Author: Carlos Xuma

3 Signs You’re Not Getting Laid Tonight

Let’s face it – there’s nothing worse than putting a few hours of work into charming a woman, and you’re moving in on home base – only to have her say “No, I’m not ready…

Or “No, not tonight…

Or “We’re moving too fast…

I’m sure you’ve heard one of those, or maybe even a few others.

All of them basically tell you one thing:

You’re not getting laid tonight.

Wouldn’t it be better if you knew this in advance? So you could cut your losses?

Maybe go home and watch a movie or get a few hours extra sleep.

Well, I’m going to share a few of the signs that tell you you’re not getting laid so you can spot this roadblock way in advance.


Sign #1 that you’re not getting laid tonight:

She’s cold and “different.”

You sense a change in the climate with her. She’s nothing like she was the other night when you were all sunshine and cuddly kittens together.

And the more you try to get that affection and spark going, the more she seems to resist you.

Frankly, the best thing you can do in this situation …

How To Talk To Women Without Losing It

Note from Carlos: this is a guest blog about how to talk to women, written by dating guru Carlos Xuma and “directed” (edited) by me. Go ahead Carlos!

Hey, I’ve just got a quick note for you today on a subject that a lot of guys are curious about: how to talk to women.

There’s a lot of cool information I teach you, from routines to openers, conversation bridges, all kinds of great stuff to inject into your interactions with women.

But in almost every single one-on-one coaching (and in hundreds of emails I get every day), one concern stands out more than any other.

It’s usually this: “How do I do this stuff when I’m in-person with a woman? Face to face? I need to know how to talk to women.”

This is what I call the “Real-Time” problem. You can learn a ton of great information off-line, but when you’re in Real-Time, it’s tough to be “on” and creative, isn’t it?

I don’t know if you’ve ever had this problem, but when I was first learning these skills, I’d do a massive amount of preparation, memorizing a bunch of phrases and stuff. This was what I needed to …