Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted on 11-04-2011
I know from experience what it’s like to have feelings for a beautiful, funny, and amazing girl… but to have no freaking clue about how to get that girl. So, you end up befriending her or not having her in your life at all.
Doesn’t that SUCK balls? I mean, don’t you want to know how to get that girl and keep her around for as long as you want, even if you make a complete ass out of yourself around women right now?
Look, if you didn’t? You wouldn’t be reading this on my Win With Women blog today, right? So, let’s check out the 3 rules of how you get that girl you’ve known for a loooong time…
How To Get That Girl Rule #1: If You <3 Something, Let It Go
It might sound cheesy when I tell you that if you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t? It never was…
But you know that?
If you want to know how to get that girl next door, or your childhood friend? You can forget about getting her if you don’t put some distance between you and her because…
You’ve been available to her. Always. And sometimes? Dating is just like economics. It’s very similar to the supply-demand curve that determines the price of a product.
You see, if you’re supplying her with everything you’ve got even when she doesn’t need it, when there’s no demand? Your value goes down. It’s like you’re air: always available, but no one wants to pay for it.
On the other hand, when you’re not always available even when there IS a demand? Your value goes up, just like people are willing to pay more for a Bugatti Veyron than a Benz. There are wayyyy less Veryon’s than there are Benzes, know what I mean?
So when it comes to how to get that girl next door, put some distance between you and her and:
– Don’t call or text
– Don’t email or chat
– Don’t go see her
Make it so it’s like you’ve vanished from the earth for 2-3 weeks.
And when you talk to her afterwards? Tell her what an awesome time you had. There’s no better way to let a woman know that you need her less than she needs you. Like I said: you get that girl by being less available, because it makes your time and attention more valuable.
But to be honest with you, if you want to know how to get that girl you’ve had a crush on for a long time? There’s more to it than just distance, so let’s continue.
How To Get That Girl Rule #2: Make It Intense!
Time for act I, take 2, of how to get that girl next door. Now that you’re less available for her, almost out of reach? It’s time to ramp up the tension between you two.
Attraction is, in a way, nothing more than tension between man and a woman. Intense moments. Good or bad, it doesn’t matter, because intense moments create sexual tension.
That’s why you see a woman calling a guy an asshole at first and kissing him later. Love is war in many ways. But that doesn’t mean you should only be out to get her. To argue with her.
There are several ways for how to get that girl next door by creating sexual tension:
1) Disagree, criticize, and say “NO” a lot: we just covered it. This is the most important thing to do, because I’m willing to bet that you’ve agreed with her a lot, told her to do what she feels, etc. Why? Because you want to stick around and be her friend, hoping you’ll get her in the end. Don’t be a kiss ass buddy. Let her know you’re a man who has a mind of his own.
2) Tease here: this is letting a girl know you’re not intimidated by her looks and presence in a slightly different way. Why? Because you’re making fun of her of course. You tease her with what she wears, says, does and doesn’t do, if only so she realizes she now has to work hard to get a compliment from you. Interesting thought: the girls I never got to date said I’m nice, the girls I did date said I’m mean. Anyways, that’s how to get that girl by teasing her.
3) Make her compete: I believe that, 9 out 10, there is NO true friendship between a guy and a girl. One of them usually settled for less. Settled for just being friends. Usually it’s the guy. Meanwhile, when a girl says she just wants to be friends it means she isn’t interested ENOUGH to date you. Very important, because it means there’s some interest there and when you make her compete with another girl she’ll get even more interested. All of a sudden she’ll have to work for attention and she’ll get jealous. Women are fierce competitors, so give your girl something to fight for. You.
Look, I could sit here all day and give you more than 60 unique ways to create attraction, but I won’t because these are the 3 most important things to do. Why? Because they correct many of the mistakes you made by becoming a girl’s friend instead of her lover.
But, I would understand if you would like some more material to work with, so you can learn all there is to know about how to get that girl you’ve loved for years but couldn’t get. That’s no problem dude!
Make sure you leave a comment on this blog post and I’ll be happy to answer all your questions.
How To Get That Girl Next Door Rule #3: Be An Action Jackson
The final rule of how to get that girl you’ve had a crush on for a long time is quite… confrontational.
It has to do with the #1 reason why you’re reading this as we speak, instead of enjoying yet another awesome date with her. Want to know what it is?
It’s not taking (enough) action.
During the last 3 years or so, I’ve coached many guys (in the thousands) and every time someone brought up the topic of getting the girl that didn’t want him? He’d mention that he waited weeks, months or even years to ask her out… or to confess his feelings to her.
Be honest: you waited a little too long, haven’t you?
Don’t worry, I’m not going to bully you with it. I was Mr. Wait And See with so many women I’ve lost count. It happens to the best of them…
But the point of this whole blog post on how to get that girl you have a thing for is that you should NOT let it happen again. Don’t be a Mr. Wait And See. Be an Action Jackson instead:
– Create distance between you and her. Hell, BE distant! Do it today.
– Create tension when you “come back” after a couple weeks. Intense moments. Sexual tension.
– Then, immediately grab the first chance you get to take her out
And the taking her out part doesn’t have to be hard at all. If I were you I would use the distance you created before to your advantage:
“Hey you know what? It’s been a while since we last went out and had lots of fun, so I demand we catch up. Let’s go and have some fun already!”
Final Thoughts On How To Get That Girl: Don’t Freak Out
After asking her out, it’s a matter of not screwing up. Yet again, that’s not something to worry about bro. Because whether you want more tips on gaining the confidence to ask her out, or what to do on a date, how to know if she wants to be kissed… and more… then what are you waiting for?
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That’s all I got, for now, on how to get that girl next door. That girl you’ve had a crush on for years. I write multiple blog posts like these per week though, so stay tuned to the Win With Women blog if you need, want, and demand me to give you some more advice!
To More Dating Success,
Win With Women
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