Earlier this week one of my friends and customers Dave told me he had a problem with a bad boy trying to steal his girlfriend. The bad boy is actually her ex. It was a problem alright, because his girlfriend admitted that bad boys always have power over her.

And the brutal truth is: all bad boys have power over all women to a certain degree! If you don’t know why, I highly recommend you check out my blog post about why bad boys are so attractive.

If you know already why bad boys are so attractive to women, then keep reading below…

If you ever lost a girlfriend or a woman you were interested in to a bad boy? Then you’ll LOVE what you’re about to learn…

In the next few minutes I’ll show you how to win from bad boys every single time you try to “get the girl”… OR… “keep the girl”

Ever heard of that movie Revenge Of The Nerds? Well, this blog post is going to be my “Revenge Of The Nice Guys”… so eat sh*t and die from now on bad boys, lol! Here’s how to get with a girl no matter how many bad boys she knows…

Every guy that has become a bad boy not by learning, but on his own? Every bad boy has weaknesses. You’re about to find out what those weaknesses are…

The Origin Of The Bad Boy

As I told my customer Dave: 95% of all human behavior takes place on a subconscious level. Most of the time you do stuff without knowing WHY, whether you like it or not. That subsconcious behavior takes place in the form of habits. But that subsconcious stuff also takes place in the form of psychological drives.

And guess what?

One of the MAJOR psychological drives of the bad boy is the relationship he has with his mother. The status of that relationship (especially during his childhood years) drives a LOT if not ALL of his behavior today. It especially determines how he behaves around women.

Every single bad boy I’ve ever seen or befriended had a BAD relationship with his mother. It’s always bad because of one of these 2 situations:

1) A bad boy’s mother was never around or not around a lot. This makes him feel neglected. This makes him want to get as much attention from women as possible, because he never got enough attention when he was a child. The moment woman A can’t give him the attention he wants, he’ll start talking to woman B to still get that attention.

OR…

2) A bad boy’s mother was very dominant, so controlling. This makes him want to avoid EVERY situation where a woman has any kind of control over him: relationships. He starts avoiding any kind of commitment because it reminds him of his too dominant mother…

So bad boys don’t attract and sleep with as many women as possible because they WANT TO… but because they MUST.

From a psychological perspective, they absolutely must get the attention from women they need OR avoid any kind of control women try to have over him.

And the funny thing is: they don’t KNOW they act how they act because of the relationship they have with their mothers. They don’t even know WHAT they’re doing. All they think is that they’re being themselves, while in reality this bad relationship with 1 woman (mommy) determines ALL relationships they ever have with women.

They are victims of their own childhood as much as the women they date are victims of it…

After you learned all this about how bad boys are created, do you still think they are all powerful?

No? Good! Because deep inside, bad boys are all little BOYS that crave recognition from women. That’s not tough, it’s sad.

The ultimate proof: the moment a bad boy DOES meet a woman he really likes? He doesn’t know what to do anymore. He won’t know how to behave anymore. He will probably be more desperate than the nice guys who always seem to finish last with women…

I’ve seen this stuff happen time, after time, after time…

And I was a typical bad boy too once. I have a very dominant mother…

But there’s a big difference between me and typical bad boys: I conquered my fear of commitment. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 3 years now and I’ve never cheated on her once or even thought about it. I conquered the bad boy in me although I still have all the personality traits that make a bad boy attractive…

Be Different And You’ll Win…

If you remember the blog post I wrote about why bad boys are so attractive, I mentioned that bad boys give women an escape.

Women KNOW what they have with a bad boy won’t last. They KNOW it’s temporary. They know he’ll leave them for another woman. But he gives them an escape from the boring daily life without ANY excitement, danger, or risk whatsoever.

And that’s a weakness of the bad boy right there.

Most women want something that lasts, a relationship. They know a bad boy can’t give them that. So if you let women know you’re here to stay, not intimidated by other interested men and give them romance? They know you want to make it last too.

But part of the seductive power of the bad boy is his ability to excite. He creates a sense of danger, risk… so you need to bring that to the table too or you’ll be seen as the boring dude who can never excite any woman… ever.

And a simple way to do that without pretending to be someone you’re not, is using your biggest strengths. Women fell for you because of your strengths…

So, ask yourself: what is my biggest strength?

Dave for example, the guy that started all this, is very spontaneous. His girlfriend loves it. It’s what creates the most attraction, so I told him to start being more spontaneous. Way more than ever. It will make him stand out more and more as his girlfriend’s jealous, bad boy ex keeps doing the same stuf he always did…

Because you let women know you’re here to stay, you’re different from bad boys. And because of it, they start to think of YOUR strengths as different from what a bad boy is like as well…

And then? Then HE’LL be boring because he’s the same as usual. A boring bad boy doesn’t exist, so he’ll lose his power over a woman. Et voila: using the strength of the bad boy against him to win from him.

If All Other Stuff Fails…

And if all else fails when you’re up against bad boys? Then the best advice on what to do against bad boys I can give you is:

If you can’t beat them, join them…

And I’ve got some questions for you that you can answer in a comment if you want. Don’t be afraid to share your opinion with the world dude. Here are my questions:

1) Be honest… have you ever lost a woman to a bad boy? Why? And how?
2) Have you ever won from a bad boy that tried to get your girlfriend or the woman you were interested in? No? Then will you start using these tips so you will win from now on?

I’m ending this by saying:

This caffein junkie is switching from coffee to Redbull today. And you know what? Some people HATE on Redbull because it looks like (and has the color of) piss, but to me?

To me Redbull is yellow gold. It sharpens my sword, it starts my engine… but what do I know right? I’m just a poor old junkie who can’t stop drinking ANYTHING that contains caffein: coffee, energy drinks…. but I’ll shut up now.

And remember: you can win from bad boys any time you want. Because how can you beat someone who never quits? You can’t, so never stop trying!

Before I forget: why not study bad boys so you have an idea of what you’re dealing with? Check out my blog post with Barney Stinson tips to pick up chicks to learn from a master bad boy, Barney Stinson.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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A bad boy is one big contradiction:

– He is the dangerous, extremely confident man who doesn’t give a crap about society, rules, or any form of authority and is full of adventure VERSUS the small, innocent boy in a big man’s body that needs saving in a moment of weakness because he can’t help himself

– He’s the perfect escape from boring every day life filled with its routines, nagging and obligations VERSUS the escape is only temporarily, sooner or later a woman knows that her heart will be broken, and she accepts… because he was only an escape, he “doesn’t count”

– When a bad boy is with a woman, he lives in the moment, and makes love to her like it’s the last thing he’ll ever do: raw, passionate sex and always making her feel so very CLOSE to him… VERSUS the times he vanishes into thin air, nowhere to be seen, nothing to be heard, who knows if the rebel in him will ever want to come back to you..

– When you’re with him as a woman, he’s oh so sweet and caring VERSUS when you disagree or argue with him? He’s stonecold, harsh, full of criticism and downright abusive to women just like me… just kidding!

– If you pay close attention to his posture, his gestures, how he moves and his entire body language? Nothing seems more natural, and in control than he does… superbly dominant over his surroundings VERSUS get him angry and he loses all that control, he turns into a living hell..

So if you want to become as attractive as bad boys are, you need to capture the essence of his being which boils down to two things:

1) Being unpredictable
2) Being a mix of pleasure & pain

Being unpreditacble: hot and cold, caring and abusive, very present and far away… no need to explain that right fellas? A woman simply never knows what’s next around a bad boy, and that’s exciting.. it creates attraction and leaves her wanting more…

Being a mix of pleasure and pain: caring and criticizing, very present and far away, in control and out of control, indepedent and helpless, dangerous and innocent, making a woman forget all about her worries and BEING her worry..

As you can see, all you “only” need to do is master the art of being ambigious, of giving a woman contradictions. In fact, if you closely and think about it, you’ll see that ALL men that are successful with women have one or multiple of these contradictions in them that keep making them attractive to women.

Because without them? They would become boring, grow stale, become uninteresting for a woman because it’s just more of the same. But Carlos… does that mean I haven’t “done my job” even when I managed to get into a relationship with a woman?

YES it does… because the game never stops: there always has to be sexual tension or the attraction will become less and less until it dies out. That’s the harsh, cold reality for most beginners…

But for people who enjoy learning more and more about women, and dating? It’s a blessing in disguise, because it only means neverending fun to have

Pointers On How To Start Being More Of A Bad Boy

1) If someone turned her down for a job, insulted her or did something else she didn’t like – offer to pay those guys a visit
2) If she asks you how your day was – make sure you highlight the parts where you judged others, teased them to death and didn’t give a crap about something and leave the rest
3) If she needs a friendly solution to one of her problems (for example: “I don’t understand this assignment I’m supposed to do”) – instead of helping her, offer to burn her school books with her, trash her workplace, etc.
4) Talked to her 3 days in a row? – find something to do instead on the 4th day (like calling a friend to hang out), or leave earlier than usual
5) Been sweet to her a couple days in a row? – find someone to be judgmental about and be critical of what she says, and if she complaints about it? be even MORE critical
6) Slow your body language down – start walking at half the speed you were used to, use your hands when talking and talk more slowly AND move those hands more slowly, never look down when walking, etc.

I’ve written stuff about inner game, building confidence, insecurities and approach anxiety before but this time I want to take you on a journey – a journey through your own inner issues, the stuff that’s holding you back from achieving the success with women you really want… and it’ll be me, Carlos Xuma, and you… against your inner issues!

So stay tuned for more inner game goodness…

And for now, if you want more examples of how bad boys get the girl? Then check out my blog post with Barney Stinson tips to pick up chicks, because Barney from the TV show How I Met Your Mother is THE example of how bad boys do it.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Guys think women will HATE their guts for it; for having dated several women…but that’s typical surface level psychology, and what a MALE would think.

Frankly, I’ve never regretted who I’ve met and dated, not a single friggin’ time – neither have the naturals I learned my game from. And I think it’s time to do something controversial and reveal the ruthless reality behind having a reputation.

Here are 3 hidden truths of female psychology for why having a reputation is a GOOD thing:

– If you had so many women in your past, other females will think there most be something about you that makes you so desirable..because why would all those women otherwise want you? This will feed her curiosity, a girl will want to find out exactly WHAT is it about you that makes you such a big sexual threat. Next to this, being a notorious seducer will also make you come across like a badboy who’s after her body, not her heart..which brings danger and excitement along with it. (And women love badboys guys, for the simple fact that badboys take WHAT they want, WHEN and HOW they want it..and they don’t give a crap about the consequences…versus the normal guy who hesitates and doubts and end sup doing nothing to get her.)

– There’s also a “dirty motivator” at play here: we want what everyone else is having. It’s the human drive of competition my friend: the grass is always greener on the other side, and she wants to lay in it, play in it, make love in it…it connects with the previous reason, because if everything wants to have you then you MUST be good (good in bed? good in romancing a girl? Etc.)

– If you had so many women but DON’T want her, a woman will automically assume that there must be something WRONG with her. She’ll feel like less of a woman (“because if you sleep with all kinds of women, but not with me..then I must not be a real woman?”). And letting her think she’s not a real woman, will only make her want to prove herself as being a REAL woman..

And because of these reasons, they secretly actually want to find out…find out A) WHY you are so attractive to other women, B) if they can tame you and have you all to themselves (it’s every woman’s fantasy: taming the badboy) and C) WHAT’S the reason for you turning them down..and how they can prove they’re real women after all (so proving you wrong).

Guess what happens when a woman KNOWS you’re a libertine, someone who plays around with women..then she asks you about it..and you tell her you’re NOT a player? It will make you come across WEAK, insincere, like you’re faking confidence. Why? Because a real man would openly admit their mistakes, while a lying weazel would try to hide his true self and will try to manipulate her…

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Onward…

By NOT denying your reputation and in fact, openly admitting it, you show confidence…you show the world that you’re indifferent to their opinions and an admirer of female beauty. You’ll show women that you’re a badboy, but it’s take it or leave it..and women LOVE badboys!

Do you understand what this means? It means that a reputation will HELP your success. Remember that a reputation is based on GOSSIP, which is always exaggerrated..meaning people will exaggerate how badboy-ish you are, how many women you’ve conquered, how dangerous you are…and thus how EXCITING you are. Which only AIDS you in your seduction…

And if you truly want to be a world-class seducer who can even seduce the most noble and honorable women around..you’ll cater to the idea that she’s taming the badboy..that she can reform you into a good guy…a hero instead of pure evil. So talk about regretting your actions of the past, wanting to change, show that you are ashamed of your former self..feel sick about your old ways..

Taming the badboy is also compelling because it gives her the idea that if she succeeds, she will be BETTER than all the other women that you’ve had: she’s the only one who has you alllll to herself. THIS flatters her ego, satisfies her thirst for competition..and it means she will have proven that she IS a real woman…

And that’s the astonishing power of having a reputation…

Speaking of having a reputation: although he is a fictional character in a TV show, Barney Stinson can teach you a thing or two about reputations and women as I explained in my blog with Barney Stinson tips to pick up chicks.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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