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Time Management & Women: The Secret Of Beating The Clock EVERY Time

The Secret Of Beating The Clock…EVERY Time

Most of us regular guys are either working or going to college, living the 9-5 fulltime lives during the week. We spend most of our week either working or studying ALL day long…and when we’re finally done and get to go home? We still need to GO there – travel. Same thing in the morning when we’re all tired, sleepy and grumpy. And once we ARE home? The ‘day-to-day life party’ is still NOT over: when we’re in school we have our homework that needs to be made, when living on our own we have the groceries, the laundry, doing the dishes, etc. We also want to do some sports now and then, you know…stay fit? But after we go through allll those routines, we’re finally ready to pick up some women, look at the clock and…BAM! Only a few hours left before we have to go to bed again so we’ll wake up on time for the repeating of the routines. In the weekends? Yeah we may go out, but we STILL have to do some of those routines. This my friends, is the TOTAL comfort zone. Why? Because a limited timeframe …

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Attracting Women With Foreignality Part II

Now…let´s go a little more IN-DEPTH on the stuff we discussed in the first part of this article. I don’t want to confuse anyone, so it’s important to start with the first part and THEN digest this sequel to it. Now: He who controls the frame, controls the interaction. Examples of frames: boss-employee, parent-child, buyer-seller etc. We are attracted to people with higher status then ourselves, so we should use the opportunity to assume the most favorable stance: the dominant one. You convey this by conversational scaling: show your upper hand by keeping her challenged while remaining calm. There are three techniques for this: the picky buyer stance, playful teasing and active challenging. But let’s go from the general terms to applying them to Foreignality here.

Being Picky, Challenging And Teasing Her Part II

The best part of it all is that when you tease, challenge and/or be picky ABOUT someone’s foreignality you basically put them in a double bind: you’re busting their balls AND there is very little to reply on. Example: let’s say your american and the foreign woman of choice is Chinese. I can start about her being involved in a secret consipracy to overthrow the …

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Attracting Women With Foreignality

Frankly, EVERYBODY wants to be unique. NO ONE wants to be part of ‘the herd’. This is why foreign women attract us so much: by their background alone they stand out in the crowd, in the so called herd. You and I find them exotic, mysterious even, because there’s something unique and unknown about them…an X-FACTOR if you will.

Many men try to generate attraction using their ‘own’ x-factor, by TRYING to be perceived as unique. However, as it turns out…MOST attempts at being unique aren’t unique AT ALL! Women hear things like you have such beautiful eyes, you’re gorgegous, is heaven missing an angel because…from men who are strangers to them ALL THE TIME. If you’re one of those people who ever tried these ‘canned opening lines’, you’ll know the result: little to NO succes.

Now let me ask you: have you EVER tried to get the most out of HER uniqueness, her x-factor? When looking to create uniqueness in her eyes…have you EVER thought about using her own uniqueness AGAINST her, about polarizing it, with the result of creating your OWN uniqueness while you haven’t even talked about yourself yet? Your answer will most likely be no…and that’s …