From Day 1 that I started recording, I intended this audio series to be an ongoing process where I enlighten you about how to meet women online episode by episode..and who knows..maybe I’ll even answer reader questions in future episodes! But I gotta give you a WARNING: there are no fancy pantsy studio’s, slick talk and beating around the bush in MY audio series.

No..this is hardcore, raw but realistic online dating advice for men where the content comes first, and the presentation second..that’s what this underground series is all about.

Go check out my How To Meet Women Online Videos below now!

So far, I’ve got 2 episodes for ya:

Episode I: “How To Meet Women Online – The Secret Power Of The Message Subject”. It comes in 2 parts and includes (among other things):

– Why The Header (Subject) Of Your Message Makes ALL The Difference
– The “Homepage Of Horror”: Why The Reason For 99% Of The Men Failing Starts With The Subject
– Inside A Woman’s Inbox..How To Get An Unfair Advantage Thanks To The Clueless Jackasses Out There
– How To Write A “Subject On Steroids”: One That Always Gets The Attention, And The Replies…
– And More…

Part I:

Part II:

Episode II: “Meeting Women Online – Sending Messages That Always Work”. It comes in 2 parts…and includes (among other things):

– Why Any Form Of Being Shallow Is Your Arch Enemy: A Guide To NOT Screwing Up Big Time
– The Fastest Way In Human History To Find Something To Write Her About
– How To Steal A Woman’s Game, Turn It Around, Attract Her..And Get Away With It
– How To Make Dan Brown, That Harry Potter Woman And Other Famous Writers Envy YOUR Writing Skills With 3 Techniques
– And More…

Part I:

Part II:

So tell me…what do you think about my advice on how to meet women online? More Episodes are on the way, but I’d like to start a discussion here and get some feedback from my readers about what they want and NEED to hear about online dating.

And meanwhile, I want to show you some online date tips you should never follow, because they’re lies or will make the online dating game real difficult for you.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Let’s first take a look at how crappy the messages in a woman’s profile inbox usually are. Attractive females receive around 20-50 messages a day, which are almost ALL the same ones (they fall into the three categories I describe below) that annoy the heck out of her. This is a big fat what NOT to do:

– You can tell a woman she’s pretty, an angel or whatever, but doing that will only make her think: how many women did you use this one on already? It’s letting her know you not even took the time to READ her profile! Or she’ll feel that your interest is only shallow (you like her for her looks), and not genuine (you like her for who she is – her personality). Being shallow KILLS attraction.

– You can tell a woman that you’re probably not here type but would love to talk to her sometime, which reads I’m already writing myself off and think I’m WAY out of your league in her language. It’s coming across insecure, and desperate. Being desperate or insecure RUINS your chances.

– You can tell a woman she’s hot and that she should add you on blabla@yadayada.com, but guess how many of those other 50 messages say that? Guess how needy and desperate you’ll come across, and why would she even add a stranger to her Instant Messenger or worse: call him? Being needy cripples your chances of getting her number. It’s not the way to meet women online.

These all WON’T work, because you’re telling her the wrong kinds of things, and you’re not talking to her for who she is but for how she looks. The best way to get her to respond to your message is by, drumroll please, talking to her about who she is.

But how can you start to date women online by using who they are “against” them? Good question!

I always, 24 hour a day, use HER hobbies, interests, likes, passions and activities to create attraction by teasing them about it. I let her know I’m selective, that I’m a playful guy and that I’m not afraid to challenge her for who she is all at the same time. In short: let the accusing begin!

Off course you’ll start to wonder why.

How To Meet Women Online: Why Is Teasing So Effective?

There are a number of psychological reasons for it being so darn effective as it really is, and I’d like to share them with you so you’ll know WHY you’re doing what you’re doing, and WHY it works.

– I’m teasing with accusations (see examples below), and what’s the most logical response to an accusation? Defending your case, in fact studies have shown that we’re DRAWN to explain ourselves when we’re accused of something, so a response is triggered because of human nature itself!

– Most men are intimated by a woman’s looks, even with online dating, and will either hesitate to approach her or won’t approach her at all. Next to this, they’ll try to do everything for her and be really sweet to make her like them, in short: they aim to please. Thirdly, lots of men are NERVOUS when physically around women: they feel uncomfortable, not at ease, they’re body is tense.

– But guess what happens when you tease her? You’ll show you’re NOT intimidated by her looks and NOT afraid of showing interest in her. You’re NOT trying to be someone else just so she’ll like you more or agree with everything she says, is and does like all those but kissing men out there. You’re also showing her that you’re comfortable around women, yourself around women, you’re at tease and relaxed (almost TOO relaxed). These are all attractive qualities in a man. Hell, this is the first thing I tell men who ask me how to meet women online

– Now, when you accuse her, you first of all playfully tease her which is a lot of fun, it’s exciting and she’ll want to play around MORE (and she’ll start teasing and accusing YOU because of it). Next to this, women always have been the most selective of the sexes. Why? Because men don’t run any risks when they have sex (except for STDs off course), but women? Women run the risk of becoming PREGNANT: being unstable and limited in their moments for a long period of time, plus they’ll have a child afterwards that needs to be taken care of too.

And if a woman would indulge in giving in to every guy trying to seduce her? She A) wouldn’t have a life, B) would constantly be pregnant which would make it harder and harder for her and the increasing number of children to survive and C) not every man is born equal, as such a woman will want a guy with genes that offer the highest chance of survival for her offspring.

So women NEED to be selective, they need to select a best possible mate or humankind would die pretty fast. But when YOU are the one doing the selecting with your accusing, magical things start to happen: all of a sudden YOU are perceived to be the object of desire, YOU are sought after and harassed by women who want to mate making it hard for YOU to have a life.

We want what everyone else is having, because if everything else wants it then it MUST be good, right? You’re subcommunicating that you’re amazingly good by teasing, challenging and accusing her, and since women want men with good genes? They’ll want YOU!

This is an important lesson about how to meet women online, so let’s look at some examples, shall we?

Examples

– I looked at your profile and noticed how you like spaghetti, but are NOT from Italy. Tell me: you’re NOT of those suit wearing, slick talking, gelled-out hairdo Godfather WANNABEES are you? What are you wanted for? Tell me!

– I looked at your online dating profile and noticed how you like horses, and I’m kinda curious because I don’t usually hang around with horseriders that much, so is it TRUE, that horseriders get a firmer *SS from ALL that riding in the sadle?

– I looked at your profile and noticed how you have BLUE eyes but DARK hair, which is an ABSOLUTE freak of nature, it never happens! So that makes me wonder, tell me, you’re a DUMB BLONDE by nature aren’t you? (A)

I can hear you think: yeah, but that would take AGES to do, right? WRONG! You just have to know what to look for on her profile, and here’s what you should be looking for:

1. As soon as you land on her profile and saw that she’s kinda cute, only pay attention to her hobbies, likes, dislikes etc. there ALL in the Interest section (or in her Description). You can recognize the Interest area of her profile by looking for the place where she answers things like Hobbies: hobby 1, 2, 3 and Music: artist 1, CD 2, etc.

2. As soon as you’ve found a couple of things you could go with, find the one that’s easiest to tease her with: say she has shopping, cooking and tae bo as her interests and you only know tae bo, make things as easy as possible for yourself and tease her with THAT: so I was looking around on your profile again and saw you’re into tae bo, getting into shape by punching and kicking your way through the day. So be honest here: How many exes did you secretly beat the crap out of and should I sleep with one eye open when I know you personally? :P. It’s accusing her of being an abusive girlfriend, an agressive lover, etc. Why go for the easiest one? Let me explain..

What’s a very predictable response to an accusation? A defense: nooo I’m not like that hahaha or that so untrue! you’re so mean, those kinds of answers. And an easy way to continue that most common reply is: all I hear is a GUILTY conscience talking you LIAR you! just admit it: you’re a threat to every boyfriend you have which will amplify the attraction even more. You see? That’s already a second message right there.

The Final Step Of How To Meet Women Online: An Intro Insight To Getting Her Contact Information

In the end, women must feel comfortable and safe enough around you to move to the next step with you. You must be a trustworthy guy, and you can make sure she feels like this by CONNECTING with her. Why is connecting with her so important? Because if you’re only accusing, sooner or later she’ll think she DOESN’T stand a chance. This is because you’re positioning yourself as more dominant than her (you are the object of desire, she’s not. You are the almighty accuser, the judge, and she’s the defender, the weaker one on trial).

Do you understand what this means? It means that playing TOO hard to get will make her think you’re out of her league, no really, she will!

So connect with her. How?

I’ll switch it up and continue the topic in a way that builds a connection, in the case of the tae bo girl I would continue about tae bo (how does doing it make her feel, what’s important to her about getting into shape, at what level of Tae Bo does she work out, etc.).

You see? Searching for the thing that’s easiest for you to talk about (because you can think of multiple things to tease and to connect around that subject) leads to entire conversations online, and when you’re messaging back and forth like this for about 4-5 messages long? Then it’s easy to say: I have to go now, so why don’t you give me your number, because then we can continue this conversation on the phone tomorrow. There you go: you got yourself a number. Real easy to work with these online dating tips huh?

Something like that will do just fine. If you look closely, you’ll see I’m STILL talking about EMOTIONS (the how does it make you feel?). Why? Because attraction is based on a feeling, on EMOTIONS and not on logical stuff and rational thinking, that’s BORING. So I always avoid talking logical stuff and constantly involve emotions, throw in some humor here and there, tease her about her answer in the next message, and so on.

A final IMPORTANT thing to do is: always make sure YOU are having fun as well, because if you’re not enjoying yourself while learning how to meet women online, then why do it in the first place?

And on a side note here: your online dating profile is also important if you want to have success meeting women online, so check out my blog post with online dating profile examples to start improving it!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

P.S. According to Forrester Research, 97% of the men who try online dating quit within 3 months because of a lack of results. And if you want to belong to the 3% who meet women online without much effort because you know when to do what, then click here now to gain access to the dozens of tips inside my FREE Online Dating Newsletter.

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At first, it seemed kinda cool: if this beautiful girl doesn´t reply, I´ll just write another one until someone DOES reply and I can meet and date her. But after a while, I messaged all the women aged 20-24 in my city and still didn´t have much success, maybe some phone numbers but NO dates yet. Then I started messaging women in my age group that lived in another city, got a couple of dates, wanted more, and continued messaging women.

And when I finally knew what I was doing online, I had a MAJOR dilemma: how do I message women if I already messaged ALL the cute ones that won´t take me longer then an hour to travel to them?

I´m talking about the end of the road here: how to make the most of those search results?

SAVE your search criteria every time you search for women to send a message to, and I´ll tell you why.

1. Because Of How A Woman´s Profile Inbox Works
An attractive woman, on average, receives dozens of messages a day, around 50 to be exact. Meanwhile, ANY given inbox page can contain 25 up to 30 messages. Do you understand what this means? It means that EVERY day, around 20 messages end up on Page 2, but do women want to read page 2? No.

Why? Because 99% of the messages women receive are predictable, lame, boring, needy and desperate or cheezy.

Here are some examples:

– You´re gorgeous, add me on blabla@hotmail.com (needy, why would she add a total stranger that drewls all over her looks?)
– Is heaven missing an angel? Because you sure look like one! (cheezy, why would a woman who actually has a brain fall for THE most used pick up line ever?)

Imagine you would receive 50 messages just like the above ones, EVERY day. Would you even bother reading the 20th message? No you won´t. You´ll be bored, annoyed or disgusted long before that, meaning that all the messages AFTER about the 20th one might as well never be sent because no one´s reading.

Say you are message number 26 on page 2, then no matter HOW good your message is, your message will probably NEVER be read simply because of the numbers game I explained above. Seems like a MAJOR bummer doesn´t it?

But it ISN´T – it means that when you know how to communicate with women online, that the vast majority of women who NEVER reply to your message ACCIDENTLY didn´t reply. And when you SAVE your search criteria and repeat the exact same search 2 to 3 weeks later, and message the women who didn´t reply, guess what happens?

New day, new chances buddy: I guarantee you that there will be women who didn´t reply before, who WILL reply NOW because of the numbers game. All of a sudden, your enormous source of search results, e.g. the internet, will NEVER run dry! So don’t have hard feelings when you want to know the KEY insight behind how to pick up women online, because persistence is a winner’s quality…

That’s actually one of the best online date tips I can give you: persist. You’ll succeed when you persist.

2. Because Of The Mister Me Too Effect
There are around a hundred dating sites and probably even more social networks online in the US alone, and us humans follow the herd more than we think: if a MILLION people have a MySpace profile than hey, MySpace MUST be good so if I´ll ever join a social network, I should join THAT one. The mister me too effect.

This gives you a HUGE advantage when you´re meeting and dating women online, especially in the long run. Think about it: around 100 new people sign up for a fairly mediocre site every single day, and when we don´t discriminate and say half of those are women, then there are 350 new women on an average site every week! Imagine how much new ones there are on the Big Boys such as MySpace, Facebook and Match.com.

There´s a big impact for your search results: when you save your search criteria and get back to them 2 to 3 weeks later, there will be AT LEAST 700 to 1050 new women on the site you´re on. Consider this: most have age groups you search for (<18, 18-24 etc.) and there are about 7 of these age groups, guess what this means? A 100 to 150 new women for you to meet and date, that are about the SAME age you are! But WAIT – there´s more: because new women haven´t been on there that long, they have been bothered by LESS men and their lame, boring and cheezy messages before (and are thus more OPEN to meeting men). Next to this, they´re harder to find (because everyone SKIPS search criteria after searching for them once, remember?) AND harder to message (because a new woman´s profile is mostly EMPTY or almost empty – which gives a guy less to work with). There you go: 3 reasons for why it´s MUCH easier to meet and date new women than the ladies who´ve been on the site for some time now. Here’s a juicy secret: say you have a profile on one of the Big Boys of social networks…I’m talking sites that have millions and millions of members such as MySpace, Facebook, etc. (basically any site that has 1.000.000+ members). Guess what happens when you search for women in your city (or region)? You’ll find SO much, that you’ll end op with a couple dozen pages filled with what..20 or so search results per page? And most of us, gentlemen, quit around page 9. That means that there still are a couple dozen search results pages that weren’t checked out yet left when you log on, thinking you “nailed” New York City or wherever the heck you live. WRONG! Save those criteria and continue with page 10 (the first page you haven’t checked out yet) and continue messaging dude, because those are ALL women you haven’t talked to yet…and who knows…the one (or the dozen, lol) may be among them..

Don´t you feel stupid for not having saved your search criteria before? I know I did when I realized these things. But if you didn´t know before I guess you know now, and be sure to save those criteria my friend.

And if you want to discover staggering amounts of other insider information from a world-class internet seducer so you can DOUBLE your online dating from the comfort of your own home almost overnight, then I highly recommend you check out my Online Mentorship Program.

It´s a simple, step-by-step online dating guide that shows you how to pick up women online by taking you all the way from how to choose a good site to have a profile on and actually building an outrageously successfull profile, to getting a lady´s contact info, talking to her on the phone, via email or Instant Messenger and what to do before AND during a date.

You can also check out my blog post about how to pick up women online for more free online dating tips.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

P.S. According to Forrester Research, 97% of the men who try online dating quit within 3 months because of a lack of results. And if you want to belong to the 3% who meet women online without much effort because you know when to do what, then click here now to gain access to the dozens of tips inside my FREE Online Dating Newsletter.

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The result: they WASTE countless hours doing NOTHING online. Wasting time while meeting women online is more deceptive than it sounds: time flies by when you’re easily distracted, and I’d like to give you 3 time SAVING tips that will PREVENT you from losing focus and doing what you came there to do in the first place, which is meeting interesting women.

How To Pick Up Girls Online Tip #1: Only One Photo, Is a No-No
There are truckloads full of women who only upload ONE, single photo and put it on their profile, and an equal amount of men sending them messages. And those men are all, simple and plain, as smart as my shoe size. Because when a woman only uploads ONE photo of herself for the entire planet to see, off course she’ll upload the most stunning photo of herself she can find, probably the best one ever made if she wants to meet a man.

Why? Think about it: if you can only fire one shot at the enemy when you’re at war, off course you’ll fire the most state of the art assault rifle you can find and not a near zero result musket that shoots blanks.

A woman will upload a photo that shows her from the best angle. Do you understand what this means? It means she can only DISAPPOINT in real life, because in real life, sooner or later the world WON’T show her from the best angle possible.

When a woman has MULTIPLE photos on her profile on the other hand, you can COMPARE the good, the bad and the ugly and you’ll have a pretty sound idea of what she REALLY looks like. When that doesn’t disappoint, good for you, you can go ahead and meet her without worrying too much about how she looks.

Women with several photos tend to NOT disappoint because you can compare, so avoid breaking your own heart because that one, single photo was a misrepresentation of who she truly is.

How To Pick Up Girls Online Tip #2: Did You See When She Was Last Online?
Most would-be womanizers online just randomly send messages to random women without even taking a close look at their profile, and it’s a HUGE MISTAKE. That’s one of those online date tips I’ll never give you, because it’s not a tip… but a fast ticket to failure.

You see, there are lots of women who AREN’T online every day. When they’re not one for 1 to 2 weeks, it’s no biggie because women have a life of their own too and they may be busy doing other stuff. Plus, they could also be on vacation buddy.

But when a woman hasn’t been online for 3 weeks up to several months? Than a little alarm bell should start to rinkl, because why would she ever be online tomorrow when she wasn’t interested in checking out her profile for all this time?

You can forget it, because chances are she has either lost interest in the site OR has forgotten all about it when she hasn’t been on for 3 weeks or more. This means it’s much better to SKIP all women that were last online more than 3 weeks ago.

Why? Lets do a little numbers game: say it takes you 5 minutes to write a message and you spend 1 hour a day on messaging the women you want, that means you’ll send 12 messages a day. What would happen if you would forget all about checking out when women were last online?

Since the average active v.s inactive rate on most sites is around 50%, that would mean you’re WASTING 3,5 hours a week, which is sending 42 messages with absolutely ZERO effect! Most fellas never realize this, so imagine the consequences of being clueless on a larger timescale: it’s WASTING 182 hours (or 2184 useless messages) every year that you’re online, hours you COULD have spend on messaging women that do check out their profile regularly. So anyone who AVOIDS making this mistake, could learn how to meet and date women much faster than his braindead competition.

How To Pick Up Girls Online Tip #3: Don’t Stall, But Go In, Do Your Thing, And Walk Away
I could never understand why men read a woman’s ENTIRE profile, and I still can’t. It’s an enormous waste of time to check out her events, her blog posts, her friends, her comments, her media and so forth.

Why? Because when you’re meeting women online, you don’t HAVE to talk about every friggin’ thing on that bloody profile of hers. Go in, do your thing, and be gone with the wind.

Since 99% of the messages women receive in their inbox are about how they look (messages like: you’re so pretty, is heaven missing an angel and so on), you’ll stand out based on talking with her about who she IS alone.

How? The easiest way is her INTERESTS: what oh what does she love to do? What are her biggest passions, her hobbies, her favorite pass times, her likes? Then pick the one you can easily talk about, give it a twist and TEASE her with it. If she likes pasta for example, I playfully tease her by asking her if she’s a wannabe mobster and how do I know her uncle isn’t called the Don.

And neeext! I always enter the profile, see if she’s attractive looking, see when she was last online, see her interests, message her about the one I can give a twist to the fastest, and I’m gone. No listening to her favorite songs, no scrolling through all her friends, no comment stalking or reading every word on her profile – I read what I can use, use it, and that’s it.

Another BLUNDER the vast majority of men make is that even when they AREN’T distracted by all the fancy pantsy words, lights and ornaments on a woman’s profile, they hang around more than a stalker does.

Say the girl just doesn’t have an interest on her profile you can do something with: maybe her hobbies are all dusty, or maybe you yourself can’t think of any darn thing. Then DON’T try to FORCE a message out of yourself by saying something just so you said at least something, because even if she DOES reply to your lame message? Then you’ll still bite the dust at second base my friend.

Off course ALL women will be challenging to send a message to at first, but it gets easier over time. I’m not saying you should SKIP all profiles that present you with a challenge, I’m saying go for it when you can think of something within 10 minutes and LEAVE when you can’t. Don’t stick around – walk away.

Don’t be like the rest of the men out there that spend 30 minutes on messaging one woman, because if that one woman just so happens to NOT reply to your message? Then it’s much like throwing half an hour in the trash can, for fun.

And if you want to discover staggering amounts of other insider information from a world-class internet seducer so you can DOUBLE your online dating from the comfort of your own home almost overnight, then I highly recommend you check out my Online Mentorship Program.

It´s a shortcut online dating guide that teaches you how to pick up girls online without ever leaving your house…which shows you how to write a profile that gets you message after message from hot women, and how to TRANSFORM those messages into dates…so you won’t have to fear ending up just as alone, single, and frustrated as you are now..

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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So consider this right here to be your eye-opener. I don’t even care if it takes TAPING your upper eyelids to your eyebrows and your lower ones to your cheeks…because I don’t want you to go ANYWHERE until you see what I see allright!?

And today, the sights to feast your eyes on are…ONLINE LOCATIONS.

I can’t understand why people stick to one (1) profile, I just can’t..and in a moment you’re gonna find out why that will be YOUR unfair advantage over the louzy competition. Pay attention okay? Because the information you’re about to get is THE clue to knowing how to meet women online…

Here’s the story: Marie Myspace has a profile on MySpace, while her outrageously hot sister Veronica Facebook has one on Facebook but NOT on MySpace..for no particular reason.

How are you ever going to find Veronica Facebook on MySpace? You WON’T..and there’s MySpace, Facebook, Match.com, Friendfinder.com, and site number 5 all the way to number 999…

Do you understand what this means?

It means having one profile means missing out on a LOT of women you COULD have met..maybe even women who live a couple of blocks away from you, wouldn’t you agree?

Say you would launch a second profile on another site, think of the advantages:

If you know how to meet women online and what your doing with your profile (and you will when you read more of my stuff), so how to create ATTRACTION with it by NOT being boring and introducing some friggin’ excitement to a woman’s life..then you can just COPY PASTE all the profile info of site A, to site B. If your profile is any good, you will now receive messages from women FIRST…on BOTH sites! You will now have MASSIVE amounts of women replying to your messages…on BOTH sites!

So there you go…DOUBLING your results in a matter of minutes. Now tell me: do you like my online date tips so far? If so, then start using them and you will improve your online dating results. Guaranteed!

And I’d sure like to see a handsome guy who meets and dates women in clubs, bars or on the streets CLONE himself then and there, on the spot..so he can meet multiple women in multiple places…AT THE SAME TIME.

He can’t while YOU can, you guessed it…all online.

But We’re NOT Done Talking About How To Meet Women Online Yet…

Because while most men remember that messaging new women is easier..because their email inbox is simply LESS full and you’ll stand out a LOT faster..EVERYBODY forgets NEW SITES.

You see, Myspace, Facebook and the likes are profitable..VERY profitable. So off course some other company will come in and try to eat their lunch, steal away their customers, create their own fan base and be rich. Heck, it’s what the economy LIVES on: competition. New social networking and dating sites are launched almost on a weekly basis (with social networks being the booming industry).

What’s in it for you? Think about it:

A new site means less people are on there, meaning LESS MEN are on there too. But WAIT – what do you mean competition? Are you kidding me? You’ll probably be the only guy there who actually knows what he’s DOING with meeting women online on that site!

There’s virtually NO competition, and because there’s hardly any competition, a woman’s profile inbox will be either EMPTY or near empty…making it A) easier for you to stand out in her inbox and B) she’ll be less annoyed and WAY more open to meeting new people because’s there’s no spam by losers involved.

There’s no country in the world that doesn’t have dating sites: international ones such as MySpace, Facebook and Match.com have members in every friggin’ nation..and a LOT of members. While joining them can never hurt your game (and I recommend you join one of those international Big Boys), you want to go in the OPPOSITE direction when looking to go from one to several profiles..you will want to look into LOCAL sites, next to the new ones.

Local social networks and dating sites can be the ones in your language only, or for your region only (New York dating or whatever, just an example)..purely based on numbers this is a good idea. Why? While MySpace has millions of members, “New York Dating” (it’s a name I just made up) and other local sites may only contain tens of thousands or maybe a couple hundred thousand members. Less men = easier to stand out.

But the real fun of this “numbers game” begins when you’re going for truly new sites that you didn’t even know about before, but for which you get an invite that goes something like “Cynthia just created a … profile, and wants YOU to join!” Maybe a couple of thousand or tens of thousands of members, but that’s IT.

YES it means there will be less women there.

But YES it will also mean that she will receive WAY less boring, cheezy and needy messages per day from men..which makes standing out in her inbox easier AND creating attraction easier because there’s no “annoyance because of all the spam factor” anymore. Talk about taking a shortcut to meet women online, lol!

YES there are also less men there, so she just has less options for messaging herself, and when you combine these two MAJOR advantages? It’s like releasing a wolf in a barn full of meety, delicious sheep..as it’s VERY likely that you’ll be the ONLY “predator” on there!

How To Meet Women Online Thanks To These New Goldmines

– Watch your inbox, most social networking sites have a “send an invitation to friends option”, so a lot of times you’ll get invitations in your regular email inbox to join lesser known sites (new ones)… it’s a good way for meeting women online in places where other men AREN’T ruining it for you!

– Ask women..I’ve noticed that the vast majority of invitations comes from women, so you can also ask your female friends/neigbors/relatives/colleagues and so on what sites they know or are on themselves..

– The news…you’ll be surprised of how many internet news is about the success of internet sites (duhhh)

– Google…search for dating plus your country name, in my case it would be “dating NL” for example. Search for “social networks” in your own language (in my language this would be “sociale netwerken”), know what I mean?

Some of my successess: running 4 profiles at the same time, while getting multiple phone numbers from women on all those sites totaling about 25 numbers a week! But man, that would have probably taken you the entire day to do, right? WRONG..one hour per day plus lunchbreak at work and THAT’S IT. And it could happen to you too..in a short afternoon.

There are other eye opening, secret shortcuts on your road to meeting and dating MASSIVE amounts of beautiful ladies via the internet, many others even..

Like improving your online dating profile so you make a better first impression. That’s also a BIG part of meeting women online, so if you want to know more about it then check out my blog post with online dating profile examples right now.

And there are many more, but I’ll leave that for another blog post about how to meet a woman online…

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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If you would know ANY woman with a profile and asked her about her inbox, you would already know what 99% of those enormous amounts of messages are all about: things like the shallow “you’re hot,” the needy “you’re gorgeous..so add me on blabla@whatever.com” or the overly nice one “I don’t know if you think I’m your type, but I would like to do blabla for you or take you to blabla.”

What do you see first, BEFORE you open up a new message? Think about it. Don’t worry, I’ll wait…

It’s the SUBJECT of the message!

Here’s the story: in marketing, they’ve done hours and hours of research on the effect of the headline of an advertisement versus the effect of the advertisement content…and what do you think was the result? Compelling headline, so subjects, INCREASED response with 10 to 20%.

Guess what subjects can do for YOU then? If you know how to “sell” yourself and make up a compelling one, you can ALSO increase the response to your “ads”…your messages.

The question then, off course, becomes…but how DO you make such a compelling subject?

“Sucker” Subjects…Those That Will Definitely NOT Mean Success For You

Next to the content of 99% of the messages being almost EXACTLY the same…guess what happens with the subjects of those messages?

One of three very “unique” ones is used: no subject (never took the time), the greetings subject (hi, hello, hi there, etc.) and the cheezy subject. What’s a cheezy subject? A shallow compliment based on her looks (you’re beautiful), a joke (see below), an overly used quote from a movie or song (“I’ll be back” or whatever) and pick up lines (heaven must be missing an angel and so on).

Here are some examples I took off a random female profile…

– Subject: you are the perfect example of beauty
– Subject: hello isabella
– Subject: hi
– Subject: HI HOW ARE YOU
– Subject: 3 ducks walked into a bar…
– Subject: Shame on you…(Your a theif.. you stole some stars from the night and made them your eyes)

And blablabla…THAT is what a woman will literally think. Just imagine receiving 50 messages per day with 20 times being hello, 20 having no subject and 10 being cheezy…every day, 365 days a year.

How long would it take for you to NOT open the messages with those subjects anymore?
My guess: you would stop within the first week = around 140 times hello, 140 times no subject and 70 times cheezy!

Here’s a hidden gem for you: actually TRY it…by searching on Google for photos of some random, cute woman and setting up a fake female profile with those photos on any given social networking site such as Facebook, MySpace, whatever. Take a look at her inbox once a week and read the first 20 messages (and their subjects) everytime you do…and you’ll KNOW what should be the difference between your crappy competition and YOU by knowing what doesn’t work. To know, is to slaughter the competition.

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Onward…

How To Pick Up Girls Online Lesson #1: Don’t skip the subject, use a simple greeting or use a cheezy subject
You’ll get SKIPPED when she’s going through her inbox, it’s a sign of you NOT reading her profile and if you’re cheezy by being interested in her looks only and not who she is…you will turn her off BIG TIME.

How To Pick Up Girls Online Lesson #2: The “Language Barrier”
You may think you’ll get her attention by turning on your Caps Lock and WRITING EVERYTHING IN BIG LETTERS, but to her? She’ll think: you’re needy for a conversation with a woman, that you’re an attention whore AND she’ll be annoyed because she has to read entire subjects or messages that use Caps Lock.

It get’s worse…you may think talking slang like 2night, l8, well hello thur, how r u and so on are cool…but the only women you’ll attract with those are women with dyslexia or women who think they need to be “ghetto” to earn a living or live their lives.

Next to this, Women who aren’t hip to the whole Instant Messenger hype where late becomes l8 and today becomes 2day, and there are lots of attractive ones in this category, will have a hard time reading your stuff.

Whatever’s the case, you’re narrowing down the odds of attracting a cute little lady IMMENSELY…as it has been proven that spelling mistakes guys make annoy women.

Why? “If he can’t even spell right, and that during the first time he’s trying to contact me…WHAT ELSE will he do wrong or go wrong with him, my god…” need I say more? That isn’t something you want them to think.

So check spelling, make sure the caps lock is off and one more thing: punctuation like three times the ? or ! will make you come across like you’re getting overly excited OR are needy for attention in much the same way the Caps Lock it…

Clues For Doing The Right Thing

So we now know women get annoyed by subjects that aren’t about them, subjects that are either predictable, lame, cheezy or boring, messages with no subject AT ALL, misspelled words and so forth…and since we now know the BAD, we can go the opposite way and do GOOD for ourselves.

What women want in a subject (and in messages too by the way) is…
– It has to be about THEM and not a shallow, cheezy or needy thing you can send to ANY woman
– It has to get their ATTENTION…and stand out from the hundreds of hello’s, no subjects etc.

There are some difficulties unique to writing subjects that we have to pay attention to while doing this though: subjects are always WAY shorter then messages, which means we need to give every word we use as much meaning as possible to be able to get her attention.

And what’s a better way to get her attention then playfully TEASING her about who she is? This does both things at once for you AND it can be done in just a few words…resulting in just the unique subject you need for your message to stand out…which makes her OPEN IT.

Using Her Own Life “Against Her”

I’ve already explained all the key features of sexual communication that will make her feel attracted to you, with one of them…the most FUN one…being to tease them.

And here’s how: look at her profile and look for the first hobby or interest you can find or respond to…foods, sports, her idols, movies, TV shows, nothing’s safe. EVERYONE has things they love to do, see, hear, etc. but NO ONE wants to overdo it…since ADDICTIONS are mostly perceived to be a bad thing by society. Guess what you’re going to accuse them of?

There’s her inbox with everybody saying hi, something cheesy, nothing at all in their subject…and there’s this stranger who’s playfully accusing her of being an addict of one of the things she loves to do most: “I can’t believe he’s saying that!” “Oh no he didn’t”, “How DARE he!” en “Just who in the hell does he think he is?” are the most common reactions to it…and they all make her open your message to find out just who in the hell dares to say that…and you’re IN!

Here are some examples to show you what I mean…

– She loves horses > SUBJECT: Heyyy…horse junkie
– Her favorite food is pasta > SUBJECT: Heyyy…Italy freak
– She just loves to play soccer > SUBJECT: Hi there…soccer mom
– Her all-time favorite movie is Scarface ? SUBJECT: Hello…Montana maniac

She’ll instantly know what you’re talking about and as you can see…all it takes is 3 to 4 words.
First you greet, then you mention her hobby or interest and then you give it the “addiction level status” using words such as: junkie, addict, freak, maniac, groupie, etc. and let her know it’s in the spirit of playfulness. The latter is done using the power of the emoticon…the :P. What does it stand for? Just type it in on MSN Messenger or Yahoo Messenger, look for it in your Hotmail emoticon options and you’ll see a face sticking his tongue out…there you go: a playful face.

Be sure to be specific: everybody goes to clubs sometimes, everybody drinks sometimes, we all have ourselves a snack…so see if you can answer the question WHICH. Which club? Which drink? Which snack, or which fast food chain? You get the idea…so be creative with it and have fun!

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Let’s continue…

But…What Do You Do If Her Profile Doesn’t Include Hobbies & Interests?

Hey, it happens. Some women just made themselves a profile and didn’t got around to the interests and hobbies yet…some are just simply too lazy (or secretive) to fill them in, but you still want to send them a message with a compelling subject, right?

There are ways of avoiding this “obstacle” though…and here are some things you should pay attention to when you happen to stumble across such a lazy or new chick:

– Where is she from (internationally speaking)? If she’s originally from another country, you can bet your *ss on her still receiving messages in your own language…so talk to her in HER language using the following format: “Heyyy…miss Argentina :P” so greet..pause…miss –her country here-. I highly recommend you search on Google for a translator or go to www.freetranslation.com and see if her language is on there and TRANSLATE the greeting and the miss. An example with a Spanish woman from Spain would be “Holaaa…senorita España :P”. Who talks to her in her own language? NO ONE…so you instantly stand out with your subject, and the lesser known her country is? The better!

– Where is she from (regionally speaking)? Different people have different habits, traditions, cultures and even dialects, right? Again, everybody’s riding in the normal way of your own language…while her school, city, region, state or whatever may have another dialect or habit. Why not Google for it quickly and use it to your advantage? Tease them with their own dialect or about food for example (“Heyyy…crappy Cajun cook :P”). Remember to be specific though.

– What doesn’t add up on her profile? Think about everything that’s considered to be normal or more normal and then look at her profile: a dark brunette with REALLY light blue eyes? Blonde, blue eyes is normal…so maybe she’s an “Heyyy…miss undercover blonde :P.” If she’s rich but has piercing, tattoos or whatever all over the place? Rich maybe means spoiled, but definitely not street…so maybe she’s having an “Heyyy…miss identity crisis :P”. Best thing is…you’re also setting yourself up to explain and tease her more with what the subject is all about in the CONTENT of the message (tell her you noticed she has a lot of money but looks like a dirty, backstreet biker and that you call THAT an identity crisis for example).

– What if her profile is “empty”? Sometimes you’ll have profiles that almost seem (or actually ARE) empty and the profile has one or more of the following: no interests & hobbies, no photos (or only one), no descriptions, no comments, and so forth. What to do in THAT case? ’Heyyy…empty profile girl :P’ and you explain it all and tease her with it in the content of your message. You can accuse her of being too dumb to understand what “save profile changes” and “a computer” means (use the “”, it’s funny and emphasizes your tease even more) and more in your message. Remember that nobody talks about and teases her with the empty profile, so this is a perfect technique for the very new girls and very lazy girls with hardly any profile BUT…warning: being specific (and talking about her) as much as possible will always work better because it grabs her attention more and makes her curious to open your message more and she’ll do it faster that way…so use this one as a “last resort.”

Here’s a juicy secret: say, you send a message to a horse junkie on Day 1 and discover another horse junkie on Day 4…it would be a WASTE of time if you had to type in that ENTIRE subject again. So what you do is turn on Auto-Fill. With most computers this is already on, but what does it do? When there’s a “form” you can fill in (a text box which you can write whatever you want in), it will actually STORE what you type in that text box on your computer…and the next time you want to write a message in that same text box? You type in just a few letters of the subject you want to use AGAIN and the Auto-Fill function will give you options you can pick from, pick the old one you already used and you just saved yourself a LOT of time! Youtube is an example of a website that also works with auto-fill, just try to search for any given video and you’ll see what I mean…

And remember: with all your subjects, keep it short, keep it simple, be specific…and be sure to EXPLAIN what you meant if things don’t add up on her profile and you’re using that for your subject. Have fun standing out and I’m MORE than sure you’ll win with women online…

One more thing: if you want more tips about how to pick up women online, then check out my blog post about how to pick up women online (click the link to read it.)

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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