I mean, you never know what her mood will be from one minute to the next, right?

Let’s face it… when you want to ask a girl out, you only have one answer you really want:

How do you ask her out so she will say YES?

We want the no-risk, guaranteed strategy that avoids any chance of rejection or failure. Now, we know that’s not possible, but we still want to avoid the embarrassment of a woman saying no.

There are typically two kinds of guys who ask this question:

Guy #1) Will ask her out eventually, and he usually figures out the timing.

It’s when he finally works his courage up.

And then there’s…

Guy #2) Will probably never find the courage to ask her out.

But instead, he hopes that if he analyzes it long enough, she will get around to asking HIM out, therefore avoiding any risk.

Guess what, Guy #2. It’ll never happen.

So if you’re a Guy #1, let’s get down to a few ways to ask a girl out – so that she’ll say yes. (Most of the time.)

First of all, if you just met her, you need to make sure you’ve got the energy going before you ask her out.

One of the biggest mistakes men make is to ask a woman out when he’s barely even started a conversation.

Think of it this way: She’s always asking, “What’s in it for me?”

I know a lot of guys that think women will just go out with you to get the free dinner (which you shouldn’t be offering right away, but we’ll get back to that.)

She actually won’t just say yes. She needs to know that she’s going to have a good time.

So always be tuned into her favorite radio station: WIIFM

What’s In It For Me?

We’re all a little selfish – sometimes a LOT selfish – and she needs to know that she won’t be stuck on a date with a guy who can’t talk about much more than sports stats and radical political opinions.

(You’re not one of those guys, right?)

So the first thing you need to know is if you SHOULD ask her out.

The first question you need to ask is: Do I really like this girl?

Sometimes you get a few minutes into a conversation and you realize that maybe she isn’t such a rocket scientist after all. In fact, the conversation feels like pulling teeth.

Your teeth.

But wait… she’s still pretty hot.

But when she opens her mouth, it lowers her 1-to-10 score by at least 3 points.

As a guy, we often get pulled into the dream and fantasy of a girl based on her outward appearance. We initiate conversations based on her looks alone.

And when we go through that much effort to start a conversation, and even get her number, it feels kind of reckless not to at least go out with her once or twice. Which is when we start sliding down that slippery slope of settling.

And if you’re not getting laid regularly right now, sometimes it doesn’t matter to you if she’s all that likable. You’ll still go for it, and ignore the consequences.

Ultimately, though, this catches up to us. We wind up with a girlfriend that doesn’t really make us happy, and we feel trapped.

We wanted regular sex, but we wound up with a shrew that we don’t like spending a lot of time with.

Don’t feel guilty – every guy does this. And eventually we learn the lesson.

The time to save yourself that pain, though, is right up front. When you’re first talking to her.

Make a quick judgement call – is she a cool chick?

What does your gut say? Trust your instincts – they will rarely mislead you.

Some other questions to ask yourself:

– Does she go out of her way to make the conversation flow?

– Does she balance the topics between herself and you? Or is she a me-monkey with a constant need to steer the conversation back to her?

– Does she seem fun and lighthearted? Or darkly sarcastic?

And one of the best indicators of a woman’s personality:

– Does she interrupt you a lot, or does she wait and respect your expression?

You’d be surprised how fast that “interrupt” habit can turn ugly later on.

Remember, some guys marry a woman they really don’t like much just because they got used to the regular sex. And later, when that well ran dry, they found themselves in a truly miserable situation.

So the first question to answer is: “SHOULD I ask her out?”

What’s the next question?

“Is she ready for me to ask her out?”

Remember what I said about getting the energy going in the conversation so that she has a reason to want you to ask her out. She wants to WANT to go out with you – not wonder if she should.

So the best thing you can do early in the conversation is to:

1) Make her laugh

You don’t need to be a standup comic here. All you need to do is get a simple giggle or two that lets her know you’re not a bore.

Make a joke about her purse being big enough to sleep in, for example. A good natured tease is all you need.

2) Ask her a question

Make it a simple open-ended question that can get her to start talking. Open-ended means a question that is not a simple yes/no.

It requires her to come up with something of substance for you to talk about.

Something like: “So how did you end up shopping at the mall on a Tuesday afternoon?”

Nothing complicated here.

And that will serve to …

3) Get her to invest

If she seems hesitant to contribute to the conversation, she’s probably aware of the fact that if she does invest a little of herself, she’ll be much more likely to give you her number and a date.

Once you break through this barrier with her, however, you’ll see that it’s practically a guaranteed hook up later on.

Now if you’re still wondering WHEN the best time is to ask her out, consider this first:

What is an easier favor to ask someone:

– Can you give me a ride?

OR

– Can I borrow your car?

Obviously the first question is much easier. I’d rather part with my front teeth than trust someone with my car.

Getting a ride, on the other hand, seems like a much smaller commitment.

So when you ask a woman out, do you think it’s easier to ask:

– Hey, let me have your phone number so we can connect sometime*

OR

– Hey, let’s set up a date when I can monopolize you for 3 hours or so

The principle here is pretty simple: Ask someone for the lowest possible investment to get them on board.

Because once she’s given you that phone number, it’s not as far of a leap to give you the time to hang out.

The principle here is something that Robert Cialdini (an expert on influence and persuasion) calls Commitment & Consistency.

It’s the way that car dealers get you to buy a luxury sedan when you only stopped in to take a look at a Ford Focus. You get the person to agree to some trivial requests, and it’s not long before they’re on board for something much bigger.

The next one is a pretty simple bit of advice, and you’ve probably heard it a million times by now…

Be confident.

Stay with me here… I know that sounds a bit lame.

After all, what does that mean? How do you “BE” something when you’re not sure how it feels or what confidence even is?

Let’s pin this one down, because that one bit of advice is also one of the worst when there’s no explanation of HOW to be confident.

Confidence is really 95% imaginary. It’s the temporary delusion that you know what you’re doing, and that you’re fully capable of handling the situation.

Confidence is also 95% physical.

That means that if you LOOK confident to her, you ARE confident. After all, she really has no way of knowing what you’re actually thinking.

Even the most confident people you know are riddled with self-doubt and fear.

They just do one thing differently: They hide it better.

And the only way to hide it is in confident body language.

The cool part of this is that if you emulate the body language of someone that’s confident, it has a “backflow effect” of making you actually think and believe you’re more confident.

What is confident body language?

– Chin up

Not so you’re looking down your nose at people, but at least so your head is looking straight ahead.

– Shoulders down and back

Relax your shoulders. Don’t let them shrug up or hunch forward. By pressing them down and back, you’ll also accentuate your chest.

– Steady eyes

Don’t scan all over the place. Just lock eyes (gently!) with her.

Avoid the “Manson Lamps” where your gaze is too intense and overpowering. Just pretend you’re a little stoned.

That slightly sleepy – but attentive – gaze is enough to give you a relaxed confidence.

– Straight posture

Pretend that you’re being pulled up by the crown of your head. It will give you a good inch or two in height, as well as straighten up your posture.

This is one of the most important ways men demonstrate physical dominance, and you can’t ignore it.

So there are a few tips to help you figure out that all-important question of “how” and “when” to ask her out.

And just in case you missed it, I passed along my priceless “Magical Phrase” above*, for getting her number – and the date – later.

In case you missed it, here it is again:

“Hey, let me have your phone number so we can connect sometime…”*

It’s 12 simple words that get you her contact info so you can get the date later.

Use them, and I guarantee you’ll get the girl…

And once you’ve gotten her phone number, you can do so much more than just get a date.

I can teach you how to get attractive, model-quality women to send you naughty photos, call and beg YOU to sleep with them, and reply to your texts IMMEDIATELY. Take the next step by clicking HERE.

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Most of the time, your chances of getting her number are unpredictable. One minute, you might think you’ve got it in the bag, only to have her flat-out reject you the next.

And the pain of getting turned down is the WORST feeling in the world. Rejection is a blow to the ego, and a lot of men experience one emotional beating after another ALL THE TIME.

But what if you could put a stop to this cycle and FINALLY get rid of that sickening feeling in your gut?

Wouldn’t it be awesome to TAKE CONTROL of your success with women instead of leaving your dating life to chance?

From my own experiences, I know what it’s like to feel POWERLESS in the presence of beautiful women.

Have you been frozen with fear from just thinking about approaching a woman you liked? When you tried talking to her, did your legs feel like they turned into stone?

That’s happened to me more times than I care to remember.

That same mixture of TERROR and HESITATION used to keep me from meeting and dating the women I wanted.

But not anymore.

I realized that this feeling was the BIGGEST obstacle to success with women, so I devised a way around it.

Once I discovered the secret to overcome this obstacle, it gave me the POWER to attract the opposite sex in a way I only dreamed of before!

I think you’d agree with me if I said that most men dream of the SAME thing. Deep down every guy lies the desire to spend their life with that special, high-quality woman…

…and KEEP her for good.

That’s a perfectly healthy need to have. And being deprived of companionship will create all sorts of UNHEALTHY effects on a guy.

Men who are rejected on a regular basis tend to become NEEDY. Every failure amplifies this effect, making them more and more desperate for the one thing they can’t have.

At a certain point, they’ll create a repulsive vibe strong enough to drive women away EVERY SINGLE TIME.

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Let’s find out if you’re too scared to approach a girl you like! And then let’s do something about it, so you’ll know how to approach a girl you like, and get her number too, from this day forward.

But before I show you how to approach a girl you like though, it’s time to ask tough questions about approaching girls…

– Do you feel you don’t have the courage to step up to a girl you find attractive?
– Are you confused about what to say, even if you would grow the balls to approach?
– Do you freeze, get all tongue-tied and eventually give up when you try to start a conversation?
– Are you so scared she’ll reject you, that you decide to never approach her?
– Do you feel like you can’t take any more rejection?
– Are you clueless about how to approach a girl you like?

If this is you, then I have to say: I know where you’re coming from. I was so frustrated with my fear of approaching girls that I at one time made a sport of throwing things around in my house.

But let me be honest with you: if you don’t face your fear of approaching girls, you’ll never get to know how to approach a girl you like. And you don’t want that, right?

And if you want to know how to approach a girl you like, you must know something else first…

You must know how to approach a girl you like in a way that creates MASSIVE amounts of attraction. And how do you create attraction, you ask? Good question!

If you want to approach a girl you like and get her number, then you must first create attraction by displaying character traits that girls find attractive.

Let me repeat that in a slightly different way:

There is no money, fame, power or any of that other macho bullshit in the real dating game. Why? Because girls are attracted to a man’s personality and charisma. Approaching girls successfully means showing your personality.

And doing that well all starts with a simple question…

Are you one of those scumbags who uses the same line again and again to approach every single girl you like?

Because although the girl you like may be hearing this line for the first time, she’ll know it’s something you use for every girl. That’s why it will never work.

Why?

Hint: pick up lines are too damn impersonal. Girls want a guy who’s genuinely interested in them, not a scumbag who randomly approaches chicks and thinks he’s smooth.

Knowing how to approach a girl you like is not like knowing how to fish man: you can’t throw some lines out there and expect girls to take the bait!

Because what you’re actually saying with a cheezy line is that you think there’s nothing special about her. Because if you would? You would’ve shown a genuine interest by mentioning something you can only say about her.

In other words: you just insulted her. Ouch! That’s not how to approach a girl you like!

The character trait that you’ll be displaying in this case is actually a LACK of character.

So, what ARE the character traits that the ladies like then? But more importantly, how to approach a girl you like through one of these characters traits?

How To Approach A Girl You Like Tip #1: Be Indifferent

Let’s get one thing straight here about how to approach a girl you like with indifference…

Being indifferent doesn’t mean you don’t give a shit about a girl. Dude, that would be the opposite of showing a genuine interest in her now, wouldn’t it? That’s not how to approach a girl you like!

Being indifferent means you don’t attach ANY value to the first thing you say. It means that there’s no life or death situation here. There’s nothing major hanging in the balance.

Men give way too much importance to the first thing that comes out of their mouths. And that’s when they make themselves look like complete IDIOTS.

When you want to know how to approach a girl you like, remember that it’s never about what you say. It’s all about how you REACT to what SHE is saying!

And by being indifferent and making the most of whatever she’s saying, you’re telling her: “Hey, I just wanted to say hi and see if you wanted to talk, but if you don’t it’s ok.”

And girls love that because it creates a much more relaxed atmosphere. You’re making them feel comfortable and like they can just have fun for a change. Now THAT is how to approach a girl you like right there.

Being indifferent about what will happen and about what you say creates attraction, because most men completely focus on what they’re doing (wrong) instead of on the actual hottie they’re talking to. Focus on her, not on yourself.

Are you nervous when you approach a girl you like? If so, then now you know it’s time to unlearn it. Once you do, the girls will come to you. Trust me!

How to Approach A Girl You Like Tip #2: Be The Playful Teaser

If you’re not the kind of guy who naturally makes jokes and teases people, you may have to practice a bit with others, like family members or girls who are just your friends.

Hell, the world is gonna hate me for saying this, but: practice teasing everyone you meet, no matter where you are! The more you practice, the faster you’ll learn.

Let’s illustrate what playful teasing is all about with some examples:

You: “Hey there, what’s your name?”
She: “Emmm…”
You: “Emmm? Please say that’s not your real name because if it is, then your parents should be sent to prison for being SO lazy… that they gave you a letter of the alphabet as a name instead of an actual, real name like normal people have!”

And then there’s making fun of her real name. That’s another way of teasing well and a must know if you want to learn how to approach a girl you like.

You: “Hi! What’s your name?”
She: “Bree.”
You: “Brie? Isn’t that some kind of French cheese? I think I had some at my cousin’s wedding, but it tasted like garbage and smelled real nasty. I hope you’re better than the wedding brie, miss Bree!”

How to Approach a Girl You Like Tip #3: Observe, Observe!

Another great (and very easy) way to approach a girl you like is by observing.

Let’s say you see a girl who is leaning against a wall, with her arms crossed and looking annoyed. You walk up to her and say:

“Let me guess. You’re waiting for someone who doesn’t have the manners to text you to let you know he’s running a little late. Either that, or you are bored out of your freaking mind. Either way, why don’t you come have a drink with me instead? I’ll be your entertainment for the evening!”

Look around you man.

Chances are you’ll see girls who are looking for something, chicks who are lost, girls who look bored, ladies who are trying to get you to notice them…

And all you have to do is approach a girl and use what you have observed about her current status. So talk about how she looks, what you think she’s doing, etc.

Let’s look at another example of how to approach a girl you like by using her current status…

You see a woman who curses at the bus or train she just missed. Why not comment on it? Why not make a comment like:

“Let me guess. Alarm clock didn’t go off, so you overslept and now you’re late for work. Alarm clocks are little bitches with the worst timing in the world, aren’t they?”

Maybe you’re right, maybe you’re wrong about your observation. But you’ll sure as hell put a smile on her face and have a fun conversation with her!

And here’s another juicy secret about how to approach a girl you like:

The best way to overcome your fear of approaching girls is by doing what works best with fears: you face them, take a stab at getting rid of them, and if you stab long enough they’re gone forever.

So, in a way, getting rid of your fear of approaching girls is much like a stereotypical movie about Italian Americans who have lots and lots of space for human body parts in the trunk of their cars…

Sorry for the picture I just painted for you, old movie junkie habit. Hehe. But I have to make this lesson on how to approach a girl you like as vivid as possible for you, so you’ll remember it when you need it.

Anyways, when it comes to approaching girls you should start by practicing on girls you aren’t attracted to. It will help you make so much progress, simply because a large part of your fear of approaching girls is caused by…

You not feeling comfortable around girls. Around ANY kind of girl.

The more you approach, the more confident you’ll feel because approaching girls won’t be something unknown and scary anymore.

And if you want to discover more about how to approach a girl you like (and trust me: there are LOT more things to know), then gain instant access to more free tips by signing up for the Inner Game Newsletter right away…

Thanks to the insights inside, approaching will become second nature to you.

And before you know it, you know how to approach a girl you like almost with your eyes closed! Hell, it will be easier for you than getting up in the morning. Don’t you just HATE mornings?

Anyways, hope you enjoyed this post on how to approach a girl you like!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Single men all over the planet have been disagreeing about it for dozens of years: women and compliments, they go hand in hand. No they don’t, etc. It’s about time we end the debate, wouldn’t you agree?

NO… this won’t be a let love in, gayish speech. This blog post about women and compliments right here will give you no-nonsense advice on when to use compliments.

So, do women and compliments go hand in hand? Or do compliments make women run away from you as fast as they freaking can?

First things first: let’s talk about the mistakes most single men make when they want to know how to get that girl they’re after… and throw billions of compliments at her!

This is familiar stuff for the critics, but keep on reading if you’re one of them because I do present new stuff…

Women And Compliments Mistake #1: You’re Not A Cannon…

A lot of men ask me why a woman just want to be friends with them after they were open to her about how they feel. Others ask me why a woman doesn’t want to give her phone number to them.

I don’t want YOU to belong to one of these 2 groups, so here’s my answer:

You’re trying to buy her approval, but that doesn’t work. AT ALL. You’re not a compliment cannon. That’s not how women and compliments work.

Example of a conversation of a compliment cannon:

He (drewl drewl): “Hi! Oh my god, you’re so hot!”
She: “Uhh hi.. thanks!”
He: “Is heaven missing an angel?”
She: “oh my god… you did noooot just say that. Whateverrrr!” (walks away)

You can’t get a woman to like you by giving her compliments every time you get a chance, that’s not how compliments work on women. Over-complimenting is much like buying her flowers, gifts, dinner, etc.

That’s not how women and compliments work. Why?

If a woman sees you’re trying to buy her approval, she’ll think:

“You wouldn’t need to buy my approval if there was nothing wrong with you. There’s something wrong with you! You’re trying to make up for it by giving me gifts!”

AND…

“Are you so insecure that you can only express your interest with material things? Are you so insecure that you think I won’t fall in love with you, but will fall in love with your gifts?”

Not good.

So the “rules of the women and compliments game” here are:

– Don’t compliment women too much: 5 on 1 day is more than enough. Five to ten per minute or hour is being desperate, insecure, and trying to make up for your flaws with gifts.

– Don’t compliment women from the start: women fall in love with men that have charisma and personality, not men who buy their approval. Those are the ones that end up becoming her friends.

Onward…

Women And Compliments Mistake #2: Don’t Be Random

Most single men give too many compliments and compliment from the start. You know that now. But it gets worse…

QUESTION.

What is YOUR definition of a good compliment?

– You look beautiful/amazing/gorgeous/hot/sexy? WRONG!

– Is heaven missing an angel/are you a thief because you stole my heart/I can just drown in your eyes? WRONG!

Why is this not the way women and compliments go hand in hand?

Because you can give them to ANY woman. The best compliments you can ever give are the unique ones. The stuff you can only say about her, because that truly makes her feel special.

Giving a random comment (or using a pick up line) is the stuff she hears all the time. Been there, done that. Not impressed. That’s what she’ll think.

Do compliments work then?

YES, women and compliments CAN go hand in hand because a compliment shows a woman that you have a sexual interest in her. Teasing is great, but you need to let a woman know: I’m interested in you… no not that way, but THAT way.

A compliment is one of the most direct tools to voice your sexual interest with.

Again, that’s only when done right and most single men don’t know how to give compliments the right way!

Now, let’s look at some examples of GREAT compliments…

1) If she’s wearing very noticeable, red clothing (red heels, red purse, red shawl, etc.)?

“You’re cute in red… because you’re the sexiest matador I have ever seen!”
In case you didn’t know: matadors are those guys in Spain that hold a red curtain to attract the bull and then avoid him just before the bull hits them with his horns.

Lots of dirty talk about horns is welcome too here. Get started with that teasing! Because that’s what makes women and compliments go well together…

2) If she has those big eyes with a twinkle in it, playful eyes:

“Did you know that you have that look in your eyes like you know more than the rest of us? What are you hiding miss playful eyes?”

As you can see: a good compliment is playful and unique (about the woman you’re talking to).

But prepare yourself for women and compliments…

Because possible side effects she’ll experience may include blushing, giggling, and getting shy!

The #1 Secret To How Women And Compliments Work…

Too much, too fast, too general compliments. Ouch! Those are three ways to screw up your chances with women.

But the #1 secret to how women and compliments work is a little known secret… this little thing called “timing”.

I know from experience after dating lots of women… and after coaching 600+ men during the last 2 years… that every compliment needs a good set up. Just like jokes do.

The moment you create attraction BEFORE you give a compliment, is the moment you “get the girl”.

I’m not kidding…

If you are being selective, playfully teasing her, being mysterious, being dominant, or displaying any of the other character traits first?

She’ll already be interested in getting to know you better…

But if you give her a great compliment after showing her your personality?

That will be the day she goes home after meeting you, calls her best girlfriend, and talks about how hot you are for minutes if not hours.

Again, I’m not kidding!

Why do women and compliments work that way?

Because women fall for personality and if you show your personality? They’ll be interested, but they aren’t sure if YOU are interested too.

So by giving a great compliment?

They’ll know… and now they want something to happen because they’re interested and you’re too. Now they will want that kiss to happen, and maybe even more too…

That’s called anticipation. And anticipation is just what you want her to feel before she goes on a date with you… you want her to look forward to it and fantasize about what it’s like to be with you.

SCORE! This is just one of many examples of why women and compliments work well together… when you use compliments properly that is.

This personality-compliment system works even better if you use what I call the Pareto Reversal when she wants something to happen between you two. But, more on that in another blog post!

In short: compliments do work on women, but when done in the right way and at the right time. And one things is for damn sure. It’s that most single men don’t have a clue how giving a good compliments is done, because they mostly sound like drewling *ssholes that are not sincere.

What a surprising ending to this blog post about women and compliments: it’s GAME OVER for both the romantics and the critics, because they’re both only half right!

Some questions for the comments! Do share your opinion on women and compliments

1) Are you a romantic who believes in compliments and women? Or are you a critic?
2) What is your definition of a good compliment?

By all means: share it with the world bro!

One of my wisdom teeth is killing me right now, so if you don’t mind? I’m diving into my “liquor cabinet” to drink away the pain. Have to wait until Wednesday to get it fixed. Lame!

But I’m willing to bet that women and compliments still go well together, even if I give them with a swollen mouth… because I’m just that confident. Plus, I’m kinda hot too.

Anyways, hope you liked my thoughts on women and compliments!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Why? So YOU won’t make the same mistakes as they’ve made of course!

I’ve coached over 600+ men with achieving dating success in 2008 and 2009 combined… and the moment I told them about these things not do? Was the moment they started getting a LOT more results with women, because everything gets much easier once you handle the fear of walking up to a woman to start a conversation.

Here’s the juicy secret: you’ll find out that women aren’t that scary once you actually start talking to them.

Anyways, here’s my top 10 things NOT to do when approaching women…

#1 Don’t Do A “Random Pick Up”
This one deserves the number one spot of most common mistakes of approaching women, hands down!

You see, women absolutely LOVE bad boys for lots of reasons… but they HATE players. Better said: no one wants to feel like they’re not important, like they don’t matter, like they’re far from unique and just one out of many… and women are no different. They don’t want to be the random chick you picked up at a bar.

That’s why pick up lines and vague compliments (example: “you’re so hot!”) never work with women, because they know you can use them on ANY woman, which makes it a whole bunch of pretty sounding crap to them.

Women want a man that has a genuine interest in them, so, someone who gives compliments about who they are as a person or their specific physique… and someone who seduces them with the stuff they’re interested in (hobbies, fantasies, ambitions, passions, etc.). So, don’t do a random pick up. Do a genuine pick up.

#2 Don’t Over Think It
A lot of men have problems with finding something witty to say to the women they encounter and want to approach. By the time they’ve thought of something “cool” to tell a woman? She’s already gone or talking to someone else.

Don’t be one of those guys, because sometimes… sometimes saying “Hi” is all you’ll ever need to do to start a fun, exciting conversation with a woman that easily leads to getting her phone number.

#3 She’s Not A Magical Princess, But Just Another Human Being
99% of the men out there view the woman they take out on a date as “miss right” and thus the woman they approach as a future miss right, while women think of men more casually… more along the lines of “let’s see where this goes.”

Major problem: thinking the woman you’re about to approach is your future miss right is putting a lot of pressure on yourself and I can almost guarantee you: you’ll act nervous, won’t know what to say and there will be plenty of awkward silences.

So, don’t see the woman you’re approaching as a magical princess, but just another human being.

Here’s the juicy secret of how to get that girl without effort: an easy way to program yourself into believing this is remembering that every woman has insecurities. While you may see a certain woman as absolutely freaking hot, cutest face ever, nice tits and ass… she herself?

Is insecure about her thighs, her eyebrows, her feet… and beauty can be a curse too: she fears men won’t like her for who she is, but for her looks alone which makes her even more insecure. So she has insecurities just like you do, she’s not almighty or anything. Like I said: she’s just another human being, not a magical princess. There’s nothing to feel intimated by.

#4 Don’t Be Awkward, Relax!
Remember the miss right thing from number 3 of the top 10 things NOT to do when approaching women? Well, I attended the Real Man Conference back in 2008 and it drives my point home of how you shouldn’t be awkward.

At the Real Man Conference several dating experts and students gathered to do their thing and learn from each other… and one of the dating experts there was Orlando Owen who was determined to show us the consequences of being awkward around women.

He got two girls from the audience and one guy and told the guy to approach one of the two girls like he normally would. Then, he asked the girls what they thought about him: they clearly saw he felt uncomfortable… and it made THEM feel uncomfortable. They literally said they felt more like walking away from him than talking to him.

Conclusion: don’t be awkward, but relax. Remember, a woman is just another human being with insecurities… AND… I can tell from experience that every single time you go out to approach women? You’ll start off rusty and it usually takes several approaches before you get your “mojo” back. You’ll get better with experience, so you just need to put in some work to have more success.

#5 Don’t Freak Out About Approaching
Most common excuse of one of my new students when I tell them to approach a cute woman: “No I won’t approach her, because she’ll know I’m approaching her with sexual intentions and reject me.”

Here’s the juicy secret: men have been approaching women successfully for millions of years, otherwise you simply wouldn’t exist. Your father successfully approached your mom, his father did the same with his mom, and so on. So, from a biological perspective? You’re SUPPOSED to approach women! It’s the one thing that ensures the survival of the species.

So, it’s okay to approach women, it’s normal… hell, women EXPECT you to approach them because you want a date out of it.

#6 Don’t Settle For Nothing
Try to get at least SOMETHING out of every conversation. A lot of men give up the war after losing 1 battle, why? Don’t get me wrong, thinking you need to hump every cute woman you ever freaking encounter is weird… you’re not a sex machine. And no, it’s not “cool” to be a sex machine that only has women but no career, money, or anything else going for himself.

But… don’t give up the war after losing 1 battle. She’s not interested in you “that way?” Then befriend her instead. I’m willing to bet she has some hot friends. She doesn’t want to give you her phone number? What about her MSN chat or Facebook instead?

Are you getting the point here?

#7 Don’t Think Groups Are The Same
Classic rookie mistake of approaching women: a woman’s with her friends, you like her so you approach her, and you ignore the rest of the group. Wrong, wrong, wrong. The other women in the group will get jealous and be sad that no man is giving THEM that much attention… so they’ll cockblock you by saying they’re tired and want to go home. And guess what? They’re taking “your” woman with them.

Here’s the juicy secret: no one wants to be ignored. Everyone wants to be at least acknowledged for existing, for being there. So, the least you can do is introducing yourself to her friends, ask their names, and talk about some random things with them. You’ll respect their presence in doing so and they’ll leave you alone 9 out of 10 times = you “get the girl”.

#8 Don’t Let Others Screw Up Your “Work”
Most men are jealous fools and try to screw up your chances with women, even if they themselves don’t stand a chance at all. Must be survival of the fittest at work there, but whatever’s the case, it’s annoying.

Your drunken friends are all over you as soon as you’re talking to a hot babe, if she’s in a group with guy friends then they’ll try to pull her away from you, random guys you and her both don’t know will try to interrupt you… and 9 out of 10 men get distracted by it and “lose the girl”.

And here’s the irony: if you would simply ignore them and keep on talking to the woman you’re interested in? Those losers will make themselves look like jealous fools, screw up their own chances instead of yours, and she won’t pay attention to them AT ALL.

So, don’t let others screw up your “work” and ignore the competition when they try to ruin things for you.

#9 Don’t Be The “One Trick Pony”
Another classic rookie mistake: did you know that women actually also exist OUTSIDE of clubs and bars? They’re everywhere, just like men are. So, don’t limit yourself to one location when it comes to approaching women. Don’t be the one trick pony, because what are you gonna do when the clubs are closed or not open yet?

Try to have at least 2 different locations: clubs and shopping malls, at work and online, whatever. You know better than I do where you can be found most of the time…

#10 Don’t Stop At Yes, “Upsell” Yourself
Does this sound familiar: woman makes eye contact with you, you approach her, you have a great time, and you ask her for her phone number? It does? Well, then you’re an idiot without even knowing it. See, most guys actually LIMIT THEIR OWN SUCCESS by asking for a phone number while they could have gone all the way with a woman the same day they met them…

Just like you should try to get at least SOMETHING out of every conversation, try to get the most out of EVERY woman that seems to be interested in you. I mean, why wait? If she’s making eye contact like crazy and all over you when you get to talking, why waste several phonecalls and dates when you can just as easily take her to your place then and there?

Life is short, so get as much as possible out of every woman that’s interested in you: “upsell” yourself after you heard and/or saw the “Yes I’m interested” signals.

=> So far for my top 10 things NOT to do when approaching women…
Or to quote that cool cartoon piggie from way back here: “th… th… th… that’s all folks!”

No wait, got another one for ya! Another don’t is NOT approaching women who are already interested, because it’s so much easier to meet and date women when you approach those already interested in you.

How can you start doing that? Simple: you’ll know who to approach when you know the signs a woman is interested in you!

I’ve got some questions for you though that I would LOVE to get some answers for:

1) Do you like the top 10? Is there anything missing in my top 10 in your opinion?
2) Which of the 10 things NOT to do… have you done in the past by accident or because of a lack of experience with women?

This movie junkie is off to watch his favorite flick of all time: Goodfellas. Call me a sucker for mobster movies, but I was raised on that stuff so I don’t care!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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I´m not even going to spoil the surprise and tell you what I have to say about approaching a woman, guess you´re going to have to watch the dating tips video below!

Check it out below…

Liked the video? Yeah I knew you would!

And hey… if you want to approach women and almost always end up getting a date, then start approaching the women who are already interested in you man!

All you have to know to DOUBLE the number of dates you go on are the signs a woman is interested in you, because all you have to do when meeting interested women… is NOT screw up!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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In the last 2 videos about inner game and confidence, I discussed things like the fear of failure and rejection, why it’s so important to get your inner issues (your insecurities, limiting beliefs and so on…) handled, and why you positively, absolutely HAVE to change your comfort zone if you want to get more results with women than you are getting now.

If you haven’t seen these videos, then scroll down right away and watch both Video #1 and Video #2 by clicking their links.

They contain essential clues as to WHY you haven’t been getting the success with women you wanted so far… and how you can start achieving MASSIVE success with women & dating on a frequent basis!

As for Video #3: in it, I share a technique that has been a well-kept secret of mine for many years now and which allows me to STILL get a woman’s number… even AFTER she said “No”, turned her back on me and all kinds of otherwise painful situations.

This very technique has helped me, and a lot of the 100 guys that I helped built their confidence from A-Z, to turn the odds in my favor even if a woman seemingly was “against” me.

I’ve been using it since 2006 and it has worked wonders for me: around 40% of the women I approached and who initially rejected me, gave me their phone number the second time around. In total, it meant that 80+ % of the women I started talking to wanted to “get to know me better” (if you know what I mean.)

Imagine what your life would be like when you would be able to get the phone number of 80-100% of the women you approached and talked to… it would actually make your friends and family so green with envy that they start wondering whether you DRUG UP women to have sex with you, because your success with them is off the charts!

This third video drops a MAJOR bombshell in the rejection department and clearly proves that rejection and failure shouldn’t be taken seriously…

After which I drive my point home even further by telling you a secret about bad boys (and why they’re so attractive) that has been hidden in plain sight for your entire life.

So definitely check out Video #3, and like I said before: if you haven’t seen the first video and second video, then make sure you do by clicking their video links below so you won’t miss out on TONS of valuable insights about how to build your confidence and improve your inner game.

~~~ The Video Links ~~~

Video #1 – What Improving Your Confidence & Inner Game Is All About:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mASK7ZVnuko

Video #2 – Dealing With The Fear Of Rejection And More:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRywH9y7iaQ

Video #3 – Approaching Women With A 100% Success Rate:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQ0eHJ–a3g

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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What IS Natural Innocence?

A man is in a state of natural innocence when he acts without design, trickery or clever routine. His inner nature will cause him to act authentic under all circumstances if his mind is not corrupted by calculated self-interest. His ‘expertise’, is intuitive and unintentional, because it is the open and automatic expression of his inner self, not his conscious mind. The VERY moment he begins to calculate his actions towards outcomes, personal advantages and rewards, innocence ceases to exist. When man’s nature is overridden by his desires and his inner spirit stifled by ambition, he DESTROYS the natural purity of his humanity and becomes capable of all kinds of fronting, masking, fear based responses, lying. And when he finally manages to completely silence his inner voice of innocence, he becomes totally corrupted, for his mind can devise all kinds of justifications for his own self-centered ways. But if he retains his innocence and keeps his spirit pure, it will guide him in all his actions and bring him MASSIVE success. He will experience the certainty of one who know what is right and what is wrong without having to make mindboggling moral analyses.

For the innocent mind embraces each moment in itself. It enjoys the task before it, without looking always to the attainment of some future goal or the accomplishment of some eagerly sought milestone. The man of pure nature does the best he can in the present moment, and leaves future outcomes in the hands of the universal powers that determine such things. For him, it is enough to be intensely engaged with this moment’s task. By thus doing his part and trusting the universal powers to do theirs, the man finds success and fulfillment.

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Onward…

A man endures, not by remaining static, but by encompassing MOVEMENT and progressive activity. The universe in itself is in a constant state of change and a man must also change just to keep up. If he attempts to endure by standing fast and unmovable, he would in fact fall behind as everything else moves beyond him. Therefore, he does not try to restrain himself to one particular position in order to endure. Instead, he adapts to the times and remains in a constant state but CONSISTENT renewal. This renewal does not indicate change dictated by outer circumstances, but change that is directed from within IN RESPONSE TO the outer circumstances. If a man is flexible and open to new ideas, the meanings of his efforts endure even in the proces of adaptation, and it is through this kind of consistent endurance that we can understand the nature of all things that endure in time.

Draw your own conclusions, because I know I’ve drawn mine just by stating this…discussion is MORE than welcome, if you dare.

And I thought I should mention this: I’ve also written a blog post on approaching girls effectively with a natural innocence. Check out this blog post on how to approach a girl you like today.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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