Life would be a helluva lot easier if you could just open an app on your phone and it would show you all the women around you that were into you.

Problem is, that app is a long way off in the future. So instead of wishing on a dream, why don’t we talk about the real world?

If you want to know if a chick likes you, you need to know what signs to watch for.

Let’s start with:

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #1: She’s whipping her mane…

There’s a great scene in Charlies Angels (the movie from way back) where Lucy Liu advises Cameron Diaz to “flip your damn hair.” Cameron does, and the guy loses his mind for her.

To be fair, Cameron would only have to show up for guys to lose it over her, but whatever.

That hair-flip maneuver works, though. It’s part of a whole set of actions women take subconsciously that give away her true interest level in you.

It’s called Primping. These are body language “tells” that show how much she wants you.

She’ll do stuff like:

• Flip her hair
• Play with her straw
• Giggle
• Fix her blouse
• Fix her hair

The list is really endless. Just watch out for those signs she’s giving off that tell you she’s lovin’ it…

How to tell if a girl is digging you – Signal #2: She’s smiling more than the Joker…

The reality of a woman’s interest is that she’s going to go a little over board to make sure you get the hint that she’s interested in you. Women usually put out way too many signals to count when she’s ready to play.

Smiling is one of those things she won’t be able to help herself from doing. She’ll smile a lot to show her happiness.

• Happy that she found a guy she didn’t have to lose like a case of the crabs…
• Happy that she doesn’t have to sit there alone and wonder if every person in there is judging her because she’s not talking to someone…

Happiness is going to show as a smile on her face.

If she looks too serious, you should consider that a sign of disinterest – especially if she isn’t ponying up some conversation to keep things going.

How to tell if a girl likes you – Signal #3: She’s confusing you…

On the other hand, a woman often doesn’t know how to make you understand she likes you without pulling away her interest every couple minutes.

This happens when she likes you, and starts showing that she likes you, and then realizes she’s showing her interest. Then she acts the opposite way to be “hard to get.” Mostly so she doesn’t have to feel like a “slut.”

Look, I didn’t make them like this. I know it sounds kind of crazy.

But that’s how women think. 

They’re riding this insane roller coaster of emotions in their head (all self-generated emotions, mind you – but she wouldn’t believe that.) And she doesn’t realize how her actions reflect the awkward and irrational stuff in her head.

So if she’s confusing you with hot & cold signals, you can assume that there’s some interest there. If she wasn’t interested at all, you would only get the not-interested version of her.

How to tell if a girl wants you – Signal #4: She’s Laughing…

Not laughing AT you, but with you.

This is kind of a cliche, but it’s true. Women don’t want to lead guys on, so she won’t laugh at anything you’re saying if she’s not genuinely interested.

How to tell if a girl is attracted to you – Signal #5: She’s All Touchy…

If she’s suddenly touchy-feely with you, she’s got to be considering you as a romantic interest. Women don’t usually get physical with a guy they’re not at least a little interested in.

Now there’s another reason that women do this, and that’s to “Stir The Pot.”

You see, women like to provoke things to find out what emotions are involved. She’s wondering if she has any power or control over you, and she might be doing this to see how you’ll respond. If you get too touchy back, she’ll shut you down.

So just take it in stride and stay relaxed.

How to tell if she wants you – Signal #6: She’s Jealous…

If you talk to another girl and she gets snippy or weird on you, chances are:

1. She’s interested – and
2. She’s triggered…

By triggered, I mean that she’s got some emotional baggage that just came to the surface.

A lot of women have weirdness around handling situations with another woman in the picture. Either she’s been cheated on before, or she’s got some insecurities about relationships with competition in them.

Either way, it’s a good sign to start out with. But stay frosty and keep an eye out that she doesn’t have a psycho vibe underneath that. Sometimes a woman’s crazy will completely overtake her interest and feelings for you, and it will get weird – fast.

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #7: She hunts you down…

If a girl is interested in a guy, she will not want to take a chance that you’ll find someone else and ditch her. Women HATE lost opportunities.

So watch for her to actively try to get back with you. If you’re in a bar or club, she’ll find you. Or make her way back to you in some way.

She will have to do it by breaking away from her clique of chick friends, though, so be on the lookout for her. If she’s trying, you have to jump back in once you’ve confirmed she’s searching.

But also realize that if she’s hot, she doesn’t need to hunt anyone down.

Keep an eye out for her interest, and act while you’ve got her interest pointed toward you…

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #8: She points out the coinky-dinks…

If she’s liking you, she’s also going to seize any opportunity to send a signal to you that says: “Hey, this is destiny!”

She’ll pick up on any random thing that you both like, no matter how stupid.

“Hey, we both like breathing and eating food!”

Okay, maybe not that stupid, but you’ll know it when you hear it. She’ll point out simple, stupid things that connect you.

Like:

• Same taste in music
• Same taste in TV shows
• Same taste in food
• Same taste in drinks

You get the picture.

By the way, if you spot something she likes that’s particularly obscure – and you like it – you should point it out. She’ll take it as a sign.

Or … not.

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #9: She’s giving you verbal signals…

Women are both subtle AND predictable when it comes to language…

She will say things that are meant to be a green light for you to move forward with her. And if you don’t catch these signals, you might lose your shot. She only opens her window of interest for a short time, and she expects YOU to know when that happens!

Now, you have to know how to talk to a woman to find out if she’s giving you these signals. Otherwise, you’ll be waiting and hoping for them to show up. And that could be a long time coming…

The best thing you can do is know all the signals to look for – AND how women are triggered to feel attraction for you.

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And unfortunately, a lot of guys often make the mistake of spending a good chunk of their hard-earned money on dates and what-not to make their woman feel special, only to be kicked to the curb later on.

The reality is that guys are often at risk of being taken for a ride by unsavory women who’ll leave them high and dry in the end. Whether you’re the CEO of a major corporation or an average dude getting by from paycheck to paycheck, you might meet a girl who makes a game out of sucking men dry (and not in the way you hope).

If this kind of girl senses any emotional weakness in you, she’ll pour honey in your ear and get you to cough up everything you’ve ever worked for.

But you don’t have to be another notch on a gold digger’s belt. With a few simple attitude adjustments, you can build an airtight game against her tactics and avoid getting gouged.

#1: Call Her Out (But Be Subtle About It)

One thing you need to learn about being an Alpha Male is detaching yourself from the FEAR of speaking up when you get an unmistakable whiff of B.S.

Some guys are afraid of rocking the boat by calling someone out on their shenanigans even when it’s painfully obvious. But let me ask you: what’s the worst that could happen?

Could someone’s disapproval hurt you physically in some way? Will disagreeing with an attractive woman make you less than a man?

Think about that for a moment – it’s pretty liberating actually.

I’m digressing a bit, but the point is, the consequences of calling out someone with less-than-noble intentions aren’t as horrifying as you think.

Here’s an example: let’s say you’re trying to take things to the next level with her, but she gives you the red light. She might push back and tell you that she only sleeps with a guy who’s “in it for the long haul.”

If she’s more focused on sealing the deal on a relationship first, as opposed to going with the flow and figuring things out later, that could be a red flag. She might be more interested in the bottom line and securing her Return On Investment for putting out.

Here’s the best comeback to that kind of attitude:

“Personally, I’m a guy who goes for it if I’m feeling the chemistry. I don’t really see it as a needs exchange, you know, like having to put labels on a connection to justify sleeping with someone – that’s just how I see it.”

Don’t cave in her to way of thinking and push back in a firm but gentle way.

#2: Back Off And Play It Cool

After that, dial it down a few notches. Neediness is your enemy, so de-escalate things for a while and see how she reacts.

That’ll tell her you’re no pushover. More importantly, she’ll catch on to the fact that you’re willing to hit the brakes on attention and affection if something smells fishy.

#3: Cut Her Off Before She Even Gets Started

Some gold diggers aren’t so subtle; they might straight up ask for some dough if they know you’re loaded.

Warning: This is exactly where the cycle of dependency starts!

Like with everything we’ve talked about so far, you need to put your foot down early on in the game, but in a classy way.

She might drop hints that her credit score is shot to hell or her car payments are overdue. Watch out – she’s trying to pull on your Good Samaritan strings.

Instead of giving her the response she wants (e.g. “I could help you out ’til you get back on your feet…”), “praise” her on how well she’s keeping it together. Then follow it up with a subtle zinger to really give her the red light.

For instance, you could tell her, “Well that sucks. It’s pretty awesome how you’re not letting it cramp your style, though. Personally, I dig girls who have their financial stuff sorted out, and I’m sure you’ll be able to do that too one day.”

This is all under-the-radar stuff. If she’s trying to game you, don’t be afraid to throw a cleverly disguised curveball her way.

It’ll take a couple of moments for it to register, but she’ll get the message loud and clear.

Simple, right?

Remember, you can only be someone’s doormat with your consent.

Being an Alpha Male is about not putting up with anyone’s crap – not even from beautiful women. Above all, standing your ground tells a gold digger that you’re a man who deserves to be seen as a person, and not just what he makes in a year.

Speaking of Alpha qualities, I can show you the quickest way to start cultivating that rock-solid personality that women are addicted to.

You can get on the right path starting today – all you need to do is click HERE.

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But you don’t have to put up with the same BS over and over again until you quit dating altogether. If you’re sick of being written off as a guy she’ll NEVER have feelings for, check out these tips below:

#1: Stop Being a Phony

Yes, you read that right. Admit it – you probably have more than a few female friends in your life and you’re interested in more than just being friends with them.

You know, the painfully hot friends you really have a crush on, yet act like you’re just friends with them.

Here’s my advice: get real with yourself and stop carrying the proverbial torch for these lady friends.

If you’re putting on a “just friends” act while secretly hoping she’ll sleep with you, that’s all you’ll get out of her – being just friends.

Of course, this doesn’t apply to women you’re actually friends with.

If you like hanging out with a girl and have zero romantic interest in her, she falls into this category. Otherwise, keep it real.

Women will know if you’re really interested in just being buddies – or something beyond that.

And if you’re just faking it, she’ll find every available excuse to stop “hanging out” with you. Thus, the best course of action is to STOP pursuing these women and direct your energy elsewhere.

#2: Start on a Clean Slate With Other Women Instead

The easiest way to create attraction is getting off the right foot with a new girl. Like I said, taking the “nice guy” route and being friends with them first is phony and women will see right through it.

A better alternative is to come in with a strong, solid approach rather than trying to slip under the radar with a let’s-be-BFFs act.

The reason for this is that most women are going to either figure you for a guy she’s “just friends” with, or someone she can explore more possibilities with in the future.

Obviously, you’ll want her to see you as the latter (i.e. a potential boyfriend) if you want to get any further with her. And this is why you’ll need to be fearless when it comes to approaching a woman.

The biggest problem with most men is their need to look “harmless” around women – as if being attracted to women was harmful to anyone.

So these guys go out of their way to eliminate all traces of their masculinity to avoid looking like a “creep”. But here’s the thing: there’s nothing wrong with expressing a healthy interest in the opposite sex.

If you try to hide this under a guise of friendship, it puts women off big time.

You can find the rest of the article here.

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Yet, in spite of his “boyfriend material” qualities, he couldn’t find a woman to save his life. “All my friends set me up with this girl or that, but it never worked out,” Steve told me.

According to him, he always got the “You’re a nice guy, but…” speech in one form or another. Steve spent a few years like this, wallowing in the special kind of hell where he couldn’t be anything more than a platonic friend to women.

This was when he came to me for help. All this time, he thought women prioritized physical qualities like guys do.

Steve told me he pretty much looked like “your stereotypical nerd” for most of his life. And this is why he wanted to reinvent himself after leaving college.

So he invested in a gym membership, got a stylist to sort out his fashion sense and worked hard to be on top of his career.

The thing is, it was his ATTITUDE that was killing his chances with women, not the way he looked.

Steve may have gotten rid of his sloppy looks, but he didn’t deep-six his self-pitying frame of mind.

Scratching the Surface

One of the first things he realized after I helped him out was that looks are important, but not in the way men treat it.

Let’s face it – as guys, “aesthetically pleasing” is on top of our list of attractive qualities. It’s what gets a woman’s foot in the door, relationship-wise.

However, what a lot of men don’t understand is that, to women, looks are more of a symbol of what lies underneath.

I get your pain – we’ve all been plastered with wall-to-wall images of genetically blessed men with abs that look like they’ve been carved out of stone.

You look at those magazine covers and billboards and think to yourself, “Man, how am I gonna get laid if I don’t look like THAT?”

Worse, your female friends on Facebook are drooling over pictures of their favorite actors and celebrities, making you feel less than adequate.

But that’s the BIGGEST illusion of female attraction right there – don’t believe what women are saying.

You might think they’re getting all hot and bothered JUST because Mr. So-and-so is built like a Greek god; this is what Steve used to believe as well.

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That’s exactly why I decided to write a dating advice article about understanding women.

The most important thing to remember about creating attraction, is that women and men are fundamently different: they’re NOT attracted to the same things… but most men think they are.

I call this “Attraction Circuitry Projection.”

Men are visual creatures: we’re attracted to materialistic things, physique, beauty, youth… and as such we think women are attracted to external things as well. Looks, money, status, fast cars, big houses… we think that’s what they want because WE’RE attracted to it. So much for understanding women huh?

We think we need to learn how to understand women because they don’t like our new fancy clothes, and we couldn’t be more wrong!

Women are emotional creatures that are attracted to internal things like personality and charisma… character traits, humor, and how you make them feel.To understand women, is to know WHAT traits, humor and feelings make them go crazy…

But because they’re attracted to that stuff, they think we’re attracted to it too.

The result: both sexes end up feeling pretty damn disappointed because they do the WRONG things to attract each other! It’s what the entire “battle of he sexes” is about my friend.

I’m dead serious: this is why men are from Mars and women are from Venus, we project our own desires on the other sex and think they want the same thing as we do. This is why the majority of both men AND women fail to create attraction: we think they like what we like and vice versa.

But we all DON’T fall for it, we’re fundamentally different so you need to cut the crap and stop thinking all women fall for looks, youth, beauty, and other visual, materialistic stuff.

Don’t get me wrong, women ARE attracted to looks and men ARE attracted to personality to a certain degree… but that’s only 10% of someone’s success with them at best, the other 90% is looks and youth to men and personality and charisma to women.

In short: women AREN’T attracted to your Ferrari or to pretty boy looks, that’s only a very small minority of them… just like only a very small minority of men (let’s be honest here) really likes women for their personality and charisma. This is what attraction circuity projection is all about.

So… you need to stop worrying about your looks and start worrying about how to create attraction by developing your character traits, your personality, your charisma.

How’s that for a quickie lesson about how to understand women? I told you understanding women started here dude. More coming soon, so stay tuned to the Win With Women blog!

And before I forget: another thing that’s a mystery to most men when they’re trying to understand a woman, is that they have NO IDEA AT ALL about when she is interested. That is why I decided to write a blog post about the signs a woman is interested in you. Be sure to check it out, alright?

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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