Women are attracted to masculine men, no matter what the media tries to tell you.

You’re going to hear more and more nauseating, confusing and ridiculous information that tells you to “condemn the patriarchy” and embrace someone else’s ‘vision’ (agenda) for the future.

Go ahead and listen to them, and read them if you like, but keep your critical thinking hat on.

Don’t let them confuse you from the truth about what women want.

Is this what a REAL man looks like?

Women want one thing and one thing only, no matter how much everyone tries to believe the opposite:

Women want real MEN.

What’s a ‘real man,’ anyway? Isn’t that subjective?

Doesn’t that just change depending on who you ask?

No, not really.

Masculine – AKA ‘manly’ – traits are fairly consistent.

In my 16 years of doing this dating advice for men gig, one thing I’ve noticed is that feminists (and women with issues – often the same people) rarely (like almost NEVER) challenge me. They seem to sense right off the bat that I’m fully grounded in my identity as a man. I don’t buy into their fluffy white idealistic new-age nonsense.

And yet I see men everywhere challenged in their identities, words, and actions.

It’s a shame, because these are otherwise solid and well-meaning guys. But they lack the fortitude and conviction in themselves to transmit a vibe of MAN to the outside world.

Now, I’m not some knuckle-dragging Neanderthal. I’m not some one-dimensional idiot from a 1940’s movie.

Nor do I rage with testosterone 24/7.

I’m sophisticated and peaceful. And I know a thing or two about cultivating the attitude that women love. That’s why I wrote this little manifesto today for you.

In honor of the passing of R. Lee Ermey (the amazing drill instructor from “Full Metal Jacket“) – this is going to feel a bit like boot camp to you.

Suck it up, Buttercup…

So let’s dig in right now with the 3 Steps to becoming the man women desire…

Become The Alpha Man – Step 1: Grow A Pair, Soldier…!

I’m profoundly disturbed by the culture of waffling, weaseling, and sneakiness I see in men around me every day. I think this was cultivated from too many hours poring over their social media. Trying to make themselves not feel jealous of other people’s lives… and failing.

Posting images of what you ate last night?

Seriously?

Food porn?

I could not give shit-one about that. Anyone else that “likes” that image of your quail-egg soup is also not caring; they’re simply conditioned by the Facebook Illuminati to hammer away at that button whether or not they care. They’ve trained our brain’s reward system to “get off” on our phones.

Realize This: People don’t really “like” something if all they had to do was spend a microsecond hitting a blue button…

What they were doing was yelling “Hey! I’m here! I matter! Don’t forget about me!” into the void.

That’s what most people are doing out there. Hoping that – in this mindless chatter of internet idiocy, we don’t get forgotten. After all, we all deserve to be celebrities!

Right?

WRONG. 

REMEMBER: 90% of the things people post in social media are the fake, smiley propaganda of their lives. They’re just as desperate, unhappy, and unfulfilled as everyone else. They’re just trying to make up a better marketing campaign so that you might not see it.

Social media is a lie.

The truly successful aren’t on Facebook or Instagram posting their successes – they’re living them.

Get your balls back and start to reclaim your confidence and convictions.

Stop living your life in the virtual world.

Start by drawing yourself up a list of the virtues you stand for. I’ll bet not one man in a hundred has ever done this, but it’s essential to who you are. (I’ve attached my complete list of virtues at the end of this article. Use them as your reference.)

Women are attracted – almost unconditionally – to a man who knows what he stands for. It’s the reason that women don’t test or push me around. They know I’m solid and grounded.

And they should know the same about you, soldier.

Take action. Get busy.

You’ve got a good 50 to 60 more years in you, if you don’t eat junk food and get diabetes by 25 like most of the new crop these days.

Go ask that chick out… stop worrying about “the perfect words.” (The Perfect Words  are simply the ones you actually say instead of think.)

She’ll say yes BECAUSE YOU ASKED with conviction, not because you waited 10 years for just the right thing to say to avoid rejection.

Go stir some things up and make a mess. The world gets down on its knees and unzips your pants when you jump in the game instead of trying to watch from your iphone.

“Conflict is a forge for the steel of your willpower.” – Carlos Xuma

Be The Man Women Want – Step 2: Get Out Of The Cry Closet…!

You’re still here, Private? Good! You haven’t rung the bell and quit? Fantastic!

Now drop your hanky, and cut that weepy crap.

Too much indulgence in sadness make a man pathetic.

I’m about as kind, compassionate, and loving as you’re ever going to find in a guy – so don’t mistake this for macho posturing.

But these days everyone seems to need their weepy emotions aired to everyone else because we all think our emotions matter more than anything.

NEWS FLASH! Emotions are an energy source for men. Not your ‘cry closet.’

Emotions are not your place to sulk and ruminate. That’s for women.

Every guy came fresh from the factory with a hot little pepper of anger inside that he needs to tame and utilize for his power. Your anger is a nugget of plutonium

And also – drop that crying crap right now. It’s like this new revolution encouraging men to start acting pathetic. You can FEEL your sadness, son. But you CONTAIN those emotions. Throw boundaries around them – and then channel them over to your batteries.

Crying is surrender.

Crying is “I give up.”

That’s how you feel when you do it, if you think back to how it feels on the inside. It’s a complete resignation that comes from your core.

And that is something no man can entertain. And after a while this reaction becomes rehearsed, and starts to turn you into a weak, rubbery … well, girl.

Look – that’s not an insult to women. Women can handle their emotional highs and lows – they’re used to riding them. It’s part of a woman’s nature to deal with vacillating emotions.

“If civilization had been left in female hands we would still be living in grass huts…”
– Camille Paglia (renowned feminist)

But men use their emotions as fuel for forward progress. We are the action that supports their emotional insight.

Again, FEEL your emotions – but do not DWELL on them!

(By the way – cry closets are a real thing that some universities have implemented for the wuss students that can’t handle their own emotions. And you should be a little shocked by that…)

Be An Attractive Alpha Man – Step 3: Drop the Mic…!

Okay, you made it to Step 3, so I’m promoting you Private FIRST CLASS.

And you’re ready to hear the one thing that’s gonna make panties drop around the world for you…

You need to drop your mic…

Be the man she’s been waiting for…

Yup, show-stopping commitment to your convictions means you speak your mind and drop the microphone.

Walk off stage, and get to work.

There is no dress-rehearsal for life. You’re in the mix right now, grunt.

So make a DECISION. That’s really what I’m talking ’bout here.

Stop waffling and start committing yourself to a story of your own making. Don’t wait for other people to choose for you. Because as Rush said in “Free Will”:

“If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.”

Plant your flag and stand for what you believe in. This is the source of that “confidence” everybody tells you to have to attract girls.

They’re right – though it’s not the false confidence of a “pickup line.” It’s the real, dyed-in-the-wool feeling of being VALID.

Worthy.

Only YOU can give yourself that, son.

Stake your claim…

Just check in with reality (such that it is) from time to time to make sure you’re not off on another delusion that the world made up to distract you.

Make sure you read classic literature for being a man:

• The Prince – Nicolo Machiavelli
• 48 Laws Of Power – Robert Greene
• Call of the Wild – Jack London
• Fight Club – Chuck Palahniuk
• Walden – Henry David Thoreau
• The Art Of War – Sun Tzu
• Tao Te Ching – Lao Tzu (no relation to Sun.)

– or the writings of Seneca and Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations (which is free on the web.) These guys had masculinity all sewn up and tattooed on their souls over 2000 years ago.

Being a man is an opportunity and a PRIVILEGE! Though, you might not know it from the way people talk these days.

• Ignore the politically charged deluded people out there trying to bend reality to their weaknesses…
• Ignore the obviously misguided masses who only want attention to their plight – whatever it is. (Frankly if it’s not starvation, your whining is just getting on everyone’s nerves.)
• Ignore the people who really only want to grab their own power and control you…

It’s time to drop your mic right now.

Make a decision to start living your life instead of projecting it at other people. Your life isn’t a rumor or a publicity stunt. It’s comprised of the time you’ve got to make your mark, soldier.

It’s what separates the boys from the men – and it’s what makes women want them.

If you want to know more about the complete plan to be an Alpha Man, go here…

• Carlos X.

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VIRTUES:

Wisdom

• Curiosity
• Love of learning
• Judgment
• Ingenuity
• Emotional intelligence
• Perspective

Courage

• Valor
• Perseverance
• Integrity

Humanity

• kindness
• Loving

Justice

• citizenship
• Fairness
• Leadership

Temperance

• Self control
• Prudence
• Humility

Transcendence

• Appreciation of beauty and excellence
• Gratitude
• Hope
• Spirituality
• Forgiveness
• Humour
• Zest

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It felt like there was just too much riding on a conversation. I thought to myself, “Oh man, if she knew how insecure I really am, I’m screwed.” Even back then, I knew that women could sniff out the SMALLEST hint of weakness.

And so my brain always worked overtime, coming up with the worst possible case scenarios that haven’t even happened yet. With all that stuff going on in my head, I couldn’t keep my emotions in check.

Consequently, my neediness showed every time, destroying my social value with women. It was a BRUTAL cycle – failing with women, feeling bad about myself, and doing even WORSE the next time.

Sounds familiar?

You’ve probably experienced this too. Maybe the anxiety got to you so much that you ended up as a nervous, tongue-tied version of yourself who couldn’t string a couple of sentences together.

I know how much that sucks because I used to suffer from the following:

• Wasting countless opportunities to meet women because I was TOO SCARED to try
• Pushing women away with my needy, anxious vibe that made them uncomfortable
• Struggling with a mental block whenever women are around

Trust me, I’ve made every mistake in the book. For the longest time, I thought there was something wrong with me.

But my lack of self-confidence didn’t mean I needed to be “fixed” – and neither do you.

I didn’t need to lie down on a couch in some shrink’s office. Instead, I got off my butt and got to work.

Let me explain what I mean…

When I was struggling with myself, this is what I learned: the brain has a tendency to project a person’s worst fears and exaggerate it.

This is the NUMBER ONE self-confidence wrecker – but I’ve found a way around that.

In a nutshell, I developed a way for my mind to cope with the fear so that it would NEVER get the best of me again.

I basically set out on a quest to work on my self-confidence by going through every piece of material that I could get my hands on.

Books, tapes, videos, seminars – you name it.

It was well worth my time because I finally developed certain Mind Hacks that transformed my life from the ground up!

You can learn this done-for-you system even while you’re approaching women and improving your self-confidence. That means you won’t even have to spend a fraction of the time it took me to get where I am today.

The good news is that I want to SHARE this valuable information with you – for FREE.

Using my simple Mind Hacks, I drastically improved my inner game by reprogramming certain thought processes. After I’ve helped you unlearn some harmful beliefs, you can finally unlock that confident part of your personality.

But there’s one small problem – I’m not sure how long I can offer this as a FREE course.

Pretty soon, it’s going to be a PAID program once I’m done collecting testimonies from the select few who’ll get to try it before everyone else.

So it’s best to click HERE before I have to take it down.

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Fornication. Week after week. How does he do it? And how can you start improving self confidence?

So how do you do it? How is improving self confidence up until the level of Hank Moody done so you TOO can get as many fornication (that’s sex, dude) as he gets?

Moody (played by David Duchovny in the TV show) is a writer living in LA, and despite the fact that he hates living in California and hates mostly everything about California?

He has no problem picking up his fair share of California girls. Girls like these:

Hank’s a boy stuck in a 30+ year old body, sarcastic, and downright disrespectful.

But this gives him a certain charm. It gives him his self confidence. All he has to do is put on his signature jeans and black T-shirt, and he’ll pick up the first attractive girl he runs into.

It’s so easy for Hank Moody…but why? Because he’s extremely self confident around women. And you’ll be too, after you read this blog post on improving self confidence (and thanks to Moody of course)

Like most guys you’re probably not like Hank Moody though. Like someone who picks up women as soon as he falls out of bed.

You’re probably a little insecure, don’t know what to say, and don’t know what to do around women. You DO want to be like Hank though, don’t you? Of course, you do!

Who wouldn’t? It sucks to feel insecure! That’s why you need to start improving self confidence.

And what if I told you that Hank has the key to solving your insecurities? What if he could give you the key to improving self confidence?

Let’s get down to business and see why Hank Moody is so successful with women, and why this is the key to improving self confidence, yes, YOUR self confidence!

Improving Self Confidence: Indifference Is Key

First, let’s get some misconceptions out of the way. You might think that only guys with a perfect job, a perfect car, and a perfect life can be confident around women.

Here’s where Hank Moody will prove you wrong when it comes to improving self confidence and confidence in general.

Hank’s life is far from perfect. He hates living in LA. He hates the shitty writing job he had to accept because he’s been too blocked to write anything else.

Plus, the woman he wants to be with doesn’t want to be with him 9 out of 10 times. But whatever he sets outs to do, he goes about it with supreme indifference.

He’s essentially laid back, he cracks jokes all the time even on the darkest days, and he makes women laugh. When he’s with a woman, there’s no life and death issue hanging in the balance, he just enjoys the moment.

He doesn’t worry whether he’ll get a girl he finds attractive. He just does it.

Moral of the story: nut up or shut up. Do less thinking and more doing. Improving self confidence starts with a “mental time-out”.

Stop worrying so much. Start relaxing. Enjoy the moment dude! If a woman ends up not being interested, then there’s another moment right after it. Know what I mean?

If you want to start improving self confidence, then start chilling like Hank does:

I have had drinks thrown in my face (couple times), and have even been punched in the face (by the boyfriend, once)… but I have never DIED from approaching women.

It’s no life or death situation, so do it, you’ll live… and realize it’s less scary the more you do it, so then you go ahead and do it some more!

Action becomes a habit, a habit becomes your character, and your character becomes your destiny. Do you see now why focusing on taking action is the start of improving self confidence, of improving your life?

Onward…

Start Improving Self Confidence By F-ing Socializing!

Hank Moody goes out and meets people. All the time. Everywhere.

He can start a conversation with anyone about any topic. This really improves his chances around women.

And this is why he can pick up a surfer girl at a supermarket or a lawyer at an elegant fundraising event.

He feels comfortable talking to people from all walks of life, and it shows.

The “improving self confidence secret” here: the more different people you hang out with and the more different situations you find yourself in, the more you get used to anything that COULD happen.

In a few words, take enough action and you’ll get a thick skin, become less scared, and therefore approach more women… and ultimately date more women.

Want me to be honest with you for a sec?

I’ve seen so many different types of weirdo’s, boyfriends, female friends and male friends , parents, brothers and sisters, class clowns, pussies, and bad boys that I couldn’t care less anymore.

I’m not impressed anymore. Ever. Same goes for types of women. Seen them all. Been there, done that. This is why Hank Moody can be so indifferent. He’s just like me.

The sole reason for me and Hank not being scared, is because we’ve gotten used to pretty much everything that could possibly happen just by taking continuous action.

So, start taking continuous action to start improving self confidence already!

Moving on…

A Juicy Secret About Improving Self Confidence

Before we continue, I want to reveal quick wins for improving self confidence that you can start using today!

Here we go with the quick tips for improving self confidence…

– Improving self confidence means improving your opinion of yourself in such a way that you can take control of your own life by saying “NO” to other people determining where your life is going

– Improving self confidence means standing up for your own opinion, even if the entire room may disagree

– Improving self confidence means feeling comfortable around women no matter how good they look or what they do and say

– Improving self confidence means that YOU are the only one that determines how you feel. No matter what others say or do, you keep feeling great and keep feeling good about yourself.

And right about now you may wonder: how can I pull all of this off? Keep reading to find out…

Improving Self Confidence By Being As Ballsy As Hank Moody

Hank gets away with the most outrageous things. What else can you expect from a guy who says: “I won’t go down in history, but I will go down on your sister”?

How does he have the balls to say some of the things he says?

There’s no other secret other than the fact that he just does it. Without blinking or hesitating. He just speaks his mind.

You see, most guys don’t realize that the key to improving self confidence is simply doing what you feel like doing.

Taking action. Going for it. If it’s on your mind, say it. And say it like you mean it, not like you have to ask for permission to say it, or doubting whether you should say it at all.

You’ll be surprised about what you can get away with…

And hey, you want to talk to a girl? Do it! Don’t put so much thought into what you should say, what she’ll say, or into thinking she won’t be interested.

Do you think Hank was born with this unshakable self confidence? That improving self confidence as not necessary for him?

No way! It probably took him years to reach this level of confidence.

So the more you do it? The more you get out there and start talking to women? The more confident you’ll get. Because an action becomes a habit, a habit your character, and your character becomes your destiny.

If you need a little help with your self confidence and starting conversations because you don’t know the what, how, when, and where, then don’t worry my friend because I have a whole bunch of other free tips waiting for you inside my Inner Game Newsletter. So, what are you waiting for?

Get more tips right away

And remember: improving self confidence is a matter of taking continuous action, and of watching more Californication starring Hank Moody of course!

I talk about taking action a lot but I really wanted to emphasize it today, and what better way then to use one of everybody’s favorite womanizers?

Hope you liked my tips for improving self confidence man.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Are you one of them? Do you want to know how to improve confidence?

Then consider yourself lucky to be reading this post on how to improve confidence, because I’ve travelled down the road you’re taking right now years ago. I KNOW what’s wrong. I know why you can’t win with women:

You don’t know how to improve confidence because you don’t know what you want, you don’t set some goals for yourself, and you don’t realize that life’s a flywheel yet.

I can almost hear you think: “Dude! You make it sound real easy now, but it’s not!”

I know it isn’t… but it will be once you know how to improve confidence with my 3 steps!

How To Improve Confidence Step 1: Know What You Want

If I would ask you what your type of woman looks like, what she likes, and what the best place to find her is… would you be able to tell me?

I’m willing to bet you that your answer is no or that you’re not sure. That’s a big problem!

If you want to know how to improve confidence, then you have to know exactly what you want so you can’t get as desperate as this:

When you don’t know where to start with meeting women, YOUR type of women, you get more desperate the longer you’re on the look out for “miss right”.

Makes sense, right? Meanwhile, women are turned off by desperate men BIG TIME.

And this is where how to improve confidence gets pretty damn interesting:

These researchers did a study where they asked two groups of people to walk through the city center. They told group 1 to bring along anything interesting they would find on the sidewalk, while they told the second group to bring along every nickel they would find on the sidewalk.

Guess which group brought back more nickels? The second group! I think they found ten times as much nickels as the first group. Do you see where I’m going with this?

The pickier you get, the easier and the more women you’ll find that are 100% your type.

And a big part of how to improve confidence is quitting the whole desperate act.

And, put simply, you won’t be desperate anymore when you can find your type of woman everywhere…

Try it today or tomorrow: go to the city center and find as many women that are wearing something red as possible. Then tell me afterwards: there were way more than you had expected, right?

How To Improve Confidence Step 2: Set Goals For Yourself

Imagine you’re the captain of a pirate ship sailing in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean in the 1700’s. The ship’s crew asks you where you want to go.

Today you tell them to go west. Tomorrow it’s north. Then it’s a little bit south. Will you ever get to America this way?

I’m sure you’ll agree with me when I say: hell no! But meanwhile?

This is how the need to learn how to improve confidence never gets fulfilled:

You have no directions to go in, no goals, so you will probably never achieve anything worthwhile. Because you have no directions, you’ll doubt every move you make because you don’t know if it’s one in the right direction! And the doubts will start to stack inside you… making you even more insecure…

And you’ll settle for less when you keep doing this instead of getting what you want.

So if you want to know how to improve confidence, then set some freaking goals for yourself!

Setting goals shouldn’t be difficult after figuring out what the type of woman is you could fall for. All you have to do is map the road ahead so you’ll get there.

Example: you want to know how to improve confidence so you can meet and date a Latina who’s into art. Let’s pretend that’s your type of woman. Then your goals would be:

– Find all the Latin artists in the area, then meet and befriend 5 of them
– Date one of the female artists and ask a male artist to introduce you to one of his friends
– And so on

Goals help you stay focused. They make sure you’re hitting the right “target” so you won’t go out to pick up random chicks, but to pick up the women that are your type.

Setting goals for yourself does wonders for your confidence, because your goals are bound to start motivating you to continue:

(Using the example from before)

Once you’ve befriended those 5 Latin artists you feel awesome. You’ll want to befriend more…

Once you dated a female artist or a female friend of an artist, you’ll want to date more…

And instead of becoming desperate, you taught yourself how to improve confidence by setting increasingly challenging goals for yourself.

Goals motivate you more and more every day and keep you thinking about achieving, rather than how you should be nervous because you’re going on a date.

How To Improve Confidence Step 3: Life’s A Flywheel

Most guys forget all about dating for months or years on end because they don’t see “real” results. This is why they quit learning how to improve confidence:

They simply gave up. Their confidence and spirit have been broken. They tried to meet and date women but convinced themselves that they weren’t making progress fast enough.

Are you one of them?

If so, then let me quote Jim Collins (author of From Good To Great) so I can teach you what knowing how to improve confidence is all about:

“Picture a huge, heavy flywheel. A massive metal disk mounted horizontally on an axle, about thirty feet in diameter, two feet thick, and weighing about 5,000 pounds. Now imagine that your task is to get the flywheel rotating on the axle as fast and for as long as possible.

Pushing with great effort, you get the flywheel to inch forward, moving almost imperceptibly at first. You keep pushing and after two or three hours of persistent effort, you get the flywheel to complete one entire turn.

You keep pushing and the flywheel begins to move a bit faster, and with continued great effort, you move it round a second rotation. You keep pushing in a consistent direction.

Three turns, four, five, six… the flywheel builds up speed… seven, eight… you keep pushing… nine, ten… it builds momentum… eleven, twelve… moving faster with each turn… twenty, thirty, fifty… a hundred.

Then at some point: breakthrough! The momentum of the thing kicks in your favor… its own weight working for you. You’re pushing no harder than the first rotation, but the flywheel goes faster and faster.

Each turn of the flywheel builds upon work done earlier, compounding your investment of effort. The huge heavy disk flies forward with almost unstoppable momentum.

Now suppose someone came along and asked: “What was the one big push that caused this thing to go so fast?” You wouldn’t be able to answer. Was it the first push? The second? The twentieth? The hundredth push?

No! It was all of them added together in an overall accumulation of effort applied in a consistent direction.”

That’s how to improve confidence: never give up. Keep going at it…

Keep approaching women. Keep meeting women. Every action no matter how small counts, because all of your small actions combined together will inevitably give you dating success.

That’s why taking action is important, especially if you want to know how to improve confidence.

Start using the 3 steps for how to improve confidence right now and you’ll start feeling better and better about yourself within days.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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