One thing I’ve learned doing dating coaching over the last 16 years, and that’s this:

Most men (and women!) have almost NO CLUE about how attraction between the sexes really works.

Now, when I say NO CLUE – I mean that they THINK they understand it, and PRETEND to understand relationships, but honestly don’t. I think it’s mostly because they don’t want to seem like they’re ignorant to the other 98% of the population that is also pretending to know what they’re doing.

Most of the guys who pretend to know how to date a lot of girls will give you the same lame advice:

• “Dude, you gotta be confident…”
• “You gotta know how to talk to women…”
• “You gotta know how to dress…”
• “You gotta…”

Well, sad to say that half of these guys are usually “naturals” with women (meaning they intuitively have gotten women without knowing what the $#&% they are doing, or they’re good looking.)

The other half are guys that don’t really have ANY skill with women, but just happen to have a girlfriend at the moment. Which means they’re currently doing 100% better than you, and they think that entitles them to tell you “how the game works.”

My sales mentor from years ago once told me:

“Don’t ever take advice from someone who’s not doing what you want to be doing. Or has what you want.”

I’d add to that:

“Don’t take advice from lucky fools.”

They don’t know, but they’re pretend it was all skill, and then they’ll confuse and ruin you.

Instead, go to the guy who knows how it works – AND can explain it! That’s why you’re here, I’m assuming.

So if you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why the hell can’t I get a girlfriend?” – I’m about to give you some earth-shaking revelations. Starting with:

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #1: You reek of desperation…

Now, before you dismiss this as not applying to you, let me remind you that NO ONE thinks they’re acting desperately. Unfortunately this is the delusion that is ultimately going to make them marry a woman WAY below they’re pay grade.

Desperation shows in many ways:

• Too eager
• Too “there”
• Too attentive

The sad fact is that many women can be snowed over with this behavior. Especially if she doesn’t get asked out a lot. She will likely be so starving for attention and to have a guy desire her that she can’t tell the difference between desperate neediness and romantic obsession.

To be fair, most guys don’t know the difference.

Which means you need to ask and find out if you’re coming across with a stench of clingy weirdness.

(This is also what people mean when they say you need to “be more confident.” Confidence is the polar opposite of desperation.)

Oh, and don’t ask your best ‘girl buddy’ about this. Chances are she’s only hanging around you because your lack of interest is challenging and attractive to her, OR she’s taken you on as a pet project.

Ask a guy who is known for telling the painful truth, not a friend. If you want the truth, go hunt it down.

Don’t believe the B.S. other people spew as gospel.

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #2: You have no social proof…

Social proof is based on the idea of social influence, stating that people will conform in order to be liked or accepted by the influencer (or society).

What that’s saying is that if the group likes it, we like it. If the group accepts it, we tend to accept it.

That group can even be just one person that has a lot of influence.

So here’s the deal: Do you have people that know you and like you? You have to make sure women encounter you with those people.

A lone wolf approach is going to immediately brand you as unproven, strange, and not quite trustworthy.

If you have no friends, that should be your first order of business – WAY before finding a girlfriend. If you did manage to get a girlfriend with no social circle of your own, she’s going to lose you faster than an ass rash, or ask you to join her Goth Facebook page.

Social proof defines humans in a social order. Think of it as your social “credit rating.”

And women want to know you’ve got the points…

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #3: You’re a victim of your own issues…

I talk to guys all the time that are perfectly fine looking, earn a good income, and just look fantastic – on paper.

But the second they go out on a date, or even manage to meet a woman, their weird emotional issues start getting triggered. I call this their “Weird Stuff.”

The do all kinds of things to ruin it for themselves:

• Get jealous, or needy…
• Get hung up on ONE girl that they can never have…
• Get critical and picky – basically pushing every girl away…
• Lose their willingness to stay clean and well shaven
• They start to get insecure and talk themselves into screwing it up

This list could be so long that it would literally break the page you’re reading it on. It also includes things like being too picky to avoid intimacy and connection, as well as a bunch of other “issues.”

The point is that every guy out there knows what his “stuff” is. And every single one of those guys is trying to cover it up with what I call “guy-makeup.” Women cover up imperfections in their face with makeup, and guys like this do the same thing by covering up their weird behaviors (and confidence issues) with guy-makeup.

If you’re going to get that girl, you have to work on yourself, chum. There’s nothing in the world that’s going to keep a woman from seeing through that.

Sooner or later, your Weird Stuff shows up.

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #4: You have exactly NO balls…

These days guys seem to really run around in a constant fear of rejection. I’m not going to label generations, but you know what I’m talking about MILLENNIALS! 

I’m kind of kidding there… it’s just about every generation that expects women to walk up and approach THEM. They expect the woman to initiate.

Look, I’m sorry the media has completely misled you on this, but women’s equality does NOT mean she’s just been waiting for the go ahead to start hitting on you.

Men are the supply, and women are the demand.

Men want what women got, so they get to wait for us to step up and prove ourselves to them. It’s the way of nature, and you’re lack of courage won’t change that.

I was like this once myself. Secretly hoping that I could put on a dash of some secret cologne and women would just dog-pile on me.

IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN!

Anyone that promises this to you isn’t being up-front.

Sure, you can get women feeling attraction and fighting over you – but that takes some skills you probably don’t have right now. AND you still have to reach out and be seen by them in the first place.

So rather than hope you can skate by on a wish and a prayer, you’d be better off figuring out why women seem so scary to you that you can’t even talk to them.

Because if you’re a fraidy cat now, she’s going to make sure you really don’t have any balls in the relationship.

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #5: You avoid social situations…

This includes avoiding groups of people for a wide variety of reasons, including the ones that start out with you self-identifying with your “Weird Stuff” I talked about above.

Look, I get it. I’m an introvert at heart. I get my recharge by being alone and playing video games and playing guitar.

A lot of guys who can’t get laid resort to reading and theorizing about the world a lot. They have very little actual practical experience because they want to avoid action. And the best delay tactic is to be stuck in never-ending book learning.

But ultimately, humans are social animals and need to socialize. Not only for friendships, but yeah – to get a girlfriend you need to meet people.

So you have to let go of your fears about social awkwardness a bit. I see a lot of guys who hold on to their solitary lifestyle and defend it with the fervor of a Southern Baptist Pastor on Sunday.

Stop avoiding people and relating to people. Drop your resistance – and you just might find that it’s not so bad as you think.

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #6: You’re a negative Nancy…

This reason for not having a girlfriend is similar to the antisocial one in #5 above. A lot of guys use negativity as a defense mechanism, too.

My personal flavor was one of angry sarcasm and dark humor. I came across as funny, but painfully so.

In the end, I didn’t attract anyone because I was so negative about things. The funny part was that I really wasn’t really a negative guy. I just did it for the laughs.

Once you let go of the anger and feelings of injustice that we men often wallow in, we’re more open to people.

Negativity will drown you in emptiness, so let go of that need to pre-judge the world…

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?  REASON #7: You have NO PLAN…

Let’s face it – most guys wing it.

I did.

I went for years thinking I could just “figure women out” and get what all the other guys were getting. I ended up so wrong that I almost jumped off a bridge.

So don’t ever delude yourself into thinking that love, sex, and relationships are subjects that you’re just “born knowing.”

NO one comes factory installed with the knowledge to attract women.

No one has a “map to my girlfriend” tattooed on their arm for easy reference.

That’s why I made a plan of my own.

I sat down and mapped out all the things you need to get a girlfriend in one easy reference tool…

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Life would be a helluva lot easier if you could just open an app on your phone and it would show you all the women around you that were into you.

Problem is, that app is a long way off in the future. So instead of wishing on a dream, why don’t we talk about the real world?

If you want to know if a chick likes you, you need to know what signs to watch for.

Let’s start with:

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #1: She’s whipping her mane…

There’s a great scene in Charlies Angels (the movie from way back) where Lucy Liu advises Cameron Diaz to “flip your damn hair.” Cameron does, and the guy loses his mind for her.

To be fair, Cameron would only have to show up for guys to lose it over her, but whatever.

That hair-flip maneuver works, though. It’s part of a whole set of actions women take subconsciously that give away her true interest level in you.

It’s called Primping. These are body language “tells” that show how much she wants you.

She’ll do stuff like:

• Flip her hair
• Play with her straw
• Giggle
• Fix her blouse
• Fix her hair

The list is really endless. Just watch out for those signs she’s giving off that tell you she’s lovin’ it…

How to tell if a girl is digging you – Signal #2: She’s smiling more than the Joker…

The reality of a woman’s interest is that she’s going to go a little over board to make sure you get the hint that she’s interested in you. Women usually put out way too many signals to count when she’s ready to play.

Smiling is one of those things she won’t be able to help herself from doing. She’ll smile a lot to show her happiness.

• Happy that she found a guy she didn’t have to lose like a case of the crabs…
• Happy that she doesn’t have to sit there alone and wonder if every person in there is judging her because she’s not talking to someone…

Happiness is going to show as a smile on her face.

If she looks too serious, you should consider that a sign of disinterest – especially if she isn’t ponying up some conversation to keep things going.

How to tell if a girl likes you – Signal #3: She’s confusing you…

On the other hand, a woman often doesn’t know how to make you understand she likes you without pulling away her interest every couple minutes.

This happens when she likes you, and starts showing that she likes you, and then realizes she’s showing her interest. Then she acts the opposite way to be “hard to get.” Mostly so she doesn’t have to feel like a “slut.”

Look, I didn’t make them like this. I know it sounds kind of crazy.

But that’s how women think. 

They’re riding this insane roller coaster of emotions in their head (all self-generated emotions, mind you – but she wouldn’t believe that.) And she doesn’t realize how her actions reflect the awkward and irrational stuff in her head.

So if she’s confusing you with hot & cold signals, you can assume that there’s some interest there. If she wasn’t interested at all, you would only get the not-interested version of her.

How to tell if a girl wants you – Signal #4: She’s Laughing…

Not laughing AT you, but with you.

This is kind of a cliche, but it’s true. Women don’t want to lead guys on, so she won’t laugh at anything you’re saying if she’s not genuinely interested.

How to tell if a girl is attracted to you – Signal #5: She’s All Touchy…

If she’s suddenly touchy-feely with you, she’s got to be considering you as a romantic interest. Women don’t usually get physical with a guy they’re not at least a little interested in.

Now there’s another reason that women do this, and that’s to “Stir The Pot.”

You see, women like to provoke things to find out what emotions are involved. She’s wondering if she has any power or control over you, and she might be doing this to see how you’ll respond. If you get too touchy back, she’ll shut you down.

So just take it in stride and stay relaxed.

How to tell if she wants you – Signal #6: She’s Jealous…

If you talk to another girl and she gets snippy or weird on you, chances are:

1. She’s interested – and
2. She’s triggered…

By triggered, I mean that she’s got some emotional baggage that just came to the surface.

A lot of women have weirdness around handling situations with another woman in the picture. Either she’s been cheated on before, or she’s got some insecurities about relationships with competition in them.

Either way, it’s a good sign to start out with. But stay frosty and keep an eye out that she doesn’t have a psycho vibe underneath that. Sometimes a woman’s crazy will completely overtake her interest and feelings for you, and it will get weird – fast.

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #7: She hunts you down…

If a girl is interested in a guy, she will not want to take a chance that you’ll find someone else and ditch her. Women HATE lost opportunities.

So watch for her to actively try to get back with you. If you’re in a bar or club, she’ll find you. Or make her way back to you in some way.

She will have to do it by breaking away from her clique of chick friends, though, so be on the lookout for her. If she’s trying, you have to jump back in once you’ve confirmed she’s searching.

But also realize that if she’s hot, she doesn’t need to hunt anyone down.

Keep an eye out for her interest, and act while you’ve got her interest pointed toward you…

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #8: She points out the coinky-dinks…

If she’s liking you, she’s also going to seize any opportunity to send a signal to you that says: “Hey, this is destiny!”

She’ll pick up on any random thing that you both like, no matter how stupid.

“Hey, we both like breathing and eating food!”

Okay, maybe not that stupid, but you’ll know it when you hear it. She’ll point out simple, stupid things that connect you.

Like:

• Same taste in music
• Same taste in TV shows
• Same taste in food
• Same taste in drinks

You get the picture.

By the way, if you spot something she likes that’s particularly obscure – and you like it – you should point it out. She’ll take it as a sign.

Or … not.

How to tell if a girl is into you – Signal #9: She’s giving you verbal signals…

Women are both subtle AND predictable when it comes to language…

She will say things that are meant to be a green light for you to move forward with her. And if you don’t catch these signals, you might lose your shot. She only opens her window of interest for a short time, and she expects YOU to know when that happens!

Now, you have to know how to talk to a woman to find out if she’s giving you these signals. Otherwise, you’ll be waiting and hoping for them to show up. And that could be a long time coming…

The best thing you can do is know all the signals to look for – AND how women are triggered to feel attraction for you.

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But I don’t care.

I didn’t write this article to enable a bunch of low self-esteem guys to have more reasons to dislike women, or to paint women in a negative light. Many women aren’t even aware they employ these tactics directly.

In fact, there’s a whole bunch of women who DO know about them, and refuse to use them.

There’s a saying you might not have heard: “Female cunning surpasses male understanding any day of the week.”

I’m telling you this because you need to know that women aren’t always angels, and an innocent guy can get pulled into a rather unhappy situation if he doesn’t keep his eyes open when he’s out there dating.

I’m not telling you anything you probably don’t already know – BUT you might not know that this “man-ipulative” skill is something that is scientifically established.

Manipulation isn’t necessarily bad, by the way. It’s just that people don’t like to get played by others.

And the fact is that manipulation is one of the most effective methods for getting you want out of life.

Let’s trace this back along evolutionary lines.

Women have never had the physical strength men do. They simply don’t.

And don’t you believe those silly Hollywood movies where Zoe Saldana kicks the ass of a man three times her size with “Waif-Fu.” (That’s the magical martial art that all these ridiculously small women in action movies use to take down guys that outweigh them 3:1.)

Yeah, there are some very strong women out there. But pound for pound, women don’t have the same kind of physical strength.

That’s not misogyny – it’s just the truth of the matter.

I still meet guys that think that female action heroes are totally believable – much less the male ones.

Now, over the tens of thousands of years that humans have been evolving, women figured out that they had another kind of power… something far more effective than physical strength.

They discovered the power of social manipulation.

Take, for instance, the amazing story of Paris Hilton.

Did you know that she was a tomboy when she was younger?

And her voice is actually deep and husky?

That’s right – the woman you might peg for being a complete idiot is actually a lethal businesswoman. She’s earned hundreds of millions of dollars without relying once on her family’s Hilton Hotels fortune.

She’s smart, savvy, and a first-rate manipulator.

This brings us to the first trick women use to manipulate men:

Women will raise the pitch of their voice when they’re asking for a favor or to convince a man to do something.

This raising of the voice makes her seem more effeminate, and more childlike – which elicits a response from almost all men.

Paris used this trick as a kid to get her parents to buy her pets.

If she really wanted something, she’d say: “Daddy, I really want this!” – and raise her voice to a high, sweet note.

If she got a boyfriend mad at her, she would say – in a baby voice: “I’m sorry… I didn’t mean to.” This sweet talk would get every guy to forgive her almost instantly.

You see, acting childlike appeals to a certain fantasy in a man’s mind – and it works like crazy to get you to do what she wants.

(YOUR girl, that is. Not Paris. I’m assuming you’re not dating her right now.)

A high sweet voice evokes a feeling of youthfulness, innocence, and being unassuming.

When used with a pet name for you, and the next two tricks, you don’t stand a chance.

This now brings us to the second trick women use to manipulate guys:

Women will act dumb and play on your “rescuer” drive to get you to do things for them.

Yes, guys – I know this one will be a shocker.

A lot of women put on that ditzy, airhead act – throwing the word “like” between every word – just to get you to think you’re the big strong MAN who can protect her.

She’ll sometimes slip in some praise for you to make you feel even more enabled and capable.

“Is my big strong man going to buy smoopsie another Appletini?” she says, pouting and looking like a lost puppy.

One of the alternate ways a woman will look helpless to manipulate men is through crying.

Yeah, every guy cringes when she pulls out the big guns like that. It’s been shown that men literally have an instinctive reaction to a woman crying.

Just take note of how easily women go to tears, and how quickly men rush in – or give in – to make it stop.

There’s really only one way to stop that hot blonde from crying – especially if she means anything to you… and that’s giving in.

I hate to tell you this, and I’m not trying to take a cheap shot here, but your mom probably has a PhD in using tears to get her way. Mothers know this trick best.

And finally, the THIRD trick women use to get you do what she wants:

She will touch you – in suggestive, but not sexual ways.

You may have seen a girl manipulate her boyfriend this way. Or just a girl who wants to work a few free drinks at a dance club.

What she’ll do is to find ways to slip in small demonstrations of affection for you. Just enough to give you a little hope that you might stand a chance with her.

But if you try to act on what seems like romantic interest, she backs off and cools you off in a way that makes YOU feel like an idiot who misinterpreted her signals.

But she WAS giving them off, my friend. Oh yes.

Some of the ways she does this are to run her fingers through your hair…

Or maybe she’ll hold your hand for a few seconds to give you a thrill…

Or rub your back – sometimes using her nails a bit to make it more arousing.

She also knows that getting her head close to yours is a way to give you a surge of adrenaline – and hope. If she throws in a little eye contact with any of these, you’re as good as gone, my friend.

Women know the fine line between sexual touch, and suggestive touch. And she’ll use the latter to get you all hot and bothered, then conveniently go cold and disappear when she gets what she wants.

Keep in mind that culturally it’s accepted that women can touch men as they like, but it’s not like that for guys. We have to wait for the green light – and she controls that, too.

By the way – not that you need to verify this – I’m sure your common sense will tell you this is all dead-on true…

But if you need to see this stuff working, just go to ANY strip club in the world. You’ll see the girls using every sexually manipulative tool in the book.

They need to do this to get you to buy their “wares” – the lap dance, the attention…

I took my friend down to San Francisco recently for his bachelor party, and his friends were amazed at my ability to shut down ANY stripper who was trying to game me – and I did it with one look and one short phrase: “Not right now, honey.”

They saw the look in my eyes, the look that explained in no uncertain terms:

“Yeah, I see what you’re doing – and I’m not a sucker for it, sweat-pea. Move along.”

Now, truth be told, this is only 3 of MANY weapons of mass seduction that women use on guys. I’ll cover a few of the others in the future.

But for now, these are the Power Trinity of manipulative tricks that women pull out on a whim to get what they want.

The real threat isn’t that she’s going to use them on you, though.

No…

What’s more of a threat to you is that you’ll read this article, and you’ll even recognize when she uses it on you the next time…

And you won’t give a damn.

You’ll go along with it if there’s a chance – no matter how slight – that she’s going to sleep with you.

Hey, maybe she will… maybe she won’t.

But forewarned is forearmed, as they say.

Use this knowledge to stop yourself from getting played and used, because there are a lot of women who will take advantage of their sexual wiles. And they’ll take advantage of you.

So be smart – stay frosty…

And always be smarter than they think you are, as my good friend says.

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While the three tricks we just talked about are the BIGGEST ones you have to watch out for, there are plenty of OTHER feminine traps you need to avoid too. Of course, my program has ALL of those covered so you’ll never fall flat on your face ever again.

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And unfortunately, a lot of guys often make the mistake of spending a good chunk of their hard-earned money on dates and what-not to make their woman feel special, only to be kicked to the curb later on.

The reality is that guys are often at risk of being taken for a ride by unsavory women who’ll leave them high and dry in the end. Whether you’re the CEO of a major corporation or an average dude getting by from paycheck to paycheck, you might meet a girl who makes a game out of sucking men dry (and not in the way you hope).

If this kind of girl senses any emotional weakness in you, she’ll pour honey in your ear and get you to cough up everything you’ve ever worked for.

But you don’t have to be another notch on a gold digger’s belt. With a few simple attitude adjustments, you can build an airtight game against her tactics and avoid getting gouged.

#1: Call Her Out (But Be Subtle About It)

One thing you need to learn about being an Alpha Male is detaching yourself from the FEAR of speaking up when you get an unmistakable whiff of B.S.

Some guys are afraid of rocking the boat by calling someone out on their shenanigans even when it’s painfully obvious. But let me ask you: what’s the worst that could happen?

Could someone’s disapproval hurt you physically in some way? Will disagreeing with an attractive woman make you less than a man?

Think about that for a moment – it’s pretty liberating actually.

I’m digressing a bit, but the point is, the consequences of calling out someone with less-than-noble intentions aren’t as horrifying as you think.

Here’s an example: let’s say you’re trying to take things to the next level with her, but she gives you the red light. She might push back and tell you that she only sleeps with a guy who’s “in it for the long haul.”

If she’s more focused on sealing the deal on a relationship first, as opposed to going with the flow and figuring things out later, that could be a red flag. She might be more interested in the bottom line and securing her Return On Investment for putting out.

Here’s the best comeback to that kind of attitude:

“Personally, I’m a guy who goes for it if I’m feeling the chemistry. I don’t really see it as a needs exchange, you know, like having to put labels on a connection to justify sleeping with someone – that’s just how I see it.”

Don’t cave in her to way of thinking and push back in a firm but gentle way.

#2: Back Off And Play It Cool

After that, dial it down a few notches. Neediness is your enemy, so de-escalate things for a while and see how she reacts.

That’ll tell her you’re no pushover. More importantly, she’ll catch on to the fact that you’re willing to hit the brakes on attention and affection if something smells fishy.

#3: Cut Her Off Before She Even Gets Started

Some gold diggers aren’t so subtle; they might straight up ask for some dough if they know you’re loaded.

Warning: This is exactly where the cycle of dependency starts!

Like with everything we’ve talked about so far, you need to put your foot down early on in the game, but in a classy way.

She might drop hints that her credit score is shot to hell or her car payments are overdue. Watch out – she’s trying to pull on your Good Samaritan strings.

Instead of giving her the response she wants (e.g. “I could help you out ’til you get back on your feet…”), “praise” her on how well she’s keeping it together. Then follow it up with a subtle zinger to really give her the red light.

For instance, you could tell her, “Well that sucks. It’s pretty awesome how you’re not letting it cramp your style, though. Personally, I dig girls who have their financial stuff sorted out, and I’m sure you’ll be able to do that too one day.”

This is all under-the-radar stuff. If she’s trying to game you, don’t be afraid to throw a cleverly disguised curveball her way.

It’ll take a couple of moments for it to register, but she’ll get the message loud and clear.

Simple, right?

Remember, you can only be someone’s doormat with your consent.

Being an Alpha Male is about not putting up with anyone’s crap – not even from beautiful women. Above all, standing your ground tells a gold digger that you’re a man who deserves to be seen as a person, and not just what he makes in a year.

Speaking of Alpha qualities, I can show you the quickest way to start cultivating that rock-solid personality that women are addicted to.

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But you don’t have to put up with the same BS over and over again until you quit dating altogether. If you’re sick of being written off as a guy she’ll NEVER have feelings for, check out these tips below:

#1: Stop Being a Phony

Yes, you read that right. Admit it – you probably have more than a few female friends in your life and you’re interested in more than just being friends with them.

You know, the painfully hot friends you really have a crush on, yet act like you’re just friends with them.

Here’s my advice: get real with yourself and stop carrying the proverbial torch for these lady friends.

If you’re putting on a “just friends” act while secretly hoping she’ll sleep with you, that’s all you’ll get out of her – being just friends.

Of course, this doesn’t apply to women you’re actually friends with.

If you like hanging out with a girl and have zero romantic interest in her, she falls into this category. Otherwise, keep it real.

Women will know if you’re really interested in just being buddies – or something beyond that.

And if you’re just faking it, she’ll find every available excuse to stop “hanging out” with you. Thus, the best course of action is to STOP pursuing these women and direct your energy elsewhere.

#2: Start on a Clean Slate With Other Women Instead

The easiest way to create attraction is getting off the right foot with a new girl. Like I said, taking the “nice guy” route and being friends with them first is phony and women will see right through it.

A better alternative is to come in with a strong, solid approach rather than trying to slip under the radar with a let’s-be-BFFs act.

The reason for this is that most women are going to either figure you for a guy she’s “just friends” with, or someone she can explore more possibilities with in the future.

Obviously, you’ll want her to see you as the latter (i.e. a potential boyfriend) if you want to get any further with her. And this is why you’ll need to be fearless when it comes to approaching a woman.

The biggest problem with most men is their need to look “harmless” around women – as if being attracted to women was harmful to anyone.

So these guys go out of their way to eliminate all traces of their masculinity to avoid looking like a “creep”. But here’s the thing: there’s nothing wrong with expressing a healthy interest in the opposite sex.

If you try to hide this under a guise of friendship, it puts women off big time.

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Yet, in spite of his “boyfriend material” qualities, he couldn’t find a woman to save his life. “All my friends set me up with this girl or that, but it never worked out,” Steve told me.

According to him, he always got the “You’re a nice guy, but…” speech in one form or another. Steve spent a few years like this, wallowing in the special kind of hell where he couldn’t be anything more than a platonic friend to women.

This was when he came to me for help. All this time, he thought women prioritized physical qualities like guys do.

Steve told me he pretty much looked like “your stereotypical nerd” for most of his life. And this is why he wanted to reinvent himself after leaving college.

So he invested in a gym membership, got a stylist to sort out his fashion sense and worked hard to be on top of his career.

The thing is, it was his ATTITUDE that was killing his chances with women, not the way he looked.

Steve may have gotten rid of his sloppy looks, but he didn’t deep-six his self-pitying frame of mind.

Scratching the Surface

One of the first things he realized after I helped him out was that looks are important, but not in the way men treat it.

Let’s face it – as guys, “aesthetically pleasing” is on top of our list of attractive qualities. It’s what gets a woman’s foot in the door, relationship-wise.

However, what a lot of men don’t understand is that, to women, looks are more of a symbol of what lies underneath.

I get your pain – we’ve all been plastered with wall-to-wall images of genetically blessed men with abs that look like they’ve been carved out of stone.

You look at those magazine covers and billboards and think to yourself, “Man, how am I gonna get laid if I don’t look like THAT?”

Worse, your female friends on Facebook are drooling over pictures of their favorite actors and celebrities, making you feel less than adequate.

But that’s the BIGGEST illusion of female attraction right there – don’t believe what women are saying.

You might think they’re getting all hot and bothered JUST because Mr. So-and-so is built like a Greek god; this is what Steve used to believe as well.

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It’s the age old “she likes me, she likes me not” situation. I’ve asked myself many times: “Is she playing hard to get? Why do I fail to figure her out?”

Have you ever felt frustrated because you seriously don’t have ANY clue about what a woman feels for you? Confused by her games and behavior? We’ve all been there my friend, hell, people don’t say “all is fair in love and war” for nothing!

But today I want to show you WHAT playing hard to get actually means, what’s the reason why hard to get women do what they do, and how to STOP a woman playing games.

It’s time to put all the confusion to rest, don’t you think?

Is She Playing Hard To Get? A Definition Of Hard To Get Women & Why Women Play Hard To Get. The Truth’s Funny!

Every single man on the planet gets frustrated and expresses confusion as soon as I mention women who are playing hard to get, because they simply don’t understand WHY women would do such a thing. It used to be a mystery to me too why women would behave in such unpredictable ways but…

The reasons why women play hard to get are actually pretty straightforward when you take a minute to think about it:

1) While men are seen as freaking HEROES when they date multiple chicks a week, women are seen as sluts when they date multiple men a week. So, to a certain degree? All women MUST play hard to get or they fear being seen as sluts.

2) What would you do if you’ve been hurt emotionally in the past by an ex? You wouldn’t show your affection for someone as fast next time and every time you would, you would have your doubts. The doubts make you react warmly to a woman’s attention today and cold tomorrow. Translation: women play hard to get because they’re insecure and probably have emotional bagage…

Summary of why women play hard to get: they don’t want to be seen as sluts so they have to do it and/or they could have been hurt in the past and want to be careful because of it.

As you can see: NO… she’s not playing games to hurt your feelings or make you go crazy. What a relief, right? I know! And one more thing I gotta tell you about a woman playing games…

I can tell you from experience that she’s playing hard to get because of reason number 2 (hurt in the past) 90% of the time… do you realize what this means?

When women play hard to get you’re usually halfway there, the war is usually half won already!

Now, I would understand if you still feel a little confused… and maybe even a bit frustrated. Because sure, now you know WHY women do it, but not when they do it. I’m willing to bet that you want me to give you some signals to know when women play hard to get.

And don’t worry dude: I’ve got you covered better than Kevlar armor with this one! Let’s see the signs below…

Is She Playing Hard To Get? How To Tell When She Is…

Simply said, you’ll know when she’s playing hard to get when…

1) She talks to you on one day and completely ignores you the next. By ignoring I mean walking straight past you, not greeting you, not responding via Facebook, text message or to your calls. The whole nine yards.

2) She eagerly responds to your teasing, compliments and other signs of attention or affection on day 1 so it seems like you’re boosting the attraction. But she completely shuts down, sits there being quiet, or quickly ends the conversation on day 2 so it seems like you FAILED to create attraction. This is her playing hard to get all the way baby!

3) She talks to you for minutes and hours at a time on one day and only replies with 3 words or less to everything you say the next day. Again, she’s playing games here…

Do you see the pattern here? Hot-cold. Hot… and then cold. This is typical hard to get behavior!

And what I’m about to say is important… because guess what the typical male response is?

“Damn it! Why is this happening? I failed to create attraction while everything went so well yesterday! I have to double my efforts or I will lose her eventually…”

The result: you end up chasing a girl harder and longer than ever, the girl subconsciously feels that you’re rewarding her for ignoring you, so she starts ignoring you more, you get even more frustrated, chase her more… and it’s a downward spiral from there my friend.

And this needs to STOP. If you have the feeling that she’s playing hard to get, then you need to use a radically different approach to “getting the girl” than you would normally use. Let’s check it out…

How To Get A Date, Even If She’s Playing Games…

Now you know why women play hard to get, how they do it, and what the WRONG approach to solving this problem is… it’s time to see how to get a date even if she’s playing games. It’s so easy when you remember this…

When she’s playing hard to get, 9 out of 10 times she DOES like you… but DOESN’T know how to handle it. So what does that tell you?

She doesn’t know how to be herself around you, how to feel comfortable about feeling this way about you. It’s up to you to let her know… and you can do that by bursting her bubble the soft way or the hard way.

1) For softies: as soon as she’s acting hot again after playing hard to get, immediately take her into a setting that’s as romantic as possible. Don’t chase her when she’s cold, just take her there when she’s hot. Dance with her, massage, kiss, tell her all the things you like about her, and so on. This way SHE knows for sure that she won’t get hurt again, because of you only being in it for the sex or liking her less than she likes you. Sounds gay? It’s not, because women who play hard to get want to know they can be themselves around you, that you’re genuinely interested, that they’re safe with you. They’ve been hurt remember?

2) For the little devils: if the nice way doesn’t work, then it’s time to show her you don’t accept second class behavior like ignoring you. So if she acts cold? You act colder. If she acts hot? You act hotter… and she will fall for her own game. If giving her a taste of her own medicine still doesn’t work, then you should seriously consider a confrontation. Get her alone and tell her that you know she’s been hurt in the past but that you’re not those guys, you’re you… and if she wants you then she has to act right and be herself.

You’ll probably find yourself being a softie or a devil for several weeks (or sometimes months), but it’s worth it when you get her.

WARNING: if she’s playing hard to get it doesn’t justify you going faggy on her by becoming a desperate, ass kissing wussy… because that kills ALL attraction. If she’s still playing games after several weeks, then ask yourself if you really want a woman with so much emotional baggage. You don’t. I know from experience…

I wish you the best with getting all those women who play hard to get out there, because they’re easier to get than they realize… but let’s keep that a secret shall we?

And if you want to know more about female psychology, how to get a date no matter how women test you, and more about improving your confidence so you WON’T get frustrated or confused when women play hard to get?

Then I highly recommend you check out what my Deep Inner Game newsletter is all about.

Right about now this movie whore is going to see himself some Wall Street 2 Money Never Sleeps, because the first one from the 80’s was awesome… so evil… good story… love it!

And when it comes to flicks you can bet your ass that I am playing hard to get myself, because I’ve seen all the typical formula movies: horror, action, chick flick… almost all follow a standard, too damn boring recipe. I like myself some freak mode in the kitchen, so I watch all movies that do NOT follow those stinking recipes!

Movies with a twist see right through me playing hard to get, and so should you… but with women.

I hope this blog post answers that annoying little question: Is she playing hard to get?

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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That’s exactly why I decided to write a dating advice article about understanding women.

The most important thing to remember about creating attraction, is that women and men are fundamently different: they’re NOT attracted to the same things… but most men think they are.

I call this “Attraction Circuitry Projection.”

Men are visual creatures: we’re attracted to materialistic things, physique, beauty, youth… and as such we think women are attracted to external things as well. Looks, money, status, fast cars, big houses… we think that’s what they want because WE’RE attracted to it. So much for understanding women huh?

We think we need to learn how to understand women because they don’t like our new fancy clothes, and we couldn’t be more wrong!

Women are emotional creatures that are attracted to internal things like personality and charisma… character traits, humor, and how you make them feel.To understand women, is to know WHAT traits, humor and feelings make them go crazy…

But because they’re attracted to that stuff, they think we’re attracted to it too.

The result: both sexes end up feeling pretty damn disappointed because they do the WRONG things to attract each other! It’s what the entire “battle of he sexes” is about my friend.

I’m dead serious: this is why men are from Mars and women are from Venus, we project our own desires on the other sex and think they want the same thing as we do. This is why the majority of both men AND women fail to create attraction: we think they like what we like and vice versa.

But we all DON’T fall for it, we’re fundamentally different so you need to cut the crap and stop thinking all women fall for looks, youth, beauty, and other visual, materialistic stuff.

Don’t get me wrong, women ARE attracted to looks and men ARE attracted to personality to a certain degree… but that’s only 10% of someone’s success with them at best, the other 90% is looks and youth to men and personality and charisma to women.

In short: women AREN’T attracted to your Ferrari or to pretty boy looks, that’s only a very small minority of them… just like only a very small minority of men (let’s be honest here) really likes women for their personality and charisma. This is what attraction circuity projection is all about.

So… you need to stop worrying about your looks and start worrying about how to create attraction by developing your character traits, your personality, your charisma.

How’s that for a quickie lesson about how to understand women? I told you understanding women started here dude. More coming soon, so stay tuned to the Win With Women blog!

And before I forget: another thing that’s a mystery to most men when they’re trying to understand a woman, is that they have NO IDEA AT ALL about when she is interested. That is why I decided to write a blog post about the signs a woman is interested in you. Be sure to check it out, alright?

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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