Life would be a helluva lot easier if you could just open an app on your phone and it would show you all the women around you that were into you.

Problem is, that app is a long way off in the future. So instead of wishing on a dream, why don’t we talk about the real world?

If you want to know if a chick likes you, you need to know what signs to watch for.

Let’s start with:

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #1: She’s whipping her mane…

There’s a great scene in Charlies Angels (the movie from way back) where Lucy Liu advises Cameron Diaz to “flip your damn hair.” Cameron does, and the guy loses his mind for her.

To be fair, Cameron would only have to show up for guys to lose it over her, but whatever.

That hair-flip maneuver works, though. It’s part of a whole set of actions women take subconsciously that give away her true interest level in you.

It’s called Primping. These are body language “tells” that show how much she wants you.

She’ll do stuff like:

• Flip her hair
• Play with her straw
• Giggle
• Fix her blouse
• Fix her hair

The list is really endless. Just watch out for those signs she’s giving off that tell you she’s lovin’ it…

How to tell if a girl is digging you – Signal #2: She’s smiling more than the Joker…

The reality of a woman’s interest is that she’s going to go a little over board to make sure you get the hint that she’s interested in you. Women usually put out way too many signals to count when she’s ready to play.

Smiling is one of those things she won’t be able to help herself from doing. She’ll smile a lot to show her happiness.

• Happy that she found a guy she didn’t have to lose like a case of the crabs…
• Happy that she doesn’t have to sit there alone and wonder if every person in there is judging her because she’s not talking to someone…

Happiness is going to show as a smile on her face.

If she looks too serious, you should consider that a sign of disinterest – especially if she isn’t ponying up some conversation to keep things going.

How to tell if a girl likes you – Signal #3: She’s confusing you…

On the other hand, a woman often doesn’t know how to make you understand she likes you without pulling away her interest every couple minutes.

This happens when she likes you, and starts showing that she likes you, and then realizes she’s showing her interest. Then she acts the opposite way to be “hard to get.” Mostly so she doesn’t have to feel like a “slut.”

Look, I didn’t make them like this. I know it sounds kind of crazy.

But that’s how women think. 

They’re riding this insane roller coaster of emotions in their head (all self-generated emotions, mind you – but she wouldn’t believe that.) And she doesn’t realize how her actions reflect the awkward and irrational stuff in her head.

So if she’s confusing you with hot & cold signals, you can assume that there’s some interest there. If she wasn’t interested at all, you would only get the not-interested version of her.

How to tell if a girl wants you – Signal #4: She’s Laughing…

Not laughing AT you, but with you.

This is kind of a cliche, but it’s true. Women don’t want to lead guys on, so she won’t laugh at anything you’re saying if she’s not genuinely interested.

How to tell if a girl is attracted to you – Signal #5: She’s All Touchy…

If she’s suddenly touchy-feely with you, she’s got to be considering you as a romantic interest. Women don’t usually get physical with a guy they’re not at least a little interested in.

Now there’s another reason that women do this, and that’s to “Stir The Pot.”

You see, women like to provoke things to find out what emotions are involved. She’s wondering if she has any power or control over you, and she might be doing this to see how you’ll respond. If you get too touchy back, she’ll shut you down.

So just take it in stride and stay relaxed.

How to tell if she wants you – Signal #6: She’s Jealous…

If you talk to another girl and she gets snippy or weird on you, chances are:

1. She’s interested – and
2. She’s triggered…

By triggered, I mean that she’s got some emotional baggage that just came to the surface.

A lot of women have weirdness around handling situations with another woman in the picture. Either she’s been cheated on before, or she’s got some insecurities about relationships with competition in them.

Either way, it’s a good sign to start out with. But stay frosty and keep an eye out that she doesn’t have a psycho vibe underneath that. Sometimes a woman’s crazy will completely overtake her interest and feelings for you, and it will get weird – fast.

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #7: She hunts you down…

If a girl is interested in a guy, she will not want to take a chance that you’ll find someone else and ditch her. Women HATE lost opportunities.

So watch for her to actively try to get back with you. If you’re in a bar or club, she’ll find you. Or make her way back to you in some way.

She will have to do it by breaking away from her clique of chick friends, though, so be on the lookout for her. If she’s trying, you have to jump back in once you’ve confirmed she’s searching.

But also realize that if she’s hot, she doesn’t need to hunt anyone down.

Keep an eye out for her interest, and act while you’ve got her interest pointed toward you…

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #8: She points out the coinky-dinks…

If she’s liking you, she’s also going to seize any opportunity to send a signal to you that says: “Hey, this is destiny!”

She’ll pick up on any random thing that you both like, no matter how stupid.

“Hey, we both like breathing and eating food!”

Okay, maybe not that stupid, but you’ll know it when you hear it. She’ll point out simple, stupid things that connect you.

Like:

• Same taste in music
• Same taste in TV shows
• Same taste in food
• Same taste in drinks

You get the picture.

By the way, if you spot something she likes that’s particularly obscure – and you like it – you should point it out. She’ll take it as a sign.

Or … not.

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #9: She’s giving you verbal signals…

Women are both subtle AND predictable when it comes to language…

She will say things that are meant to be a green light for you to move forward with her. And if you don’t catch these signals, you might lose your shot. She only opens her window of interest for a short time, and she expects YOU to know when that happens!

Now, you have to know how to talk to a woman to find out if she’s giving you these signals. Otherwise, you’ll be waiting and hoping for them to show up. And that could be a long time coming…

The best thing you can do is know all the signals to look for – AND how women are triggered to feel attraction for you.

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What’s one of the biggest “disadvantages” of meeting women in bars according to almost everyone?

The loud music.

Because of the high volume of the music, you’re going to have a tough time with learning how to meet women in bars because the music makes having a normal conversation difficult.

And that’s when you and a woman can actually hear each other, but sometimes the music in a venue is so loud that you can’t hear anything but the music. Does that mean meeting women in bars will be a guaranteed failure?

Hell no… and we can thank more and more governments of the world for that.

Here’s why: no smoking policies are becoming stricter and stricter around the globe. You used to be able to puff a smoke at the airport, but now smoking in public places is off limits or limited to a specific area. Same thing goes for more and more clubs and bars: no smoking inside, please take your but outside with yoru Marlboro and your Camel people.

Now, imagine you were a woman that smoked and you’re forced to stand outside the bar every time you want to smoke a cigarette, how would you feel if you were standing outside?

Pretty damn BORED, because the music is way less present, during the night it’s usually (in most countries) pretty cold outside most of the time and you have nothing better to do than to stand there with your cigarette.

I call that a goldmine my friend because:

– The women outside are bored
– The volume of the music outside is naturally much lower
– The number of guys competing for a woman outside is way, way less than compared to when you go back into the club or bar

There you go: 3 things that make approaching smoking women a whole lot easier these days.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a smoker and only smoked for like two weeks in my entire life, but I STILL go outside to that “smoker area” when I want to meet women in bars because it’s the easiest place in a bar ever.

So how to meet women in bars that are taking a little smoking break you say? Here are some thing sto say…

How To Meet Women In Bars
Technique #1: Asking For A Cigarette

How To Meet Women In Bars
Technique #2: The Debate

You can bet your ass that more and more countries will be making clubs and bars off limits for smokers if they haven’t done so already, and that alone gives you several things to talk about with women.

Remember SARS? The Mexican fly? Who doesn’t and there’s a high chance another so called super dangerous disease will be launched next year. Use it, debate style!

Almost every smoker is pissed about having to stand outside of the club or bar when they want to smoke like he/she is some outcast or something. An easy way to cash in on this fact is sinply by debating it with women.

Make a playful comment about it: “Jeez… and then they wonder why so many people got infected with the Mexican flu, with all of us smokers having to stand outside half the evening.”

Simply talking with a woman about how you disagree with it and what you would do to the guy that invented this stupid anti-smoking indoors law will give you more than enough ways to start a conversation. Then it’s only a matter of creating attraction after that.

If you want to learn how to meet women in bars, you wouldn’t mind me telling you about another hot spot to meet women in bars would you?

How To Meet Women In Bars
Technique #3: The Lounge Area

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One of the diehard readers of the blog recently sent me an email asking me how to pick up a female bartender and I was like:

“You know what? There’s not much too it, but this isn’t the first email about how to pick up a female bartender. So, let’s write a blog post about it!” And you’re reading the result dude.

Question From A Reader About How To Pick Up A Female Bartender

“Hi D, whenever I go out I come across a LOT of hot women that are working there. You know, bartenders, waitresses..and although I don’t have any approach anxiety whatsoever, or FEAR rejection and just go and talk to them..I always FAIL! I want to know how to pick up a female bartender.

I ask them stuff like how long they’ve been working there, try to get to talking about the drinks they have (and what their favorite is) to get a conversation started. And although I sometimes end up talking to a waitress for half an hour or something, they almost always quickly lose interest in me and we just end up chatting with a “hey friend” kinda atmosphere around the whole interaction. What am I doing wrong? I don’t want to be the friend, I want to actually DATE these women!”

— Alexander, Memphis, USA

My Comments On How To Pick Up A Female Bartender

Whether you’re realizing it or not, you’re a “regular” guy, a run of the mill wussy that a woman could care less about. That is not how you pick up a female bartender dude.

Allow me to explain in a round-a-bout way..

What does every guy that actually owns a brain other then the little guy down there AND a bar or club do, when he wants to attract as much people to his joint as possible, and get them to come as often as he can?

Like it or not, but he gets himself a good looking staff.. so the place is as visually appealing as possible.

That’s why, more often that not, when you go to a GOOD bar or club..there are hot female bartenders or waitresses working, and walking around the place. Bartenders like her:

Most guys just order a drink, drewl as she gets it for him and then walk away wishing they could at least START a conversation with the hot bartender.

She’s standing there with her sexy outfit on, smile and looking like she has the best time of her life..which is more often than not, demanend by the company – company policy

And every guy IN there has his eyes deadlocked on her, while she’s bored as usual…

Why?

It’s because NO ONE realizes an important mindset that female bartenders have… and you NEED to know it if you want to know how to pick up a female bartender.

The vast majority of bartenders are envying everybody else who are having a great time with their friends, who are on the dance floor and who don’t have to work while she’s stuck there behind the friggin’ bar until 3 AM serving drinks.

But knowing this, gives you a clear, UNFAIR advantage over the competition..not that those jackasses have the guts to start a conversation with her, but still.

So how do you approach and get to talking? How to pick up a female bartender now you know this?

The KEY insight here is to engage her EMOTIONALLY rather than logically, forget the facts and boring, every day BS.

Attraction is a FEELING based on EMOTIONS, which makes attracting with women by talking about facts, logic and logical stuff an mission impossible..

And that’s even MORE so with bartenders, because EVERYBODY approaches her “logically”: “what’s your favorite drink?” or “can you get me this or that drink” or “hi how are you”..

Not gonna work..and the WORST things you could say to pick up a female bartender are:

“How’s your night?” or…

“How long have you been working here”

These are FATAL mistakes that will PREVENT you from every being able to generate attraction..because she’ll pigeon hole you in the “average guy” category in a heartbeat. If you want to know how to pick up a female bartender then, whatever you do, DON’T do what I just mentioned!

So you want to be emotional and bring about her emotions when you talk to bartenders and to do this you need to at least say something other than your drink order, dummy.

Duhh.

Me personally, I love saying stuff like THIS to pick up a female bartender:

“Did you know I read this study on bartenders, and apparently if a girl is a bartender with blonde hair and tall then she’s extra conversational, loves chatting to cute guys, and sometimes she tells lies to men, tell me is that true? Because I think it is”

And off course I’ll change the comment about the hair color and the height to meet how she looks (so it’s brunette then she’s extra…and so on..)

Her: “Haha! No that’s not true”

Me: “Ehhh! (buzzing noise) Wrong! Because there you go: you’re lying already … so it IS true!”

Me: “You look as though you’re having a fun time. So what’s the most exciting, life changing event that’s happened tonight..besides talking to me”

That’s teasing her, busting her balls, and talking directly to her emotions so she’ll instantly feel attraction for you at a gut level..

And oh yeah..it’s also funny as hell, and it shows confidence. Now THAT’S how to pick up a female bartender like her:

In doing this, you’re the ONE guy that really makes these girls nights, that saves their night and makes them have a little fun on a night that’s usually mindnumbing, and boring like NOTHING else.

You can bet your ass that they’ll remember you the next time you order and it gets you one step closer to your goal, which is to pick up a female bartender of course!

You also come across like you’re coming from a place where you’re out to have FUN, bust her chops, and generally create a fun atmosphere…

As opposed to the other 99% of the men out there who just STARE at the girls working the bar, wishing and hoping that by some miracle these girls will start a conversation with them.

Don’t be that guy..that creepy “is he a stalker?” guy that stares at women all night and makes them feel uncomfortable just because he WANTS to approach, but CAN’T.

That is NOT how to pick up a female bartender man. That’s not the way.

One More Thing About How To Pick Up A Female Bartender

Here’s a juicy secret: if the bar isn’t that busy and there’re stools at the bar where you can sit, then sit your but down and go on a playful teasing attraction spree where you tease the crap out of every girl behind the bar that you can find. It’s another one of my techniques for how to pick up a female bartender.
 
And if you got a pair, become a regular at these bars. That doesn’t mean the regular drunk (unless you’re DYING to be admitted tot the Alcoholics Anonymous association), but just a regular guest who’s seen there often..

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TRUE VALUE
Now here’s the paradox, we all have true value, whether it is financially dictated or not. Be an excellent poet (like me). A great sportsman, or have a quality that makes you stand out. We all have a quality, you know you do. Unfortunately in a hostile club environment its almost impossible to display our true value, Going to a club in a sports car will give you the 5 minutes of value you want, but you can’t drive it in the club so it’s not lasting and spending money will make you more popular, but how many of us can boast that ability. The catch is 90% of true value cannot be displayed at a club, therefore true value means nothing. I’m sorry but it doesn’t, this is where most people get it wrong.

PERCEIVED VALUE
So now that we know true value means sweet fuck all. We are left with perceived value, perceived value is the bluffing equivalent of going all in on a bad hand in poker, we can create perceived value and it’s the equalizer to all those guys who flash the cash and million dollar cars and the fact we can’t tell girls we just meet how special we are. We create our value. And we blow them out the water, and how do we weigh the value scale in our favour. We do it with PRE SELECTION and SOCIAL PROOF. Being seen with beautiful girls will give you unbelievable high perceived value. It doesn’t matter if you’re a hobo in the street, if you’re seen with belters you’ll be automatically seen as a cool guy who girls like! That’s it so simple, if your seen at a club with beautiful girls around you, it doesn’t matter if you came in on a bicycle and have two cents in your pockets, you’ll be amongst the Ferrari owners and millionaires with regards to value and this will make talking to any girl in the club 10 times easier, because your social proof is high and whatever you say will be reinforced as being cool, because your popular with the girls that are there.

Now what if you don’t know many hot girls that can add to your value, well it doesn’t matter, remember perceived value is like poker, it’s only as big what people see, so if you’re alone in a club and want to build up your perceived value, all you do is mini bait sets all over the club. In a club you see guys and girls talking all the time, you can’t hear what they saying but you see a guy talking to a hot girl and you insinuate and say to yourself he must be cool. Wow look, you’ve just given him perceived value. Baiting sets all over the club will give you perceived value. If you walk up to a girl and say “Wow, I like your shoes they match your bag, really nice, not many girls get that right, its impressive”. She’s not going to say fuck off creep, she’s going to say thank you, and then you say you got to go meet someone and you leave to bait someone else. Bang! That’s one mini baiting of a set done, your perceived value has gone up a few notches and you’ve gained a girl friend in a club. When you see her again, she will say there’s that nice guy who likes my shoes. If you do this ten times to ten different girls, you’ve just got yourself social proof which is perceived as pre selection, which makes you infinitely more attractive to woman.

Try it out, see the results.Good luck !
Remember always choose fight.

RockyJJP

GLOSSARY
VALUE: how important or popular you are amongst the people in the room with you.
PRE SELECTION: To be wanted by woman.
SOCIAL PROOF: majority of high value people know you in your current surrounding.
MINI BAITING OF SETS: To briefly talk to a girl or group of girls for less than 5 minutes.

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