to believe by your parents and by society.

Why is getting women so different from “socializing” you say?

Because normal conversation and normal social behavior is based on logic, opinions, and social standards. Social standards like respecting other people’s opinions for example.

Attraction, however, is a FEELING based on EMOTIONS. Emotions are illogical, come from mostly subconscious needs and wants instead of conscious opinions… and they definitely do NOT follow social standards.

Let’s take a step back here, so you can really understand what learning how to do flirting is all about. Let’s talk about that subconscious stuff first…

Why are women attracted to you on a mostly subconscious level?

Because what they think and say they want (which are opinions based on logic) is not what they NEED (what makes them happy and satisfies their emotional needs).

Example of how to do flirting with a woman who grew up without a father:

She may SAY she wants a man who’s sweet, nice, funny, and all the usual suspects…

But what she NEEDS is a dominant, male authority figure because she grew up without one.

Every woman psychologically needs a male role model (= a father figure) when growing up that tells her what she can and cannot do. Someone who’s strict but cares a lot about her. If “that guy” was never there, then she subconsciously starts looking for him in the men she dates.

So learning how to do flirting with her would mean learning how to be dominant, because that’s what she needs the most: a dominant male who tells her what she can and can’t do.

Am I going too fast here? Don’t worry, because I’ll explain how to do flirting with your newly found knowledge in a step-by-step way below…

And YES, I will give you techniques you can use to start flirting successfully right after you’re done reading this blog post.

Onward…

How To Do Flirting: Forget About Social Standards!

Remember how I said that learning how to do flirting means you first have to realize that the dating game doesn’t follow social standards?

Okay, let’s explore the consequences of believing that’s NOT how to do flirting. That flirting is about doing what’s socially acceptable.

It’s socially not accepted to be rude. To treat someone disrespectfully, even if it’s only slightly disrespectful. Plus, you’re supposed to leave people’s dignity intact, which means no bashing on a stranger’s appearance or actions for you Mister! Sure, you can do all that stuff with friends but NOT with strangers.

The result: men who want to get women by doing their absolute best not to be rude, disrespectful, and to please the women as much as possible. Men who give compliments.

Men who chase women around when they’re playing hard to get because that’s what society teaches them: the men chase, the women choose. If a woman chooses you, you got “lucky.”

But guess what? When it comes to how to do flirting, how is THAT interesting for women?

It’s not a challenge…

It’s what every guy on the planet is doing…

It’s being easy to get…

Worst of all: following social standards?

It’s listening to what society THINKS is “the right thing to do,” but attraction is a feeling based on emotions and NOT on opinions remember!?

And here’s a question for you if you’re still not convinced that learning how to do flirting is unlearning social standards: if dating is about doing the right thing, then why does one woman after the other, after the other… after the other hook up with bad boys?

That’s right: because attraction isn’t a choice based on logic and/or opinions.

So frankly, screw what people (including women) think and say, because attraction is only about how something makes someone feel.

Here’s another juicy secret to convince you some more about the right way for how to do flirting:

It’s socially accepted to leave people’s dignity intact, so why then do women giggle, blush, and become attracted to you when you tease them with how they look or what they do? Why, then, are women attracted to you when you treat them like spoiled little brats just like you did in kindergarten?

The answer: it’s because attraction has nothing to do with social standards. Attraction is about creating emotions that women need and want (often without them knowing it).

Put simply, that means learning how to do flirting means learning which emotions women need and want.

Examples Of How To Do Flirting

Congratulations for getting this far! You’re only moments away from knowing everything you need to know for how to do flirting and get dates because of it…

I know it may sounded complicated when I said that flirting, so getting women, is about recognizing what they need/want while they don’t even know it themselves… but it’s actually not that hard.

Why?

Example of how to do flirting #1
Look around you next time you’re in a club or bar for example. What do you see? Women who don’t want to be there. Women who don’t look happy AT ALL.

Take a random club for example. If you pay close attention (do it next time alright?), then you’ll know how to do flirting because you see that most women didn’t come by themselves.

They came with friends… and there’s almost always one of them that got dragged to the club. One who actually doesn’t want to be there and who sits in the lounge area or in front of the bar all night. Her friends told her to come and she didn’t want to ruin the mood, but her own mood is crappy.

Guess what she needs? Someone to make her night right. Someone who stops her from feeling sorry for herself and who helps her have fun. Who helps her forget about her worries.

Knowing how to do flirting in this situation means walking up to her saying you can tell she’s not enjoying herself and that she doesn’t want to be there.

Continue by saying she’s there now anyways so why not make the most of it instead?

Then start teasing her, making small talk, dancing with her, having a couple drinks, and partying with her. Making sure she has the time of her life. That’s how you get her.

As you can see: knowing how to do flirting doesn’t mean you need to know a woman’s biography before you can do anything.

It can be as easy as giving her what she needs right here, right now.

Example of how to do flirting #2
In a society where Facebook, text messages, online games, and so on have almost completely taken over any REAL social interactions… people are disconnected.

Look around: how many people listen to their iPods or smartphone music, how many are calling or texting, and how many are having a conversation with a stranger?

I’m willing to bet you for $50 that only one in 100 people you see on the streets are having a fun conversation with a stranger, while the rest is completely living inside their own little bubble.

I can almost hear you think: “What does this have to do with learning how to do flirting?”

While it used to be common for men and women to talk face-to-face, they now talk online, via the phone or via text (if they talk at all and don’t walk past each other). Plus, most people have less and less class and don’t give a crap about others…

And the result is that you immediately stand out if you DO care about a total stranger you meet face-to-face. These days you stand out if you give someone a genuine compliment (instead of telling them they’re hot which is NOT a genuine compliment).

Why is it knowing how to do flirting when you would, say, help a single mom lift the baby carriage down a flight of stairs?

Because it’s catering to the age old psychological need discovered by Sigmund Freud: the need to feel important. Everyone wants to matter, to have a reason to exist.

These days everybody’s unimportant to everybody in our individualistic society, so making someone feel special, VERY important, immediately makes you interesting to them.

Now THAT is knowing how to do flirting! And don’t forget I already gave you two other examples of flirting:

One for women who grew up without a father figure (be dominant to get dates)… and one for women in general (tease them to attract them).

Want To Know More About How To Do Flirting?

I just know you’re going to LOVE this little “detail” about how to do flirting:

Not only are there many other situations than the ones I mentioned just now where you can “get the girl” just by paying attention, and by giving her what she needs…

There are certain personality traits women are attracted to that work in virtually ANY situation. And you know what?

I’ll tell you everything about them AND show you techniques for using them to get dates… FOR FREE… inside my Inner Game Newsletter.

I highly recommend you get the free members-only tips of my newsletter today, because they reveal many other overlooked secrets of how to do flirting besides those I already revealed.

That’s all I have to say about how to do flirting for today!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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And in case you’re wondering: “Is finding a girlfriend online for the long run really possible?” Then my answer is: HELL YEAH. Why?

Because several years ago, I started finding a girlfriend online myself and I pulled it off. And she’s hot, funny, intelligent, real, and we’ve been together for almost 4 years now.

Plus, over the years I’ve coached plenty of guys who were also able to find a girlfriend online.

And if I, and they, can find a girlfriend online successfully, why can’t you?

Like I said before: if you know what you’re doing online, finding a girlfriend online is only a matter of time. So are you ready to speed up the process with my insider secrets of how to do it?

Finding A Girlfriend Online Starts With Your Type

Finding a girlfriend online starts with finding a site for your type of woman… and if it doesn’t exist? It starts with writing a dating profile that attracts your type.

Don’t believe those online date tips that say you need to sign up for site such and such because they have XYZ million of subscribers, because what good does that do you if all those women are NOT your type?

That’s why you need to put some effort into finding a site that attracts your type of woman, so you can start finding a girlfriend online without much effort.

Because isn’t that what you want?

A site for finding a girlfriend online that’s your type
Check out this awesome list of sites to find out if there’s a site or soial network for your type of girl.

Did you know there’s a site for people who love running and swimming where you can find a girlfriend online, for example?

Let me guess: you didn’t think there were so many sites for so many different interests and countries, right? I know!

Once you’re on one of those sites, just talk about the same passion as your type of woman has on her profile and show it in your photos… and she will come. Trust me.

And hey, in case you’re beating yourself up about the fact that there’s no site for your type of woman so finding a girlfriend online must be impossible… chill out!

Why?

Because you can always write…

A profile for finding a girlfriend online that’s your type
Before you go ahead and write a dating profile that tries to attract everyone, STOP. It will only somewhat attract some women, but the moment you write one for 1 specific kinda girl?

That’s the moment you will attract that type of woman (YOUR type) like CRAZY, while other women won’t be attracted to you… but they aren’t your type anyways so who cares!?

And if you want to start finding a girlfriend online thanks to your profile, follow these steps:

- Ask yourself what hobbies and interests she would have. Use some of them on your profile
- Ask yourself what she would hate… and voice your own negative opinion about it
- Ask yourself what she would eat and drink… and mention some of it
- If possible, use photos and videos of stuff she would probably like
- Ask yourself where she would go to on a date or in her free time and mention it

I can almost hear you think: “Finding a girlfriend online with this sounds easy, but how do I actually write a profile based on my type of woman?”

Stop worrying already man! Because I’m about to give you an example of how to find a girlfriend online because of a profile that attracts her… that attracts your type of woman.

Finding A Girlfriend Online: A Profile Example

Alright, in this example of finding a girlfriend online with a profile, my type of woman is a cultural, artsy chick. So a woman who loves art.

- Hobbies: bashing on art critics who don’t know what they’re talking about, appreciating paintings of still unknown artists in a local art gallery
- Favorite food: 5 star restaurant stuff because those chefs make a piece of art of my plate, lol
- Interests: Picasso, Van Gogh, Dali, painting wannabe paintings that I won’t show anyone, ever, because they’re THAT “beautiful”, visiting the National Gallery Of Art and the Guggenheim

Do you see what I’m doing here to find a girlfriend online?

I’m using humor to express my love of art AND that I don’t take myself too seriously. Showing you’re not too serious is important, because most men have expectations BEFORE the first date that women end up having after several months or even years: I love you, marriage, making babies, etc.

By showing you’re not so serious, you’re showing a potential girlfriend online that you’re not desperate.

Let’s continue with some more examples of finding a girlfriend online who loves art:

- The photos I would use: some museum photos, one of me painting or me making some pottery stuff, me next to a well-known artist, a picture of a famous painter, etc.

- Videos: something similar to what I mentioned above

- Profile text: I would talk about who I’m fascinated by the lives of famous painters and how their success didn’t come without drama, that I hope to become a great painter once without cutting my ear off like “You Know Who” did (an artsy chick will know those)…

This is just an example of how finding a girlfriend online is done when your type of woman loves art, but you can use something similar for ANY type of woman as long as you A) be specific so she knows you’re a lot like her, B) use humor to attract her, and C) make fun of yourself here and there.

Just use your imagination to come up with stuff for your kind of girl.

More About Finding A Girlfriend Online

And now you know where to start finding a girlfriend online and how to do it using your profile, you want to know what to do once you find her, right?

Then wait until you hear this:

I have dozens and dozens of FREE tips about how to talk to women online, attract them, and get a date waiting for you inside my Online Dating Newsletter. So sign up now to get those tips about what to do AFTER finding a girlfriend online.

And while I’m about to go watch myself some Super 8 like the true movie junkie that I am, I want to end this thing by saying: stay tuned to the Win With Women blog for more tips on finding a girlfriend online!

Check out the rest of the Profile For Dating series.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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I’ve talked about how to write a dating profile many times before here on the Win With Women blog… and you may have read plenty of tips on writing a dating profile on other sites already, but no one seems to have the balls to go out there and show you your competition.

I wonder why, because you WON’T believe how many stupid mistakes other men make when they write a dating profile!

And today I want to show you how writing a dating profile is done by first showing you what the competition does and then showing you why it’s wrong… so you’ll be able to stand out in the crowd on ANY site, because these mistakes are made by 89% of the guys on dating sites.

Are you ready? Then fasten your seatbelt because this may be a bumpy ride filled with mistakes that are a little too familiar…

Hey, no one’s perfect right? You have to learn some time!

Write A Dating Profile By NOT Being So Damn Desperate

Think before you talk about what kind of women you would like to meet when you write a dating profile.

Otherwise you get stuff on dating profiles like this:

“I’ve been single for a while now and thought I’d get back in the dating game!”

“I’m hoping to meet a nice girl here that I can settle down with…”

“I’m not looking for a fling or anything like that, but something serious.”

“I’m slowly but surely thinking to myself that it’s about time I get a wife and kids and…”

I can almost hear you think: “Do other guys really say this when they write a dating profile?”

The answer is, sadly, YES. But like I explain in my Online Mentorship Program (my guide for meeting women online): it’s not how writing a dating profile is done.

Think about it: when a woman is still thinking about what she should wear on the first date, you’re already talking about getting married and ruining her body because she needs to poop out some kids as fast as humanly possible.

You can tell from the way I described it that being TOO serious beforehand scares women away. Ask yourself: why so serious?

And let me tell you… telling women you’ve been single for a while only makes them wonder if you really want to meet THEM… or just a woman, ANY woman, that gives you love and attention.

As you can see: none of this stuff works so avoid it when you write a dating profile.

And if you’re wondering what you should write then because you have no clue what else to talk about, then make fun of it when writing a dating profile:

- Say you want to get married, divorce her the next day, and take half her money

- Say you want a woman to poop out at least 6 kids in the next 4-5 years so you all can start a family business that’ll be bigger than Trump’s child slavery uhh… I mean family bizz

- Say you only want flings, will never look for something serious, that you’re a total heartbreaker and that your idols are Casanova, Don Juan, and any other womanizer that’s worth mentioning.

Now THAT is what makes you stand out when you write a dating profile. Make fun of dating-related topics everyone else takes (too) seriously on dating sites.

Write A Dating Profile By NOT Being So Full Of Yourself

Sometimes, I wonder if some guys are madly in love with themselves when they start to write a dating profile.

Why? Sit back, listen, and understand:

“I’m a lawyer, earn 300k a year and drive around in a cute little Ferrari.”

“I’m sweet, have a well paid job, I have a good sense of humor, I’m romantic, a good listener, I can be shy but very outgoing as well, etc.”

“You should definitely come chill out on my yacht if you’re interested.”

I have two words for dudes who write a dating profile that says crap like that: EGO… MANIAC!

Because who cares? Women certainly don’t. Women are attracted to a man’s personality and charisma, so the only thing that you will do when you try to brag about how rich you are…

Is let women know that you’re probably a workaholic and don’t have much to offer them besides shiny things. Sure, that works for gold diggers and woman who want “security” in their lives (read: them knowing they never have to work again)…

But that doesn’t work on REAL women. So don’t you write a dating profile by bragging about materialistic crap, capice?

Unless you actually WANT a woman who loves your money and not you

So how CAN you describe yourself in a good way when writing a dating profile?

- Write a dating profile like you would write answers for an English exam: don’t make grammatical errors, watch your spelling, don’t use CAPS LOCK TO WRITE EVERYTHING, don’t use “text language” where tonight becomes 2nite, etc. Several research projects have proven that women HATE a men who screws up his spelling and what not and that they actually pick an average looking guy with normal spelling over a good looking one with crappy spelling!

- Show your personality. Tell a joke here and there. Make fun of yourself. Tell a little story of something great or special that happened to you once.

- Leave something out. Create a little mystery. For example, why not tell a funny and exciting story and then, just before the end, tell a woman to send you a message to hear the end of it?

Follow these tips and look at my examples of dating profiles when you write a dating profile and it will look much better and attract many more women than before. Trust me!

Write A Dating Profile By NOT Being An Emotional Wreck

Just when you thought the worst was over, there was actually one more “little” mistake men make when they write a dating profile…

“It’s been a year since my divorce and…”

“After my ex I want something different:”

“I was married for 3 years and…”

Look at the examples I gave you above and tell me: what do you see?

Let me tell you what I see: all these sentences have “EMOTIONAL BAGAGE!” written all over them. That’s not what you should be doing when writing a dating profile. Why in the world would you talk about your previous relationship when you’re trying to get a new one?

Hellooooo? It doesn’t make any sense at all to write a dating profile that talks about your past lovers! And it scares women away big time.

The KEY insight about how to write a dating profile is this one:

Instead of talking about previous relationships when you want a new one, talk about what that new relationship should be.

In other words, when you write a dating profile? Focus on what you want your type of woman to do and not do. This works best if you do it in a playful way:

“I love talkative, outgoing, extravagant women… as long as talkative doesn’t mean you call me 40 times a day just to talk!”

To Write A Dating Profile Well, You Need Photos!

This may come as a surprise to you, but learning how to write a dating profile involves learning that it’s about more than just writing…

Like I’ve said in my Online Mentorship Program (which is about winning the online dating game as a man): it’s about your photos as well.

First off, whenever you try to talk to women online? They first look at the photo you chose to be your main photo, then your message, then your profile.

So, when you write a dating profile you need to remember that photos create the first impression.

Here are some tips:

1) When you write a dating profile, make sure you use a photo of you smiling (with nothing in the background to distract women) as your main photo. Why? Because research has shown that women consistently rate men who smile as more attractive than men who don’t smile on a photo.

2) Since women fall for a man’s personality AND charisma, write a dating profile and use photos of you in a charismatic situation. In other words: use photos where you’re doing what you do best. Displaying your talent. You’re a master with the guitar? Show it! That kind of stuff.

3) A picture paints a thousand words…

And women want a genuine guy. Not a guy that’s a little too smooth (a player) or someone who’s too good to be true (a liar). Just a REAL guy. You can use photos to show you’re a real guy: use some of you and family, use some of you and friends, use some of you at work. Whatever. It’s all to show you have nothing to hide.

And hey, if you’ve made some of these mistakes on your current dating profile or on a past one? I’m not saying this to make fun of you. I’m saying it so you can start to write a dating profile that DOES work well and which WILL attract women to you like CRAZY.

One More Thing About How To Write A Dating Profile

As you can see by now: there are many mistakes made by men who want to write a dating profile, but you know what?

Learning how to prevent them puts you ahead of 89% of the competition. As a guy who has met dozens and dozens of women online through sites like Hyves (the Dutch equivalent of Facebook) and Facebook, I can tell you that from experience.

Most guys have no freaking clue what to do to meet women online successfully and over and over again. Don’t be that guy. How can you NOT be him?

Well, I can show you many other ways of writing a dating profile that attracts women to you.

Hell, I can show you things you can do with your dating profile to attract YOUR type of woman… whether it’s a Latina, a lawyer, an artsy chick or a model.

And isn’t that what you want? To meet your “dream girl” online?

I can show you how, inside my Online Mentorship Program. Check it out right away if you want to start kicking ass online and write a dating profile that blows women’s minds away.

Check out the rest of the Profile For Dating series.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Look, I can sit here all day and give you examples of flirtatious text messages you can send to women, but what’s the use if you don’t know the basics of sending text messages that attract?

In other words: why learn WHAT to send as flirtatious text messages when you don’t know HOW to send them, WHY, and WHEN?

I mean, do you want to send some text messages to a hot chick, make her want you, and then ask her out on a date and have a great time?

If so, then keep reading below to find out more about the how, why, and when of sending flirtatious text messages.

How To Send Flirtatious Text Messages

If you’ve been reading my blog posts for a long time now and are thinking to yourself: “will he repeat techniques he mentioned before in this blog on flirtatious text messages?”

Then the answer is NO. I promise you you’ll learn a bunch of new stuff!

And if you never been here before then ever better: you’ll learn a whole freaking lot about attraction and sending flirtatious text messages.

So, let’s talk about how to send flirtatious text messages already:

1) Attraction is sexual tension. Thinking along those lines, you have to ask yourself how you can increase tension with flirtatious text messages. The answer: sending flirtatious text messages at unexpected times, saying unexpected stuff in a text message, waiting a couple minutes before you reply or not replying at all… OR… not telling a woman what she wants to hear by avoiding questions, asking questions in return, etc. These all let a woman wonder about what comes next.

2) Attraction is a feeling based on emotions. Learning how to text a girl is thus a matter of learning how to create emotions inside text messages. You can do that with emoticons (like this one: ) and with laughter (haha and lol). Just remember when sending flirtatious text messages that the longer a text message is, the more emotional tends to be. Don’t believe me? Try showing emotion in a text in 3 words without using emoticons or laughter. I rest my case!

3) Men are attracted to physique, beauty, youth. Materialistic things. Because you fall for that, you assume women do too. WRONG! Women fall for a man’s personality, so bragging about income, cars, homes, jobs, and other “shiny objects” doesn’t work. Never do that in your text messages.

4) Women are attracted to a man’s personality. Certain personality traits. Dominance is one of the most important traits to attract women with AND the easiest to use when sending flirtatious text messages. Want to show dominance in text messages? Disagree with what she says, tell her you’ll only answer a question when she gives you something in return (like a kiss via text), etc.

5) The more intimately a woman knows you and the more you know her, the closer she’ll feel to you. A woman needs to feel a connection with you before she’ll even consider dating you. In essence, that means that EVERY text message you use to find out more about her or to let her find out more about you? Every one of those messages are flirtatious text messages!

6) Attraction is filling the gap’s a woman can’t fill in herself. For example, if she mentions her ex or guys in general never did something truly romantic for her? See it as a hint. If she mentions she’s been bossed around all her life, then see it as a hint and give her freedom and excitement. Give her options and risky challenges so she’ll feel free. And so on. Look for what she doesn’t have and give it to her in your flirtatious text messages or tell her you’ll give it as soon as you see her again.

As you can see: there’s all kinds of stuff you can do if you want to attract women via flirtatious text messages!

Onward…

Why Send Flirtatious Text Messages?

I know this is going to sound corny, but I need to make a point about why sending flirtatious text messages is good here:

Let’s say attraction is like fire. It’s having a passion for someone, a burning flame. If that would be true, then don’t you want to throw some freaking OIL on the fire so the woman you want almost can’t wait to go on a date with you?

Don’t you want to strike while the iron is still hot? You can do that with flirtatious text messages.

Why?

Because I’m willing to bet you for 10 bucks right now that, whenever you meet and date women, it usually goes a little something like this: you two talk, you exchange numbers, you call and text a couple times, then you see each other again on the date.

In other words: flirtatious text messages are the bridge between seeing her the first time and seeing her another time (on a date). Do you realize what this means?

It means that the better the flirtatious text messages you send are, the faster you’ll go on a date and the easier you’ll “get the girl” on that date!

The opposite is also true: screw up the text message part (or the phone calls) and it will take longer to get a date and the date itself will be rocky, difficult, instead of in the pocket easy.

That makes ANY text message you send a tool to use and make the dating game easier for yourself (or harder).

I promise you that when you start thinking along these lines, you’ll put some thought into all flirtatious text messages you’ll ever send.

And rightfully so, because I can tell you from experience that the difference between getting a date after good text message conversations and getting it after bad ones… can be weeks or months!

When To Send Flirtatious Text Messages

After the how and the why comes the WHEN of sending flirtatious text messages. And there are several things you’d want to pay attention to:

- Women want a man who’s genuinely interested in them and waiting for days or weeks after you get their number does NOT show them you’re interested. On the other hand, you also don’t want to come across like a desperate pussy by sending a text message after an hour. So, text the next day to play it safe.

- Since most women are in college or at work except for in the weekend, you’re most likely to get a reply to your flirtatious text messages in the evening from 7 PM onwards (except for in the weekend)

- Whenever women send you a text message and say they’re at a party, event, birthday or other social event and it’s boring? That is a MAJOR sign of interest in you. Pay attention to the women next time you’re at a social event and ask them who they texted. It’s usually their boyfriend, ex or a guy they like! It would be foolish, then, to not reply to a text message from a girl who’s at a social event, wouldn’t you agree?

- Use your memory when sending her flirtatious text messages, because guess how you come across when you remembered it was her or her relative’s/friend’s birthday and you congratulate her? You come across like you’re genuinely interested, duhhh!

And if you want to attract one woman after the other… after the other with flirtatious text messages because you know everything there is to know about HOW and WHEN to send text messages?

Then make sure you grab the dozens and dozens of FREE tips inside my Calling Women and Texting Women Newsletter.

Why? Because they reveal everything a man needs to know about how and when to send text messages to “get the girl” and … if you DO want those… specific examples of what to text a girl! It will be your guide to getting girls via text. Trust me.

And to quote that pig from Looney Tunes here: “Th… tha… that’s all folks!” That’s all I have to say about sending flirtatious text messages, for now…

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Look, you didn’t come here to read this blog post on how to make a girl jealous because you don’t want to do it, right? Nevertheless, I want to show you the benefits of making a girl jealous and where jealousy comes from. That way, you’ll understand my techniques for how to make a girl jealous.

If you’re not interested in the why and the what of jealousy, then feel free to skip to the part where I share my techniques for how to make a girl jealous.

Now let’s get started already!

How to Make a Girl Jealous: What Jealousy Is…

Always remember when learning how to make a girl jealous that jealousy is a form of insecurity… an angry form if I may say so.

Jealousy is “born” when a girl sees you have options to choose from (her being one of them) and her insecurities make her fear you WON’T choose her. She simply doesn’t know if she’s more valuable than the other options.

It means you can learn how to make a girl jealous with people AND with things, but more on that later…

For now, just remember that once you know how to let a girl think or know you have options? Her self-image does the rest: she starts to doubt herself and how valuable she is… and she becomes angry at herself (and at you).

Let’s move on and look at some benefits of knowing how to make a girl jealous, shall we?

The Benefits of Learning How to Make a Girl Jealous

Let’s check out the benefits of learning how to make a girl jealous if she’s interested in you (but you two are not dating) and when she’s your girlfriend.

The benefits of learning how to make a girl jealous if the girl’s interested in you:

- Women are competitive by nature, maybe even more than men. When a girl buys a pair of shoes and her friend bought the same pair? All hell could break loose! And when you give a girl female competition, she must prove to herself she’s more valuable than the other. It makes her say “YES” to more things, do more with you, want to see you more, and so on.

- You don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone. When faced with the possibility that you could disappear from her life, a girl realizes how valuable you are. How much better you make her life. She realizes she doesn’t want to miss that and that she has to do something about it. It’s how to make a girl jealous by giving her the gift of missing you.

The benefits of learning how to make a girl jealous if it’s your girlfriend:

- Sooner or later, parts of your relationship (or your entire relationship) becomes a routine. You start to take things for granted. Things like having sex 4-5 times a week and what not. That’s why it’s important to learn how to make a girl jealous: so she doesn’t take YOU for granted and wants to make an effort of pleasing you again.

- Whenever jealousy is involved, it spices things up because it creates sexual tension. She starts giggling and blushing more, things are better in the bedroom, she wants to go out and have fun with you again… and the list goes on and on.

And this is probably the most important benefit of learning how to make a girl jealous:

Whenever a girl that’s interested in you is playing hard to get… or whenever your girlfriend is playing hard to please by bitching about a billion things?

Jealousy puts them in their place. It makes a girl be more interested in you. It let’s a girl know she’d better be thankful for having you around so she’s better make more of an effort to make you happy!

And isn’t that what we, as guys, all want? Girls who can’t wait to make us happy?

If you agree, then check out my techniques for how to make a girl jealous below.

Techniques for How to Make a Girl Jealous

If you only came here to get some techniques so you’ll know how to make a girl jealous, my bad! Keep reading below to get your much needed techniques…

I just had to show some non-believers why THEY should want to learn how to make a girl jealous as well. So are you ready for some techniques? Here we go!

1) How to make a girl jealous by making her your #2: Earlier on I mentioned that girls become insecure when they know you have options, when you can choose between them and other people OR things. You see, girls want to be your number 1. The most important thing in your life, because they fantasize about having you all to themselves. But what if you had a goal in life? Like owning a company in a certain industry, helping as many men as possible in the dating game (like me) or something else?

Then a girl knows she shouldn’t come between you and your goal, hell, she fears you’ll pick your goal over her even though girls love ambition in a man.

In short: she knows she’s number 2 and it drives her crazy, making her do everything she can to become your numero uno. Now THAT is how to make a girl jealous!

2) How to make a girl jealous with her friends: When a girl is interested in you, you’ll meet her friends sooner or later. Like on a birthday. That’s your chance to tell her afterwards that her friend was really cute. It drives her nuts. Trust me!

3) How to make a girl jealous with your weekend: Even a perceived threat is enough to make a girl jealous, so why not use that to your advantage when she asks about your weekend? Tell her a female friend gave you this awesome movie or that you had lunch with a female friend or that you went to a female friend’s birthday and you were the only guy there… I think you get the picture!

4) How to make a girl jealous by saying “Hi”: If you met the girl that’s interested in you at a place you both visit often (like school, work or a certain club or bar), then why not go there with another chick? Wait until the girl sees you two and then introduce girl number 2 to girl number 1. That alone will drive her out of her freaking mind!

5) How to make a girl jealous with your ex: Even if you don’t talk to your ex anymore or don’t have an ex, just mentioning something happened with your ex and you know about it is enough to bring jealousy to ANY girl. Tell her you came across your ex, got a call from your ex or something similar. That’s more than enough.

Once you know not to bring up your ex too often so a girl won’t think you’re still in love with her, it’s one of the most powerful ways for how to make a girl jealous.

One More Thing About How to Make a Girl Jealous…

Creating jealousy isn’t the only way to make a girl more interested in you, because I can easily sit here all day and tell you about 50 other ways to create attraction that are just as powerful.

And if you want to get your hands on free tips for ALL the ways of creating attraction, then I highly recommend you sign up for my Inner Game Newsletter.

It shows you everything you need to know about getting girls, including how to build your confidence so YOU won’t get jealous yourself.

And right about now this movie addict is going to watch himself some Hangover Part 2, because I’ve heard some great things about the monkey. But before I do I just want to say:

I hope you liked my tips and tricks for how to make a girl jealous!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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You know, it amazes me. There are so many ways to meet women on line, but I’m willing to bet you for $10 that you only use a handful of them. Why does that suck you ask?

Because all the ways for how to meet women online that you DON’T know let you meet women online faster, effortlessly, and let you have more fun while doing it too… because the guys who haven’t read this blog post have never thought of using these tips for meeting women online themselves!

So let’s get started, shall we?

The Top 10 Tips To Meet Women On line

Let’s start this one with a BANG! Check out the 10 best tips to meet women on line that give you more results with women the fastest…

1) You tend to start meeting women online close to home: you want to meet women who live nearby. Always remember when you meet women on line though that woman A may be on online dating site 1 and woman B may be on dating site number 2. So get more than 1 profile!

2) Attractive women online get (on average) 30-50 messages per day from men. Half those messages don’t have a message subject, a quarter has “Hi” or something similar as a subject and around another quarter has a cheesy message subject like a lame pick up line. So if you want to meet women on line, then use a subject that’s about them because no one does. If you want proof of this, then create a fake female profile and you’ll see for yourself.

3) Why sign up for a dating site that damn near everyone is on so you can meet women on line, while those women are probably that your type? Why do that when there are also niche dating sites for Latinas, people who love sports, older people, rich people, gothics, and so on. Learning how to meet women online starts with finding the right social networks and dating sites your type of woman would sign up for.

4) Since we’re already talking about your type of woman: why create a random profile for dating that attracts random women, when you can write a dating profile that attracts YOUR type?

5) When it comes to meeting women online, only focusing on writing an awesome dating profile and thinking the women will come… is like building a golden palace on top of Mount Everest.

Sure, you need to cover the basics of a good dating profile, but it isn’t called meeting WOMEN online instead of meeting PROFILES online for nothing.

6) Most guys who send messages to meet women on line screw up the subject of their message (see tip #2), but it gets worse: half the messages women receive are one sentence long and about how hot they look. Or small talk that’s inappropriate (like only asking them how they’re doing and that’s it). Women want guys who have a genuine interest in them, so ask questions about who they are. In short: check out their profile before you send a message.

7) When you try to meet women on line, they first look at your message. If it grabs their attention, they look at your photo(s), then they check out your profile. Improve the way you meet women online in that order: messages, photos, profile.

8 ) Want to start meeting women online by letting them come to you? Then know that women find you through the search results of a dating site. They display people who are online now and recently first, so either stay logged into your profile all day while doing other things or regularly update your profile so you OWN those search results.

9) To meet women on line successfully is to show a genuine interest in them, their lives, what they do, and so on. That doesn’t mean that all women online have unique tastes though. Hell no! You’ll find many similarities: stuff a lot of them like. If you write a message about a certain “like” and a woman responds in a positive way, then why not store that message for later use in Microsoft Word or Notepad? Don’t reinvent the wheel if you don’t have to man

10) ANY reply from women online means you grabbed their interest enough for them to write back, while they receive 30-50 messages a day on average (see tip #2). So, yes, even an angry reply is a good one. After all, there is a thin line between love and hate! Attraction is a feeling based on emotions, so as long as you create emotions? You’re doing fine. Persist!

Congratulations for reading this far, because now you know more about how to meet women online than 85% of the guys on the entire freaking planet.

And if you want to know more than everyone else so you’ll have ZERO competition online and can get dates on ANY site without much effort, then I highly recommend you get the free tips inside my Online Dating Newsletter.

Moving on to more tips for how to meet women online…

More Tips To Meet Women On line: Contacting Them

Believe me when I tell you there are more ways to meet women on line then “just” sending a message to them. Find out more below…

11) On online dating sites you can also use Hearts/Winks/Interests (it has a different name depending on the site) instead of messages. Hearts and what not are only great to meet women online with if you keep sending those things until a woman replies. Week after week. It’ll make her laugh and then respond to your persistence. Trust me.

12) There isn’t any other option on a true dating site and, although the tips below are about social networks for dating? I don’t want to leave you empty-handed if you have a profile on a dating site like Match.com: search for a woman’s name on LinkedIn. No that’s not creepy, it’s resourceful (as long as you don’t send her 1,000 messages per day because that IS creepy)

13) On social networks, this is where the fun meets my tips to meet women on line. Want to stand out and NOT use messages? Then why not leave a comment on her profile, photos or videos?

14) Want to start meeting women online successfully but are you having trouble getting replies? Why not meet women on line through friend requests then? Tease them or disapprove of something in the request itself. Works every time…

15) Sometimes you see women online that you must know. It’s just a feeling: you must get to know her. Well, if she doesn’t reply, not even with the methods mentioned above? Talk to one of her female friends. Have a story ready as to why, but once you do? It’s being introduced to … by another woman. Now THAT is how to meet women on line in a creative way.

16) There are plenty of sites with groups: groups that love poker, groups that love Charlie Sheen, groups that love Spiderman. Whatever. Most of those sites allow you to comment on photos and videos posted by the Group and on the Group “forum” itself. In short: meet women on line by talking to the women in those Groups.

Who would’ve thought that you can meet women on line by contacting them in multiple ways, huh?

But maybe you’re like: wait a minute! I need to know where to find women online before I start meeting women online. No problem dude! Just check out the next section…

Tips To Meet Women On line: Where Do You Find Them?

Want to know the places where you can meet women on line or how to find them? Then keep reading man!

17) There are many sites that allow you to search in certain cities/locations for women before you start to meet women on line. Now, especially with cities and towns and what not, I’m willing to bet you that you only know HALF the towns in a 30 mile radius of where you live. So get a map and type in all those places you’ve never heard of when you’re searching for women online.

18 ) Why stop at dating sites and social networks? Who says there aren’t forums about your interests out there? And believe me: YES, even if you’re only interested in games there are forums women join too. Use Google to find forums related to your interest.

19) Going on vacation? Want to travel? Feel adventurous? Why not sign up for a dating site or social network that’s popular in another country, like Orkut is in Brazil? You can meet women on line before you ever go there or just do your thing because you fall for foreign women.

20) If you want to meet women on line successfully, then don’t search for women online that are a certain age, especially not on social networks. It’s because some women “forget” a few years on purpose and because others don’t want to be bothered and pretend they’re really old (90+) or really young (15 or whatever) so guys leave them alone.

21) Think about what kind of relationship you’re looking for before you start meeting women online: long term? One night stand? Because sure, long term relationships are hard when there’s some distance between you too, but one night stands aren’t. If you just want to meet more women on line, then look beyond your city. Hell, beyond your state or province. I’ve met women from the UK, from Germany, from everywhere… and so can you.

Wow! Look at this looong list of tips to meet women on line I wrote already. But you know what? I have more coming right up!

Meet Women Online With A Little Help From Your Profile

As I mentioned before: your dating profile is the least of your worries, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have some tips for you!

Check out my tips for how to meet women online with your profile:

22) When you know that women are attracted to dominance, humor, playful teasing, men who are picky, confidence, men who are mysterious, men who are hard to get, and so on… think about how you can meet women on line with it. How can you show these personality traits? With text, photos or videos? Use everything you come up with!

23) Like I said before: photos are important if you want to meet women on line without much effort, so what kind of photos would your type of woman be attracted to? Say you like Latinas for example, then I would use… photos of me dancing the salsa, some Latino humor, me eating nachos or tacos or whatever, etc. I think you get the picture (no pun intended).

24) Use a call to action to meet women on line with your profile: tell women who may be interested what they need to do, which is contact you of course! Use humor in your call to action like so: “If you think you can handle my kind of craziness, my love for Latin music, and my coffee addiction? Then go make me some coffee damn it uhh… I mean contact me!”

25) Don’t take yourself too seriously because it shows you’re desperate. Make fun of yourself here and there. It shows a woman you have a sense of humor and that you’re a real person.

26) Since most people tend to try to meet people who live nearby online, make sure you scout your competition. Check out the dating profile of other men in your area. Is yours better or worse? I think you know what to do when it’s worse: improve it! OR… you can also NOT meet women on line successfully. Take your pick!

27) Show a woman you know what you want by saying on your dating profile what you DON’T want in a woman. Be specific with it, alright? Once you do and you start to meet women on line? You’ll know who is interested just because she will mention she’s not what you’re not looking for (HINT)

Now that was a whole bunch of tips on how to meet women online, wasn’t it? You should be glad you’ve read through the entire list, because most men will never know this stuff about online dating. And hey…

Guess what? I’m just getting started with my tips for how to meet women on line!

Because I have dozens and dozens… and dozens of other FREE tips waiting for you inside my Online Dating Newsletter. Free tips that will help you with meeting women online without much effort, so get those tips today okay?

And I put a lot of work in writing this blog post about how to meet women on line, so I really hope you liked it and that you’ll forgive me and my hangover for taking a nap now haha!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Because you know what? Learning how to text girls and getting dates over and over again with it is super simple when you know WHAT creates attraction in general and WHY.

That’s why I’ll reveal many specific examples how to text girls using different personality traits today. Why personality traits you say?

Because here’s an overlooked secret of how to text girls (and of getting girls in general):

While men are attracted to youth, beauty, physique, and materialistic things… girls are attracted to a man’s personality.

Sure, looks count too for girls, but only for 10-20% of the big picture just like guys only take a girl’s personality into account for 10-20%. Meanwhile, both guys and girls assume that because THEY like certain things, the opposite sex must fall for them as well.

That’s why most guys are obsessed with getting good jobs, money, working out, shiny cars… without knowing that’s actually NOT how to get girls and NOT how to text girls!

And now you know why your personality is important if you want to learn how to text girls and get one date after the other, after the other… after the other? It’s time to look at several personality traits, why they create attraction, and some examples of how to text girls for each trait. Here we go! Are you ready?

How To Text Girls With Dominance

Dominance is one of the most effective personality traits to use if you want to learn how to text girls (or get girls in general), because for hundreds of thousands of years men have been in charge.

Hey, emancipation is great and I think girls deserve positions high up the corporate ladder, but on a genetic timescale of hundreds of thousands of years? Emancipation is a tiny dot, as it’s only been around for 100 years. Girls are still genetically hotwired for wanting a man to lead them, to show them the way.

That’s why dominance works. These insights might come in handy if you want to know how to text girls, right?

Anyways, when it comes to how to text a girl, there are plenty ways to be dominant:

- She tells you she wants to go there and there on a date…

You: “No problem! We’ll go there, right AFTER we go to –fill in your favorite place here-”

- She needs help with something:

You: “Sure, I’ll help you. Let’s meet up at … ! Be sure to bring a reward for me woman!”

Here you’re telling her where to go and what to bring. Sounds dominant to me!

- She mentions she did this and that (when her computer crashed for example)…

You: “No don’t do that! You should do … instead”

Sorry for the vague example. Just wanted to show you what to say no matter what she does

I’m sure you can come up with many more ways of how to text girls with dominance yourself now I’ve shown you the way. So let’s keep it moving!

How To Text Girls With Playful Teasing

One of the most fun ways to learn how to text girls is by playfully teasing them. Why does it work you ask?

It creates attraction when you text girls because it shows a girl that A) you’re not impressed with her looks so she’d better bring something else to the table and B) you’re harder to get than the losers who always kiss her ass (because they’re impressed with her looks).

And now for some examples of how to text girls by playfully teasing them:

- She tells you she was really annoyed by someone today and her day sucked and bla bla…

You: “Omg, that person is like soooo annoying. It’s, like, a total freak of nature. Whateverrrr”

In case you didn’t notice: this is making fun of how girls talk used as an example for how to text girls. Using what girls do “against” girls always seem to works. Funny huh?

- She mentions she’s going to the gym, work out, or do any other kind of sportsy thing…

You: “Hey, do your thing girl! But you have to promise me something: if you start looking like a female Arnold Schwarzenegger, promise me you won’t get mad if I don’t want to date you anymore!”

Let’s check out some more examples of how to text girls with playful teasing:

- She’s into martial arts, tae bo or any other kind of workout where she throws punches and what not:

You: “You know, normally I know how to text girls but you? You and your love for kicks and punches must be single because you beat up your ex! Will you abuse me too? Be honest!”

- She says she’s tired:

You: “Photo, photo, photo! I want to see a photo of your zombie face so I know what you REALLY look like without make up!”

- Women are very fashion conscious, so use that to your advantage when you’re learning how to text girls:

You: “You like to wear silver huh? Well, it’s fine with me as long as you don’t look like one of those classic garbage cans (which you probably do).”

- She tells you she’s a little hung over from yesterday…

You: “Oh you big baby! You should be happy you didn’t have a hangover, woke up and couldn’t remember the monkey or the guy in the trunk of the car like in the Hangover movies”

- She tells you you’re cute/funny/mean:

You: “Well you’re disgusting/boring as hell/Satan’s little angel… just kidding! Or am I? ”

Now THAT is being rude when learning how to text girls… and getting away with it!

I’ve already given 50 examples of what to text a girl if you want to tease in another blog post, but I still had some ammo left for my arsenal and now you got it. Hehe.

How To Text Girls By Being Picky

When it comes to how to text girls, I like to see playful teasing as busting a girl’s balls in a non-serious, playful way… but being picky?

Being picky is busting balls when you text girls in a completely serious way! It’s showing your disapproval so they’ll fight hard to gain your approval again. Plus, just like teasing it’s also showing you’re not impressed with their looks and that you’re hard to get because you don’t kiss ass.

Check out some awesome samples of how to text girls by being picky:

- She tells you she’ll wear something red tonight (or any type of clothing for that matter)

You: “Ah that’s boring! I expect a little more from you… so why don’t you wear something –fill in your favorite color here- made out of –fill in any fabric you think looks cool here-”

Fill in your favorite color and the fabric (leather, stretch, whatever) and you’re good to go.

- She tells you she didn’t do much last weekend because…

You: “Two words: booo…riiiing! You’re not a lazy couch potato are you?”

- She tells you she has other plans and can’t text/call/date you

You: “You know I’m way more fun than whatever you’re about to do, so come have fun with me around … !”

It doesn’t matter if she says no here. It’s just to make a statement. You’re lame, I’m cool. That kind of thing.

As you can see: learning how to text girls with this takes guts, because you have to be absolutely sure that you don’t come across like you’re teasing her.

So say it like you mean it dude!

How To Text Girls By Being Challenging

Learning how to text girls by being challenging is insanely easy, once you know the basic principles behind why it works so well.

Here’s the deal:

The more attraction you create, the more a girl hopes you’ll say what she wants you to say. And that goes beyond her hoping you’ll ask her out. She wants you to respond in a positive way when she texts you, but you don’t. This is where learning how to text girls gets interesting…

You don’t because it makes you UNPREDICTABLE. It makes girls want to figure you out, learn to get to know you better so they can keep you all to themselves and so you WILL respond in a positive way in the future.

Here’s how to text girls by being challenging:

- She always ends her texts to you with a kiss…

You: “Only one kiss? Oh come on! You know I deserve two today…”

And if she says no or doesn’t do it, you don’t give her ANY kisses back and tell her that as well. That’s how to be challenging while learning how to text girls.

- She asks you if you know a great place where they … or any other question…

You: “I can definitely help you out with this! But it will cost you two kisses.” And remember man: no kisses from her? No help!

- You’re both partying tonight and agree to meet up somewhere. She says she’ll be there at …

You: “No be there at …” (an hour earlier or later)

The possibilities for how to text girls with this are endless!

Just remember that the whole idea here is to up the ante. To NOT give her what she wants or make it tougher for her to get it.

How To Text Girls By Being A Protector Of Loved Ones

This is one of the most overlooked ways of how to text girls and get girls in general. It has something to do with the effects of being dominant…

You see, when you’re learning how to text girls and you’re being dominant, she must be submissive. You’re the leader, she’s the follower. And what do leaders normally do?

That’s right: they protect their followers. By “protecting” a girl’s interests, money, job, education, or even physically protecting her? You create attraction. You’ll make a girl feel safe. It’s a very cool way for learning how to text girls because…

The examples of how to text girls with this are so simple you’ll wonder why you haven’t thought of it before yourself!

- She tells you her teacher/boss/ex/friend was being a total jerk yesterday…

You: “Do you want me to go talk to the bastard? Because no one should talk to you like that! It really pisses me off! You deserve to be treated with some respect, so let me teach him some respect.”

I know what you’re thinking: “Does this really help for learning how to text girls dude?”

YES. Trust me. Once you try it, you’ll LOVE how a girl responds to it. Who would have thought you could get the girl by acting like a total mobster huh?

- She tells you she saw something she would really like to have had but it was too expensive.

You: “Where did you see it again? Let me go there and make their “tough guy” salesman an offer he can’t refuse. I’m sure he’ll give you a discount afterwards…”

Fun fact about how to text girls with this:

I never actually had to go anywhere for a girl after offering her to go there. Yet still, they really, really like it when I do this.

And I’m sure you can come up with many more examples of how to text girls yourself, but if you want to get your hands on more examples right now for FREE? Then I highly recommend you get the tips inside my Calling Girls and Texting Girls Newsletter. Do it. Get them.

And that’s all I have to say about how to text girls for now. Hope you liked my tips!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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I can hear you think: “why are there 5 steps to learn how to be attractive to girls? And why are you so sure I’ll know how to attract girls after checking out your steps man?”

The answer to both questions: because you’re about to learn how to be attractive to girls thanks to certain areas of your everyday life… 5 areas to be exact. So, let’s get to it!

How To Be Attractive To Girls Step 1: Gain Confidence

If you’d meet me somewhere on the street and asked me how to be attractive to girls, then I’d reply with this:

Gaining confidence is the MOST IMPORTANT thing to do in the dating game, because how can you love someone else when you don’t love yourself first?

Being confident means many things when we’re talking about how to be attractive to girls:

– A big part of how to be attractive to girls is knowing you have value. Knowing and BELIEVING when she has a choice between you and others, she’ll pick you because you have so much to offer. You’re her caviar and all those other jackasses are only nasty tasting potatoes, know what I mean?

– Not chasing girls when you don’t hear from them, because if you love something then let it go and… (I assume you know how the saying goes)

– Finding out what your best qualities are when it comes to girls. I, for one, am very charismatic and playful… but what are you all about? What!? I can’t hear youuu!

In short: being confident means believing in yourself and not being needy around girls, because you know you have several things to offer them that no one can… and you’re damn proud of it too!

Now THAT’S how to be attractive to girls! Let’s continue…

How To Be Attractive To Girls Step 2: Improve Your Lifestyle

Once you know what you’re about so you can show girls what you’re about, learning how to be attractive to girls continues with improving your lifestyle.

Right now you may be wondering: “what the hell has my lifestyle to do with how to be attractive to girls?”

Here’s the juicy secret: the more you put yourself in situations where you can’t do nothing but be around girls… it’s easier to meet girls!

Makes sense, but at AT LEAST half the guys who ask me for advice on how to be attractive to girls don’t go out much…

Hmmm, I wonder why they can’t get the results with girls they want?

If you never go outside, you won’t attract girls. PERIOD. Sure, you can try attracting girls online but let’s face it: sooner or later, you’ll need to take things offline so you’ll STILL have to meet girls face-to-face.

Needless to say, you need to put yourself out there when it comes to how to be attractive to girls. How?

– Go to every birthday or other social event you (can) get invited to, because you’ll never know who’s there. Maybe it’s “Miss Right”!

– Go out AT LEAST 2 times a week, either to clubs and bars or to shopping malls and stores. Being out and about already increases you’re chances of meeting girls.

– Whatever you always do, try to do it with girls. Being around them alone helps you understand them better. Yes, do it even if your life takes place in World of Warcraft like that Southpark episode:

Being Attractive To Girls By Being Social (Step 3)

Learning how to be attractive to girls comes close to learning how to improve your social skills and conversational skills. Hell, I dare to say it’s one and the same game…

Because the more easily you can talk to people, the more easily you’ll come up with things to say to attract girls…

And the more easily you can socialize, the more easily you’ll meet and attract girls because you’ll be introduced to them. A lot. A whole freaking lot.

So how can you socialize and learn how to be attractive to girls because of it?

– Trade a favor for a favor like this: “I’ll do XYZ for you, but you’ll have to introduce me to … in return.” You’ll be surprised how happy people are to return the favor, even if you want to meet their sister!

– Make some female friends. Go out with them a couple times and challenge them to a duel whenever you go out: the one who introduces the least amount of cute people to the other has to pay for the next round of drinks. Now THAT’S a great way to learn how to be attractive to girls!

– See everything and everyone as practice. You can practice being dominant (which creates attraction) on friends, family, and random people before you try it on girls you like. Same goes for playful teasing, being mysterious and other personality traits that create attraction.

How To Be Attractive To Girls With Psychology (Step 4)

I sort of spoiled the surprise of what this section of learning how to be attractive to girls will be about, because I already talked about it in the previous paragraph: personality traits.

You see, knowing how to get with a girl means knowing all girls are attracted to certain personality traits in a man: dominance, confidence, ambition, risk taking, being independent, being mysterious, being challenging (hard to get), and the list goes on, and on… and on.

Learning how to be attractive to girls starts with knowing and experiencing for yourself that girls respond in a positive way to all these traits. If you’re a total rookie when it comes to attracting girls, then start with learning why these create attraction inside my FREE Inner Game Newsletter.

And if you’ve visited the blog before, then the KEY insight about how to be attractive to girls here is that certain girls respond better to certain traits. It’s because of their background and/or habits:

– Girls from very traditional cultures, for example, are used to all kinds of rules their parents/family enforce upon them. But a caged bird desires freedom, so the more careless you are and the less limits you accept? The more they like you, because you give that sense of adventure they crave after years of oppression.

– Wild girls, especially those who are acting a little “young” their age, usually don’t want to grow up. Because of it, they seek a man to make up for their lack of maturity: a controller. A dominant force in their lives that silences their wild enthusiasm every now and then.

– And I can continue giving you examples of how to be attractive to girls by using their background or habits “against” them, but I think you know what I mean.

And hey, no matter if you’re a total rookie or have been around the block when it comes to how to be attractive to girls… always remember the first rule of attraction:

Where there’s a need, there’s a way. ANY girl that has a psychological need (see above) can feel attracted to you, even if she has a boyfriend, is married or seems extremely hard to get because she’s a supermodel or whatever.

How To Be Attractive To Girls: Don’t Sweat The Technique

Isn’t it funny how I’ve not even covered techniques for how to be attractive to girls yet, unlike many other dating “gurus” and pick up artists that claim techniques are the be all, end all of dating?

And you may be wondering: “Why HAVEN’T you shared any techniques for how to be attractive to girls yet dude?”

Because when you know psychology, techniques will follow. If I know why dominance works, for example, I can create my own techniques for how to be attractive to girls on the spot…

… Like asking a girl where she wants to go on a date, and then taking her somewhere else…

… Like telling her ladies first, to give me her coat, to pull out her chair and tell her to sit down (being a gentleman is really being dominant!)…

… Like saying “NO” to the most unexpected things, even sex, just to show that I’m in control of everything, including her and my own sexual urges…

Do you see where I’m going with this? And to put the icing on the cake of how to be attractive to girls, I’m quoting hiphop legend Rakim here: don’t sweat the technique!

BTW: if you’ve been around the block and know quite a bit about how to be attractive to girls, then you’d better prepare for my Inner Game Newsletter because it contains TONS of advanced insights on female psychology, improving your lifestyle, and more. Check it out!

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To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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