Texting women these days can be tricky…

You just don’t know what kind of response she will throw at you, and you need to know how to handle her testing. She’s always looking for a reason to poke and prod your act to see if you’re a real man with the ability to drive up her attraction – or destroy it.

In case you didn’t know, texting is a great way to drive up interest from a woman, but it’s also where most guys screw it up.

Here’s how:

• You text too frequently: Women know that a guy who’s texting them a lot in the first few days of meeting her is probably either needy, or just doesn’t have anything else going on. This communicates your social value…
• You text too long: Most guys write texts that are WAYYYY too many words. If you text anything that exceeds the 160 character limit, you’re looking like a try-hard…
• You text too much of the same jokey crap: Stop being a comedian all the time and vary it up. Send her a tease, followed by an insight, followed by your lunch choice… keep her guessing!

Let’s talk about 7 situations where you will need to text her, and how to handle each one. These 7 stealth texts will show you by example what to text a girl…

Starting with:

Stealth Text 2 – What To Text Her: The After-Text

After you meet a girl – in a bar, at a party, whatever – you need to cement yourself into her mind. Chances are, if she was attractive to you, she was attractive to other guys who talked to her that night.

No, huckleberry, you ain’t the only game in town…

You need to make sure you stand out in her mind so that she won’t wonder: “340-334-4145… Who the hell is this?”

In fact, if you’ve ever gotten a text from a girl that said “Who is this?” you know how far behind you are already. That’s one of the worst texts you can get from a girl. Period.

To stand out, you remind her with your name, something she laughed at that night, followed by a sign-off.

Here’s a great one:

“Hey, it’s Carlos – was great meeting you ‘Kittty kicker’ – Let’s reconnect this week…”

In this case, you two were joking about the story she told you about the time she accidentally kicked her sister’s cat. It’s a tease, and it’s perfect to use. Then you hint that you’ll be in touch.

Now she knows who you are, you reminded her of your confidence, and you’re perfectly setup for:

Stealth Text 2 – Text Her THIS: The Warmup Text

You gotta follow up and reconnect with her, ideally within 24-48 hours. There’s a lot of debate on this on the Internet, but take it from Uncle Carlos – you don’t want her to forget you, so act quicker. Just do it with confidence.

You want to remind her again about your connection, and get her warmed up with this:

“Hey, Kitty… How’s your week going? I know you’re missing those laughs from Saturday…”

BOOM! She’s reminded, and you even managed to squeeze in a little callback to that tease about kicking the cat. Without being obnoxious, by the way.

Be careful you don’t overdo any particular tease too many times. It’s douchey.

Right after she responds to this, you hit her with:

Stealth Text 3 – What To Text Her: The Meetup Text

Yeah, baby – it’s time to slap this one on the ass and get it moving…

After her warmup response, you’re going to go for the meetup request. You have to see if this is going to go somewhere.

This step is HUGE – because if there’s anywhere it goes weird, it’s in this call to action step.

• If she’s into it, she’ll jump on it…
• If she’s hesitant, you’ll sense it…
• If she’s reluctant, you’ll KNOW it…

So send her this next:

“Going to the (name of brewery, restaurant, coffee shop, etc) tomorrow night – let’s get together!”

Then listen to her response, because it’s highly likely that she will throw out some random nonsense for you.

Just a note here: The best thing to do is to resist the urge to do too much convincing… Just plow forward with the assumption that she’s a LUNATIC if she doesn’t meet up with you.

By the way, if you believe too deeply that YOU are the one who would be lucky if SHE agrees, you gotta do some inner game work, my friend.

Stealth Text 4 – Send This Text: The Plow Forward Text

When a girl tests you by resisting, what she wants to see is sincerity in your efforts to woo her. Women don’t believe your words, they believe the meaning they get from the ATTITUDE behind the words… and your actions, of course.

Women are INTERPRETIVE creatures, which means they read into you based on the vibe you give off.

The words of this text are less important than the attitude.

So here’s a really good attitude text to plow her forward:

“Are you crazy? We’re gonna have such a great conversation & you’re stalling? You’re so cute…! What time can you meet me?”

If she insists on pushing you back and not committing (which is still highly likely), you should pick up the phone and TALK to her. Never let a girl get away with pushback. Hearing your voice will make it real. Right now you’re just words on a screen.

Don’t be a chicken-sh*t and avoid talking to her because you’re afraid to confront these things and deal with them, you dig?

Chances are high that she will give in and agree when she hears a real voice.

Next up:

Stealth Text 5 – What To Text Her: The Reminder Text

The younger the girl, the more likely she will no-show you. It’s nothing personal, she’s just playing out her mindless automatic program.

So you want to make sure she feels like complete crap if she does flake on you.

This one is a little edgy, but you can pull it off:

“Hey, I promised the sick kids at the hospital we’d be there at 7:30 to cheer them up, so you better be on time! ;-)”

If you don’t get a response to your text – no matter what you send – you still want to show up at the place you agreed.

However, you need to get a friend to be there with you in case she does flake. This way you won’t feel dumb, and you’ll be able to let it go quicker.

And if she shows, you look more socially desirable. Just introduce your friend, then bid him farewell.

You can also send a more gentle reminder like this:

“Hey girl… no flake-outs, I’ll see you tonight at 7:30… ;-)”

If she texts anything but an enthusiastic “I’ll be there” – you should call her again and go voice.

Stealth Text 6 – How To Text Her: The Running Late Text

This one is a great way to demonstrate value AND remind her of her obligation. If you think you have this girl pretty well locked in, send her this… it will drive up your value and her investment in you:

“Hey, girl… wanted to be a little early, but running a few minutes behind… See you there”

This is great for a reminder text because it shows you’re not too needy.. and if she’s got any BS to throw at you about flaking, now is when she’ll tell you.

Stealth Text 7 – What To Text A Girl: The Finisher Text

When your date is over, you want to finish up right where we started this whole thing – with a text that will cement you in her head as the man she wants.

Of course, this is assuming that you aren’t already in a position to just roll over and talk to her at the end of the night…

By the end of this one-on-one date, you better have impressed her enough to be memorable.

If you don’t know how to do it, you need to learn about Sexual Sparks – and how to push her brain into attraction for you.

With this finisher text, you’re going to be a little bit more cocky, with the purpose of making her value YOU as the prize.

Don’t be arrogant! Just be cocky & funny…

Try this 2-part text:

Part A: “OK that was probably THE best time you’ve had all year…”

Part B: “You’re kinda fun, too! Just don’t start stalking me yet…”

Let her say whatever she’s going to say, just don’t read into it too deeply. Let these texts sit with her for a good 15-20 minutes before you even THINK of replying.

Another mistake guys make is, in their eagerness to get a girl to text them back or like them, they text her back WAY too soon.

Wait at least a few minutes before responding to a girl. If you have any questions why, just remember the last time YOU texted a girl and had to wait for what seemed like an eternity for her response. That time she’s waiting, she’s thinking about you.

Driving up her attraction and desire in the process.

There you go, my friend. You’re now in a position of high value if you followed this chain to the end.

But there’s so much more you need to know to make sure you can handle any of the curve balls she throws you…

Go watch this quick video presentation –

And discover the secret to uncontrollable sexual desire…

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Sending flirty text messages has some MAJOR advantages over calling women too!

Think about it… is a flirt through text messages the only way to meet & date women with words? Or is there more to learning to send flirty text messages?

Yes there is!

See, there are these little things called online dating and Instant Messengers (IM) like MSN Messenger or Yahoo Messenger as well. Getting better at creating attraction with words works three ways: you´ll get better at texting, online dating AND using IM to get numbers and to get dates.

Online dating is the one to look out for, because it allows you to meet women whenever you can´t go outside (example: you´re at work, at school, or sick or it´s too cold outside) and get their phone numbers. You can them call and text them to set up a date, so by learning how to flirt through text messages, you get more numbers AND more dates on a regular basis thanks to the internet!

Anyways, let’s take a look at how to send flirty text messages already, before I go on and on… and on about online dating! Text messages are so easy to write and make women think about you the whooole day, especially when you use emoticons…

How To Flirt Through Text Messages By Using Emoticons

Normally, when you talk to someone they understand the meaning of what you’re saying thanks to your body language. On the phone, it’s all about voice tone. With text messages though, you don’t have that much to convey meaning with: no voice, no body, just letters…

And that has consequences when you want to flirt through text messages:

– If you try to flirt through text messages without being clear about the meaning, a woman might misunderstand and think you’re insulting her, being rude, being way too serious, etc. and that’s NOT good.

– If you text anyone, you only have a limited amount of space. More on that later, but what it means is that you have to put more meaning in a smaller space which can be tricky to do.

The best way to prevent both problems and to give extra meaning to everything you say is… drumroll please… using emoticons.

Didn’t see that one coming huh? But emoticons are great to use to flirt through text messages.

Enough kidding around. If you don’t know what emoticons are then I seriously wonder where you’ve been for the last 20 years or so, but just in case: they’re small smilie faces that you can insert into your text message.

So what meaning can you give your flirty text messages with emotions? How do you create attraction with these emoticons I talk about?

The easiest thing I can come up if you want to flirt through text messages, is letting a woman know you’re not being serious but are teasing her, but there are many other things you can do with emoticons so let’s look at the best emoticons and how you can use ‘em:

– a smilie face with it’s tongue sticking out. It shows you’re definitely not serious but in a playful mood, ready to tease her with something. The great thing about this emoticon is that you can get away with saying pretty much everything when you put it behind your sentence.

Example of talking to a woman who isn’t as tall as you are: “so how tall are you? Are you even allowed entry to any rollercoaster because of your height? :P”

Another one: “Hey midget :P, how are you today?”

I think I rest my case: using as a tool for adding more meaning to your playful teases will give you more success with text messages. Hell, the emoticon is THE best thing to use to send flirty text messages that create attraction…

– a smilie face that’s carrying a big smile around. Although most people use it whenever you’re excited or happy about something, I use it in an entirely different way. I use to playfully make fun of a woman who is being a bit too hateful towards me and to show her that I don’t take her comment seriously AT ALL. Now THAT is how you flirt through text messages!

Say a woman teases you back, makes a sort of rude remark about you or whatever, then I’ll send her some flirty text messages saying stuff like “and I love you too honey! :D”. This makes a complete fool out of her and her teasing… works every time!

More Emoticons To Use In Your Flirty Text Messages

(A) – a smilie face with a little halo above it: an angel. On most phones you won’t see the actual smilie being displayed, but the vast majority of people knows what (A) stands for. I use it to pretend like I’m being sweet and innocent while I’m far from it with what I just said.

Say a woman accuses me of being mean or evil, something like that… then I’ll text “evil? ME? But… I’m innocent! I’m my mommy’s little angel! (A)”

Or even better: using (A) when I ask something in return for doing something for her or giving her something. When she asks me what I want in return I’ll text “ohhh… 3 kisses will do just fine (A)” and over time I want more and more outrageous stuff in return. One time I asked a girl to give ma a striptease, lapdance, and a kiss or ten if I would help her download this movie she wanted… and she did it. Thanks to (A).

You shouldn’t bombard a woman with emoticons though by using one every half of a sentence because it pretty much takes away all the impact. Only use it like 3-4 times in one text message, which will be more than enough.

That’s how to flirt through text messages dude!

Want To Know More About How To Send Flirty Text Messages?

So now you know how to create attraction with flirty text messages, don’t you want to know how to get a date once women are attracted to you?

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You can also check out another post of mine with many examples of what to text a girl. It will reveal all the insights you need to know if you want to learn how to flirt through text messages.

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