Carlos Xuma Column – My Own Column

I’ve noticed a couple of trends lately in the “seduction community”, the entire collection of men that want to get better at meeting & dating women or teach others how to do it, that I find very amuzing and I thought I’d share them with you today…

1) Some dating gurus are a living paradox…
I teach men how to meet and date women too, but no this is not me bashing on the competition claiming how I’m so much better and what not. I’ve talked to guys like Adam Lyons (to some known as AFC Adam) and Carlos Xuma, and they’re cool guys… just like a lot of other gurus out there. The best of ’em actually have someone to say that you can learn from too, high quality stuff.

But what I don’t understand about some of these guys is…

If your goal is to help men become better men, become more confident and so forth… then why are you so insecure that you feel the need to ban people when they want to share a negative experience about you or want to help people themselves? It sounds like teaching how to build confidence when you aren’t confident yourself to me.

Especially with students of yours who weren’t entirely satisfied with your service or advice, you’re supposed to use that as feedback so you can help your students way better next time… that’s what someone who genuinely wants to help men would do instead of BANNING THE POOR SUCKER!

And if someone gives advice to people FOR YOU without you asking to, isn’t that exactly what you want? Isn’t the guy doing you a favor? I mean… guess where your student find the guy? On YOUR site, and he’ll thank you for it further down the road.

I won’t drop any names here, you know who you are 🙂

2) Success doesn’t equal experience…
Someone please give me a big fat question mark… so I can question people’s intentions and experience.

Do you know how many guys are out there that:

– Went from being a virgin to getting laid…
– Went from being single to being in a relationship…
– Went from no social or dating success to a big social circle and some dates under their belt…

And now think they’re dating experts?

Sure you had some success with women, sure you’re more confident now… but the fact that techniques XYZ work for you doesn’t mean they work for everyone! And getting laid once or twice sure doesn’t equal being an expert.

Heck, the fact that your goal is to meet as many women as you can isn’t everyone’s goal, some go for miss right… or miss threesome… and then I haven’t even talked about how I’m into Middle Eastern women but the next guy could only fall for sporty type chicks… know what I mean?

Giving others success is WAY more difficult than having success yourself because you have to look at the world through someone else’s eyes and make it work instead of inventing some bullshit theory that only works in a fantasy world.

And most of these bozos aren’t ready for the responsibility of genuinely helping men: of being able to answer their questions whenever they have them… and those that know they ain’t ready, are only in it for the money. What’s wrong with giving some free advice every now and then?

Fun little fact: did you know that someone who was in the Top 10 of the best pick up artists in the world, claimed expert status after he went from virgin to getting laid once?

And yet still it’s useless to do name calling, to drop names and blame people for all kinds of things because here’s the funny part:

The universe will take care of itself.

I’m not kidding… short sighted, short term thinking without actually being there for people will only give you short term results. And the “real” dogs out there? They simply outlast the fake ones, so I smile and give my advice to anyone who needs it for another year… or 2 years, or 3 years, because I don’t need crutches to help people and nothing about me is fake 🙂

Think about it.

And I’ll talk to you another time,

Carlos Xuma
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