The 7 Deadly Sins of How to Flirt With a Girl Over Text
Are you making these mistakes when flirting with a girl over text? Find out, prevent them, and learn how to flirt with a girl over text effortlessly!
First off, I would like to say that there is no need to worry if you don’t know how to flirt with a girl over text in the right way. You are not alone. We have all been there. But…
Once you are done reading about the 7 deadly sins of how to flirt with a girl over text and you do NOTHING with what you have learned? Then it IS time to worry and ask yourself why you are making flirting with a girl over text so hard for yourself.
So, please take action with what you are about to learn… and let the learning begin already!
Sin #1 of How to Flirt With a Girl Over Text: The Answer to What to Do if She Doesn’t Text Back is… DON’T Get Mad!
Most people tend to text with each other during the evening because everyone is at home from work or college.
What amazes me though is that when you’re flirting with a girl over text and it’s getting later and later and she doesn’t text back… why do you get upset? Did you ever stop to think that maybe she is trying to sleep?
Don’t laugh now dude, because I know tons of guys that text with a girl in the evening and then get angry if she doesn’t text back. Don’t be one of them… and realize that by getting angry when she doesn’t text back, the only thing you’ll let her know is that you’re insecure.
That you have nothing better to do than to wait for her to reply.
That is NOT how to flirt with a girl over text.
So wait until the next day with texting her if you don’t hear from her. Yes, even if you two were texting during the day and she didn’t text back. Don’t show your insecurities. Just wait it out.
And if you want to get your hands on some specific things to text a girl no matter what situation you’re in, then check out my blog post with 50 examples of what to text a girl.
Sin #2 of How to Flirt With a Girl Over Text: Means To An End
I have said it a thousand times already here on the Win With Women blog, but when you want to learn how to flirt with a girl over text, then remember that texting girls is a means to an end.
You may kick ass when texting chicks, but if you cannot get a date out of it, then what good will it do you? Texting only serves as a way to attract girls so you can get a date.
Nothing more. Nothing less.
So if you find yourself flirting with a girl over text for one or more weeks without asking for a date? Tell yourself to shut up for a second. Then tell yourself texting is not the destination. Dating is.
Sin #3 of Flirting With a Girl Over Text: Cheapskating
I can almost hear you think like The Joker does: “Why so serious?”
“Why get all preachy on me about how to flirt with a girl over text and warn me for thousands of mistakes?” Here’s an honest answer:
If you never know what you’re doing wrong, you will never know what is right. Why? Because there is no wrong without a right, no right without a wrong, no dark without the light…
And I can give you a million other quotes that sound like they’re coming straight out of the Bible, but that’s besides the point… because I want to address you if you’re a cheapskate right now.
It’s one thing to not want a phone bill that is in the $100+ range, but it’s an entirely different thing to stick to 160 characters max every time you flirt with a girl over text so you use 1 text for one message you want to get across.
Here’s why: since attraction is a feeling based on emotions, you need to let a girl feel emotions when you are texting her to attract her and get a date. You CANNOT do that when you are cutting all your stories in half because the 160 character limit is holy for you!
Remember that when it comes to how to flirt with a girl over text, the emphasis is on TEXT. You can use nothing else to attract her, so a good rule to follow is “more is more”: more text in one message is better, as long as emotions are involved.
Happy, sad, proud, angry, ashamed, curious. You know. The whole nine yards.
Sin #4 of How to Flirt With a Girl Over Text: Dry Hard
As a movie junkie I just had to throw a reference to Die Hard in here. I’m sorry, but it was oh so appropiate. So deal with it!
What do I mean with dry hard with a vengeance when it comes to how to flirt with a girl over text?
It’s sending text messages that do not seem to have ANY emotion in them. No emoticons, no haha, no whatever!
In short: knowing how to flirt with a girl over text starts with using as much emotion as you can, because attraction is a FEELING based on EMOTIONS. So don’t be dry.
Here’s how you prevent becoming as dry as a freaking desert when you flirt with a girl over text:
When you’re teasing a girl, don’t just say something and expect her to “get it.” That works when you’re face-to-face and can use your body language to give meaning to things, but not when you only have text to show what you mean.
When you flirt with a girl over text, use emoticons to get your point across. Emoticons like a 😛 after every tease. That way she knows you’re being playful instead of serious.
Why do this?
Because trust me: you do NOT want a girl to think you were serious with your extremely rude joke!
And if you want to get more FREE tips on how to use emoticons to attract girls with texts, then check out my Calling Girls and Texting Girls Newsletter today.
Sin #5 of How to Flirt With a Girl Over Text: Talking to… Instead of With Her
It amazes me how you can easily forget that you’re talking WITH a girl when you want to attract her. Most men think that attracting girls is about “getting something from them” instead of “having fun with them.”
The WITH mindset is always better than the FROM mindset, because it is the only one which will lead to long term dating success. I’m the living, breathing example of it.
What does this have to do with how to flirt with a girl over text? Well, always remember that when you’re teasing her or challenging her or being picky to create attraction… she’s not a target. Allow me to explain…
When you text her and comment on her behavior, there’s no invitation for her to reply.
Think about it: when you tease a girl with a remark and do nothing else, then she can either laugh OR deny what you accused her of OR tease you in return.
But what makes you say girls can come up with a good reply every single time? I have had so many times where I teased a girl so well that she actually did not know a good comeback, so she ended up not replying at all.
So “doing well” when teasing, challenging or being picky around girls can actually HURT your success! But when you ask a question you stop that from happening. That way a girl always has an easy way out if she doesn’t have a good comeback.
This is something you only learn about how to flirt with a girl over text from experience.
Sin #6 of How to Flirt With a Girl Over Text: The Wheel
If you find that girls respond in similar ways when you tease them, challenge them or create attraction in any other way… then why reinvent the wheel?
Why not remember or write down a good reply for those similar responses, so you can use it whenever you hear one of them again? It saves you a lot of time, energy, and effort.
Sin #7 of How to Flirt With a Girl Over Text: K.I.S.S.
And now… one of the most common sins of how to flirt with a girl over text. It’s a “problem” you will always face when you are a single guy. It’s talking to multiple girls at the same time.
Talking to multiple girls is good for you if you’re single. It means not putting all your eggs in one basket. But WATCH OUT when flirting with a girl over text.
Why? Because girls have a unique timing. Trust me: girl A will text you back when you’re on a date with girl B, girl C will text when you’re taking a leak and girl D is sitting right next to your phone…
The solution is simple though: get a freaking password! I am NOT talking about one for your simcard. Everyone has one of those. I’m talking about one for your phone so no one but you can use it, even when it’s on.
And now you know what NOT to do when it comes to how to flirt with a girl over text, why not learn what you SHOULD do?
Why not learn how to flirt over text with girls and get dates without much effort?
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To More Dating Success,
Win With Women
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