Whenever I’m meeting people, guys invariably ask me for the “secret” of dating beautiful women. I hate this — because what they want doesn’t exist. They want a magic bullet: the ‘secret’ to attracting any woman, any time.

It sounds silly when phrased like that, but if you look online for dating advice for men, the search for the “quick fix” is everywhere. Before Love Systems came along the quick-fix was the consensus – see, for example, the book The Mystery Method on how to get beautiful women into bed.

That’s how Magic Bullets Handbook – the standard “bible” of dating and seduction for men – got its title. It’s an ironic title, since there is no such ‘Magic Bullet’. There are thousands of things you can do to improve your success with women. You don’t even have to get them all right, or even most. Which things are important depends a lot on the individual woman.

Still, Love Systems instructors and clients have, combined, approached over 100,000 women around the world over the last 7 years. That is a LOT of data and you can see a lot of patterns. So while there are no foolproof “rules” to succeeding with women, there are plenty of things that we know to be GENERALLY true.

Here are a couple of the simplest things we’ve noticed to work the best:

Improve Your Success With Women Tip #1: Have a Go-To conversation starter
Have you ever seen a woman you wanted to meet, but lost your chance to approach her because you didn’t have “the right thing to say” to approach her with?

Don’t let that happen. Most of the time, it doesn’t matter what you say to start a conversation. (Your body language, tonality, and what you say NEXT matters a lot, but those are other issues). What matters is that you approach without hesitation.

Memorize a few things you can always say so you never have an excuse not to approach. If you’re confident, you can try:

“Excuse me. I saw you over there and I knew I’d be kicking myself all day if I didn’t come over to see what you were like. My name is XXX.”

If you’re shy, you can try something like:

“Hey, my friends over there and I are trying to decide on our friend’s surprise birthday party: 80s theme or jungle theme?”

There’s nothing special about either of those openers and there are millions more like them. What matters is that you always have one ready.

Improve Your Success With Women Tip #2: Attraction Before Comfort – ALWAYS!
Don’t start a conversation by fishing for commonalities (“Where are you from?” “What do you do?” etc.). Women aren’t attracted by facts, least of all facts about themselves. Women are attracted by emotion.

Show her that talking to you is fun, interesting, engaging, etc. and only AFTER you see signs that she is interested you do you get into “fact talk”.

To get yourself in the right mindset, imagine yourself waiting for the bus and every day 20 different guys come up to you and ask you where you’re going, how long you’ve been waiting, where you’re from, etc.

After a while, you’d stop answering.

But if one of them told you an interesting story, made you laugh, and seemed interesting, and then asked a few questions? Then you’re more likely to answer.

For women, men are not a scarce resource. Women get approached all the time. That’s why they’re not as nervous as you when you approach: they’ve been through this drill thousands more times than you.
Interested? Come read more in the Love Systems searchable dating advice archive.

Nick Savoy is the President of Love Systems, the largest and most reputable of ‘in-field’ dating advice services for men.

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Hi, I’m Nick Savoy. I’m a dating coach. Some would call me a pickup artist.

Labels mean all kinds of things. Some people think a dating coach or a pickup artist needs to dress in furry capes and leotards like on that TV show. Or be as dysfunctional as the characters from The Game spitting out made-up words like “negs” and “HB10s”.

I won’t lie – there are people like this. I know some of them. I used to work with some of them when I was co-founder and President of Mystery Method Corp (before it got weird). When these kinds of guys get together, it’s like Peter Pan meets Dungeons & Dragons.

But the good news is that “normal guys” are taking over – guys like Carlos or myself – people who have a normal job, a normal life, but who at some point decided they didn’t want to “settle”. In short, we wanted more and better options in our dating and sex lives, without all the cultish weirdness.

If you’re still here, what you’re probably looking for is simple, understandable, usable, and practical dating advice tips. I don’t have a lot of space (click on the link at the end of this article for more information) so I’ll just list the 10 Things Average Guys Don’t Know About Succeeding With Women:

1. “Pickup lines” don’t matter. There are many easy ways to start a conversation with a woman you don’t know, but none of them do much by themselves beyond starting a conversation. The second thing you say is much more important than the first.

2. Women see fashion & grooming as a choice. She will interpret your outfit as being how you want to be seen. So make sure it fits your identity.

3. Women are attracted to men who other women are attracted to. Flirt with a bunch of different women at a bar or a party before making your move.

4. The game starts as soon as you walk on the field. Women will subconsciously notice your presence and what you’re doing well before you approach them.

5. When you get her phone number, make sure she has yours in her phone. Many women don’t answer numbers they don’t know, and voicemail is social death.

6. You might not care about what your friends think about your newest date, but she cares about hers. Make sure they like you.

7. Avoid the extremes of seeming sleazy or repressed. Sexual humor is a great way to navigate this. Make sure you hold eye contact to show confidence.

8. You can’t talk a woman into bed. The “physical conversation” (touching back and forth) is much more important than the spoken one.

9. Be fun, be playful, be humorous. Don’t be serious, uptight, or boring.

10. Women love confidence. It’s hard to just decide to “be confident” but it’s easy (if you know what to do) to come across as confident. It’s all the same to her anyway.

I hope this helps you meet and attract the type of women and lifestyle you want. Check out Love Systems or The Attraction Forums for more info and all the practical how-tos that go with these.

– Nick Savoy

Nick Savoy is one of the best-known and most respected dating coaches for men in the world. Formerly President and co-founder of Mystery Method Corp, he now runs Love Systems, the largest and most successful source of dating advice for men. He has appeared as a guest expert on Dr Phil, Tyra Banks, the University of Pennsylvania, and the Times of London.

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The KEY difference in the way successful people think is that they see failure as a MAJOR part of the process of achieving success.

Doesn’t matter if we’re talking about women, your job, or sports here: to successful people? There is no winning without failure.

And it’s true!

Unless you plan on spending all your time under the influence of drugs or in fantasy land (or both), failure is in your destiny. Trying to minimize or avoid failure will not help you be successful.

Here’s the juicy secret: trying to be successful will not help you become successful. It will PREVENT success.

The Problem With Success With Women

You’re probably reading this because you want to be a successful man. A real man. You want results with women, right? You want the benefits that come with that: popularity, sex, confidence, envy from other people…

That’s awesome and I genuinely want to help you achieve dating success. But there are five important reasons why aiming for success because it’s success is BAD for you:

1) Your Definition Of Success With Women Changes

Question: what’s success for you?

Oh come on… be honest!

– Is it about going to a club or bar and getting as many women as possible?
– Is it about having the respect and jealous looks from your friends and family when you introduce them to the most beautiful chick ever?
– Is it about finding a “special” woman that “completes” you?
– is it about proving you’re a “real man” who can get ANY woman he wants with total confidence?

Too many guys don’t create their own definition of success with women. They simply copy the beliefs about dating success they read about or see around them… and then think is the right way to go…

Or these men do what they think is expected from them. Hell, they FOLLOW the ideas other people have about what being successful with the ladies means.

Have you ever felt like the things you are trying to achieve with women aren’t right for you? That that’s not you? That becoming Hugh Hefner-like is NOT you? That being the father type with the home, wife, and kids isn’t you?

Following other people’s ideas is NOT how real dating success is achieved. Because even if you look successful to other people, you’ll feel disconnected from it. You’ll feel fake.

Achieving the wrong kind of success will always feel hollow. The only person that can say that you ARE or AREN’T successful with women… is YOU, because you define what your own success is.

2) Success Is NOT A Way Of Motivating Yourself

Your definition of success with women is too often based on the things you believe success can deliver.

Lots of women. The feeling that you have “made it”. Feeling like you’ve “arrived”. Thinking you’ll be free of worry and stress. These are all external things. Materialistic things.

You THINK a successful lifestyle will bring these results TO you. When you make decisions based on an external motivator, it’s much easier to second-guess yourself.

Better said: motivating yourself with materialistic crap works only during a short period of time at best. But motivation that comes from within? That’s long term. It’s WAY more powerful.

3) Mind Trick: You Think Success Isn’t Right Here, Right Now

If you’re working hard to make something happen? It’s easy to dream about the moment you become successful. We all like to fantastize about that big reward for all our hard work.

We dream about what all that approaching and what all those conversations with women will bring us…

But that kind of success is always JUST out of your reach. That kind of success is always just around the corner and not right here, right now.

I can almost hear you think: “Damn, just a few more weeks or months away. Just a bit more phone numbers, and you’ll finally be successful.”

But what about now? What’s stopping you from feeling like a success right now? Waiting for success with women in the future takes you out of the game in the present.

Waiting for success makes you overthink stuff while you should be enjoying your freaking self! And during a longer period of time? Waiting for success with women makes you unhappy, because you NEVER arrive.

As soon as you achieve a goal, you will want to achieve more… that’s why success will play a trick on your mind if you think you need to work your ass off to get it.

4) Success With Women Doesn’t Eliminate Worry Or Fear

I hate to give you bad news dude, but being successful with women DOESN’T change how your brain works.

Here’s the BRUTAL truth: success with women usually makes you worry and fear MORE.

Why?

Because you’ll worry about losing women. Because you’ll worry about whether you can repeat what you achieved or not. As long as you stay trapped in this repeat/lose mindset, you will always worry and fear.

The only thing that eliminates worry and fear is changing the mindset that leads to self-doubt and back peddling your decisions in the first place! That’s why in the dating game? Inner game is king!

5) More Brutal Truth: Success Is Limited By Your Confidence

This is the MOST IMPORTANT part of this ENTIRE blog post… what I’m about to say is CRUCIAL…

Any success with women (or in life) you may experience is limited by your confidence.

Why?

Success is achieved by taking repeated, meaningful action. So guess what?

Guess what happens if you’re not confident enough to take the actions that scare the crap out of you?

What will you do when things go wrong?

Without confidence, you’ll be fast to retreat. You mentally rape yourself about your failure. You reinforce a negative image of yourself. NOT good.

Trying to be a “successful man”, a “real man” or a “womanizer” is investing energy in the wrong stuff. It’s allowing and ACCEPTING everything I’ve talked about before. It’s ignoring your mindset:

How you’re thinking about what you’re doing and how you’re doing it right now. You are NOT a product of your environment, your environment is a product of you.

Most guys (and people in general) don’t put enough thought into what and how they’re doing what they do and they end up going insane, becoming depressed, or giving up because of it.

What I want you to do is ONLY focus on becoming a confident guy, instead of a successful guy.

To borrow from a blog post from this guy called Dave Navarro:

“Success is not a person. It’s an event.”

Change your mindset from being a guy who’s succesful with women to a guy who’s confident and you’ll have more success events and more failure events. Both offer you rewards.

How To Change Your “Mating Mindset”

Here’s how to do it…

=> Play a game that matters…

Only play a game that matters to you. Why? It causes you to be motivated to achieve from the inside out, you’ll be playing because of your passion and “the love of the game” instead of for materialistic crap like a reputation.

Example…

If you want to be the best tennis player you can be, it will only happen if you enjoy the hell out of playing tennis. Everything else means setting yourself up for struggle and doubt.

And I always say: doubts are for the passionless. Follow your passions. Play a game that matters to YOU.

=> Forget the rules, just freaking play!

This is a tour of your own brain: to the left there are expectations about what you can and can’t do. On your right hand you’ll see what you think you should and shouldn’t do. Right around the corner is what you think you must and mustn’t do. On top of that are all the expectations you have about other people.

And then there’s the bully of our tour of your brain: the expectations about what other people expect of you.

Forget all of that and just play.

The best players of ANY game and of ANY sport aren’t walking around thinking about how they should play the game. They use natural ability, learned skills and strategies to play the best they can.

=> Take confident action

Confident action is about making choices on purpose. There is no such thing as random activities or “luck” in success.

Confident action is using your beliefs, strengths, and talents to support your decisions and the actions that follow.

Confident action is trusting yourself to make the next decision, no matter how this one turns out.

=> Decide what’s important

I don’t like to KEEP giving you bad news, but things WILL go wrong and you WILL screw up dude. You have almost no control over it.

BUT…

The good news is that you always get to choose how you think about what goes wrong.

Screwing up is only a big deal if you decide it is. By looking at it in a different way, there’s no need to retreat, repeat or feel bad. Because every failure gives you feedback. Every interaction with women is a lesson. THAT’s the right mindset… AND…

Because you’re motivated from the inside out? The idea of “failure” has far less power than if you’re motivated by materialistic crap and external stuff.

And sometimes? Sometimes the power of “failure” disappears completely. That’s where I am at with my mindset right now. There is no rejection, only learning. You get to decide what’s important.

The #1 Secret To Achieving Success With Women

Don’t think in terms of men who ARE successful with women and men who are not. We all experience success and failure throughout our lives and throughout the dating game.

Remember: success and failure are not people. Success and failure are events.

People achieve success because they’ve achieved a level of confidence that allows them to take meaningful action no matter what.

Even when they’re scared to death or sick or broke? They take the action that needs to be taken.

Guys who are TRULY successful with women (and in life) have achieved a level of confidence that allows them to trust their behavior, while others focus on thinking about the outcome of that behavior.

That’s why people who, for example, focus on what to text a girl will always be less successful than those who ask why and how to text a girl, because the latter are the ones who trust their attitude to take care of the what.

Some questions for the comments:

1) What is YOUR definition of success with women?
2) Did you make any of the 5 mindset mistakes I mentioned?
3) Most important question: do you see now why approval is useless and not necessary?

Here’s my own answer to the third question: guess why I don’t give a crap about what other dating coaches think? About what pick up artists think?

I don’t care about how people measure me on their self-made ladder with levels of success, because I’ve got my own ladder that only I measure with

And now this coffee junkie is going to suck his caffein machine dry for all the liquid it’s worth like my name is Dracula!

By the way: somehow, some way, this blog post reminds me of how regular guys like you usually also try too hard after they get a girl’s phone number. You call and text your ass off without having anything to show for it. That sucks doesn’t it? And that’s why I wrote a blog post on how to text a girl you like: so you never try too hard when texting women ever again… and so you get what you want to!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Ever felt like the guy alone at home on a Friday night, dreaming about the girl who just blew you off minutes before your date?

There you are: wondering how it got to this point, now you’re desperate, sad and projecting all your thoughts on the girl who dropped you, lusting and drooling over her number on your phone or staring at her profile on Facebook, investing time in her…. knowing it’s the wrong thing to do.

But you can’t help it.

I’ve been there. We all have.

But now there is a sure fire method to help with this problem and guarantee you a date night not a flake night. To never be left behind again, never be the tool, to improve your odds 100% and to make the girls sit at home and pine over you.

The way to do this is just to follow perfect geometry of a triangle when dating multiple women Allow me to explain…

Always have 3 points around a center. Just like a triangle with 3 points (girls) connected around a center (you). Always have 3 girls at one time.

If you have 3 girls at once you will never go a step back in your “game” or get left and become the tool that’s sits at home thinking about a girl. You need three to secure and guarantee interaction and attraction. Because one will always flake, so having 3 is winning the numbers game.

And you won’t have to worry about it.

One you will dodge and build attraction with and one you’ll see and build comfort with. And the one which flakes on you? You won’t invest more time and energy in her, but that’s the thing… she’ll want you more because of it!

Why? Because women LOVE a man who’s hard to get! Here are some extra thoughts on the matter…

The one who will flake on you:

For whatever reason it may be, some girls flake. They will do it early or wait until the last minute. But no doubt they will flake eventually.

It may be because its nerves, to be bitchy or to make you want them more or even for a really good reason if something comes up. It will happen.

How you deal with this is important. If you put all your eggs in one basket, you’re asking for trouble. If she flakes and she’s the only girl you’ve been arranging a date with you’ll become sad, angry and needy because you’ve invested everything into this girl.

But if you have two other girls lined up, you’ll be ok, not nervous and angry or filled with desperation. You’ll expect it and be generally really cool about it. It’s one of the biggest advantages of dating multiple women.

By being this way, she’ll be crazy into you. It will build attraction and investment and get her to think about you because you’re not focusing your energy on her and you don’t care that she flaked.

The one you will flake on:

Like it or not, instant attraction will take place if you flake on a girl. Most guys never ever miss a date. They are way too needy and desperate to ever flake on a girl. That makes it a very big attraction mechanism.

Some dating coaches recommend you set up a date and flake on it. Now, personally I could never flake on a date, unless it would be for another girl. I don’t think any man could. Again that is why you need a “love triangle”.

The one you’ll go out with:

This is the one that it all boils down too. If you line up 3 girls, chances are you’re bound to see one of them.

Even if you’ve run out of luck and two flake, the chance all three will flake is pretty much 1 in a billion.

While being flaked on and not caring about it will spark interest and attraction in the first girl, flaking on girl number 2 will really spark attraction and investment in her.

This formula for dating multiple women is perfect symmetry. It will always be in your favor and you will be in control of your dating life, because it all works outs and fits together like a perfect triangle.

If no one flakes you’ll have the pick of the crop, if two flake you still will have a third, no one will ever have 3 women flake on him (unless they’re serial killers). The odds are almost impossible. You’ll never be the tool again after using the “love triangle”.

So far for my thoughts on dating multiple women.

Love it or hate it, it’s your opinion…

But me and everyone I tell about how to meet and date women KNOW that the “love triangle” works…

Peace!

Rocky out.

And hey, no matter if you have multiple girlfriends to please or only one, be sure to check out Carlos Xuma’s blog post on how to please your girlfriend in bed. Now those are some awesome ways to keep her (or all of your girlfriends) happy! hehe.

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A whole lot of people got angry with Tiger Woods because of him dating multiple women. A whole lot of women became more jealous and paranoid around their men because of it… AND…

As a dating coach loads of guys ask me how to start dating multiple women, but after Tiger Woods? You can’t blame those same guys for thinking that dating multiple women has now either become impossible… OR… a lot more difficult.

Hell, you won’t believe how many single men have been asking me if dating multiple women is even possible. Possible without a psycho chick beating them up with a golf club or worse.

My opinion: YES, it’s possible.

But even BEFORE Tiger Woods single men dated multiple women all wrong. I just want to be sure that YOU won’t be one of those sad bastards that gets beat up or stalked by a crazy biatch.

How?

First off, by letting you discover the insights of my blog post about how to please your girlfriend so you won’t ever let a woman go crazy (because she’ll be way too busy enjoying herself).

Secondly, by sharing the BIG secret to dating multiple women with you. Well, to be honest with you: there are several secrets to doing it right and for as long as you want.

#1 Secret To Dating Multiple Women: Manage Expectations

The quickest way to screwing up your chances with women is by communicating the WRONG things.

Here’s a “story” that a lot of my customers have shared with me. Read it and ask yourself: does this sound familiar to me?

…You don’t have much experience with women: you’re just getting started with learning how to meet, date, and keep women. Because you really want to learn, you want to meet a lot of women. You want to date around and gain more experience. Then you meet a woman. It’s the first woman you have had success with in a long time and you sleep with her.

The next couple of days and weeks you love the attention and love (and sex) she is giving you. You want to meet more women, but you haven’t told her that when you met her and you still don’t tell her. Now she wants things from you. She wants to see you and you don’t know what to do because you don’t want to hurt her feelings…

Does that sound familiar to you? If it does, then STOP doing that.

Don’t expect a woman to “smell” that you don’t want a relationship with her. If you don’t tell her anything, then she’ll think you want to be soulmates just as bad as she wants it.

If you don’t, you’ll feel more guilty about leaving her the longer you stay with her. Jason (a close friend of mine) ended up being in a relationship he didn’t want to be in for 6 months because he couldn’t manage expectations. And 6 months? Is a loooong time!

So, how can you start managing expectations? You have to do it before you ever go on a date.

You have to manage expectations so women know what to expect and know you’re not the dude who will put a ring on their finger.

Six magic words here:

“I’m not looking for something serious”.

Tell women before you take them out on a date that you love being single, that you’re not looking for something serious, that you have too much going on in your life right now to settle down. That will DEFINITELY let them know you don’t want to be in a relationship.

I can almost hear you think: “Will a woman still date me when she knows I don’t want a relationship before we go out?”

YES she will.

If you created enough attraction, then she doesn’t care about HOW she can be with you… as long as she can be with you she’ll be happy. The how is not important because she loves you and bla… bla… bla…(the usual romantic stuff!) 

Plus, women love a challenge and secretly hope they can still get you to settle down if they work for it…

In short: telling women you don’t want to be serious with them BEFORE you date them is the first step to dating several ladies. It’s the KEY to dating multiple women without drama.

#2 Secret To Dating Multiple Women: Unite & Conquer

The Romans had a saying: “divide and conquer”. If you manage to split an entire population into several smaller groups because they start having different opinions? It’s easier to take over the group.

With meeting more than one woman at a time it’s better to UNITE and conquer.

Let’s use an example where you’re dating 2 women to explain this…

If you try to date each woman on a different night, you will soon have problems when one woman can’t see you on Tuesday but CAN see you on Friday. But guess what? Friday is woman number 2 night. It will soon mean that you need to do everything on different days because of one woman and you’ll have to do that with TWO women. Do you see the problem there?

That’s why it’s best to ask both women out on one day. One during the afternoon, the other during the evening. Or one during the evening and the other at night.

Why? So you NEVER “screw up” a day by sitting home alone because one of the two women can’t see you.

If woman 1 can’t see you, you can still see woman 2 and you don’t have to change your life for when woman 1 CAN finally see you.

If they can both see you on the same day, hell, you’ll have a busy day. Unless you’re a wussy who can’t handle 2 women on 1 day…

#3 Secret To Dating Multiple Women: Play It Safe

Let me get this straight: I don’t promote you lying to women by saying you’re in a relationship with them, while you’re in “relationships” with multiple women. But I DO promote not being a dumb ass who puts himselves in strange situations where woman 1 contacts you while you’re on a date with woman 2, or worse…

You don’t want awkward silences, you don’t want women to get upset, and you sure as hell don’t want to lose one woman because of another woman you’re seeing. So, here are some quick tips for dating multiple women without Tiger Woods-like drama:

1) When on a date with one of the women you’re seeing? Turn off your phone! Don’t risk being called by number 1 when you’re with number 2.

2) When in the bedroom with one of the women you’re seeing? Turn off your phone! Don’t risk her reading text messages from other women. No matter how “not serious” a woman is with you, she will always get upset by romantic stuff you receive from other women.

3) Take a shower and change your bed before you see another woman. It’s NOT a good idea to date woman 2 when you or your bed smells like woman 1…

4) Make sure you know the places where the women you’re seeing go to a lot. You don’t want to be on a date with woman 1 and meet woman 2. NOT good for your dating success OR your balls, lol!

5) Clean your place: women somehow always seem to leave a hairclip, a photo, a watch, some glitters, some long hairs that aren’t yours. They’re just territorial like that and want to make sure everyone that visits knows you’re theirs. So, remove all that crap if you want to do the dating multiple women thing successfully!

6) Never talk about the women you’re seeing when you’re out with one of them. Don’t even talk about the others as if they were friends. Don’t. You will get drama, 100% guaranteed.

7) Birthday? Social ocassion? Be sure woman 1 and woman 2 won’t be at the event of a mutual friend. It will get your feelings hurt… and it will get your balls hurt!

Here’s a fun question: I wonder if Tiger Woods would have been caught if he would have used my tips…

Got some questions for you that you can answer in a comment below:

3) What do you think about Tiger Woods and his sex adventures? Good? Bad?

Onward…

8.30 P.M. is movie time on Dutch television. Every single time you zap from channel to channel around 8.30 P.M. on a random day? You’ll see movie after movie… after movie. And during movie time I always get the urge: the urge to grab one of those big Pringles cans and going to battle on it. I mean eating every single damn piece of chips in there. I’m addicted.

It’s true what they say: “Once you pop you can’t stop”.

And I can definitely NOT stop eating Pringles chips when the flavor we’re talking about is Hot & Spicy. Hell, I’m going to get my daily dose of Hot & Spicy RIGHT NOW.

Dating multiple women simply makes a man hungry as hell, so bye!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Why? because I exposed the liars. And you’re about to find out how it ended…

Inside my blog post, I told you WHAT bad dating advice is and WHO is giving bad dating advice.

Why?

Because I was tired and pissed off about some dating coaches claiming that they really care about your dating success, while they don’t. Hell, they even ban your ass from their sites and coaching programs for disagreeing with them.

If you still didn’t read the blog post? Here it is:

https://www.win-with-women.com/?p=2173

Anyways, some dumbasses didn’t like what I said and if you’ve been living in a cave for the last couple of days?

Here’s the story from A-Z:

=> An unknown guy from New York City wanted to sue me for what I said. Apparently, the loser didn’t like how I was telling the truth. He didn’t like how I was protecting you from bad dating advice. He didn’t have the balls to give his real name though because he was emailing me from some REALLY weird email address.

=> This loser somehow hired a lawyer and this lame lawyer of his contacted Godaddy, the company that hosts my website. He tried to threaten them into taking my site offline… or else. They didn’t didn’t take it offline, in fact, they laughed at him for it.

=> I can’t verify anything, but it’s said that mister loser is an ex-student of dating coach Stephen Nash. He wanted to start for himself after sleeping with a woman or two but started banning people from his forum after they asked him why he claimed to be a dating coach.

=> Guess what? I still don’t know this losers name! But since I know he calls himself a pick up artist, I decided to give him a nickname: PUA Nutless. PUA is short for pick up artist. Nut is because he’s crazy. Nutless is because this wussy doesn’t have the balls to tell me his real name OR to openly discuss what’s wrong with his advice with me.

So, PUA Nutless? Hellooo? Are you there?

You’re the best example I can give my readers of what’s WRONG with dating advice for men and dating coaches today.

You’re NOT a dating coach after sleeping with some women. If you would be, than half the world would be a dating coach

And you’re DEFINITELY NOT a great dating coach, because you ban people from sites and coaching because they confront you or have a different opinion. That’s so lame!

In short: you suck PUA Nutless! And don’t ever think ANY lawyer or court is going to stop me from helping men discover the truth about dating advice, dating coaches, and attraction.

I’m crazy enough to write blog posts in jail and then to have one of my female friends upload them for me. So, you better be sure you know who you’re dealing with before you attack me with your bullshit.

Genuinely helping men succeed at dating is all I care about, because I never had someone that helped me and it was HORRIBLE.

I’m willing to do pretty much anything to make sure you, my dear reader, don’t have to go through what I’ve been through.

Can you do me a favor? Can you go to the blog and post a comment about the whole story? Just tell me:

2) What would YOU be willing to do to help yourself achieve dating success?

It’s still early in the morning over here in the Netherlands and you know what that means for this night owl, right? Need… coffee… now!

From the land of legalized weed, a strangely famous red light district in Amsterdam and where people put mayonaise on fries… I only have one thing left to say…

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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You see, a lot of men always come to me to ask why a woman doesn’t like them (anymore).

They tried so hard to make a good impression. It makes them wonder what her problem is or was.

But…

It’s not a woman’s problem and women are NOT the enemy. Like it or not…

The problem is… YOU. Better said, a combination of you having the wrong expectations and you being inexperienced makes you FAIL with women. Is there a solution for this OVERLOOKED PROBLEM?

At this point I’d like to say: 50 Cent. The famous rapper can teach you a lot about women and dating and he doesn’t even know it.

Here’s what you can learn from 50 Cent…

The only thing most people will ever see is 50 Cent’s first hit, In Da Club. They think success fell in his lap or that he get out without much effort.

What you don’t see is that the man had been rapping for at least 8 years before he became successful. Hell, there where times where the guy recorded 13 songs in 1 week.

In short, he put in a lot of effort before he got the results he wanted. Before 50 became successful. He practised endlessly before achieving the kind of success he craved.

Meanwhile, you approach a woman and the moment she says “NO” you go and approach someone else. The moment you approach her and she pushes you away or turns her back on you, you go and approach someone else.

And that’s where you go wrong: you expect instant success during your first attempt.

But life DOESN’T work like that.

No one ever succeeded at doing anything when they first started doing it. You probably know this already, but still you walk away when a woman turns you down during attempt number 1…

Why?

If it would take 8 attempts to get the woman of your dreams, would you make all 8 attempts?

I’m willing to bet that your answer is “YES”.

You know she’s yours after trying 8 times, so you go ahead and try it 8 times because you’re sure of the outcome.

Surprise surprise, life doesn’t work like that. Again!

You’re never sure of ANY outcome. It’s what makes life both exciting and sometimes frustrating.

But here’s the juicy secret: the more experience with women you have, the more certain you’ll be of the outcome you’ll get. With more experience you know better and better what’s coming next and can prepare for it.

Preparation is half the battle.

That’s why you need to start your endless practice with meeting and dating women TODAY. The more you talk to women? The more you’re around women? The faster you’ll gain experience and the faster you get the results you want.

When I first started meeting and dating women I was very much into online dating. I spent 6 hours a day on meeting women online. Every single day. I had my first date after a week. Did it without any online dating advice, phone numbers, experience with women OR experience with online dating. How? Endless practice.

I went the distance and so should you. They don’t say the following in martial arts for nothing:

“The master is the one who stays on the mat for 5 minutes longer than everybody else. Every single day.”

If you don’t put in the work that I did or that 50 Cent did, you will FAIL. No discussion possible. Don’t let Hollywood fool you. There is no such thing as instant success. There’s an entire background story of practice behind every single success story.

If you don’t have the patience to try something several times? If you quit after just one “NO”? And if you think Hollywood is right? Then please do yourself a favor and subscribe to the biggest porn site on the internet. Having success with women requires practice, just like having success with everything else does.

There IS light at the end of the tunnel though: there is a faster and better way to practice and gain experience with women than doing everything yourself. There is a “shortcut” to success with women.

Don’t get me wrong, you will have to practice by taking action.

But… taking action will be so easy, a baby could do it!

How?

NOT by getting dating advice from just ANY dating coach. Not by getting advice from the most popular dating coach either.

Taking action will only truly be easy when you find yourself an underdog who wants it more than everyone else. 50 Cent, Eminem, Muhammed Ali. All underdogs.

An underdog who wants success real bad will help YOU want success real bad. I am that underdog.

I’m not just ANY dating coach. I’m not the most popular dating coach either. But I don’t know any other dating coach on the planet that spends 12 hours a day on dating success. Every single day.

I know endless practice, because it’s all I do. If you REALLY want to get more results with women you need to join me by signing up for my newsletter below RIGHT NOW. I’ll tell you why most men fail with most women and what to do about it.

I’ve got some questions for you, too:

1) What are your thoughts on failure? Is it good, bad, what’s the reason? Tell me!
2) Why do most men fail with women in your opinion?

If you know me a little longer than today, then you know what I’m going to say. I’m a total movie, Pringles, and coffee junkie. And right now? I feel like acting out my movie addiction by “zoning out” as I watch this flick called Kick Ass on the big screen.

It makes fun of all the gay superheros with their faggy outfits that we’ve seen in comics and on TV. Pure genius!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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I give the word to Etienne from here…

I said many times that if mating was meant to be as complicated as it is, we wouldn’t be here today. If people always focus on, for example, what to text a girl instead of WHY to text a girl or not then things will remain the same. That’s what I’ve always said…

And I had no clue how right I was. I rarely read newspapers, but I happened to flip through the newspaper today and saw an articles that says that in 40 years, white people may become a minority in the United States because 48% of births are currently from immigrants.

That’s a huge thing right here.

With the mating dynamics of our Western society, unless there is a major change of course, white people will be a minority in USA in 40 years, and are heading towards extinction.

Hispanic women have an average of 3 childs, while white women have an average of 2 childs. On top of that, divorce rate of white people is over 50%. Why is that, and what can we do about it?

Here are some reasons that make mating so complicated:

– Women have their femininity repressed and have become more masculine, partly because of the feminist movement, partly because of the image of women portrayed in medias and magazines that does not match their real biological nature.

– Western people in general lost touch with their emotions, intuition, instinct and spontaneous human nature, and as a consequence, lack the ability to have intimacy and to have passionate relationships that lead to families.

– People are so stuck in a full-time work routine. Many years ago, before women were recognized as legal entities in the system, men would bring enough money for the family from their work. But ever since women got equality, both the man and the woman need to work full-time to provide enough money for the family. So much for equality!

So what can you do about it? Solve each of these problems in your personal life first, then show the example to people surrounding you. Nothing will change until people massively become aware of these issues.

My upcoming product “The Secret Key to Attract Health, Wealth, Sex and Love Into Your Life” will be a great step to bring this awareness to more people. Most people, both men and women, who saw the content of the program, were very interested in hearing it, which is a great sign. I am finalizing the production and it is coming out very shortly.

Hey it’s Carlos again… and we’re done!

One more thing… you can check out Etienne’s blog on:

http://blog.shamanicseduction.com/

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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As always, it’s Carlos Xuma from Win With Women here, and I’d like to share some cool sites with you…

These are some interesting dating blogs and sites for various reasons: they contain huge amounts of awesome tips, there are lots of videos there, or the blog posts are simply so damn entertaining to read.

Let’s get to it!

April Braswell’s Blog
April’s one of the top FEMALE dating coaches out there today. Why not learn about women… from a woman? If anyone claims to know more about women than women themselves (and me), they’re lying. I highly recommend you read some of her blog posts.

They’re entertaining and insightful.

http://aprilbraswell.com/blog/

Ask Dan And Jennifer
And then there’s Dan and Jennifer. After telling you that it’s probably a good idea to seek out some dating advice from a female dating coach, I’m gonna go ahead and tell you that dating advice from a couple isn’t a bad idea either. Dan and Jennifer’s site has lots of question and answer-like articles and videos about numerous topics:

Sexuality, how to break up with someone, how to “keep the girl” and more… go and see for yourself!

http://www.askdanandjennifer.com

Dating Advice From A Girl
This one seems obvious: a site that gives you dating advice from a girl, however, this chick is getting married soon and has a different perspective on things. Marriage, relationships, lots of pretty cool insights here. In my experience, if you’re 30 and over and looking for dating tips? This is the place to be.

Check it out by clicking the link below:

http://datingadvicefromagirl.com

These 3 sites teach you a thing or two about women, dating, and relationships from a different perspective than my own one…

Which is why I’m mentioning them to you, because I want to expand your mind a little bit and give you a chance to think for yourself and think outside the box.

I’m not planning on creating Carlos clones anytime soon, so the fact that you have an opinion of your own instead of following mine is important to me

But tell me… do you know any other interesting dating blogs, articles or sites? And which ones (if any) do you HATE?

By all means: share it with us, hell, with the world.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to my coffee machine to get my daily dose of cafein. It’s 10 o’clock in the morning over here and this night owl operates solely on coffee before 1 PM… need… coffee… bye!

Enjoy these sites!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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You see, during my 6 hour long free tv show about dating that I did last weekend I’ve said more than once that marketing is similar to dating. Whether you like to hear it or not, the only difference is that with marketing you’re selling products and with dating you’re selling YOU.

I can almost hear some of the men reading the above thinking “boooo! You’re wrong! Screw you Carlos!”

But I’m not… and here’s the proof.

The 4 P’s Of Marketing

Ever heard of them? They are: Price, Place, Product, and Promotion. Explaining them all would be beyond the scope of this article, so let me generalize by saying: each P is a way for a company to let itself or the product stand out in the crowd and get more attention and/or buyers.

And there’s a little phrase there that makes marketing and dating similar: standing out. Darwin talked about the survival of the fitTEST for a reason: the man who is fitter than others and as such perceived as being better than others is the guy who “gets the girl.” It’s not about being fit, or being good, is about being better than… about standing out.

Now, if we would translated the 4 P’s of marketing to the world of dating, we would get Value (Price), Place, You (Product), and Reputation (Promotion).

In case you’re still not convinced about marketing and dating being similar, let’s look at each of these factors and see what pop ups as proof…

Value (Price)

The most basic economic principle is the supply and demand curve that determines the price of a product. If the demand is larger than the supply, then the price of a product goes up. If there’s more supply than there is demand though, the price will go down.

What does that have to do with dating you say? Well, ever heard of the push-pull technique?

Push-pull boils down to this: being there at first and then NOT being there… OR… complimenting at first and then taking it away from a woman. What you’re basically doing is giving her the gift of missing you: the moments you’re gone make her realize how much fun the moments you’re there really are and it makes her appreciate the moments you’re there more.

Same things go for the moments you’re being aloof and indifferent: they make the moments you’re sweet and try to be close to her that much better.

Translation to marketing: what happens if you’re always there, even when a woman doesn’t necessarily need you or wants to talk to you? Then the supply is WAY higher than the demand… and the price (your value in her eyes) goes down.

If, on the other hand, you’re NOT always there, show her you have a life of your own and so forth, makes the demand higher than the supply and that increases the price (your value in her eyes).

In fact, supply and demand, or push-pull as it’s called, is one of the most powerful reasons for why bad boys are so attractive: one moment they’ll love a woman like there’s no tomorrow and make her feel like she means the world to them, and at other moments the bad boy is nowhere to be seen…

And this is just the beginning of using value to get more success with women. Marketing and dating are similar: 1 point, other opinions: 0 points.

What do you think? What is your opinion on marketing and dating being similar or about value (price) being important?

Place

In marketing, the place you sell your products is important as well. How does the store look? Is there music being played? What’s the atmosphere there? Is it easy to find your way around? The list goes on and on…

And guess what pal?

Place is important in dating as well: the places you go to on your dates, the places where you meet women…

Let’s stick to the places where you meet women for a sec.

Most men try to meet women in the one place where there are lots of other men, where there are lots of obstacles to overcome, where the competition is fierce and where it’s hard to learn how to do it: a club or a bar. Don’t get me wrong, meeting women there is doable with practice, but why be so hard on yourself dude?

Caus’ you could also meet women in places where there’s virtually NO competition, but where the bro-chick ratio is 1:5 or better, know what I’m saying?

Examples:

1) Shopping malls – what’s every woman’s favorite hobby? Shopping! Duhhh. So guess where you can meet lots and lots of women? The shopping malls, centers and shop-infested streets of the world. Sure, there’s competition there, but a lot less than in clubs and bars + there’s no loud music, alcohol that makes people forget who you are and so on there…

2) Zumba, tae bo, aerobics, cycling, yoga – women KNOW men are more into looks than into a woman’s personality or charisma. The obvious result: most women try to keep in shape. The most popular sports to achieve that honorable goal are zumba, tae bo, aerobics, yoga, and cycling (in the gym). Almost no guys present + all the other obstacles of clubs don’t exist there.

3) Dancing – if you would ask a woman what her top 10 of favorite activities is, then it’s very likely shopping and dancing are in her top 3. How many guys dare to take dancing lessons on their own? I don’t know any. Meanwhile, how many women love a man who can dance? ALL of them! So whether you think it’s gay or not, all dancing lessons attract women so please… call me a gaylord for picking up several chicks a week during dancing lessons okay?

And here’s the kicker: when it comes to standing out, do you think you would stand out more if you’re “that cute guy she met at that party on Saturday” or if you’re “that interesting dude from yoga?”

I think you know the answer. The list I just gave you is a super short one: I could easily give you 2 pages full of places you’ve never thought of that kick ass!

Marketing and dating are similar: 2 points, other opinions: 0 points.

What do you think? What is your opinion on marketing and dating being similar or about the place being important?

You (Product)

The most obvious way of making a product stand out in marketing is it’s packaging. A boring ass grey little box would have never made me buy Pringles, ever, but that flashy design with the Mexican dude as a logo? Now THAT caught my attention and I’ve been popping Pringles ever since. Don’t eat any other chips, ever.

Now, translating packaging to dating means looking at clothing.

If it’s a summer and I dress up with an xxl shirt, put one of my favorite caps on and wear some bling jewelry, I suddenly see more black women looking my way, more “urban” chicks, more R&B and hiphop loving women and so on.

I’m not being a racist when saying that, because it’s true. Sure, other women will look my way but the shift in who gives more MORE attention than usual is noticeable.

Now, if it’s the exact same time of the year and I would suit up like Barney in How I Met Your Mother does, I attract more attention from an entirely different group of women. There are lots of Maroccan and other Middle Eastern Women over here in the Netherlands and status is a big thing for them. If I wear a suit, they automatically assume I have status and as such I stand out way more than usual to them.

This is just a small example of how the product, in this case, YOU, matters in marketing as well as in dating. There are many other Product related things in dating: personal hygiene, DHVS (display higher value stories), DLVs (display lower value stories), magic tricks, and so forth.

I think I nailed this one just by giving the clothing example though, so…

Marketing and dating are similar: 3 points, other opinions: 0 points.

What do you think? What is your opinion on marketing and dating being similar or about the product (you) being important?

Reputation (Promotion)

In marketing, the way a product is promoted is important too because it either makes you stand out or not. Here’s an example: there are lots of commercials on TV, radio and what not about deodorants… but there’s only one brand that advertises with hordes and hordes of women going wild as they chase one man around who has “The Axe Effect.”

In case you don’t know that commercial, then I’m willing to bet that you probably know the Bom Chicka Wah Wah commercials they made. Again, something that really made them stand out because even if you hated that shit to death, you still remember it. Because it stood out.

Let’s relate this sucker to dating:

Most men, when asked by a woman if they’re players or not, deny to the death. “No off course not!” is the most common answer of all of ’em.

Meanwhile, they seem to forget something. Who’s more fit from a genetic perspective: the man who gets woman after woman after woman, or the guy who doesn’t get any woman at all?

I think you know the answer. Whether you or women like it or not, a man who seems to be able to get all the women is super attractive to women.

Why?

Simple: women will subconciously realize that if a guy seems to get all the women he meets, then there must be something about him that makes women fall madly in love with him.

And if you’re a woman and he wouldn’t chase you, you would start doubting your “womanhood” because why would the guy chase every woman but you? Is there something wrong with you maybe?

In comes the killer: the giant stroke of the ego that makes a woman think she can transform the bad boy into a loving husband, that she’s the only woman that can turn the bad boy into a good man…

So… don’t underestimate the power of having a reputation my friend. I’ve talked about this thoroughly in an earlier post if you want to know more about it:

And, just like with the other P’s, there are let’s of other ways reputation comes into play with dating…

Marketing and dating are similar: 4 points, other opinions: 0 points.

What do you think? What is your opinion on marketing and dating being similar or about reputation (promotion) being important?

Would you like to see me talk more about marketing and dating being similar? Tell me!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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It’s also what I’ll be talking about during my FREE live tv show I’m going to broadcast live on the internet on January 23, 2010, because how can you be an attraction powerhouse with women when you didn’t got the foundations of the house right?

So consider this dating article to be a sneak preview of what I’ll be discussing during the show, during which you can also ask me for dating advice on your personal dating questions.

For more info about how to watch the show and what the show is all about go to:

http://win-with-womenblog.com/?p=1416

Onward…

There are 5 “building blocks” on your way to becoming an attraction powerhouse that can get ANY girl and you’ll need to build all of them if you want your success with women to last:

Building Block For Good Game #1:

Immortal Inner Game

Even if you would learn a 1000 techniques for meeting women, if you still fear rejection, then ALL those techniques will be built on fear and you’ll achieve success only if the stars align to make you one lucky bastard. Same goes for the fear of failure and for approach anxiety, which is the fear of approaching women.

I’m calling it immortal inner game here, because there’s no quick fix on your way to building confidence. No amount of crutches will help you to be confident once it’s you and her alone in your room… no clothes, jewelry, magic tricks, cold reading techniques… no thing.

You need to have PERMANENT confidence from within, instead of getting temporary confidence boosts from material things.

It’s also important to note that, in a world run by pick up artists that try to invent one fancy technique after the other, thinking you need techniques to help you be successful with women is subconsciously thinking there is something wrong with YOU. With how you look for example.

I’ve seen it hundreds of times with my students: they underestimate their looks because they have unrealistic expectations of themselves, meanwhile women give them signals of interest, but they think it was accidental because they’re stuck in their “I’m not worthy” mindset.

Building Block For Good Game #2:

Body Language 2.0

Voice tone, posture, speed of movement, facial expressions, and especially where you put your freaking hands while talking to women… are all aspects of your body language you need to work on.

90% of communication is done with our bodies, so radiating insecurity by constantly keeping your hands in your pocket or fidgeting around with them while talking to women is NOT good for your dating success. Duhhh.

I’m calling this block body language 2.0 though because the guys that actually DO work on body language, only work on their own… and still don’t recognize a woman’s signals of interest.

Example: the human eye needs less than half a second to recognize it’s environment to make sure you don’t bump into a telephone booth or whatever. The consequences are huge: if a woman looks your way for several seconds, guess what that means? There’s some interest there! Most men just think a woman accidently looked their way… the dumb asses!

So while the vast majority of men, including pick up artists, is crying or complaining about being rejected half the time, they forget that women are rejected several times every single day because the men don’t recognize them looking their way as being interested…

Knowing these kinds of things can mean a WORLD of difference, wouldn’t you agree?

Building Block For Good Game #3:

Outer Game

There’s a huge overkill of techniques for meeting women out there in the big, bad world and most of them are like going on vacation to take a break from all the stress of work or school. It seems to work several times, but the effects never last.

And that’s because if you still have the fear of rejection or failure, and if you still have insecurities you need to take care of, every single technique will be half as effective… or worse.

Techniques are also merely tactics for the “what to do right now” situations, while you’ll be missing the bigger picture. The principles of attraction. Women fall for personality and charisma, so develop the personality traits that create attraction and the techniques will flow from those.

You won’t need to remember he exact words or exact actions or whatever like with most techniques, you’ll just see which trait a woman responds to most and you stick with it. Don’t make life more difficult than it can be, learn the principles, not the tactics… because understanding the principles let’s you invent your OWN tactics

So all outer game really is, is a collection of the best practices. The tactics that work in most situations, but again, the principles are of much more value to you.

Building Block For Good Game #4:

Social Skills

Even if you have a great lifestyle, great body language, immortal inner game, and an understanding of the principles of attraction instead of a handful of tactics… you’ll still end up dead in the water if you get this part wrong.

Social skills. If you don’t have them and are all awkward or ONLY game around women, you’ll turn them off faster than serial killers turn off the lights in horror movies.

The ability to have a normal conversation with people, to relate with them, to have them opening up to you, and to have a good time with them. If you don’t have it, you’re far from good company and that will severely limit your chances of meeting women.

It’s about having a feeling for recognizing what people need to hear or do most right now, such as taking out that female friend of yours for some ice cream after her boyfriend just broke up with her.

DON’T underestima the power of social skills: you won’t believe how many women I’ve met and dated with a social understanding of what was going on, like in the case of a woman having a rough time.

Simply voicing your understanding and acting upon something like that, has meant being seen as the knight in shiny armor and thus as the potential new boyfriend… on more than one occassion for me!

Building Block For Good Game #5: Lifestyle

If you don’t get out much, how can you ever expect to meet one beautiful woman after another? If you stay in on Friday’s and Saturday’s, how’s that even possible?

If you have nothing to do, on ANY day, you go out. To the center of town, to the beach, to a city you’ve always wanted to go to, to some friends. I don’t care. As long as you surround yourself with people as soon as you don’t have anything to do, you’ll meet new people in no time… and yes, that includes women!

All of a sudden you’ll be invited to birthdays (and there are always women at birthdays), parties at home, you’ll go out to clubs and bars together with people that know other people there, and so on.

And what about living a from point A to B life? Because that’s how most people live their lives: get up, go to work, go home, go get food, go to bed… they mindlessly go from A to B without ever paying attention to their surroundings.

I used to be guilty of this sin too. I was hungry and went to get food at the supermarket, and never even saw that sexy woman in the isle I passed by. Didn’t even saw that woman looking at me during my lunch break at work , and so on.

Simple remember: whenever you go out, it’s GAME TIME. Nex t to you opening your eyes to many more opportunities to meet women, this also has an added advantage: total immersion.

If you want to become good with anything, the more you expose yourself to it and are involved in it, the faster you’ll become better and the better you’ll become! So take a good, long look at how you currently live your life too if you REALLY want to achieve dating success…

And like I said before:

Consider this dating article to be a sneak preview of what I’ll be discussing during the show, during which you can also ask me for dating advice on your personal dating problems.

For more info about how to watch the show and what the show is all about go to:

http://win-with-womenblog.com/?p=1416

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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I didn’t discuss this in my blog post about having game yet, but I realised that the successful seducers all shared similar traits and commonalities that worked.

Traits that exuded and displayed all the same things but in different ways which triggered and lead their desired women on an emotional progression, a journey unlocking the same sequence of emotions in all woman that they interact with. It may sound confusing, but it’s not really, because all it means is that; all game boils down to the same core things that we must incorporate and display in ourselves in the interactions with all of the women we approach. A woman’s initial perception and attraction is based on a series of subtle yet powerful passive value.

And these values are:
• Root your interaction with a justification: Whatever you say to a girl or a group of girls, no matter what it is will always come with one distinct question and thought that will distract them. “Why?” why are you asking me/us this question. You must justify why you’re opening them. So if you justify your opener while you’re opening them as part of an opener, you’ll save time, satisfy their question and disqualify yourself from hitting on them all in one.
•Smile: A recent survey showed that 90% of women don’t remember the initial thing a guy said to them when they were approached. But they remembered whether he was smiling and if he had a nice smile, this will be the first thing they notice, the last they remember and will ease their nerves (a smiling person is a friendly person).
•Good Body language: The importance of body language cannot be uttered in a few words, its 90% of any interaction and will display alpha male traits in bucket loads without saying anything. Leaning back, standing tall, using specific rewarding Kino is powerful. All the best PUA’s have perfected their body language over hours of practice. You’ll notice sometimes in mid set, if you’re failing or not getting a good response, you’ve let your body language slip a notch. Keeping this frame throughout the entire interaction is very difficult and comes with practice.
•Lock in: every single PUA I’ve studied locks in the set first chance he gets, it’s crucial because you get them to interact with you. They invest in you. You’re not hovering any more, thus taking away a little awkwardness and makes the whole thing feel better, learn to lock in ASAP, its very important and increases your perceived value because the rest of the venue think the girl/s are there gaming you!
•Be aloof: is being nonchalant and non responsive, don’t be needy and value seeking, be neither here nor there. When they answer positively, reward them, giving a good response and in the same token, don’t be fazed when given a bad one. Just persist calmly, like it didn’t matter.
•Slow deliberate movements: A confident man, a composed man will do things when he wants and slowly because he wants to be seen. A nervous man touches allot and moves very fast and awkwardly, he touches himself and the people his talking too far too much. If you have abundance and are good with women and aren’t nervous you wont fidget with yourself or be touching constantly in an approval seeking manner. This includes eye contact!

So there you have it guys, the break down of a Guru PUA and ever since I realised these thing, I saw my perceptions on what makes a good man with women. What he does what he knows? And my mindset and views have changed and there are things I’ve noticed and realised and things you all need to realise.
They are:
1. Looks don’t count.
2. Spending time on your self does count.
3. Confidence can be sensed.
4. So can fear.
5. The nature or type of any approach doesn’t matter, justification is the key.
6. It’s not what you do. It’s how you do it.
7. Cocky funny is kryptonite to any girl.
8. Never dodge one girl for another, meet them both and let them fight for you.
9. Never show interest until they do first.
10. Must have alpha protocol.

WHAT IS ALPHA PROTOCOL?
It is being in control. Feeling motionless. Lead the interactions with calls and texts and doings. Grabbing and taking the set, not worrying about things. Be in control. Because remember, we’re held hostage by our emotions!

Have a good year guys. Start it tonight! Start it by choosing fight not flight!

RockyJJP

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Let get straight to the point: people will tell you a whole bunch of crap, especially men when it comes to women & dating. You see, most men HAVE NO CLUE about what women want or what women are really attracted to. It´s not their fault or your fault though, no, it´s all because of our ´machismo culture´.

We as men are raised with the mindset that talking about our feelings is WRONG, that talking about women in a different context than sex or body parts is WRONG, and about problems with women? We simply DON´T talk. What men do is this:

Guy 1: ¨How you doing Todd?¨
Guy 2: ¨My girl just broke up with me man…¨
Guy 1: ¨Damn thats f*cked up man… want a beer?¨

And that´s it. Most men NEVER talk about the how to´s… how to get a woman´s phone number, how to call women, how to create attraction, and especially not the sensitive stuff like how to satisfy a woman in bed. Women on the other hand talk for hours and hours about every single detail, even about stuff as how they can give better blowjobs. Ever saw a woman´s phone bill? Guess who causes it most of the time: men, better said… TALKING ABOUT men.

So with all due respect, but there´s a very high chance that your male friends, colleagues, classmates and relatives are talking a whole lot without saying anything whenever they give you dating advice. In other words: don´t take your advice from them.

And although women have a lot of knowledge of the how to´s, such as how to have a successful date, they don´t have a clue about attraction either. The reason for this is simple: if you ask them what they´re attracted to, they´ll give you a socially accepted answer… nice guys, flowers, candy, dinner with romantic candle light and blah blah blah. They´ll tell you what they THINK they want, and that´s a problem.

Attraction isn´t about logical, rational thinking… it´s a feeling based on emotions. Like many before have said: you CAN´T choose who you fall in love with by making a conscious decision. Attraction is triggered on a mostly subconscious level, below the stuff that people can normally detect.

That´s why what women are drawn to and what they SAY they want are almost on opposite ends of the spectrum. That means: don´t take your dating advice from women, they´re good for practical tips (the how to´s at best) because of reasons I just mentioned. Sorry ladies!

I can imagine how you´re wondering by now who you SHOULD ask for dating advice and I understand my friend. My answer is simple: guys with extensive knowledge of and experience with women. Guys like me. No this isn´t a commercial don´t worry, I´m telling you to look for guys that have a lot of experience and knowledge in this particular field. I´m one of them, but so are my friends Carlos Xuma and Adam Lyons.

I´ve been working on the women and dating part of my life day in, day out for 5 years now so go figure if you want to ask me if I have the experience or not. Same goes for my friends I just mentioned. You´ll do more bad than good when you ask your friends, relatives, or colleagues for advice because they simply don´t have a clue OR the experience to know the proven facts and techniques. That´s why I´m recommending you go to a dating expert whenever you need help with women, dating, attraction, sex, and so forth.

Having said that, I´m going to be a pain in the ass here and make getting GOOD daitng advice even more difficult for you by saying this: there are too much dating experts out there that´ll give you an overkill of righteousness. Don´t do this because it´s wrong, don´t do that because it´s not respectable, don´t use this or that clothing style/technique/etc. And I say: screw them! That´s right: screw the righteous ones!

Why? Is it because I´m one evil bastard and want you to hurt people?

No.

Here´s why: every ¨don´t¨, every rule that you follow when it comes to women & dating is a limitation. Think about it: don´t look down, don´t do this, don´t do that… approach her within x amount of seconds, get her number within x amount of minutes… the list goes on and on. These are all limitations that can and will limit your success with women. So screw those guys because they actually limit your success!

The only things I´ll tell you NOT to do is 1) seeking advice from people who don´t have a freaking clue and 2) don´t be a desperate little wussy. This is not the time nor the place to discuss what classifies as being a wussy, so let´s get down to the essentials here and allow me to tell you what to do:

Live in an all bets are off, gloves off, by any means necessary time.

Here Are My Reasons Why

1) If she already has a boyfriend, man, or male friend with her (= guy who´s interested but hasn´t made his move yet because he doesn´t have the balls)… why be bothered about it? It´s his happiness OR yours, there´s no win-win option there so take your pick. If you ´get the girl´, you created more attraction and social value than ´the other guy´ but who´s fault is that? His, because he didn´t create enough attraction. No need to feel guilty there, he just has to learn more just like you do… wouldn´t you agree?

2) If she can´t go on a date with you today, this week, or next week, or the week after that, or if she wants to bring a friend on the date… so? If you´re confident, you´ll know you´ll get her no matter what she throws at you and if you persist it shows you´re genuinely interested which is VERY attractive. Most men give up way too fast and that needs to change.

3) You make a mistake by saying something wrong, not saying anything or whatever… so? If a woman gets upset, you lose the moment you get upset too. Control your emotions and tell her to cheer up. If you made a BIG mistake, the kind that requires an apology, simply apologize because admitting flaws, weaknesses and mistakes shows way more confidence than pretending like you never make a mistake, ever. Strangely enough, confidence can be displayed through temporarily weakness… it allows you to win with women more than you´d think.

4) I´ve been on a date after calling a woman on the same day I got her number, the day after, 2 days, 3 days, heck, I´ve even went on a date with a woman who responded to my message online after 3 weeks. Again… so? The less value you attach to that, the less value she attachs to it as well. Pay attention though: if she initiates contact after all that time, fine, but the longer you wait? The bigger the challenge to get her on a date with you, but it´s always doable. Anything the mind can conceive, it can believe, and achieve. I went on a date after calling a woman names for half an hour. Very hot tempered chick and where most men gave up with her, I simply gave her a slice of my own temper and the rest is history. Anything can be done if you want it to be done.

5) Sex after 10 dates? How does sex after 5 minutes with a woman who wasn´t a prostitute or anything sound? Again, anything can be done if you want it badly enough. It´s the essence of all self help books my friend… and the essence of what I teach with Win With Women.

6) Need I say more?

All is fair in love and war my friend. So tell me: what do YOU think is fair when it comes to meeting and dating women? What do you think is unfair to do to a woman or to yourself? Share your thoughts in a comment by posting one below!

To be continued…

And before I leave I just want to say: since all is fair in love and war, why not gain an UNFAIR advantage over your rivals by learning how to get dates by texting girls, while they can only DREAM of doing that? How to do that by texting you say? Simple: check out my blog post about how to text a girl you like.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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1) Some dating gurus are a living paradox…
I teach men how to meet and date women too, but no this is not me bashing on the competition claiming how I’m so much better and what not. I’ve talked to guys like Adam Lyons (to some known as AFC Adam) and Carlos Xuma, and they’re cool guys… just like a lot of other gurus out there. The best of ’em actually have someone to say that you can learn from too, high quality stuff.

But what I don’t understand about some of these guys is…

If your goal is to help men become better men, become more confident and so forth… then why are you so insecure that you feel the need to ban people when they want to share a negative experience about you or want to help people themselves? It sounds like teaching how to build confidence when you aren’t confident yourself to me.

Especially with students of yours who weren’t entirely satisfied with your service or advice, you’re supposed to use that as feedback so you can help your students way better next time… that’s what someone who genuinely wants to help men would do instead of BANNING THE POOR SUCKER!

And if someone gives advice to people FOR YOU without you asking to, isn’t that exactly what you want? Isn’t the guy doing you a favor? I mean… guess where your student find the guy? On YOUR site, and he’ll thank you for it further down the road.

I won’t drop any names here, you know who you are

2) Success doesn’t equal experience…
Someone please give me a big fat question mark… so I can question people’s intentions and experience.

Do you know how many guys are out there that:

– Went from being a virgin to getting laid…
– Went from being single to being in a relationship…
– Went from no social or dating success to a big social circle and some dates under their belt…

And now think they’re dating experts?

Sure you had some success with women, sure you’re more confident now… but the fact that techniques XYZ work for you doesn’t mean they work for everyone! And getting laid once or twice sure doesn’t equal being an expert.

Heck, the fact that your goal is to meet as many women as you can isn’t everyone’s goal, some go for miss right… or miss threesome… and then I haven’t even talked about how I’m into Middle Eastern women but the next guy could only fall for sporty type chicks… know what I mean?

Giving others success is WAY more difficult than having success yourself because you have to look at the world through someone else’s eyes and make it work instead of inventing some bullshit theory that only works in a fantasy world.

And most of these bozos aren’t ready for the responsibility of genuinely helping men: of being able to answer their questions whenever they have them… and those that know they ain’t ready, are only in it for the money. What’s wrong with giving some free advice every now and then?

Fun little fact: did you know that someone who was in the Top 10 of the best pick up artists in the world, claimed expert status after he went from virgin to getting laid once?

And yet still it’s useless to do name calling, to drop names and blame people for all kinds of things because here’s the funny part:

The universe will take care of itself.

I’m not kidding… short sighted, short term thinking without actually being there for people will only give you short term results. And the “real” dogs out there? They simply outlast the fake ones, so I smile and give my advice to anyone who needs it for another year… or 2 years, or 3 years, because I don’t need crutches to help people and nothing about me is fake

Think about it.

And I’ll talk to you another time,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Most People make the mistake of trying to be too professional about it. They are concentrating, focusing and Being deep in thought. Preparing themselves for the night ahead, like it’s a battle. On the way to a club or venue they are silent, trying to remember all the stuff they’ve learned, every routine or DHV they’ve seen. Cramming it in their minds like it’s before a big exam. Others are listening to inspiring music, music that gets their blood rushing and heart pumping. Now that’s not a bad idea, but rather listen to it in the shower or while getting dressed. I’ll tell you why in a minute, while in the shower or while getting dressed I like to listen to comedy podcasts (The Ricky Gervaise podcast is a favourite of mine) it makes me feel fun and happy and energetic, gets my funny bones going and as we know approaching a girl with high energy is essential to success without getting rejected. But now why I suggest the listening of music and anything should come much earlier, you see when you watch sports on TV, any sport like soccer Do you see the players come out the change rooms, run onto the pitch and start running, sprinting and playing stretching for every ball? No. They warm up first, loosing up the joints and ligaments. It’s impossible to start a game without a warm up; they’ll not perform or get an injury. Pick up or approaching women is exactly the same, you must warm up to it. Get talking work your voice box. Chat and banter, get socializing all the way to the club. Therefore once you get to the club, you’re warm to opening, your being vocal already. You’re talking, laughing with your friends. Interacting with people, this gets your perceived value up and it will take the edge off the approach as well, because you’re not constantly thinking about what you have to do and say. I believe comedy is also a really good way to prepare before going out.

GLOSSARY

OPEN: To initiate conversation with a girl or group of girls

BUILD RAPPORT: Create trust and comfort with a girl/s.

ROUTINE: A scripted story or demonstration of skill or any other form of prepared material to advance the interaction.

DHV: (Demonstration of higher value) a routine in which you display skills or attributes which increase your value.

Good luck guys and get talking!

And btw, would you agree with me here that when I say “what to do pre game”, knowing how to get girls numbers might not be such a bad idea? If so, then check out the blog post on how to get a girl’s number today and start getting those phone numbers tomorrow dude!

RockyJJP.

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People give up too easily in everything in life. Be it before even starting out, in the middle or just at the end, when it gets too hard for them. I read once “people never fail, they just give up.” that is so true. The great people of our time of their respected fields will always tell you they worked hard for what they got. Especially the social artists we all look up to. Now persistence is not only vital, because you keep trying and learning, adjusting yourself to be good with women and abolishing approach anxiety by interacting with countless woman and increasing your social proof. But in set, it’s just as vital.

Not ever set you open and conversation you start goes smoothly or as according to plan. No girl is the same. They are all different, wonderful people in there own special way, and calibration along with persistence is needed. You might approach a girl who can’t speak English, it might be too loud in a club and she can’t hear you. You might try getting investment out of her and she does not comply. She might shoot you down off the bat. Do you smile and walk away or eject yourself from the set? No! You persist, when you ask her a question and she doesn’t answer, you don’t drop it and walk away. You keep your cool, you wait for a response. You smile and you ask again, if you ask her to invest by asking her something about herself, if she gets shy and avoids the question, smile and politely persist with it, she’s not shooting you down or being rude, most people all have their own issues an insecurities, if she says doesn’t know, she generally probably can’t think of anything. So gently affirm and ask, nicely nudging her to be comfortable and wait for her to think of a response, thus building investment. When she swats you and gives you a bitch shield, do you cowl and run away wounded or do you exude your alpha male traits and stay persistent and say “I’m just being friendly and sociable, you can put your vampire teeth away”.

I suggest taking a pen and writing persist on you wrist or hand before going out to clubs or a shopping centre, just before you make your approach read it, while in set read it, keep on reading it be mindful of it.

Good luck guys,

RockyJJP & Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

PUA GLOSSARY
SET: girl/s that you’ve approached.

SOCIAL PROOF: majority of high value people that know you in your current surrounding.

INVESTMENT: time/energy spent on you (builds attraction).

BITCH SHIELD: An initial almost like a reflex reactive a woman will give you.

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If you’re at a coffee shop at night or day, the setting is the same. The energy levels are the same and the type of approach you’d do is very much the same. That being said, club game or party/social function is different in of all these ways, and now we’ll discuss the differences.

I already discussed this a bit in my blog hit piece about having game, but there is more to it than that so let’s dig into it today!

There is a great illusion among would be pick up artists (guys new to meeting & dating women) that day game is forbidden and extremely difficult and should only be done by a skilled experienced social masters and that club game is the easier, only way to start. Let me dispel this right now. Day game is by far easier and more effective in every way! And it is a better learning experience than club game will ever be. The problem is that we are filled with approach anxiety and are too insecure and self conscious to approach a girl in the street and not in a club surrounded by darkness and loud music.

The big differences are that girls at clubs have their bitch shields turned on to destroyer levels. They expect and are anticipating guys to try them out. They expect to be hit on. They go looking for free drinks to milk from guys and are too busy partying with their friends. The energy levels are much higher. So its harder to reach a hook point and it’s also harder to talk with them due to the loud music. So it’s plain to see it’s considerably more difficult in every way.

Now day game (meeting women on the streets) in comparison; a woman’s bitch shield (readiness to talk, how much objections and tests she’ll throw at you, etc.) are set to 10% or totally switched off, due to the fact they don’t expect anyone to approach them. The energy levels are considerably lower, so reaching a hook point is much easier. There is no loud music, so you can have a proper conversation without having to repeat yourself or strain your voice. Also you are perceived as a much more confident person to approach during the day, even though it’s an easier task. Don’t ask why. That’s just the way it is. Also if you persist with day game it makes you able to meet women in clubs and bars without needing or drinking alcohol, because you won’t have to get into a vibe, you’ll have instant conditioning to start approaching. Most people I know are like little mice when they are sober but in a club and they’re dead drunk, they are fearless and approach every girl they see, most of the time getting shot down. It does work sometime, but that doesn’t make you a master of social skills and it’s very hit and miss. We don’t want that, we want to build ourselves up to be social artists.

If you day game you will never need alcohol to improve success when meeting women in clubs & bars because day game conditions you to approach without needing or drinking alcohol. Think about it, if you only ever game a girl when you’re in a night club with people drinking, your body and mind conditions itself to this, you feel you need it to be able to create attraction, to game. It becomes a crutch that you lean on and drain artificial, faked confidence from (which she’ll soon discover). When I started out, I couldn’t help but drink to get my mojo going in a club. Until, I started doing my daytime approaches. Day game can boost your club game in other ways too. I don’t know about you, but my confidence levels in a club sky rocket when I go there with a beautiful woman who I charmed during the day, got her to become attracted to me and want to be with me. Especially when they see the social circle I’ve built up as well as the social proof I have in clubs. It just increases the attraction she’ll have for you.

So please, meeting women on the streets and in stores (day game) is an essential part of winning with women. So good luck guys and get started with your day approaches. It will do wonders for your inner game and your outer game.

RockyJJP & Carlos Xuma

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The education that we have had when it comes to women is entirely wrong though: your upbringing, Hollywood and religion somehow made you as a man think that women fall for the nice, predictable guy who does everything for them and showers them with gifts, dinners, flowers and compliments… but nothing could be further from the truth…

And without proper education? The proper dating advice?

The levels of frustration, unhappiness and loneliness that you will experience will skyrocket while your overall chances of success with women hits rock bottom! You will end up chasing your own tail: feeling miserable and thus trying hard to “get the girl”(but by doing the wrong things you were told would work), and feeling even more miserable because of it when you see they don’t work. You start thinking it’s you that’s the problem, try even hard… and it becomes a vicious cycle of desperation and negative experiences.

For most men the dream of boy gets girl turns into a nightmare because they do the wrong things and end up feeling unsatisfied their entire lives, forcing them to settle for less. On the other hand, when a man succeeds with women the right way? His entire life and everyone in it will benefit – he has more social skills, more conversational skills and is more fun to be around than ever before and turns into very good company to be around…

Women will enjoy the fact that there’s finally a man in their presence that seems to understand them, with who they can talk about everything, who really is the “real man” they were looking for and WANT TO fall for… and everyone else will enjoy the fact that you’re more open, fun and spontaneous than your regular, average joe. People will be drawn to you and your exciting way of living, your neverending smile and they more than gladly talk to you with your conversational skills… and slowly but surely the lifestyle you want will be created BY YOU.

That’s why I started all of this, why I started Win With Women: to guide, advise, and nurture men all across the planet to achieve social success and become more happy, while building the love life of their dreams. And if we would cease to exist, the world would lose a beacon of happiness, top notch love lives and social success for men worldwide.

Have you… ever asked a question when looking for advice… and got an answer that created even MORE questions? I know I did, that’s how questions works really, but the problem with most other dating coaches or “dating gurus” in the seduction community out there is that YOU CAN’T REACH THEM when you have more questions or when you didn’t understand something.

I refuse to be the guy behind the scenes that throws a product at you and walks away though, which is why I will send you a special newsletter with updates and answers to YOUR questions about certain techniques that were in my product. You’ll get a “secret” email address from me with your order that you can email for all your questions…

Have you… gotten advice or bought a product from dating guru A or dating guru B in the seduction community, only to be disappointed by the results? I know a lot of dudes that have been through such an experience, and it ain’t pretty: wasting your time, throwing away your money… and all that without anything in return. That SUCKS, the seduction community sucks sometimes… and the sales scams of some of these fraudsters live on…

When you’re looking for advice nothing screws up your chances of success more than BAD advice, in fact, it’s better to get NO advice at all than to get bad advice. Having said that, I want to give you a LIFETIME GUARANTEE with everything you do with me: if you in any way screw up your chances of success with women because of me now, in 10 years, 100 years, or even a 1000 years, you get all your money back AND I’ll pay you $100 for wasting your time. That’s how confident I am that my advice really is good advice and when your love life disagrees with that, I’ll PAY YOU… that’s how confident I am that my advice will benefit your life.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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So without further a do?

I’m Introducing… RockyJJP! Tell them who you are Rocky:

Hi guys, I live in Johannesburg, South Africa. I am 24 years old and I WIN WITH WOMEN. But just like most men this wasn’t always the case. I was awful with women. I was engaged to be married. My life was over and paved down an average boring path. But I felt this was my only option. I didn’t believe I was good with women. I got a bad draw there and I had to accept what I got. I was gifted in other areas. I was so unhappy and bored but I kept it to myself because I never had many women or abundance in my life. As a result my confidence was low. So I suffered in silence. But one day 7 months before my wedding, fate stepped in and everything changed. I was listening to a podcast of a certain Ricky Gervaise, when he mentioned he read a book called THE GAME by an author named Neill Strauss and it took him from obscurity to being a master pick up artist. I decided to give it a read and the rest was history. It was a burst of realization on my mind. I finished the book in a day and from that day I made such risks and sacrifices in my life. I got unengaged and forced myself on a journey of self discovery with woman and myself.

Before anyone asks, my handle has nothing to do with anything about boxing. It was actually given to me by XBOX LIVE. I tried to register a gamertag with my initials, they weren’t available. But they gave me a few examples that were available and RockyJJP was the first. I thought it sounded cool. And the rest is history.

When I got into this I asked myself why I am doing this and what do I want out of it. I realised that even though pick up and women aren’t the most important things in life, I realised they are crucial and massive things. It’s a crucial one because success breeds success, if you walk in a room and know that you can have every single beautiful woman you see and you can get them to fall in love with you. That is supreme confidence and abundance. Having women in your life, having women who want you, who love you and will do anything to be with you in your life, is a foundation for the rest of your life, to live happy and confident. Isn’t that what we all want?

It will make everything in your life a whole lot sweeter. But in order to get there I had to make all the concepts around women & dating simple and understandable, because that’s what I do, I simplify things. I make things easy, more simply and understandable, and I believe in the motto, “teach someone how to fish instead of feeding them fish” because if you understand what to do, you’ll improvise easier and be comfortable talking to women.

Breaking down game and simplifying it is crucial to doing it. I was too scared to approach before because I felt I was being false, a canned opener or gimmick didn’t seem real or right to me. I persisted nevertheless, going to seminars and reading every piece of seduction literature I could find and I started piecing things together, removing all the middle useless crap, and created a Frankenstein’s monster of gaming. Because I simplified it I discovered what all the best seducers, womanizers and ladiesmen in the world do, what they have in common, because here’s the thing…they all do the same things, but in different ways…

More to come soon!

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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Today I want to talk about the inventor of cocky and funny and how the technique of cocky & funny itself works.

Who is this inventor, this giant among men? None other than David De Angelo, the dating guru behind the wickedly successfull cocky and funny technique and Double Your Dating programs.

YOU may have not heard of him yet, but everyone reading this with an interest in the community certainly has… or bought his stuff. David D. got famous for his Cocky And Funny conversational technique, so guess what I’ll be talking about today?

There’s The Funny In Cocky And Funny

Am I like a telepathic mindreader or what? Because I know what you’re thinking: so should I be a clown now, a comedian that entertains her…because I “have to be funny?” NO, because women are turned off by clowns who are cracking jokes all day just to get attention.

Being funny the Cocky And Funny way means that you are:

– Being playful
– Misinterpreting
– Giving double meanings to everything
– Using worldpay
– Using exaggeration

…to create humor, which in turns creates ATTRACTION. Why? Let’s first take a look at a few examples of being cocky and funny and THEN I will explain the psychology behind it for you:

Misinterpreting and double meaning…is accusing her of having a dirty mind after she says anything about: balls, long objects, sticks, saucages, getting wet (because of the rain or something else), bedtime, cucumbers, joysticks, etc.

She (it’s raining): “oh nooo! My new pants are getting all wet!”
Me: “Don’t you think it’s kinda awkward to do it in the rain? You superfreak you! I’d rather go and seek shelter from the rain”

She: (yawning) “it’s bedtime!”
Me: “Excuuuse you? If you want to sleep with me, you could AT LEAST take me out to dinner first!”

She (while we’re playing pool): “yeah I’m very good at this!”
Me: “Very good at what? Holding a stick…or handling balls?” (with a slight smile on my face)

Why does this being cocky and funny stuff work here? Because the difference between becoming FRIENDS and becoming LOVERS is… being sexual! And when you give her all kinds of sexual innuendo like this? You are letting her now you are sexual, and you’re activating her sexuality…

Using exaggeration…is blowing things all the way up when it comes to age, weight, height and so forth or when a girl complains about her clothing.

Me (to a shorter than average woman): “I like shorties, so how tall are you…about 1,40?” (meters)

Me (online to a girl who looks really young): “I saw on your profile that you’re 25, but tell me..I promise to keep it a secret…how old are you REALLY with that babyface of yours? 9?”

She: “These pants suck! They don’t really fit and I look horrible in them!”
Me: “I wasn’t going to say anything, but you took the words right out of my mouth honey!”

> Why does it work? Everyday life is BORING to us: obligations, daily routines…most of us never get to go somewhere interesting, meet someone interesting or DO something interesting, and we CRAVE for an escape, something that will make us feel ALIVE. And when you’re exggerating, you’re being outrageous: out of the ordinary, exciting, someone interesting..which will make YOU become HER escape out of mindnumbing boredom…

Clue #1: being Cocky And Funny is showing you have a sense of humor, that you’re a sexual creature and that you’re FAR from the boring, lame and predictable men who talk about their work all day…nope, you’re EXCITING, the things you DO with her become exciting (both mentally and sexually), and you take her to exciting places because you MAKE them exciting.

Because of it, you’ll become the one guy in her life who actually makes her FEEL alive, FEEL sexual, and provides her with an escape from total boredom.

You’re also showing her that you don’t take life TOO seriously and yourself TOO seriously: everything is done in a playful spirit, and everybody likes to play even long after they’ve outgrown childhood…because it makes things FUN to do again. So the funny part of C&F ALONE multiplies the attraction you’re building…

…And Then There’s The Cocky In Cocky And Funny

I know what you’re thinking: should I play the arrogant dude now? The overly confident guy who’s cocky all the time and struts his stuff or something? NO, because women are turned off by men who are being arrogant…UNLESS they’re really funny.

Being cocky the Cocky And Funny way means that you’re:

– Playing hard to get
– Being indifferent towards her
– Making fun of her
– Busting her balls as much as possible

And you do all this in a way that makes them think you’re being serious, but you leave a shadow of doubt..but WHY?

Let’s take a look at female psychology shall we? There is no doubt in my mind that once I have explained this to you, that you will know for sure how being cocky and funny creates attraction.

Playing hard to get…is like turning the tables around on women, because usually THEY play hard to get. Why? First, there’s the biological (sexual) reason: us men can hump around all we want without any major physical consequences (except for sexually transmitted diseases off course), because WE don’t get pregnant while women do.

When women have unprotected sex they get pregnant for 9 months, which means that DURING those 9 months they’re less and less able to provide for themselves: it gets harder to move around because of their big ass belly, they lose focus because of the kicking baby, mood swings and an all devouring need for food.

Meanwhile, she will need to DEPEND on others for food and protection sooner or later because she CAN’T do it herself.

Do you understand what this means? Don’t worry, this all has a point: explaining why cocky and funny works.

It means that, relatively speaking, women take a MUCH HIGHER RISK when they have sex compared to men. During pregnancy, they can’t earn money, they can’t have a life of their own, they can’t get food for themselves and the baby…so they HAVE to be selective about who they meet, date and have sex with or they’ll be dependent on others for food, shelter, protection and money for their entire lives!

Next to this, there’s the gene pool thing: when women wouldn’t be selective about who they would date and had babies with the first guy they meet next …our species would DIE.

Why? And how does this relate to cocky and funny?

Because when we do NOT select the fittest mate to reproduce with, then the chances for the genes to survive will DECLINE. When we do select the fittest mate however, we have a higher chance of survival, we can reproduce more offspring and thus…the survival of the species is secured. THAT’S why women are selective: it’s in their nature, and we shouldn’t blame ’em.

But guess what happens when you turn things around and are being selective by making fun of her and her ways, when you’re playing hard to get, and are being indifferent towards her attempts to get closer to you?

Then instead of HER being the object of desire, who’s chased after and wanted and because of it has to be selective…now YOU are becoming the object of desire, that gets chased after and is wanted, desirable, which is why YOU have to be selective. This is what being cocky and funny is all about dude…

Clue #2 about being cocky and funny: by being Cocky And Funny, you ALSO show a woman that you’re selective…BECAUSE women chase after you, you’re an object of desire etc. This lets her know that SHE has competition, and will need to win you over because she can have you all to herself..plus that you’re comfortable around women, have lots of them around you, and that you know how to treat them.

It also shows her that you are NOT intimidated by her LOOKS (or presence), which 99% of the men are…and that you’re talking to her about who she IS and what she DOES instead of how she looks (like the vast majority of men do)…and these ALL create massive quantities of ATTRACTION.

Do you see now why being cocky and funny is so effective if you want to attract women?

And if you would like to get access to more state of the art strategies for improving your conversations with cuties, your dating, to meet more women…and to “pimp” the quality of your very LIFE for that matter because you WON’T have to settle for women anymore but will finally be able to CHOOSE who you’ll be with..

Then check out the Inner Game newsletter that goes beyond cocky and funny in so many ways… because it shows you what to say AND how to easily get more dates with women.

To More Dating Success,

Carlos Xuma
Win With Women

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P.P.S. I started to learn how to meet and date women all by myself 5 years ago by befriending naturals who were naturally good with women…on the streets, in clubs and bars and even in groups. It reminds me of a funny story…

Funny story: my dear friend Patrick is a MENACE when it comes to meeting women in groups, and he regularly manages to have instant parties at his house, threesomes and even foursomes. How he did it? He invented his own version of Cocky and Funny. That’s how powerful it can be. Learn more about what to say and using humor to attract women HERE.

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