What is attraction? Archives - How To Win With Women https://www.win-with-women.com Carlos Xuma's Dating Tips & Secrets Fri, 08 Jun 2018 09:15:25 +0000 en-US hourly 1 How To Make A Conversation Sexual – 3 Tips https://www.win-with-women.com/attract-women/how-to-create-attraction/how-to-make-a-conversation-sexual-how-to-talk-to-women-3-tips Tue, 15 May 2018 14:00:10 +0000 https://www.win-with-women.com/?p=7498 How To Make A Conversation Sexual – How To Talk To Women – 3 Tips

This week, I’ve got you something from the mailbag…

QUESTION FROM A READER:

Carlos, I’ve been going out on a ton of dates lately, but I’ve run up against some obstacles.

I get into conversations with women, but I can’t seem to break into the “attraction zone” with many of the women. They all seem to keep me on this friendship level, and I don’t know what to do.

I want to get our conversations on a sexual level somehow…

What should I do?

  • Pete W. – Manhattan, KS

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CARLOS ANSWERS:

Pete, that’s a fantastic question that men everywhere want to know the answer to… in fact, it’s the key to kick-starting a woman’s attraction in that first conversation with her.

No guy likes the “friend zone” – not one bit. Funny enough, it’s always the women we desire the most that put us there.
Women typically look for certain signals from you when they first meet you, and they will decide in minutes if you will be just a friend, or if you have a chance at sleeping with her.

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This week, I’ve got you something from the mailbag…

QUESTION FROM A READER:

Carlos, I’ve been going out on a ton of dates lately, but I’ve run up against some obstacles.

I get into conversations with women, but I can’t seem to break into the “attraction zone” with many of the women. They all seem to keep me on this friendship level, and I don’t know what to do.

I want to get our conversations on a sexual level somehow…

What should I do?

  • Pete W. – Manhattan, KS

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CARLOS ANSWERS:

Pete, that’s a fantastic question that men everywhere want to know the answer to… in fact, it’s the key to kick-starting a woman’s attraction in that first conversation with her.

No guy likes the “friend zone” – not one bit. Funny enough, it’s always the women we desire the most that put us there.
Women typically look for certain signals from you when they first meet you, and they will decide in minutes if you will be just a friend, or if you have a chance at sleeping with her.

Will he be… “friend-zoned?

Contrary to what a lot of guys think, you don’t want to actually bring up the topic of sex in your conversations. That’s not only unnecessary, it’s pretty “brute force” when it comes to making women feel that sexual attraction.
No, women are attracted to the ENERGY of sexuality, not the discussion of it. One hits her in the gut, the other in the brain pan. (And – incidentally – you won’t ever seduce a woman by making her THINK a lot more…)
The truth is that there are two parts to your conversation: The Text – and the SUBtext.
  • The Text is what you’re saying to each other – the actual words you use.
  • The Subtext is what you’re saying under your words, with your attitude and your way of being.
 The easiest part is the words, because any fool like me can hand you clever little phrases.
But the Subtext is stickier for most guys, and it’s the part they ignore. Some guys call this area “confidence” – or “inner game.”
Unfortunately, as much as you try, you can never escape the need for solid inner game. But the beauty is that when you nail that inner game, the Text (words) don’t matter!

Inner Game = Outer Game

Luckily for you, I specialize in making the inner game easily managed. It’s what I’ve been doing for 16 years now.
When you’re talking to a woman, you can talk about the most mundane and boring topics, and she’ll engage you. But you don’t need to actually talk about SEX in your words.
In fact, you shouldn’t bring up sex. It’s more likely to repel a woman.
Instead, focus on the attitude in these 3 ways:

1) Tone of voice:  Lower your vocal pitch as low as you can go.

You want your voice deep, and resonant. If you’ve never taken voice lessons, that’s a good idea for you. You’ll learn breath control, and better  presence. I’d even suggest Toastmasters to get rid of that weird “I’m afraid of public speaking” edge that you might (probably) have.
If you can feel your voice rumble in your chest, you’re getting it. Most men talk from the throat, sounding nasal and pinched. It’s a distinctly unappealing sound to the ear, and it’s easily fixed.

Find your “inner” Barry White…

Also, slow your words down like you’re a little sleepy, or doing a poetry reading.
Seriously – SLOW DOWN.
Most men speed up when they start talking to a woman, mostly from excitement. Another part of talking fast is a belief inside that the other person will lose interest, or you’ll lose their attention and not get your thoughts out.
They will respect you with attention when you command it. Remember that!
The more you pause, the more they will hang on your every word.

2) Body posture & stance:  Slow everything down to half-speed…

Look, I know talking to a hot girl is an adrenalizing experience, but fast talkers seem like nervous, insecure salesman. And chicks don’t dig any of those 3 qualities.
So do your best to make your body move fluidly.
I always suggest that you move as if you’re submerged in water. There’s almost a flowing grace to your motions, and that looks confident to women.
When you move in short, hyper bursts – which is a lot of the men I see out there today – you look unfocused and manic.
Consciously choose to slow yourself down as much as possible. Keep in mind that what you probably consider to be frustratingly slow is probably still too quick for most women.

3) Eye contact:  This is a huge one, because – as they say – the eyes are the windows to the soul.

You want to practice your eye contact. A lot of guys turn on their “Manson lamps” when they’re talking with a girl, and it freaks them out.
Relax your eyelids a little, without making yourself look stoned. Too much intensity is freaky.
Use your eyes to trace a triangle from eye-to-eye, and down to her mouth. Take your time, you don’t want to look like a lizard tracking a fly. Just let your gaze caress her, and let her see you doing it.
Even better is to wipe any smile or grin off your face, too. Most guys smile too much at women.
Just use the “Buddha Smile.” That’s a faint, barely noticeable smile that says, “I know something you don’t know…” Kind of a slightly mischievous grin, even.
Use these 3 tips and you’ll have NO problem turning your conversations into something with more sexual overtones.
Stay Alpha!
– Carlos Xuma

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]]> Why You Can’t Get A Girlfriend – 7 Reasons https://www.win-with-women.com/ask-a-girl-out/why-you-cant-get-a-girlfriend-7-reasons Thu, 10 May 2018 14:00:18 +0000 https://www.win-with-women.com/?p=7490 Why You Can’t Get A Girlfriend – 7 Reasons

One thing I’ve learned doing dating coaching over the last 16 years, and that’s this:

Most men (and women!) have almost NO CLUE about how attraction between the sexes really works.

Now, when I say NO CLUE – I mean that they THINK they understand it, and PRETEND to understand relationships, but honestly don’t. I think it’s mostly because they don’t want to seem like they’re ignorant to the other 98% of the population that is also pretending to know what they’re doing.

Most of the guys who pretend to know how to date a lot of girls will give you the same lame advice:

  • “Dude, you gotta be confident…”
  • “You gotta know how to talk to women…”
  • “You gotta know how to dress…”
  • “You gotta…”

Well, sad to say that half of these guys are usually “naturals” with women (meaning they intuitively have gotten women without knowing what the $#&% they are doing, or they’re good looking.)

The other half are guys that don’t really have ANY skill with women, but just happen to have a girlfriend at the moment. Which means they’re currently doing 100% better …

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One thing I’ve learned doing dating coaching over the last 16 years, and that’s this:

Most men (and women!) have almost NO CLUE about how attraction between the sexes really works.

Now, when I say NO CLUE – I mean that they THINK they understand it, and PRETEND to understand relationships, but honestly don’t. I think it’s mostly because they don’t want to seem like they’re ignorant to the other 98% of the population that is also pretending to know what they’re doing.

Most of the guys who pretend to know how to date a lot of girls will give you the same lame advice:

  • “Dude, you gotta be confident…”
  • “You gotta know how to talk to women…”
  • “You gotta know how to dress…”
  • “You gotta…”

Well, sad to say that half of these guys are usually “naturals” with women (meaning they intuitively have gotten women without knowing what the $#&% they are doing, or they’re good looking.)

The other half are guys that don’t really have ANY skill with women, but just happen to have a girlfriend at the moment. Which means they’re currently doing 100% better than you, and they think that entitles them to tell you “how the game works.”

My sales mentor from years ago once told me:

“Don’t ever take advice from someone who’s not doing what you want to be doing. Or has what you want.”

I’d add to that:

“Don’t take advice from lucky fools.”

They don’t know, but they’re pretend it was all skill, and then they’ll confuse and ruin you.

Instead, go to the guy who knows how it works – AND can explain it! That’s why you’re here, I’m assuming.

So if you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why the hell can’t I get a girlfriend?” – I’m about to give you some earth-shaking revelations. Starting with:

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #1: You reek of desperation…

Now, before you dismiss this as not applying to you, let me remind you that NO ONE thinks they’re acting desperately. Unfortunately this is the delusion that is ultimately going to make them marry a woman WAY below they’re pay grade.

Desperation shows in many ways:

  • Too eager
  • Too “there”
  • Too attentive

The sad fact is that many women can be snowed over with this behavior. Especially if she doesn’t get asked out a lot. She will likely be so starving for attention and to have a guy desire her that she can’t tell the difference between desperate neediness and romantic obsession.

To be fair, most guys don’t know the difference.

Which means you need to ask and find out if you’re coming across with a stench of clingy weirdness.

(This is also what people mean when they say you need to “be more confident.” Confidence is the polar opposite of desperation.)

Oh, and don’t ask your best ‘girl buddy’ about this. Chances are she’s only hanging around you because your lack of interest is challenging and attractive to her, OR she’s taken you on as a pet project.

Ask a guy who is known for telling the painful truth, not a friend. If you want the truth, go hunt it down.

Don’t believe the B.S. other people spew as gospel.

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #2: You have no social proof…

Social proof is based on the idea of social influence, stating that people will conform in order to be liked or accepted by the influencer (or society).

What that’s saying is that if the group likes it, we like it. If the group accepts it, we tend to accept it.

That group can even be just one person that has a lot of influence.

So here’s the deal: Do you have people that know you and like you? You have to make sure women encounter you with those people.

A lone wolf approach is going to immediately brand you as unproven, strange, and not quite trustworthy.

If you have no friends, that should be your first order of business – WAY before finding a girlfriend. If you did manage to get a girlfriend with no social circle of your own, she’s going to lose you faster than an ass rash, or ask you to join her Goth Facebook page.

Social proof defines humans in a social order. Think of it as your social “credit rating.”

And women want to know you’ve got the points…

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #3: You’re a victim of your own issues…

I talk to guys all the time that are perfectly fine looking, earn a good income, and just look fantastic – on paper.

But the second they go out on a date, or even manage to meet a woman, their weird emotional issues start getting triggered. I call this their “Weird Stuff.”

The do all kinds of things to ruin it for themselves:

  • Get jealous, or needy…
  • Get hung up on ONE girl that they can never have…
  • Get critical and picky – basically pushing every girl away…
  • Lose their willingness to stay clean and well shaven
  • They start to get insecure and talk themselves into screwing it up

This list could be so long that it would literally break the page you’re reading it on. It also includes things like being too picky to avoid intimacy and connection, as well as a bunch of other “issues.”

The point is that every guy out there knows what his “stuff” is. And every single one of those guys is trying to cover it up with what I call “guy-makeup.” Women cover up imperfections in their face with makeup, and guys like this do the same thing by covering up their weird behaviors (and confidence issues) with guy-makeup.

If you’re going to get that girl, you have to work on yourself, chum. There’s nothing in the world that’s going to keep a woman from seeing through that.

Sooner or later, your Weird Stuff shows up.

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #4: You have exactly NO balls…

These days guys seem to really run around in a constant fear of rejection. I’m not going to label generations, but you know what I’m talking about MILLENNIALS! 

I’m kind of kidding there… it’s just about every generation that expects women to walk up and approach THEM. They expect the woman to initiate.

Look, I’m sorry the media has completely misled you on this, but women’s equality does NOT mean she’s just been waiting for the go ahead to start hitting on you.

Men are the supply, and women are the demand.

Men want what women got, so they get to wait for us to step up and prove ourselves to them. It’s the way of nature, and you’re lack of courage won’t change that.

I was like this once myself. Secretly hoping that I could put on a dash of some secret cologne and women would just dog-pile on me.

IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN!

Anyone that promises this to you isn’t being up-front.

Sure, you can get women feeling attraction and fighting over you – but that takes some skills you probably don’t have right now. AND you still have to reach out and be seen by them in the first place.

So rather than hope you can skate by on a wish and a prayer, you’d be better off figuring out why women seem so scary to you that you can’t even talk to them.

Because if you’re a fraidy cat now, she’s going to make sure you really don’t have any balls in the relationship.

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #5: You avoid social situations…

This includes avoiding groups of people for a wide variety of reasons, including the ones that start out with you self-identifying with your “Weird Stuff” I talked about above.

Look, I get it. I’m an introvert at heart. I get my recharge by being alone and playing video games and playing guitar.

A lot of guys who can’t get laid resort to reading and theorizing about the world a lot. They have very little actual practical experience because they want to avoid action. And the best delay tactic is to be stuck in never-ending book learning.

But ultimately, humans are social animals and need to socialize. Not only for friendships, but yeah – to get a girlfriend you need to meet people.

So you have to let go of your fears about social awkwardness a bit. I see a lot of guys who hold on to their solitary lifestyle and defend it with the fervor of a Southern Baptist Pastor on Sunday.

Stop avoiding people and relating to people. Drop your resistance – and you just might find that it’s not so bad as you think.

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #6: You’re a negative Nancy…

This reason for not having a girlfriend is similar to the antisocial one in #5 above. A lot of guys use negativity as a defense mechanism, too.

My personal flavor was one of angry sarcasm and dark humor. I came across as funny, but painfully so.

In the end, I didn’t attract anyone because I was so negative about things. The funny part was that I really wasn’t really a negative guy. I just did it for the laughs.

Once you let go of the anger and feelings of injustice that we men often wallow in, we’re more open to people.

Negativity will drown you in emptiness, so let go of that need to pre-judge the world…

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #7: You have NO PLAN…

Let’s face it – most guys wing it.

I did.

I went for years thinking I could just “figure women out” and get what all the other guys were getting. I ended up so wrong that I almost jumped off a bridge.

So don’t ever delude yourself into thinking that love, sex, and relationships are subjects that you’re just “born knowing.”

NO one comes factory installed with the knowledge to attract women.

No one has a “map to my girlfriend” tattooed on their arm for easy reference.

That’s why I made a plan of my own.

I sat down and mapped out all the things you need to get a girlfriend in one easy reference tool…

Go get your copy here…

 

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]]> What Is Attraction? Attraction Explained… https://www.win-with-women.com/attract-women/what-is-attraction/attraction-explained Tue, 02 Feb 2010 13:25:19 +0000 https://www.win-with-women.com/blog/?p=1738 A fan of mine asked me: what is attraction? My answer explains what attraction is and how to create attraction pretty damn well, so I’m sharing it with you.

Enjoy this newsletter turned blog post that answers the million dollar question: what is attraction?

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QUESTION FROM A READER
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Heya D. Thanks for your email about what women want. It cleared the air for me in several ways caus’ I used to have no clue of what’s attractive to women you know. At least I understand the basics now and I’m sure they’ll go a long way in giving me more success in the dating game and I’m definitely going to buy your Simple Inner Game System caus’ I noticed a real difference in how the honey’s respond to me. Thanks for showing the way.

I’m still a bit confused about creating attraction because while you say character trait this and character trait that are irresistible to chicks, they still post their wish lists on dating sites or talk about their ideal man in much the same way. None of these lists contain all of the traits you mentioned, so what am I missing here?

Jack B, Washington DC, …

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]]> A fan of mine asked me: what is attraction? My answer explains what attraction is and how to create attraction pretty damn well, so I’m sharing it with you.

Enjoy this newsletter turned blog post that answers the million dollar question: what is attraction?

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QUESTION FROM A READER
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Heya D. Thanks for your email about what women want. It cleared the air for me in several ways caus’ I used to have no clue of what’s attractive to women you know. At least I understand the basics now and I’m sure they’ll go a long way in giving me more success in the dating game and I’m definitely going to buy your Simple Inner Game System caus’ I noticed a real difference in how the honey’s respond to me. Thanks for showing the way.

I’m still a bit confused about creating attraction because while you say character trait this and character trait that are irresistible to chicks, they still post their wish lists on dating sites or talk about their ideal man in much the same way. None of these lists contain all of the traits you mentioned, so what am I missing here?

Jack B, Washington DC, USA

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Women don’t like to be seen as sluts… and if a woman is called a slut for sleeping with a guy on the first date, does that automatically mean that all women don’t want to have sex on a first date?

HELL NO.

What you’re missing is the difference between what’s socially ACCEPTED for women… and what’s sexually WANTED by women…

And there’s a HUGE difference between the two!

Attraction ISN’T based on logical reasoning. We can’t choose who we’ll feel attracted to and we can’t choose who we’ll fall in love with.

The perfect example: although settling down and having kids with a nice guy may be “the right thing to do” for a woman, she’ll fall madly in love with a bad boy instead… even if he is abusive, not around the most of the time, unfaithful, and has more friggin’ drugs and alcohol than blood in his blood!

Whether we hate it and try to prevent it or not, attraction is a feeling based on irrational emotions… and triggered by certain fitness indicators that increase our value for the opposite sex. You can trigger the switches that create attraction too.

If you paid attention while reading my last email, then you know that women see certain character traits as the best fitness indicators… they’re attracted to you if you display them…

And that’s DESPITE of what they may think is best for them (like a rich guy, a guy from the same culture, and all that other wish list crap).

Those wish lists that you see on dating sites and that you hear them speak of are made with logical reasoning while attraction has NOTHING to do with logic… so see them for what they’re worth: zero, nothing, nada.

In fact, most of the time women WON’T BE ABLE TO TELL YOU WHAT THEY WANT because when you talk about attraction, you’re talking about an age old sexual selection instinct that only takes place on a subconscious level.

And it isn’t like people are conscious of what takes place on a subconscious level, that’s why it’s called SUB… conscious: below consciousness.

Duhhh.

But do you understand what this means?

That you should NEVER pay much attention to what a woman says, not even to what a woman thinks…

All that matters is how a woman feels, so if you pushed the right buttons to create attraction… the buttons that spark that chemistry and sexual tension.

And that takes me back, because I’ve met a lot of women who were angry at first because of my “sexual agression”… but who later ended up sleeping with me because what they said was very different from what they felt.

Push the right buttons and a woman can’t help but feel attracted, even if she’s not looking for a man, has a boyfriend, or initally rejected you. You can attract any woman you want by pressing these buttons…

And next to character traits, there are a lot of other “button bashing” techniques that create near insane amounts of attraction like:

– Pain versus pleasure
– Distance versus closeness
– Pre-selection (fancy language for jealousy)
– Fulfilling secret psychological needs
– Catering to female archetype fantasies

And much, much more…

They all have their base in the scientifical methods of psychology and evolution theory and have all been proven tiem and again, so why not use them for your own good?

Don’t worry…

You won’t need to study difficult formulas or become a professor at an university to learn this, because I’ll make things much easier (and faster) for you for a lot less money than getting an university degree.

My Simple Inner Game System will show you exactly what attraction is and what it’s absolutely not… and it packs so many “buttons” of female psychology that women will very soon can’t help but feel attracted to you until your family actually thinks you’re a real life Casanova who gets all the girls.

Think of what your life would be like if you would be able to sweep women off of their feet just like a character like Casanova, or Johnny Depp, or Brad Pitt does…

If you want to live with just as much success with women, then I highly recommend you check out my Simple Inner Game System right now by clicking the link below:

The Simple Inner Game System

And hey, if you want to know how to create attraction online then I highly recommend you check out this online dating book.

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Carlos I can’t thank you enough for also organizing a free inner game meeting on MSN that accompanies your ebook, because it gave me ample opportunity to ask you whatever questions I had. Especially with how to use pre-selection and catering to female archetype fantasies you gave my so many examples that even techniques as advanced as those were easy to understand!

There’s this woman I’ve known and liked since grade school but that never showed any sexual interest in me before, but now I got a date with her thanks to your pre-selection tips! Thanks a bunch!

BTW: while we were supposed to talk for 2 hours on MSN, you stayed an extra hour for me alone to make sure I understood everything fully and I just wanted to say that I really appreciated that. You’re the most helpful dating expert around and someone who’s always ready and willing to answer any questions your students might have. I don’t know any other expert that is just as reachable as you are! You’re a cool guy. Thanks again.

Simon, Amsterdam, The Netherlands 

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You got the girl you always fantasized about… are you sure it wasn’t a wet dream?

But seriously… well done my friend, I’m proud of you!

And dear reader, if you want access to a method that lets you push all the attraction
buttons you want with as many women you want so your agenda will collect dates
as fast as a fat kid collects weight…

Then I highly recommend you take a minute to check out my Simple Inner Game System right now by clicking the link below:

The Simple Inner Game System

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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]]> How To Create Attraction – Building Comfort https://www.win-with-women.com/attract-women/what-is-attraction/how-to-create-attraction-by-building-comfort Sat, 03 Oct 2009 14:03:59 +0000 http://win-with-womenblog.com/?p=1132 Comfort is the bedrock of any interaction. It’s much easier to like, invest and fall in love with someone you feel comfortable around, someone you’ve bonded with. Most men starting out don’t build enough comfort though… it’s the single greatest mistake they make.

These jackasses read books and posts about negging (blowing a girl out/ giving her a backhanded compliment that’s more like an insult than a compliment) and they see that as cool and like it’s the thing that makes them stand out the most. So they try it way too soon into the interaction and end up insulting the girl they’re talking too. I was like this too at first. I was not building nearly enough comfort before disqualifying a girl. I sat and thought about how to change this. So I developed a system to be in a safe zone of comfort before making my seductive moves (by disqualifying her with backhanded compliments, being picky and so forth.)

The single best way to learn how to get with a girl is to learn how to build comfort and to spark the attraction is by getting an investment through what I call A&A (Affirm And Ask).

How do …

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]]> Comfort is the bedrock of any interaction. It’s much easier to like, invest and fall in love with someone you feel comfortable around, someone you’ve bonded with. Most men starting out don’t build enough comfort though… it’s the single greatest mistake they make.

These jackasses read books and posts about negging (blowing a girl out/ giving her a backhanded compliment that’s more like an insult than a compliment) and they see that as cool and like it’s the thing that makes them stand out the most. So they try it way too soon into the interaction and end up insulting the girl they’re talking too. I was like this too at first. I was not building nearly enough comfort before disqualifying a girl. I sat and thought about how to change this. So I developed a system to be in a safe zone of comfort before making my seductive moves (by disqualifying her with backhanded compliments, being picky and so forth.)

The single best way to learn how to get with a girl is to learn how to build comfort and to spark the attraction is by getting an investment through what I call A&A (Affirm And Ask).

How do you do it? You lead the conversation by asking questions and affirming with every answer enthusiastically THUS getting investment.

Don’t stop building comfort by throwing around your selectiveness and teasing too soon though. She’s got to talk about everything. Affirm and ask. That’s the way to build rapport and get investment at the same time.

The way I do it is giving myself points: everytime I ask, she answers and I affirm, I add a point to my “score” and when I got to 10 points I know it’s safe to start being the playful teaser and all that WITHOUT being seen as a jerk or a dick.

Let’s look at an example…

RockyJJP: “Hi how are you, you look so nice today.” +1point

Her: “Ah thank you, your too kind.”

RockyJJP: “Where did you buy your outfit? I want to buy one for my sister, it’s her birthday soon.” +2points.

Her: “I actually bought it at TopShop in London I was there last month.”

RockyJJP: “Yeah, I love London. I go there all the time with my friends. I’m staying in Marble Arch. Where do you stay?” +1point.

Her: “I stay in Chelsea, I have family there.”

RockyJJP: “Most girls I meet from London are not very friendly. But you don’t seem like a London girl. You seem really friendly. So tell me 3 things about yourself”

Then those 3 things will be considered as 3 points of investment + 3points.

Displaying good body language while doing all of this: +1point.

If you affirm when you ask, you will never stop getting investment. This is because you’re encouraging her to talk.

And here’s the killer combo of the week: during Asking & Affirming, introduce alpha male traits in your conversation to DOUBLE the value of yourself while she’s investing. Remember those qualities? They are: being a risk taker, having good body language, having pre selection, having a good sense of humour and having an abundance state of mind.

Keep it up… and always choose to fight instead of running away (that’s not very alpha male-like now is it)

Take care.

RockyJJP & Carlos Xuma

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