Get off your phones and start living in the REAL world.

They can’t really be blamed for this because it can be truly terrifying to approach an attractive girl. There is always the possibility of rejection…

And there isn’t a single person on this planet who actively seeks it out.

While this fear can be completely understandable, it does mean that guys miss out on countless opportunities.

Never underestimate the value of new interactions

Forget about anything romantic – when you don’t go up to that girl at the bar , you are missing the opportunity to meet someone new. New people offer up new experiences, new insights, new stories and generally broaden one’s outlook on life.

Keep trying.

These interactions are invaluable, and they should not be passed up simply out of fear. This is obviously easier said than done, and it is at this point where it would be useful to discuss how to actually go about starting a conversation with this fabled girl.

Saying that you only have one chance is slightly melodramatic. If this is a complete stranger at a random place, then maybe you do only get one shot. But otherwise, women know that men come back, they rely on it in fact.

What this means for you is that if you missed your shot once then don’t give up hope entirely, another chance is going to roll around at some point.

Accept the fear

The fear that you feel in your gut just before you approach a girl is never going to go away completely…

It will always be there. It is going to be your constant companion, so you might as well get used to it now.

Accept the fear, acknowledge the fear and finally learn to live with it. The fear may always be present, but it should never control you.

Don’t overthink it

Don’t confuse not overthinking something and switching off your mental faculties altogether. No woman wants to talk to a man who has left his intelligence at the door. But, don’t make such a big deal out of it in your head. You are about to approach a pretty girl yes. It is going to be scary. It is not, however, such a big deal.

The risk is worth it…

She is a person just like you and for all you know she is waiting for you to make the first move. Once you have spotted the person you are interested in, take a deep breath, count to some arbitrary number in your head and then just do it.

If you delay too much, you will give your mind time to come up with a thousand reasons why you shouldn’t be approaching this girl. During that delay, your mind will become your worst enemy.

Assume she is interested in you

This is not to say that you should go around thinking that every woman is enamored by you. Confidence is one thing, narcissism is another. If you are going to be a naturall when it comes to approaching women, then you need to shift the narrative in your head.

Your first thought cannot be that she probably won’t be into you or that she is going to be annoyed by being approached by you.

It doesn’t matter what the reality is.

If you’re going to have any hope of approaching this woman, then you need to tell yourself that she wants you to. You need to think that she will be pleased by your approach and that she has been dying for you to break the ice.

You have to start somewhere…

This will not only help you get over your fear, but it will also change your entire persona when you actually are speaking to her.

You will not seem like a guy who is anticipating rejection. Rather, you will appear to be a guy who is comfortable in himself. This is a very attractive quality in a man.

Follow the 10-second rule when it comes to awkwardness

At some point, things are going to get weird. This is almost guaranteed. When things do, it is important to realize that the game hasn’t been lost. You have not failed, it is simply the natural progression of things. When the awkwardness does set in, aim to keep the conversation going for another 10 seconds.

During this time, one of three things will happen – either the awkwardness will melt away naturally, you’ll realize that you imagined it, or it will continue. In the first two cases, you have nothing to worry about.

Don’t take too long…

Don’t feel defeated though. You tried, and that is all you ever can do.

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Sometimes it seems like finding a good woman is like finding a $20 bill in an old coat…

Rare, unexpected, and a welcome surprise.

The truth is that it’s harder and harder to find a woman who “gets it” when it comes to men. Most women today were raised by women who were raised by single-moms, or had weak role models when it came to masculinity.

Would she consider this a real man?

It’s super rare to find women who understand, accept, and celebrate men.

These days, all you hear are feminist rants against the “patriarchy.”

All you hear about in the news media are stories about men (usually celebrities) misbehaving. (Kudos to Fox news for at least trying to balance the scales a bit.)

Look, guys can act pretty nasty when left to their own devices… but most guys are good men. Most women will probably assume the opposite, though.

So if you want to find a quality girlfriend, I won’t kid you – it’s going to be a challenge.

But if you have the ability to attract women – and regularly – you’ll find it’s not too bad. You’ll be able to run the numbers and get more “prospects” into your field of vision than other guys these days.

That’s why I created my programs – to offer you the best shot at finding a quality woman to make your girlfriend.

Let me be clear about this:

The most important decision a man makes is who he makes his partner… 

It starts at the girlfriend stage, my friend.

A bad relationship will weigh you down…

Let me give you a few quick signals that she’s NOT for you:

1. She crimps or slows your personal growth.
   This one is sometimes tricky to spot, but you’ll notice it eventually. If her needs and crazy bullshit are getting in the way of you being a better man, you better re-assess that relationship. The woman you partner with should be helping YOU move forward in life. Not at the expense of herself, mind you. But she should be thinking about YOUR betterment as much as she’s trying to clutch for a 2 carat ring.
2. She’s not fun. 
   This one is EASY to spot. But the funny thing is that a lot of guys will discount this signal and ignore it.
   Why? Because most guys will put up with an amazing amount of sh*t just to get laid. Trust me, if you’re sticking with a whiney, drama-laden chick who’s about as much fun as food poisoning, you better start working on your exit visa, chum. Fun and honest were the top requirement for guys age 20-50, and for good reason.
3. She doesn’t have your back.
   Loyalty. It’s gold when it comes to relationships. If she doesn’t back you up and wear a team jersey with your name on it, lose her like 1st period French. When the going gets tough, you need to know she’s not going to skate out of town with your best friend. Women project a nice image of wholesomeness, but they are just as sly and deceptive as guys when it comes to getting their needs met. So find one that you can rely on.

So many rules, so many signals. There are way more than 3 of them, but that’s a quick start.

Now let’s talk about the 3 Steps to find a girlfriend you can rely on…

Find Your Dream Girlfriend – STEP 1: Stick To The Plan

By now, if you’ve been reading any of my articles, or watching my videos, you know that you need to have a plan. I give you a clear, complete plan in my Get A Girlfriend program, but let me summarize some of the key points:

• Know what you want.
  If you’re dating with no idea of which woman would be a good fit for you, you’re asking for trouble. You need to know what her hobbies will be, what kind of attitude you want, what her child-rearing philosophy is, etc. If you don’t know, you better figure it out now, or you might be figuring it out in a long, painful custody battle. I kid you not.
• Have A 3-Date Plan
  You want to give her a full 3 dates to impress you. If you don’t feel that it’s a good fit, move on. You won’t know immediately on the first date (don’t trust your first impression, unless she really blows it) – but by the third date you’ll know if she’s worth keeping.
• Stay Away From Bars
  Bars, clubs, and alcohol are relationship killers, my friend. The girl you want isn’t there. And keep your consumption of “mind dulling” substances to a minimum. Stay sharp and frosty. This is a job interview you’re holding on those first dates. Don’t let her snow you over.
• Know what questions to ask.
  Most guys wing it when it comes to conversation. Don’t be a schmuck… you have to know what to ask her to find out the truth about her. You can’t ask her a direct question like: “So what do you want from a relationship?” She’ll give you that rehearsed crap you hear on every lame Match.com profile. Use my power questions from my how to talk to women strategies and you’ll be Golden.
• Forget the “Dream girl” stuff.
  Yeah, I know it’s in the title. I just want you to keep your head on straight. Don’t get delusions about nailing some porn star. Nobody stays married to that kind of woman for very long. Find a grounded, cute girl next door that’s not a 64 ounce can of CRAZY and you’re ahead of 90% of the guys out there.

Find Your Girlfriend – STEP 2: Get Serious…

Most guys that I coach one-on-one have some common barriers that I end up having to break down for them. I call these the “belief barriers” that stop them from doing what’s necessary to get past their B.S.

What are these barriers? Let me share a few:

• BARRIER 1: “Yeah, but…”
  This is what a lot of guys say to me when I tell them EXACTLY what to do to sculpt themselves into a lethal weapon of sexual power. I’ll tell them: “Lose the lumberjack/hipster beard. Chicks don’t like kissing that tangled mass of fur.” And he says: “Yeah, but… I like it/I don’t wanna/I just want to be myself/etc.”
  Look, “being yourself” is really just another bullshit way guys excuse themselves out of the reality that they’re attached to a dumbass view of who they REALLY are. You’re not your beard, or your clingy material attachments. “YOU” is a highly fluid concept.
  Later on you can grow that crumb-catching beard back. But for now you have to put those indulgences on hold. You just look like a guy who’s too stuck in his habits – and has ZERO flexibility.
• BARRIER 2: Won’t go the mile.
  A lot of guys have more lame limits on what they’re willing to do than I can sometimes fathom. If you’re meeting one woman each weekend, that’s not bad. But if you meet three each weekend, you just tripled how quickly you’re going to find one that’s worth keeping.
  The Navy Seals have a rule that you can do 2.5 times what you think you can do right now. You’ve just got a lot of faulty belief systems – and a comfort zone that is keeping you stuck. So drop the self-imposed limits and push yourself a little. There’s no growth in your comfort zone. And the girlfriend you want isn’t sure as heck isn’t ringing doorbells looking for you in your neighborhood.
• BARRIER 3: No Self-Growth.
  Remember when I said that you don’t want a woman that will hold you back from growing? You want to know why most guys don’t look for that as a red flag? Because they secretly don’t want to grow. These guy like that a woman makes them feel all snuggly in their stagnant pool of BORING… So they close their eyes and jump into marrying one of these shrews and realize their mistake too late.
  Start by committing yourself to a path of self-growth. Hey, you got nothing else to do with your time other than bore yourself to sleep on Netflix every night, so why not skip that 3rd watching of Altered Carbon and read a book for an hour? You’ll be ten times more interesting on dates when you have stuff to talk about.
  And women LOVE it when a guy sets the bar for her. That’s her definition of sexy.

Find A Girlfriend – And Maybe Something More –
STEP 3: Get Your Inner Game HANDLED…

A lot of guys ask me what “Inner game” is vs. “outer game.”

Outer Game is:

• Your wardrobe and clothes
• Your grooming
• Your attitude
• Your lines and “routines…”

Inner Game is:

• Your confidence – AKA how you project your own certainty about yourself.

Now the thing about outer game is that you can’t have it without solid INNER game.

The problem is that guys would MUCH rather memorize the words than do the work of getting the confidence they need. But then they just end up realizing that the words and inner game stuff doesn’t really matter when you get the inner stuff handled.

That’s the funny thing about the whole game of dating…

But the beauty is that you can actually get BOTH going – Inner and Outer game. It’s a style I call R.E.A.L. Game . 

And it works better than anything else out there.

If you want to discover the kind of game that makes women infatuated with you after just a single conversation, then you should go watch this short presentation…

It’s free, and it will show you exactly how to get the girlfriend you want… 

It’s all in the Sexual Sparks!

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No worries!

This article I found has good ideas on “inexpensive” dates without making you look cheap.

(She’ll never know! Shhh…)

Check it out!

Stay Alpha,

– Carlos Xuma

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Title: Cheap Date Ideas That Won’t Make You Look Cheap

If you can’t afford to drop a bunch of money at an upscale restaurant, it doesn’t mean you can’t take women on dates they’ll love.

In fact, most women don’t care about a guy spending a lot of money on dates as long as the guy

1. isn’t a cheapskate — sorry fellas, no sneaking into a movie through the emergency exit — and

2. uses some imagination when he comes up with date ideas.

Luckily, there are plenty of cheap date ideas that won’t require you to shell out tons of cash, but will make you look like you’re a dating genius.

I asked women to share the most fun, most memorable, and most romantic inexpensive dates they’ve ever been taken on so you can steal them and pass them off as your own ideas.

And no, none end with you handing over a piece of paper and mumbling, “I have a Groupon.”

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Check out this video… for a good laugh:

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Almost every single time you’re asking a woman out. Why? There are multiple reasons why. And guess what? You have the privilege of hearing them all today, in this blog post!

Because don’t you just HATE it when you put so much time into getting to know someone, creating attraction, and then when things come down to asking a woman out she says “NO”?

Does that make you feel frustrated? More insecure next time you ask a woman out? Does it make you feel desperate? Hell, does it make you feel some resentment towards women after you’ve been rejected several times?

If you answered “YES” once or several times, you’ll be happy to know that there IS a quick fix for all of it. There IS a quick way to start asking a woman out and actually get date after date… after date with her AND as many other women as you’d like to.

Wanna find out what it is? Then keep reading my friend!

Asking A Woman Out: Why It’s Wrong To Begin With…

The dating game gets crazy sometimes, counter-intuitive, because when it comes to asking a woman out? The best way to ask her out is NOT asking her at all!

Allow me to explain good Sir. When asking a woman out, you’re asking a yes/no question:

“Hey, do you wanna go out with me some time? Would you like to go on a date with me?”

And, pardon my French here, it’s stupid as hell. This way of asking a woman out is bullshit, because why ask a yes/no question when you know it makes the chance she says “NO” a staggering 50%?

Why ask a woman out, which is tough enough as it is, and also give her an easy way to talk herself out of it? To give you an excuse? There’s a much better way dude..

And it’s using an imperative sentence, which is a sentence that gives advice or instructions:

“Let’s grab a cup of coffee. Let’s go out some time. Let’s go clubbin’. Let’s go to the mall!”

As you can see, you’re telling her what you want to do with her. There’s no easy way to say “NO” then. Plus, by using an imperative you’re dominant. And dominance has been attracting women since I don’t know how long for various reasons.

In short: when asking a woman out, don’t ask, but tell her. Want some more examples of things you can say to ask her out? Then pay close attention to what’s coming next!

Asking A Woman Out: Great Things To Say

Alrighty then. It’s time to give you a long and legendary collection of things you can say to ask her out. Shall we?

When you’re calling her: “You know what? Let’s grab a cup of coffee soon like normal people do, because I’m not fond of you stalking me on my phone so much.”

When you know a cool place to hang out (a coffee place, lunchroom, restaurant, club, doesn’t matter): “You know what? I know this great place where they have the best (coffee/sandwiches/Italian food/Latin music/etc.) in town. Let’s go there!”

When you feel like teasing her when you ask her out: “Quick! Tell me: (something they do at place ABC) or (something they do at place XYZ)?” And then after she got to choose, tell her you’re taking her to the place she didn’t choose instead to tease her. Now that’s creating attraction.

When you’re feeling adventurous: “Tell me: what’s one of the craziest things you ever wanted to do? Better said: what have you secretly always wanted to do, but didn’t have the balls for to actually go and do?” After she tells you, take her there!

And if you’re wondering why you should challenge her to do something “scary” when asking a woman out? Here’s a simple answer: it’s a date she won’t forget. EVER.

Plus, it’ll probably be an active date, and what do women want to do after working up a sweat? Take a shower and freshen up. At your place OR hers, know what I’m saying?

Do you like my tips for asking a woman out so far? You do? Awesome! But things are about to get even “awesomer” my friend, because let’s be real here…

Up until now, a woman can still say no. What do you do then? I’ll tell you what bro!

Successfully Asking A Woman Out, Even AFTER She Says “No”

Yeah you heard me. It’s more than possible dude. Hell, it’s easy!

Why? Because when she says “NO” when you ask her out… she doesn’t want to go: Tell her you promise you won’t try to kiss her a million times on the date, then stalk her for weeks, and then wake her up in the middle of the night with angry or creepy phone calls… but that she has to promise you the exact same thing if you’ll take her to some place nice.

If you don’t see the obvious playful teasing here, then I don’t know what you saw. Trust me, this one works amazingly well.

Let’s continue with even more ways of asking a woman out successfully, even if she refused the first time around…

When she says “NO” because… she has other things to do: tell her that she knows doing all that other stuff is incredibly boring and that she knows she’ll have a much better time with you.

By doing this when you’re asking a woman out, you’ll show her you’re confident. Almost TOO confident. It attracts women. And even if she still says “NO”, it’s very likely that when you ask her out several days or whatever she’ll say “YES” because you showed her you’re far from desperate and insecure.

When she says “NO” because… she wants to go to random place XYZ: Ask her “Awesome! When are WE going?” You’ll be surprised what happens next.

Why?

Because when you’re asking a woman out this way, you can get answers like “Wow! You really want to come! Oh that’s great! Be there at such and such time.”

This particular technique for asking a woman out got me on a vacation with a smoking hot chick who’s now my girlfriend. What more proof that it works do you want!?

A Quick Recap Of How To Ask Her Out

To make sure you remember all this, let’s do a quick recap of asking a woman out:

– Don’t ask her out, but tell her using an imperative like “Let’s…”
– Invite her for a cup of coffee like normal people do (if she says “NO”, she’s not normal)
– Get her excited about your favorite place to hang out and offer to take her there
– Ask her to choose one of two places, then take her to the place she didn’t pick to tease her
– Take her on a date where she has to do something she’s kinda scared of
– Got a “NO” when asking a woman out? Promise you won’t stalk her but she needs to do the same
– When she says “NO” caus’ she has other stuff to do, tell her you’re more fun than that stuff
– When she says “NO” because she’s going somewhere, ask her when “WE” are going

And if you want more FREE tips for asking a woman out, or what to do on a date, then I highly recommend you check out my Inner Game Newsletter.

Hey, don’t worry dude, because even if you feel like you don’t have the confidence to ask a woman out yet? Or the confidence to continue after she initially refuses to go out with you?

Then my Newsletter has got you covered, too, so click the link above right now and get those tips.

And as I’m going to ask my lady Naisa when “WE” are going to Belgium because she needs to go there, I hope you liked this blog on asking a woman out. Feel free to drop a comment!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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I can almost hear you think: “Yeah but who made you the expert on good first date ideas?”

The 6,176 men I helped approach 30,880 women, get 15,443 numbers and go on 10,811 good first dates during the last 3 years. They’ve made me expert of good first date ideas.

But enough about me man, because you came here to stop getting dates that end up going nowhere, didn’t you?

Don’t you hate the gigantic frustration you feel after going through all that effort of getting a phone number, asking a woman out on a first date, and then FAILING on that date?

And you want to gain access to good first date ideas that almost make a woman want to be BEG YOU to let her come inside with you, right?

If so, then your wish is my command my friend.

Check out my Top 3 Good First Date Ideas below to make your dates awesome, every single time!

My #1 Good First Date Idea: Lights, Camera, And Action!

Hold up! Relax dude. This is NOT where I’ll start claiming that THE good first date ideas of the year are taking a woman to a movie set… or that it’s shooting a dirty movie with her. No, that’s not what I mean…

What I mean with “lights, camera, and action!” is that you let a lady have fun on the first date.

Instead of going on a passive date where you go somewhere, sit down, and talk like the rest of the entire planet does, why not go on an ACTIVE date with her?

Good first date ideas that are all about being active include:

– Surfing
– Climbing
– Hiking
– Grabbing some mountain bikes
– Roller skating
– Laser tagging like Barney Stinson (TV character from How I Met Your Mother) does
– Etc.

The right activity for your first date totally depends on what kind of girl we’re talking about here. If she’s kinda rough and crazy, then I’d go for climbing, hiking, mountain biking, etc.

And chicks from big cities are more into stuff like roller skating in the summer or laser tagging on a date, whereas women who are a little more laidback might prefer surfing or other water-related activities on first dates.

Where you go and what you do doesn’t matter, though, because the whole idea behind an active date as a first date is letting a woman work up a sweat. It’s about getting her dirty (in a non-sexual way, you pervert!). Why go for active you say?

Well, because in today’s society it’s not accepted for a woman to be dirty, smell, and look like she just worked out in the gym an entire day long.

Better said: women feel embarrassed if they’re stinking up the place and people will look at them funny when they do.

And that’s why it’s a good first date idea to let her work up a sweat, because she definitely will want to freshen up afterwards. Why not let her do that at your place where you have towels and everything?

But hey, women aren’t idiots man. They won’t come inside with you and feel 100% safe unless you created tons of attraction.

Most of the time they’ll have some doubts, which is why you want to tell her after the active first date that she can freshen up at your place but that you’ll wait outside because you’re a gentleman, you’ll show her where the towels are and then leave, you won’t look either…

I think you get the idea. If you make her feel safe & comfortable, she’ll definitely come inside with you. YES, even on a first date! That’s what makes activities that let her work up a sweat good first date ideas.

More Good First Date Ideas: Labor Is Required

Just like with most animal species, we as humans also let the females decide who is worth mating with. In other words: men are programmed to do all the chasing, but here’s some food for thought…

From a genetics perspective, a woman will only go on a first date (and ends up having sex with) the guy who gives her genes the highest chance of survival because Mother Nature programmed her that way.

One of the features that show a man has “strong genes” is dominance. Women like dominant men. Thinking along those lines, would you agree with me when I say chasing women around is a lame ass idea because it makes you submit to her wishes? Needs? Wants?

Plus, how the hell can you stand up and get a first date… when every other average guy on the freaking world chases women? You’ll only be just that when you chase: average.

And average is boring. Women don’t want average but a guy who stands out.

Don’t worry, this whole story has a purpose… because when you’re looking for good first date ideas? Then why not use Mother Nature “against” women?

How? Here’s how…

Why not go on a first date with a woman and then let her work for it? Let her know that labor is required to have an awesome first date with you?

Go on a date that’s nothing special, and then tell her it CAN be special but she has to work for it. It equals telling her what to do, which is being dominant in my book, and dominance creates attraction remember? It’s just one of many good first date ideas.

For example, you could go on a first date with her and let her believe you’re only taking her to some random joint to have coffee with her.

You can almost see the look on her face when you tell her: “Oh my God, is THIS his good first date idea? I hope this won’t be another one of those BORING first dates that are a complete waste of my time!”

Then, out of nowhere, you tell her you have something amazing in mind. Something that involves whatever you learned she liked. Be mysterious about it though, because she has to work for it… work for finding out what it is… AND for actually doing it!

How can you let her work for it?

Use your imagination dude! Let her give you two kisses on the cheek, or buy you some ice cream, and so on and so forth.

Be sure it’s something low key instead of asking her to screw your brains out, and you’ll easily convince her to do it for you.

And there you go: she just realized you were dominant, which made you a little more attractive in her opinion…

Final Thoughts On Good First Date Ideas: Social Circles

This good first date idea might be the easiest one of them all to execute, because you simply invite both her and some of your friends (both men and women) to your place.

You have a couple drinks, and then you go out to the movies, to a club or bar, you name it.

Where you’re going with her and some male and female friends doesn’t matter, because it’s all about going on a first date with her AND your friends.

Why?

Because women are attracted to social status.

In a few words, when a woman sees that people like you, love to hang out with you, and that you can have lots of fun with them?

Then she realizes that there must be a reason to like you, hang out with you, and why it’s lots of fun to hang out with you!

Plus, because plenty of people seem to think you’re important, she thinks you’re more important too. That may sound dumb but it isn’t.

Think about it: don’t you think a president is more dominant because most people in the country agreed he should be the most powerful man in the country, the president?

And remember: dominance is what creates attraction my friend.

So, the idea behind this good first date idea is that she’ll like you more when you invite her to tag along on a first date, plus it feels less like a date to you AND her… so the both of you will be more relaxed and thus more talkative.

I highly recommend you invite her to tag along if you usually freeze up whenever you’re alone with a hot chick or have no clue about what to say, because your friends will do what they always do:

Talk shit, have fun, and go crazy. And that means they take a whole lot of work out of your hands on the first date!

Want More Good First Date Ideas?

If you want even more good first date ideas, then you should check out my Inner Game newsletter.

Not only does it give you tons of tips for what to do on a first date, but it also helps you get there with tips for approaching women and getting phone numbers for example. It makes the dating game a whole lot easier for you…

And once you’re on a first date? The Newsletter shows you all the things you can do to get a woman to come inside with you… on that same first date!

Now if you’ll excuse me, this movie junkie has other things to do. Other things like watching The Eagle, a movie about Romans fighting some crazy ass barbarians. I love ancient cultures, Ancient Rome especially, so I’m already 90% sure I’ll like this flick.

And I hope YOU liked these good first date ideas my friend.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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I’m willing to bet you that having sex on the first date is the one thing single guys all over the world fantasize about the most…

Just admit it dude: the fact that you’re reading this blog post about having sex on the first date right now probably means that YOU want to know how to pull it off. Am I right?

Unfortunately, 90% of the male population will forever fantasize about sex on a first date instead of making it happen. Until today. Because today?

Today I will try to separate fact from fiction and make having sex on the first date something that’s within reach for you… without stretching your arm out!

Why No Man Has Sex On The First Date Because Of Society

The first and foremost reason why men have a hard time having sex on a first date, is because of other men! Bet you didn’t see this one coming huh?

Here’s the juicy secret: in today’s “civilized” society women who sleep with guys on a first date or who sleep with multiple men a week are seen as sluts, whores, ho’s, skanks, tramps, prostitutes, and lower than dirt.

Meanwhile, a guy who has sex on the first date or who bangs multiple chicks a week is almost awarded a prize. I’m not kidding here. He’s admired by his friends and colleagues. He’s seen as a hero in the eyes of other men.

As you can see, society treats men and women who want to have the same sexual freedom in very different ways. That’s a MAJOR CLUE.

Women who want sexual freedom are bad, gossiped about, and mocked. Men are glorified and complimented for their womanizing skills when they have sex on the first date.

And guess what?

Because we as men have been so damn selfish to try and keep sexual freedom all to ourselves, women are afraid to gain the same sexual freedom because they don’t want to be seen as sluts.

Women talk, a lot, so gossip spreads like wildfire as soon as a woman admits to doing anything that remotely resembles slutty behavior. That’s why they don’t want to have sex on a first date. That’s all!

And here comes the funny part: women fantasize about having sex just as much as we do (if not more), because they can’t openly talk about it with men because they don’t want to be made a fool of. No one does.

That’s why women avoid having sex on the first date like the plague.

Do you realize what this means? It means women WANT to have sex on a first date, because they have just as much sexual drive as men do… but they CAN’T give into their desires because of the consequences.

That’s incredibly good news, wouldn’t you agree? Women want to, but can’t because they fear someone will tell on them.

I really wanted you to know this about why women say NO to having sex on the first date, so you would realize that pulling it off is way easier than you’d think.

And now we got that out of the way? It’s time for me to get down to business and show you the how to’s of having sex on the first date, now you know the why part.

Have Sex On The First Date By Transforming 1 Date Into More

Ok, so far you’ve discovered that women think they bring shame upon themselves by having sex on the first date.

That means we can automatically conclude that women will feel more and more comfortable about sleeping with you, the more dates you go on with them.

Are you with me so far? Great! Let’s keep it moving then…

Since women don’t mind having sex after a few dates, do you agree with me when I say that your goal should then be to go on multiple dates with them as fast as humanly possible?

If so, then listen up to this short story about how sex on the first date can happen:

Say you go to a random club tonight and meet a good-looking, interesting woman there. You two have lots of fun, so you decide to invite her to come with you to your favorite club.

You dance the night away, she’s giving you signals, and you want to go all the way because of it. You want to have sex on a first date, that is… the night you meet her. Now, after dancing, drinking, and with her mouthraping you (kissing you)? You’re hungry! So you grab her hand and take her to some place nice where they have pretty decent food for 4 or 5 AM.

It’s dark outside and, being the gentleman that you are, you offer to walk her home so you’ll know she gets home safe and sound. She happily agrees and having arrived at her place, she invites you in, and you have sex on the first date.

I can hear you think: “Why would I have sex on the first date if I would do what you just said?”

The answer will surprise you: technically, you went on multiple dates with her. Think about it. You went to another club WITH her. You two went there alone. That’s a date right there. Then you went to a place to eat WITH her. Again, you two went there alone. Another date.

After tonight, she will justify that she had sex on the first date with you by saying to herself: “We went there, there, and there together so technically we went on multiple dates because all those places were so different from each other. So, it’s okay. It just happened!”

This is the awesome psychological secret behind having sex on the first date:

The human brain consists of three parts. The rational, the emotional, and the instinctive. The emotional brain is much older than the rational brain, which means people FIRST act according to their emotions… and then they try to find a way to justify their actions.

You two had a good time at each location and things were pretty lame (in comparison) in between locations, so it feels like you had a good time… three times.

Thus, having sex on the first date with you is easy to justify for her because she’ll talk herself out of feeling like a slut, because she can easily say to herself that she had a good time with you multiple times before she slept with you!

And this is how you transform 1 date into multiple, so you can have sex on the first date!

One More Thing About Having Sex On The First Date

Women may throw an objection at you when you invite them to come inside with you, or when you want to come inside with them.

Don’t worry about it though, because it’s just their rational brain trying to find an excuse to go inside with you. It’s nothing more than a test. Give them a reason why, no matter how small, and you will still have sex on the first date.

Why?

Because like I said before: women WANT to have sex on the first date as much as you do, but society has taught them otherwise.

All you do when they don’t want to come inside with you is give them an excuse for doing so and they will do it, because then?

Then they’ll have nothing to worry about when their friends ask them how their weekend was… because they feel they didn’t have sex on the first date. Plus, they didn’t have sex on purpose, no, “it just happened” (says her rational brain after her emotional brain took action.)

And hey, do you need specific tips for what to say or do when a woman throws objection A, B, or C at you when you invite her in?

And do you want to know more about how to have sex on the first date?

If so then I highly recommend you check out my Inner Game newsletter (click the link), because it shows you exactly how to pass a woman’s tests… AND… how to create enough attraction so she won’t have to test you anymore because she knows you are what she wants!

Hope you liked my thoughts on women and sex on the first date buddy. Do let me know in the comments!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Going from the first date to the second date to a relationship is VERY different from meeting women, getting their number & asking them out. I already kinda covered in my blog post about what to say on a first date…

But let’s take a step back. Question: have you ever dated a woman and out of nowhere she seemed to have lost interest in you and didn’t want to go on the second date? I know I have!

Ever said you really, really like a woman way too fast which made her freak out and almost RUN AWAY from you? Again, I’m guilty to here: I did it with this Bosnian chick named Amra for example.

Oh come on! Be honest… drop the macho act for a second. Why?

Because almost every average guy has experienced it at least once in his life. And it’s frustrating isn’t it?

It makes a man desperate: You finally meet a beautiful, interesting woman. You manage to get her phone number. You have success with asking her out. But then, then everything goes to hell and you NEVER get the second date…

OR…

You never go from a first date to the second date and then to a relationship with the hot chick you like.

Don’t you just HATE it when you can’t get the second date? When you can’t go from dates to relationships? If your answer is a quick “YES”, then check out my top 3 tips for how to get the second date (and after a while a relationship).

Get ready for your survival guide for having long term success, for going on multiple dates with one woman… and do that with MASSIVE success.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you, because dude… this WILL be pretty damn confrontational!

How To Get The Second Date Tip #1: Your Expectations…

Women and men look at a date in different ways. We have a different mindset. And the sad thing about it is that men screw up their chances on a date too often because they take a date way too seriously. It’s why they never get the second date, or a third date, or a fourth date…

Women think of a date as “let’s see what happens” and “I like this guy, so I wonder where this will go”. They think about dating in a much more casual way than men do. The majority of women still think in the exact same way after dating a guy several times. You (and I) as men though?

Men think about the person we’re dating in a VERY different and more desperate way than women do. And it doesn’t matter if it’s before the first date, the second date, or otherwise.

You wonder if the woman you’re dating will be your next girlfriend. You ask yourself if you will be able to kiss her if you like her and if you two will have sex…

And the result is (too) HIGH EXPECTATIONS:

You hope she’s “the one”, you hope she’s your next girlfriend, you hope you will get lucky at the end of the date… and that’s a problem…

You’re putting enormous pressure on your shoulders because you think “I don’t want to screw things up because she may be the one so I can’t make mistakes”. It will only make you nervous, uncomfortable, and quiet… which is NOT what you need on dates.

By thinking about losing her or screwing up, you actually DO screw up.

The best advice I can give you right now, especially for the second date, is TAKE A CHILL PILL!

Work on relaxing and thinking “let’s see what happens” and “I kinda like this lady, so let’s see where this goes.” Develop a “female” mindset about dates…

I know that’s tough, but the rest of these tips will help ya. And you NEED to help yourself with your expectations, because guess what?

If you get the second date and more dates with a woman, you’ll start hoping that she actually IS the one. The stakes get higher with every date, so you get more nervous unless you do something about your expectations…

Which brings me to tip number 2..

How To Get The Second Date Tip #2: The “3 Magic Words”…

Most men suffer from too high expectations when they go on a date with a woman. And most men aren’t dumb: they know they need to do something about their expectations, but the problem is HOW they do it.

Don’t get me wrong, I used to do this all the time when I first started to learn how to date women. Sometimes on the second date, sometimes even on the first when I talked to a woman for months before I could take her out!

I’m willing to bet you have made the same mistakes, because 9 out of 10 men make this mistake…

Because you want to stop doubting if the woman you’re dating is your next girlfriend or not? Because you want to know if a woman is yours or not? You tell her how you feel (you tell her the 3 magic words: I love you) and you hope to hear the words “I feel the same way, let’s be together.”

We tell women as soon as the first date, or on the second date. This is even more true when we had to wait weeks or months to get a woman on a date… it almost seems leek you, me, and we as men CAN’T WAIT to tell a woman how we feel because we like her so much…

BUT…

A woman’s reaction is NOT “I feel the same way” when you confess your feelings early on.

When you tell a woman you love her too early, she will think: “How can you know you love me when you don’t know me that well? What you’re saying can’t be true, you can’t love the real me because you don’t know the real me yet!!”

And that’s when you scare a woman away from you before/during/after the second date, because:

1) You can’t get any more desperate than confessing your feelings during one of the first few dates

2) Because a woman believes you don’t know her personally enough yet after a couple dates (even if you’ve been talking for months), she thinks you don’t love her as a person. And my friend: women only want a man that has a genuine interest in them, someone who likes them as a person!

Best advice I can give you: If a woman asks you herself what you think of her during the first couple dates, only go as far as telling her you like her a lot and want to see where things will go. If she herself says she loves you, you can say it back if you feel the same way…

But when you’re not in one of these 2 situations? I would wait until you’ve gone on AT LEAST 6-10 dates before you confess your feelings.

By waiting for 6-10 dates with confessing all of your feelings, she knows you want to get to know her better. She knows you’ve got your own life. She knows you’re not desperate. That’s what a woman wants…

And remember: most men don’t even wait 6-10 dates before they say how they feel, they say it way too early.

Do you realize what that means?

It means that if you’re the one guy that waits, that holds off the boat, a woman wants to find out why. A woman will start to think you’re hard to get and she will make an effort of getting you and keeping you!

IMPORTANT NOTE: there’s a BIG difference between not confessing all of your feelings on a first or the second date… and not kissing her or having sex with her.

I go for the kiss (and possibly, sex) on the first date and I wait with my feelings for her (if I have them) until after 6-10 dates.

How To Get The Second Date Tip #3: Back To The Future

A lot of guys have asked me if there is a difference between dating and relationships. I always answer YES. I have experienced myself and have seen it with dozens of my fans and customers, that the dating game requires them to stay on top all day while the relationship game is a little slower.

What I mean by that is: in a relationship, you don’t have to create a connection and create attraction with a woman all the time. Sometimes you do, and sometimes you can just be together.

But in the dating game, that period from the second date to a relationship? It’s all about showing a woman what a future with you will look like… there’s no getting second dates if you don’t do it right

And none one wants a boring ass, predictable, stay-at-home type life filled with routines and obligations. Do you want that?

No? yeah I thought so…

The super boring life is actually one of the biggest reasons why “early relationships” (people who go on 1-6 dates) FAIL: it quickly becomes a routine, something that doesn’t excite at all.

Why is it a super boring life? Because guys take their date to the same damn place almost every time or do the same stuff on almost every date.

You have to show a woman that she has a chance to be a part of your exciting lifestyle on the second date…

Show her your life is awesome and that she has a shot of joining the fun, the adventures, the risks, the good stuff… and she will fall in love with you. Guaranteed. Everyone wants an exciting life. People are drawn to those who have an exciting lifestyle…

The solution to the problem of the super boring future with you is real easy: switch things up.. and be unpredictable.

Go and do on the second date what’s not expected from you, like indoor rock climbing, winetasting, or doing a little surfing competition against your date.

But whatever you do, be playful: don’t just sit there and talk. Tell her you’re feeding desser to her and then tease her with the spoon that “accidentally” misses her mouth. That kinda stuff.

And instead of going to the same place every time, try going to several places with entirely different atmospheres. Take her on a risky date full of fun and adventure the first time. Then take her on a very romantic date for the second date…

Then take her on a totally relaxing date (a health spa, tanning on the beach, a beachwalk, a forest walk, a picknick, etc.)

Here’s a juicy secret: one of the most successful seducers that ever lived also used this strategy of changing atmospheres. He also went from adventure to romance to relaxed to mysterious atmospheres on the first date, the second date, etc.

Wanna know his name?

His name is Casanova.

To summarize how to get the second date here:

– Lower your expectations and only think as far as “let’s see what happens” about your date
– Don’t say I love you and/or confess your feelings too early. Wait at least until date number 6
– Not confessing your feelings too early does NOT mean you can’t kiss a woman or have sex with her. Go as far as you can physically, but be careful emotionally or you ruin your chances…
– Show a woman a future with you is exciting and awesome: do something different and go to different places during several dates
– Change atmopshere during a dates or during multiple dates: go from adventure to romance, from relaxed to mysterious. Just like Casanova.

Here are some questions for the comments about how to get the second date:

1) If you think back, how many times did you fail to get past the first date? Do you know why?
2) Have you ever said “I love you” too fast? Can you name any other reason why you failed to go from the second date to a relationship up until now?
3) What do YOU think is the best way to get the second date, a third date, and so on?

I love to hear from you, so be sure to comment with your thoughts or answers to my questions!

And now? Now this movie maniac and coffee worshipper is going to combine his two addictions by watching A-Team the movie while drinking his black gold with extra extra sugar.

I grew up on the A-Team series as a kid so I’m worried that this movie will be one big damn disappointment. But we will see that in a minute now won’t we?

I hope you remember my advice on getting the second date when the time is right… and now it’s B.A. Baraccus time!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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I decided it was time for some humor by sharing with you my serious and not so serious thoughts on meeting classy women, meeting sophisticated women, artsy women, or whatever you’d like to call them.

Courtesy of my friend Ashok: anyone looking to impress their date with their wine knowledge? This is the blog post you need to read, lol!

But seriously… women LOVE wine. Almost ALL women do. So who knows, knowing this stuff may come in handy some day…

You are planning on taking that special woman to a fine restaurant and showing her a night to remember. There is just one problem: you know next to nothing about ordering wine. Luckily you are planning on a true fine dining experience so the staff will become your secret allies in helping you look like a winner to your date.

A fine restaurant will always present the wine list to the man. It’s an unwritten restaurant rule. Not to worry, everything you need to know to impress your date is right here.

If your date is a wine enthusiast (= a near-alcoholic wine junkie) she may already express what wine she likes best. If this is true then your job just got WAY easier. Following to her wishes takes the burden off you and has the added bonus of making you look like a true gentleman.

If she and her (probably blonde) hair don’t know ANYTHING about wine, it never hurts to do some research. This is especially true if you want to impress your hot date.

Knowing more than the basics of wine and how to order will make you look classy, intelligent, like a gentleman… which DEFINITELY makes you stand out from the other cavemen she might have dated.

10 Tips When Ordering Wine

1. Consider the restaurant you will be taking her to. A simple menu will make it easier to choose the right wine to get her drunk and have sex… excuse me… I mean to have an awesome date!

2. Check out the wine selection in advance, either online or in person.

3. Wine prices can vary big time, so know your budget. There are wines that cost hundreds of bucks.

4. American wines tend to get their names from the type of grapes they are made from, like chardonnay.

5. French and Italian wines are named for the regions they come from.

6. Wines take different times to “mature”. A good chardonnay can take 20 years to mature, so never pick one less than four years old. Why? Because it tastes like sh*t and you don’t want to spit wine all over the floor of a restaurant do you? That ruins your whole gentleman-like behavior of the rest of the night, lol!

7. Ask for help from the Sommelier (pronounced “Som-mel-yay), or wine expert. He makes your job of picking a good wine WAY easier.

8. Avoid looking cheap in front of your date. Point to a wines price and ask your waiter their opinion of that selection. They should get the hint and make a suggestion in your price range.

9. When the waiter brings your wine to you for your approval here is what you do:

– Look at the label to make sure it is what you ordered

– Look at the cork of the bottle (do not try to smell it) to make sure the wine was stored properly

– Allow the waiter to pour a small amount into your glass, tilt your glass slightly, swirl your glass gently and bring it to your nose for a sniff. Does it smell good? Or does it stink like crazy? If it smells like vinegar send it back. If not, then allow the waiter to fill your date’s glass and then yours

10. Red wine usually goes with meat. White wine goes with lighter foods. Champagne goes with almost anything.

The best thing to do if you truly get stuck when ordering wine is to ask for help from your waiter or the sommelier (he’s the wine nerd, remember?).

As long as the woman you’re on a date with is not a total wine b*atch, you can count on the ten tips above to make it through wine ordering.

If you really want to up your game and look like the classiest guy in the entire damn restaurant?

Ask your date if she prefers a crisp or fruity flavored wine. It shows you care about her tastes.

If you and your date are trying food you usually don’t eat, like spicy Indian food, you should know that red wine is a bad choice. Pinot Noir is a good choice with spicy food.

And if you think using the sommelier (wine expert) as your wingman is weak, for losers, or gay? Then here are some “go to” wines that are sure to please almost every woman you go out with:

– Screaming Eagle
– Opus One
– Silver Oak

So relax… and order the wine like a man and make your date feel like the lucky lady she is. She’s lucky allright… because she has the chance to go out with a confident, awesome, and REAL man: YOU!

For more helpful dating tips especially on how to find your dream Indian Women, check out Ashok’s shaddi.com page!

Some questions you can comment on:

1) Did you ever need knowledge of wines on a date?
2) Do you ever drink wine? Or are you an anti-culture barbarian who only likes beer?

All this talk about foods and drinks is making me hungry and thirsty… so I’m going for top notch Pringles chips with excellent “maturation” together with an exquisite cup of black gold (coffee).

I can almost hear you think: “Carlos Xuma is the classiest guy around with his superb coffee manners and Pringles eating skills”.

I know! Thank you for saying that… lol!

But for real… if you ever go to a restaurant with a woman and she wants wine? Remember this blog post dude… I’m out!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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It’s just THAT good. So, let’s get to it!

The Effect

I remember when I first read it. I was having a tough time dealing with all the stuff happening around me (see the first paragraphs of my Biography), but this book literally helped me survive it all.

Why?

No one describes the power of persistence (and what happens if you DON’T use it and quit after some obstacles) better than Napoleon Hill did. There is SO much inspirational and insightful stuff inside that you can only read one chapter a day or your head will explode.

I read it 5 years ago and whenever I need some serious inspiration? I read it again. Hell, I’ve read it 10 times so far and there isn’t another book on the planet that got me to read it that many times. Needless to say, insanely powerful stuff.

Wanna know something funny?

Napoleon Hill originally wrote to book for anyone that wants to get riches, but when I started reading it? I had major problems with women, so I saw it NOT as think and grow riches but think and get b*tches, lol!

The amazing thing was: it worked. Then I tried to get more out of my boring callcenter job at T-Mobile. It worked. Then I applied it to giving dating advice. It worked.

It gives you a way to create and follow-up goals for yourself like no other book can and I think that’s where it’s power comes from.

The Good

+ Part of the genius of Think and Grow Rich is that Napoleon Hill talks a lot about the power of imagination in his book: anything the mind can conceive, it can believe and achieve. And guess what? He described 13 steps to success, but NEVER gives you the complete formula. He leaves that up to your imagination. Do you see the irony in that? He practiced what he preached!

+ Subtle but scary powerful: his idea of the mastermind group. Surround yourself with successful people, socialize with them, exchange ideas with them, and you will become more successful yourself. I did that by befriending guys and girls who were good at creating attraction when I wanted to master dating, and now I’m doing it with marketing experts. It works and works really well.

+ Part of the fun of Think and Grow Rich is discovering what amazing stories Napoleon Hill has to share next, so I don’t want to spoil the surprise and reveal more than I already have here. Just one more hint: it took Napoleon 25 years to complete his book, there might be a lesson about persistence and imagination there…

The Bad

– It’s easy to underestimate this book. You see, it comes across as a guide to getting rich or becoming successful, but it’s so much more. The only problem is: he should have put that in the book! He should have said “become successful with ANYTHING with this book”, because now? Some people may be missing the opportunity of a lifetime = reading this book. I’m not kidding.

Conclusion

I’ve read a LOT of self help stuff. I’m talking Psychology of Achievement, 7 Habits of Successful People, How To Win Friends and Influence People and more. But none of them come close to the magic of Think and Grow Rich.

Don’t get me wrong, I highly recommend you check them all out, but you should definitely start with Think and Grow Rich and start with it TODAY. It’s just so damn inspiring, empowering, and insightful. You shouldn’t miss it.

Sure, the book was originally written for guys (and girls) who want to get rich and/or achieve success, but after reading this Think and Grow Rich review? I think you’ll agree with me when I say:

The insights in Napoleon Hill’s classic are universal and you HAVE to read this stuff. I’m not saying that because I know the guy (he’s dead) or because he pays me to say it (his book can be downloaded for free).

If you want to know more, then check out his Napoleon Hill Foundation. And if you want to get your hands on a copy? Leave a comment or find me on Twitter or Facebook and I’ll be happy to help

Got some questions for you. Feel free to answer these in a comment:

1) Have you read Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich? If so, what effect did it have on you?
2) What have you achieved so far thanks to self help books, seminars, and events? Any major changes in your life?

The end of my Think and Grow Rich review is drawing near and my movie addiction is screaming for attention, so you’ll have to excuse me but I’m off to watch Bad Boys 2 for the… fourth time now? Yeah I think I’m at watch number 4.

Later!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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In case you lived in a cave for the last 20 years: Psychology of Achievement is one of self help guru Brian Tracy’s best selling books.

In my opinion “spectacular and life changing program for any man in need of improvement” is a much better title, but book is a little shorter and easier to use, wouldn’t you agree? Anyways, what’s making me do this psychology of achievement review?

Here’s the juicy secret: it will PERMANENTLY change the way you think about rejection, failure, success, your potential, negative emotions and a whole lot more.

But I’m getting ahead of myself here…

Here’s how I approach doing reviews: the impact it had on me personally, compliments, and disappointments. That means I talk about both the good and the bad. So, let’s get to it!

The Impact Of Brian Tracy’s Psychology Of Achievement

 I’m a down to earth, practical dude… so I’m not feeling hippie weirdos, flower power, overly spiritual nonsense and people that are kinda “out there”. As a result, I’m skeptical about self help cliches such as “just believe in yourself” and that kind of crap.

But to be honest? The book made me feel like my life was a slice of heaven for an entire week. I’m not kidding: nothing could ruin my mood, everyone was my friend, no negative emotions at all because it was just so damn inspiring, empowering. It changed my perspective on things.

I’ve used and am still using a lot of the insights Brian Tracy shares inside to teach my students about the fear of rejection and failure and why they’re “just” negative prohibitive behavior patterns as Tracy calls them that can be unprogrammed with some effort.

I highly recommend you read this one.

Compliments For Brian Tracy’s Psychology

– The psychology of achievement really drives the point home that you are your own worst enemy, that all kinds of self-defeating behaviors stand between you and getting the results you want (and what to do about it)

– Next to techniques that are a bit “out there” for me like visualization and affirmation, Brian Tracy shows you a nine step, systematic problem/setback/failure solving method that takes the sting out of bad situations and let’s you see problems as opportunities

– After discussing the negative emotions and fears that make you defeat yourself, the book details how to program yourself for success using scientifical methods taken from sports, marketing and more instead of throwing the standard hippie stuff like “believe in yourself” at you. This psychology of achievement review likes that!

– Have you ever had one of those days where you fell asleep way too late while you had to get up early in the morning, you set your alarm clock to get up… and when it goes off… it feels like a B*TCHSLAP in the face? Well, this book is just that… but in a good way.

Nothing let’s you take a better, closer look at yourself and how you can improve yourself than this book. You’ll bust yourself for thinking about what you learned from it WEEKS after reading it.

Disappointments…

– I don’t like visualization and affirmation and although they may be tried and tested methods, for most guys that’s spacey hippie stuff. They, and me too, need more convincing: more examples and/or proof please! Otherwise it will always remain just that: spacey hippie stuff.

– Towards the end, Brian Tracy talks about superior human relations and part of that discusses relationships and marriages. Although it’s a brave effort to analyze them from a scientifical point of view, he forgot one thing: emotion. And oh yeah… attraction is based on it and keeps relationships alive. So I have to give one major thumb down for that one.

– Although the short exercises (well, they’re more like questions) will go a long way in helping you change your life? I miss some examples. How would HE answer them? Show us some technique applied in real life. In short: it could be a little more practical

Conclusion About Brian Tracy’s Psychology Of Achievement

Although there are some minor flaws inside, the other 90% of the contents in this book will BLOW YOU AWAY. Especially if you do the short exercises that are inside and try to apply as much of the insights as possible to your own life.

Thinking back to when I read the Psychology of Achievement back in 2008 alone motivates me and makes me rise up to the ocassion of reaching my full potential, of wanting to do good in the world.

If remembering that you read a book can do that, then it must be a pretty damn good book. Period.

You should read this one…

I was so inspired by this book that I decided to get in touch with Brian Tracy to see if I can help my fans and customers (that includes YOU) as much as he has helped me… and I’ve got a surprise for you!

This Is The Surprise…

I (with a little help of Brian) want to GIVE YOU 1 of his 21 self help CDs filled with life changing insights and techniques for FREE!

All you´ll have to pay for is what it costs to ship the CD to your home address… and that´s it.

Although most of the 21 CDs are business-related, there ARE some real good ones about improving your life as well: 21 great ways to get the job you really want, 21 great ways to live to be a 100, 21 great ways to meet and marry the woman of your dreams, and more… 

Simply click on the link below to see two pages containing the CDs, pick a CD, only pay for shipping and handling (which costs only a couple bucks these days), and start getting more results with women AND in other areas of life. 

Get Your Self Help CD For Free!

And hey… please DON’T share this offer with anyone else okay? I just wanted to do something special for my blog readers, fans, and customers… so random guy A that’s the best friend of your friend’s friend is NOT who this offer is for. 

Keep it kinda secret… or Brian will probably kick my but for giving too much of his stuff away for free.

So far for my psychology of achievement review! Now, as I’m gone to feed on the nearest Pringles can I can find being the Pringles junkie that I am… I’d like to ask you some questions…

1) What did you think of this review?
2) What do you think about Brian Tracy? And what about The Psychology Of Achievement?

To More Dating Success, 

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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I found out what knowing how to prepare for a date REALLY means because of all the little flaws I had, mistakes I made and just plain BLUNDERS of mine: finding out you have no razors left and that you forgot to buy ‘em on the day of the date for example, or being so NOT in the mood that you just sat there being quiet, that one fancy shirt you wanted to put on just so happened to be still in the washing machine… and the list goes on and on.

Yeah, I think there must have been a THOUSAND mistakes I made even BEFORE the date. Sometimes I found a solution and at other times it simply RUINED my chances with a woman. I see the humor in it now, but I know all too well that it was everything BUT funny when I was still a rookie when it came to winning with women. Now you know how much I sucked at preparing for a date I just have to ask:

Do you want to ruin dozens of dates too, have headaches and pain? I’m gonna go on a limb here and guess that you don’t, which is why I’m doing this training that’ll turn you from mud into stud with a 7 point checklist that’ll supercharge your date in 24 hours even BEFORE it starts…

Preparing for a date starts here. So here we go!

First up: there’s some talking involved dude, so check out my post about what to say on a first date to verbally prepare yourself. Checked it out? Great? Then we can move on with more tips to prepare for a date…

How To Prepare For A Date #1:
Did You Sleep Well?

How To Prepare For A Date #2:
Did You Eat & Drink Well?

If you didn’t drink well enough, it could even hurt your date even more because your LIPS will dry…and guess what you’ll be needing them for later on the date? So before you go out the door, eat something, drink something (and take a pee to avoid public peeing in front of her…that’s not very charming wouldn’t you agree?)

How To Prepare For A Date #3: Did You
Make Sure You Don’t Look Like A Caveman?

How To Prepare For A Date #4: Did You
Make Sure You Don’t Look Like A Bum?

How To Prepare For A Date #5:
Are You In The Mood?

Your favorite music videos or funny videos help too…

How To Prepare For A Date #6:
Did You Forget Anything?

Same goes on the day of the date: make sure you have your phone with you, money on you, bus pass and whatever else you’ll need…makes a man tends to forget things when he’s nervous or has a big day coming up (it happens to he best of us).

How To Prepare For A Date #7:
Do You Have A Plan B?

It’s also being spontaneous (which women REALLY like), unexpected and exciting when you tell her you two are going to spot A, while on the date you take her to spot B just to surprise her! All first date stress is bad stress, so prevent it as much as you can.

Know you know how to prepare for a date, I highly recommend you read my other articles on dating so you’ll know what to do on a first date, how to create attraction and so on… so there’ll be NO WAY your date can fail.

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