When it comes to what to do on a first date, you need to know what to say to get a woman to come inside with you. Sounds like common sense, but as I shared in my blog post about what to say on a first date?

The difference between saying the right things and just talking to a chick is like night and day.

This is just one of the many secrets behind what to do on a first date to “get the girl,” so lets keep it moving, shall we?

You know, women have hang ups about sleeping with a guy on the first date, not because they don´t want to but because it´s socially not accepted.

They´ll be seen as SLUTS for doing that, for basically having the same sexual freedom as us men do, and they don´t want to lose their reputation or their self-respect. To some women, even kissing on the first date isn´t socially accepted.

And yet still, most guys only go to one place during a first date. Think about it: guy takes girl to nice restaurant or to the movies, and that´s it. That’s not how to have sex on the first date…

What To Do On A First Date: Location, Location, Location!

If you don’t want anything happening on the date then I highly recommend you stick to going to just one place, but if you want to know what to do on a first date to have sex?

Then listen up: make a journey of your day (or night) of the date. Go to multiple locations…

First grab a cup of coffee or a drink somewhere, then get her dirty somewhere else by going on an active date like roller skating, beachvolleyball, basketball, whatever. Why get her dirty? Simple: asking her to come inside with you so she can freshen up is being a polite gentleman, because no woman wants to stank up the place wherever she goes.

Result: the boundary to come inside with you will be really low when you offer her the opportunity to freshen up after an active date.

This is the first MAJOR clue for knowing what to do on a first date to have sex.

Doing several things with her makes her think, in her mind, thatyou two will already be on date 2 or 3 or 4 because you did very different activities together, which makes her drop her objections for coming inside with you altogether… especially if you use the time given to you to create attraction.

After your “mini-dates” it´ll be easy to get her to come inside with you, but don´t jump on her right away (unless she makes the first move off course)… and you completely catch her off-guard because she´ll expect a guy who’ll be all over her as soon as she walks in with you. Make her feel comfortable and safe inside your place first, talk some more, kiss her, and then take her to the bed…

THAT’S what to do on a first date to have sex with the woman you’re dating!

Say you´re not too creative and can’t come up with an “active” date to get her dirty, then a much simpler way to get her to come inside with you is to recognize her objections against coming inside and using them against her:

“Promise me something: that you WON´T be a rapist and be all over me as soon as I close the door behind me when I ask you to come inside with me.  I won´t regret asking you to come inside, will I?”

So, in this case, knowing what to do on a first date boils down to countering her objections by making them your own: YOU don’t want to be raped, YOU don’t want to regret going inside with her, etc.

Another way to lower the boundary to coming inside with you is: make her get used to your place by telling her you forgot your wallet at the start of the date, letting her come inside with you and letting wait in your room as you grab your wallet. It will mean that the place already looks familiar when she comes inside with you at the end of the date.

But now you know what to do on a first date to get a woman to come inside with you, how can you go all the way without you OR her regretting it?

What To Do On A First Date: Getting Physical With Her

Let’s check out what to do on a first date to get physical once you’ve gotten a woman to come inside with you…

Use what’s called the “Triangle.”

It´s done like this: look from her left eye, to her right eye, then look down to her lips, only to start with her left eye again. You make a triangular shape by looking at her like this, that’s where the name comes from.

If you look at each “spot” (so her lips, left eye, or right eye) for 1 to 2 seconds, the sexual tension will go through the roof. The best time to use this is when she´s talking.

Why?

If she stops talking when you do the Triangle, then you know she´s feeling the tension and that she wants to be kissed… and all you have to do then is kiss her already!

TIME OUT… and rewind a little…

Remember when I said a good way for learning what to do on a first date to have sex is going on an “active” date with a woman? There’s another reason for that:

It allows you to get up close and personal:

– You can strike a deal about the pay off the winner of the competition gets. Example: if you score a point with basketbal you get 1 kiss, if she scores… she does. It gets her used to things becoming more and more physical during the date…

– If you think she’s cheating during the competition (and you always think that because) you can accuse her of it, and give her a slap on that booty (her ass dude) as a punishment, or you can tickle her, and more… all to get more physical with her. Be creative!

Playful teasing has something to do with getting physical as well: when you tease women and make them laugh about themselves, women will give you a little slap on the shoulder or the arm, touch your hands, or push you a way a little when they think you’re mean… make it all part of the program and sex is only a matter of time.

FAST FORWARD

This isn’t a porn bible so I won’t even go there you pervert, but if you want to know more about sex techniques then I have two words for you: Kama… Sutra. The Kama Sutra is a legendary book with an amazing amount of sexual positions. I highly recommend you check it out.

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To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Because now it’s face to face, you don’t have much longer than a few seconds to think about what you’re going to say, there’s sounds, lights, other people all around you that distract your thinking (and her attention)… so it really gets down to business then. You have to have a plan for what to do on a date.

Don’t worry though, as I’ll you exactly what to do on a date: the where, the how, the what to say on a date, the what to do… everything!

What To Do On A Date:
Where To Go On A Date

Some people are more nervous than others, ESPECIALLY when they haven’t had a date in months, maybe even years…now, by getting in the mood you already prevent a lot of that. But there are other ways too though: what makes a man more nervous than looking her directly in the eyes when you first see her?

Allow yourself to get comfortable around her first and save the sitting across her for later on the date. It’s MUCH more confrontational, she’s looking at you and you’re looking back…which is VERY romantic and she’ll probably giggle if she’s into you but when you KNOW you’re going to be nervous? First sit next to her, instead of directly across…and walk to the location of your date (or sit next to her in the bus, train or taxi there) because that way, you don’t have to ALWAYS look her in the eyes because she isn’t directly in front of you.

Here’s another juicy secret: taking her somewhere to have a drink is nice, but it’s much smarter to go physical. By physical I mean eating with her somewhere or doing activities that need her and you to use parts (or all of) the body…yes I know that sounds creey, pervert-like, so let me explain:

What To Do On A Date:
When To Go On A Date

When you’re going out, off course you’re gonna do that at night…but when it comes to ALL other activities? Do it during the day or in the alte afternoon so it’ll be in the evening hours when you say your goodbyes. Why? Because most people are afraid of the dark…they just feel WAY less comfortable being somewhere in the evening or at night.
Especially with women on the first date: she could get raped, you could try to hurt her physically…these are all real possibilities she fears because how does SHE know that you really are who you are? Even when she has met you in person before, she still doesn’t know what your REAL plans are. Rape, murder and assault are all over the news, so she logically fears it.

Remember that she needs to feel comfortable around you, trust you and feel safe around you before she can decide if she’s coming home with you, if she wants to kiss you, etc. So make her feel as comfortable as possible and DON’T date her at night on the first date unless you’re going out to the clubs.

But wait – there’s more…holidays, vacations and during the weekends (including Friday) are the best days, because she doesn’t have to get up early in the morning the next day…which means you have MORE time because she doesn’t necessarily have to leave early (and it makes the boundary for her to sleep over lower guys)

What To Do On A Date:
What To Say On A Date

Remember that she’s, just as well as you and I are, bored and probably annoyed because of her predictable, lame daily routines and day-to-day obligations (paying the bills, doing the laundry, cooking some dinner, going to work etc.) and she never gets to meet someone interesting, go somewhere interesting or DO something interesting.

So by all means: AVOID being boring, predictable, lame and ordinary (and please…being needy or shallow doesn’t help either). Here are some do’s for you to have yourself a GREAT time, and a first kiss with her…

Follow these guidelines and you’ll do just fine…

What To Do On A Date
To Make It A Successful One

Thanks to choosing an activity over some random location, you two will already be touching each other because of feeding each other, teaching each other a move during a sport, rubbing sunblock (or better: aftersun too) on each other, dancing and so on.

Why is that so important? Because you can see HOW comfortable and safe she feels around you: if she allows you to touch her hips, the side of her belly, her arms, her shoulders, her legs without her moving the body part away? Then you know she’s comfortable enough to move forward, so do it MORE. When she isn’t comfortable, she isn’t YET which means you need to make her feel even more relaxed, attract her even more, connect with her even more and try again. And the moment you know she’s comfortable with you touching her? You know you can kiss her, because that’s the next step!
I want to show you guys a couple of powerful techniques you can use to have as much FUN as possible on whatever date you’re on…

Make a game out of everything. If she accidently spills a little bit of food, sunblock, dirt, drink or whatever on you or your clothes, consider THAT an invitation to squir sunblock all over her booty, to trip her (gently) and make her fall in the dirt, to “accidently” spill your drink on her too, etc. “Make love not war?” yeah right, because this way? You can be outrageous, playful, challenging AND laugh your ass off at the same time, it’ll be so much fun. Tickling her or playfighting with her does the trick too. Throw in a “the winner gets a…” too for even MORE fun!

Be spontaneous. Instead of going along with things exactly as planned, do something TOTALLY different. The more she’s familiar with what you’re going to do or where you’re going, the more fun it is. Example: if she’s from your neighborhood or city (or familiar in them) and you’re going to eat something somewhere, tell her where you’re going so she knows the route…and then halfway CHANGE it by saying no we’re going somewhere else. Than you can either REALLY go somewhere else OR take a detour of a couple of streets so it takes an extra 10 minutes to get there. It won’t be long before she realizes you walked in circles, she says it and then you say: “I know, I wanted to tease your IQ a little” with a slight smile…now THAT is teasing her…and a LOT of fun. Whenever you’re talking about some place that’s not far away, why not say “You know what? Let’s go there right NOW!”. Example: you’re in a restaurant talking about a beach, club or bowling alley or whatever…and then you go there last-minute!

“Winner” dates. Remember how you made a game out of everything? Why not say “the loser needs to take the winner to…” and move to another location? Or why not reverse roles because “the winner gives the loser a pitty gift?” This way, you’ll not only be able to be spontaneous, but also be able to make the date longer and most of all: increase trust. What’s a near PERFECT way of building trust, safety and making people feel comfortable? By showing them they ARE safe and comfortable with you on multiple locations AND while traveling there. I’ve had a couple of these winner dates that ended with having sex that same night (while it was the first date)…and you know why? Because in a woman’s mind, each location feels like 1 date…so going to 2 or 3 places feels like two or three DATES with you. Most women don’t want to have sex on the first date, but the2nd or the 3rd…catch my drift?

Have an invite ready. If you have pictures of you on vacation, while growing up or doing something out of the ordinary, or if you have a strange or unique thing in your home with a story such as a surfing board, a statue, an artifact, a strange book or whatever…why not get to talking about it and then, at the end of the date, tell her you wanna show her (and then tell the rest of the story with her in your house). You can also invite her in for a simple glass of wine, a movie she hasn’t seen but absolutely MUST see or a CD she by all means needs to listen to…all good reasons for inviting her in. If she feels comfortable enough to go inside with you, and you show her a good time WHILE she’s at your place…then the bed isn’t that far away my friend…

These are just 4 shortcuts out of my “bag of tricks” that allow you to have the best time EVER on dates.

It’s Still A Means To An End

 When you think about what to do on a date, don’t attach all your confidence, self-worth, self-esteeem and so on to one, single date…because the DATE in itself is NOT the final stop, it isn’t where you want to end up. It’s a means to an end: you date her so you can kiss her, move from kissing to touching, from touching to sex…and who knows? Maybe after a number of dates from dating to a relationship.

Do you understand what this means?

It means you should plan ahead. Don’t wait for the last minute with the first kiss, because you’ll have more performance anxiety than an impotent male pornstar…instead, make it a PART of your date (and not the end). There are all kinds of astonishingly simple ways in which you can do this, but here’s a basic example:

Say you go to the beach and you both aim for that tan, you rub sunblock all over her, then you can either ask her for a stroll down the beach (women LOVE it…it’s very romantic) and start strolling through the sand with her. Then, you stop her and point to the sea and say something like…”it’s so beautiful here, real beautiful…just like you” then you turn towards her and there you go: a simple chance to kiss. Afterwards continue strolling, you’ll feel much less nervous AND you can KISS her goodbye at the end of the date.

Don’t overthink the kissing…EVER. I’ve kissed many women during the first date by just looking at them at some random time until they look back, compliment them on how they smell, how soft their hair is, how beautiful their eyes are etc. lean in…and kiss. Also did it lots of times without the compliment, because if you’ve built enough attraction and showed her you’re the exact same guy she was having fun with online, on the phone or whatever…she’ll want to kiss you just as much as you want to kiss her. Most women actually THINK “when will he kiss me…when will he kiss me!?”, just ask your female friends…

And just to make sure you don’t think about the outcome of any given date too much because there are still TONS of dates left that you need to go on…

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