When it comes to talking to women, knowing WHAT to say is huge.

It’s probably the most common question I get from guys, in fact.

“What do I say to her?”

And it’s just as important to know how to talk to a girl in a way that gets her sexually interested in you.

Let’s start off with a few things you shouldn’t say to a girl:

DON’T SAY THIS TO HER 1: Overly personal questions…

Some guys jump right into a rapid-fire interrogation of a woman when they meet her. It’s not meant to be scary or weird, just curious.

It’s not a job interview…

But if you ask her a bunch of questions about where she lives, where she works, where she likes to hang out, etc, it can freak a girl out.

Remember, women are always sensitive and aware of the threat of possible sexual assault, so you have to be sensitive to this when talking to her.

DON’T SAY THIS TO HER 2: Complimenting her on her appearance…

There is a right way and a wrong way to bring up a woman’s appearance. Most guys use this hook as a way to flatter a woman, and it usually sounds douchey and lame.

You don’t want to launch into a speech about how hot she looks, or any kind of compliments about her body. That just feels way too weird up front.

Avoid compliments that aren’t insightful and thoughtful.

DON’T SAY THIS TO HER 3: Bragging, or any kind of grandstanding…

Guys often feel like the most important thing to do when meeting a girl for the first time is to impress her.

This is usually the WORST thing you can do.

I get it, you want to stand out from the pack and look like a high-quality mating opportunity for her, but again it just looks douchey. Kinda like those mating dances that animals do to impress each other.

Don’t be THIS guy.

When a guy tries to impress a woman up front, he’s saying: “Hey, you’re the prize and I’m just a schmuck trying to win you over. I have inferior value, so I need to try hard to get your approval.”

The high value man doesn’t play this game. He knows that he wants HER to start trying to impress him as soon as possible in the conversation.

Don’t give your power away with this kind of needy behavior.

Okay, so what SHOULD you say to a girl?

Let’s cover a few of them:

What To Say To A Girl 1: “You caught my eye…”

Actually, you want to say this subtly, but you should give her a reason for your approaching her. Every woman knows WHY you’re talking to her – you want to bang her. It’s simple sexual science.

But she also wants to hear it in a way that tells her you’re confident and you’re going after what you want. That alone is flattering to her.

DOn’t let a good opportunity pass you by.

So just tell her something like:

“Hey, I saw you and thought you had a real nice energy about you. I knew I’d kick myself later if I didn’t say hi. My name’s ________”

That’s a sure-fire opener that will get you into a conversation with just about any girl.

Just say it with a level of seriousness. I see a lot of guys that approach and talk to women with a tone that is goofy and awkward – and they’re doing it on purpose! Usually to avoid being vulnerable in the event they’re rejected.

The beauty of this opener is that she can’t reject you. You just started a conversation based on curiosity. That’s it.

What To Say To A Girl 2: “I’m impressed…”

Letting a woman know you’re impressed with her is a subtle way of implying that she is working to get your approval. It’s a great way of flipping the tables on her so that she doesn’t think you’re just some guy trying to kiss her butt to get into her bed.

During the course of the conversation, if she says something you find interesting – or approval worthy – just say: “Huh. I’m impressed…”

She’ll feel acknowledged, and she’ll instantly feel a little pull towards you that she can’t explain.

What To Say To A Girl 3: “You look like trouble…”

This one goes way back to the old “pickup artist” days…

Basically you tell her how you see her as being a “bad girl.” Women like this mostly because they’ve been framed by society as these pure, snow-white angels of virtue. Girls can do no wrong, we’re told over and over again.

NOT!

Nothing sexier than a woman who can handle her own…

And not only is this false, she’s also dying to find a guy that knows it and is savvy enough to bring it out in the light. To talk about it.

Just tell her:

“You look like trouble. Are you planning a bank heist … like ‘Ocean’s 8’ or something?”

You’re not trying to brag your way into her world – you’re showing her that you’re seeing HER. This is a major turn-on for women.

They are obsessed with being able to cast a spell over the male mind… being so irresistible that you will crawl through miles of broken glass just to cry in her shadow.

What To Say To A Girl 4: “Maybe I was wrong about you…”

Another way to covertly flatter a woman (while positioning yourself as a high-value Alpha man) is to tell her you’re changing your mind about her.

Now, she might not have had the first care about what you think of her – at first. But once you tell her that you’re starting to warm up to her:

• She feels a jolt of approval…
• She wonders, “Wait… he didn’t like me before? WHY?”

It’s a little mind-trick, but it’s something that positions you much better in her mind than just blanketly approving of her. Most “nice guys” make this mistake of approving all over her – gushing their desire on her like a bad porn movie.

Drop that attitude now, because it’s the one thing that has kept you stuck in the friend zone with most of the women you meet.

You want to imply that you’re just starting to warm up to her, and it’s surprising. Get her to understand how she needs to step up and work for YOUR approval.

What To Say To A Girl 5: “No way…”

Again, most guys spend far too much time agreeing with women.

Another way to spark some attraction is to pull back a bit in disbelief. You can do this with slight sarcasm, or just a hint of “yeah… rrrrright.”

As your conversation progresses, and you start to warm up to each other, find a ripe moment where you can just not believe something she says.

Pique her interest with a good challenge…

Maybe she says she’s on her way to meet her mom for lunch…

“Yeah, right… I bet you use that on all the guys you’re trying to escape.”

Maybe she says she’s going to pick up her car from the shop…

“No way. You’re definitely a ‘lease the Lexus’ kind of girl. I’m not buying it.”

It’s playful and fun, with a hint of teasing.

What To Say To A Girl 6: “You like me…”

Again, in the vein of ‘things to say that reverse the roles…’

What you want to do is imply that she likes you, in a funny, non-douchey way.

• She says: “Oh, I don’t like that coffee” (or anything where she disagrees with you.)
• YOU say: “You’re starting to like me, huh?” (Smirk)

It’s your turn to play ‘hard to get’…

The humor should be there, of course. And it’s something that will get a laugh from her as well.

It’s also a way of breaking out of the usual routine of complimenting and kissing her ass all the time.

Just imply with an oblivious tone that she’s falling in like with you.

What To Say To A Girl 7: “That’s it, we’re done…”

You have to realize that 99% of all guys say the exact same things to a woman.

Usually involving him pretending to want to be a friend so he can, maybe, sneak into being her boyfriend in some magical fantasy he’s concocted in his head.

The pretending to be a friend is, of course, just another way to avoid the risk of being rejected. And in so doing ensures that he only winds up as her friend.

You have to know the kind of fun, challenging things to tell her that will spark her interest.

Who can resist cute, little furry animals?

One of the best is to pretend that you’re both already dating, and now it’s over.

“Yeah, I’m thinking we need to breakup. I’ll take the cats, you take the microwave. Deal?”

For one, woman hate the “breakup zone” so she’ll instantly be triggered to WANT to connect with you by framing it like this.

For another, it demonstrates that you can push back and disapprove of her – heck, even present yourself as a guy who can break it off with a woman. Jokingly.

There’s a lot going on with this one, and it is all good.

Plus, it’s funny.

And even more important, you need to know how to talk to women – and not have to memorize any lines…

Women are turned on by words, in fact.

But when you’re in the moment, face-to-face with a girl, you know you’re probably going to forget everything, right?

It’s like getting on stage for a play and forgetting your lines…

And that’s what usually stops guys from ever talking to a woman in the first place.

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And unfortunately, a lot of guys often make the mistake of spending a good chunk of their hard-earned money on dates and what-not to make their woman feel special, only to be kicked to the curb later on.

The reality is that guys are often at risk of being taken for a ride by unsavory women who’ll leave them high and dry in the end. Whether you’re the CEO of a major corporation or an average dude getting by from paycheck to paycheck, you might meet a girl who makes a game out of sucking men dry (and not in the way you hope).

If this kind of girl senses any emotional weakness in you, she’ll pour honey in your ear and get you to cough up everything you’ve ever worked for.

But you don’t have to be another notch on a gold digger’s belt. With a few simple attitude adjustments, you can build an airtight game against her tactics and avoid getting gouged.

#1: Call Her Out (But Be Subtle About It)

One thing you need to learn about being an Alpha Male is detaching yourself from the FEAR of speaking up when you get an unmistakable whiff of B.S.

Some guys are afraid of rocking the boat by calling someone out on their shenanigans even when it’s painfully obvious. But let me ask you: what’s the worst that could happen?

Could someone’s disapproval hurt you physically in some way? Will disagreeing with an attractive woman make you less than a man?

Think about that for a moment – it’s pretty liberating actually.

I’m digressing a bit, but the point is, the consequences of calling out someone with less-than-noble intentions aren’t as horrifying as you think.

Here’s an example: let’s say you’re trying to take things to the next level with her, but she gives you the red light. She might push back and tell you that she only sleeps with a guy who’s “in it for the long haul.”

If she’s more focused on sealing the deal on a relationship first, as opposed to going with the flow and figuring things out later, that could be a red flag. She might be more interested in the bottom line and securing her Return On Investment for putting out.

Here’s the best comeback to that kind of attitude:

“Personally, I’m a guy who goes for it if I’m feeling the chemistry. I don’t really see it as a needs exchange, you know, like having to put labels on a connection to justify sleeping with someone – that’s just how I see it.”

Don’t cave in her to way of thinking and push back in a firm but gentle way.

#2: Back Off And Play It Cool

After that, dial it down a few notches. Neediness is your enemy, so de-escalate things for a while and see how she reacts.

That’ll tell her you’re no pushover. More importantly, she’ll catch on to the fact that you’re willing to hit the brakes on attention and affection if something smells fishy.

#3: Cut Her Off Before She Even Gets Started

Some gold diggers aren’t so subtle; they might straight up ask for some dough if they know you’re loaded.

Warning: This is exactly where the cycle of dependency starts!

Like with everything we’ve talked about so far, you need to put your foot down early on in the game, but in a classy way.

She might drop hints that her credit score is shot to hell or her car payments are overdue. Watch out – she’s trying to pull on your Good Samaritan strings.

Instead of giving her the response she wants (e.g. “I could help you out ’til you get back on your feet…”), “praise” her on how well she’s keeping it together. Then follow it up with a subtle zinger to really give her the red light.

For instance, you could tell her, “Well that sucks. It’s pretty awesome how you’re not letting it cramp your style, though. Personally, I dig girls who have their financial stuff sorted out, and I’m sure you’ll be able to do that too one day.”

This is all under-the-radar stuff. If she’s trying to game you, don’t be afraid to throw a cleverly disguised curveball her way.

It’ll take a couple of moments for it to register, but she’ll get the message loud and clear.

Simple, right?

Remember, you can only be someone’s doormat with your consent.

Being an Alpha Male is about not putting up with anyone’s crap – not even from beautiful women. Above all, standing your ground tells a gold digger that you’re a man who deserves to be seen as a person, and not just what he makes in a year.

Speaking of Alpha qualities, I can show you the quickest way to start cultivating that rock-solid personality that women are addicted to.

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Well, first off, having game is context sensitive.

And if the situation in which your “gaming” a girl or a group of girls is also context sensitive, then shouldn’t the “player” be context sensitive as well? And wouldn’t improvising become ESSENTIAL to having game?

Before starting a conversation with anyone, we should make a solid “frame” as a foundation that we can game from: something we can refer to at all times, a frame of mind if you will.

This is the true definition of having game, because it will keep us on the right track and help us improve in the right areas. That way our game will have a path, that way we have a direction when we´re trying to get better at meeting & dating women… instead of being all over the place and not knowing what´s the next step.

When I first started “gaming” I didnt know whether to open a conversation sincerly or cocky, direct or indirect. I established that success in the initial phase (the start of a conversation and walking up to a woman) because of my particular frame.

My Own Frame For Having Game

Here´s my frame:

– Long dark hair.
– Rugged facial hair.
– Scar across my cheek.
– Dark completion.
– I’m an intimidating guy (kind of like Scarface):

Funny sidenote about the frame for having game: someone asked me if I was a Colombian drug lord once, because of my rugged facial hair, the scar, etc.! So guess what?

If I opened a conversation with a woman all cocky and arrogant I’d get no comfort. People would fear me, be intimidated by me, think I’m dangerous and arrogant, maybe even creepy. I had to calibrate my game that I opened extra enthusiastically, be nice and smile playfully for alot longer. After you build comfort the cocky/funny will come out and create lots of attraction for you.

Now take a look at yourself and be honest! Because your helping yourself here. You’ll open much better if your frame is congruent with your personality. Having game starts with who you are, which is what you base your whole frame on…

If your appearance is intimidating like mine? Then you´re gonna have to be a nicer dude man. If your not so visually intimidating, then the cocky/funny high confident, slightly arrogant frame will suit you much better and get you crazy results.

And take Carlos Xuma himself. He’s an attractive guy and women know that. Although he loves to play Carlos The Menace, at first he is welcoming, open, talkative and everything but arrogant. Why? Otherwise he scares women away because they’ll see him as “a good-looking guy who knows it and abuses his looks!”

All You Need To Know About Having Game Is This…

• Get feedback on your look from as much women and men as possible (what was their first impression?)

• Calibrate your frame to suit your look: tailor what you say to who you are, not the other way around (see above for example)

• Start a conversation like your frame requires you to do: physically intimidating? Start building comfort… but with “regular guy looks”? Go for playful teasing.

• Watch how you get more and more results when you let your “game” complement who you are.

I’d like to end this column about having game and attracting women your way with some funny images about what NOT to do…

And remember: always choose to fight! Fight for your success. Hope you liked my thoughts on having game.

Regards,

RockyJJP

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