Get off your phones and start living in the REAL world.

They can’t really be blamed for this because it can be truly terrifying to approach an attractive girl. There is always the possibility of rejection…

And there isn’t a single person on this planet who actively seeks it out.

While this fear can be completely understandable, it does mean that guys miss out on countless opportunities.

Never underestimate the value of new interactions

Forget about anything romantic – when you don’t go up to that girl at the bar , you are missing the opportunity to meet someone new. New people offer up new experiences, new insights, new stories and generally broaden one’s outlook on life.

Keep trying.

These interactions are invaluable, and they should not be passed up simply out of fear. This is obviously easier said than done, and it is at this point where it would be useful to discuss how to actually go about starting a conversation with this fabled girl.

Saying that you only have one chance is slightly melodramatic. If this is a complete stranger at a random place, then maybe you do only get one shot. But otherwise, women know that men come back, they rely on it in fact.

What this means for you is that if you missed your shot once then don’t give up hope entirely, another chance is going to roll around at some point.

Accept the fear

The fear that you feel in your gut just before you approach a girl is never going to go away completely…

It will always be there. It is going to be your constant companion, so you might as well get used to it now.

Accept the fear, acknowledge the fear and finally learn to live with it. The fear may always be present, but it should never control you.

Don’t overthink it

Don’t confuse not overthinking something and switching off your mental faculties altogether. No woman wants to talk to a man who has left his intelligence at the door. But, don’t make such a big deal out of it in your head. You are about to approach a pretty girl yes. It is going to be scary. It is not, however, such a big deal.

The risk is worth it…

She is a person just like you and for all you know she is waiting for you to make the first move. Once you have spotted the person you are interested in, take a deep breath, count to some arbitrary number in your head and then just do it.

If you delay too much, you will give your mind time to come up with a thousand reasons why you shouldn’t be approaching this girl. During that delay, your mind will become your worst enemy.

Assume she is interested in you

This is not to say that you should go around thinking that every woman is enamored by you. Confidence is one thing, narcissism is another. If you are going to be a naturall when it comes to approaching women, then you need to shift the narrative in your head.

Your first thought cannot be that she probably won’t be into you or that she is going to be annoyed by being approached by you.

It doesn’t matter what the reality is.

If you’re going to have any hope of approaching this woman, then you need to tell yourself that she wants you to. You need to think that she will be pleased by your approach and that she has been dying for you to break the ice.

You have to start somewhere…

This will not only help you get over your fear, but it will also change your entire persona when you actually are speaking to her.

You will not seem like a guy who is anticipating rejection. Rather, you will appear to be a guy who is comfortable in himself. This is a very attractive quality in a man.

Follow the 10-second rule when it comes to awkwardness

At some point, things are going to get weird. This is almost guaranteed. When things do, it is important to realize that the game hasn’t been lost. You have not failed, it is simply the natural progression of things. When the awkwardness does set in, aim to keep the conversation going for another 10 seconds.

During this time, one of three things will happen – either the awkwardness will melt away naturally, you’ll realize that you imagined it, or it will continue. In the first two cases, you have nothing to worry about.

Don’t take too long…

Don’t feel defeated though. You tried, and that is all you ever can do.

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Ah, women.

If you’re not completely captivated by the female species…you’re terrified of them. Strange how the possibility of getting turned down sends waves of fear even through the hardest of men.

Blame it on biological programming I guess. Back then, hitting on the wrong lady-folk literally meant death. If the woman you had your eye on happened to be tight with the big cheese in the village, he and his boys would treat you as a threat.

Cavemen had instinctive knowledge of how to attract women… sometimes

And well, let’s just say he’s not going to let you off with a verbal warning. (Unless your definition of a warning is “getting your head bashed in with the nearest blunt object.”)

These days, any blows dealt are the emotional and psychological kind.

The Curious Case of Brad the Doormat

My friend Brad is a 26-year-old programmer at a mobile app company who loves sci-fi films and plays a lot of video games.  He also has trouble talking to the ladies. He’s petrified by fear the moment the conversation starts.

I know what you’re thinking, so let me stop you right there…

Despite how Brad might seem at first, he’s quite a sociable guy. He enjoys meeting new people and making friends. He even had a pretty hot girlfriend not too long ago – and that’s actually where the problem started. Brad had been in a relationship with this girl for over a couple of years and things were going great.

That is, until she decided to cheat on him with some jock-looking dude who swept her off her feet. Brad was shattered to the core, as any guy would be in his shoes.

Don’t despair…

It’s not that the jerk that his girl ran off with was “better” than him.  It turned out they’d drifted apart for some time and her cheating was just the final nail in the coffin.

In any case, it really did a number on Brad. He’d built his life around their relationship, so he had a hard time starting over. It was especially difficult meeting new women, especially with starting a conversation with them.

Some part of Brad was afraid of messing up again, so he became a super needy, “yes man”version of himself. As a result, he’d crumble at the first sign of resistance.  Either that, or he’d end up going a few dates with someone until she’d gotten enough free dinners and gifts before kicking him to the curb.

Awakening Your Inner Alpha

It was at this point that I stepped in. After watching Brad walk out of one dating minefield and straight into another, I knew I had to rebuild him from the ground up. The fear of women giving you a hard time or rejecting you is a nothing more than psychological hang-up. And if you can’t find a way to get over this mental block around women, they’re going to walk all over you and eat you alive.

But it’s not because women have some grand diabolical scheme to persecute guys.

When a woman puts up an attitude, or seems she’s being vicious on purpose … the truth is that she’s putting you through a screening process for her own protection.

Whoah buddy…

She’s not about to just let any random schmuck in her pants, no matter how attracted she is to him. And the fact that she considers you as a “candidate” means that you already have a shot. Your job is to NOT mess it up by choking at a crucial moment.

Going back my “earlier days” example, women had to choose the right mate, or else they’d be screwed.  They needed a partner that could stand alongside them and brave the big bad world with her and their future offspring.

So if you react in a non-alpha way with your words, actions or behavior, her survival instincts will tell her to give you the boot.

So the real trick is not to shrivel up when a girl gives you crap after trying to hit on her. But it’s not a simple matter of telling yourself NOT to freak out when the moment comes. You need to make some changes on a deeper level to develop a backbone in the dating world.

So let’s get down to it…

Just Break the Damn Ice

Think of talking to women as bungee jumping: the longer you hesitate, the LESS you want to step off the edge.

The most common problem guys have with taking that leap is overthinking the what-ifs.

You might be telling yourself:

• – “What if she doesn’t like me?”
• – “What if she laughs in my face?”
• – “What if she acts like a total bitch and shoots me down in front of everyone?”
• – “What if we don’t gel and the conversation becomes super awkward?”

I can guarantee you ALL guys have gone through this to some degree. But clearly it hasn’t stopped SOME of them from picking up women and even getting laid.

So don’t stress out about how to get a conversation started.  Contrary to popular belief, there is no perfect pickup like or opener – in fact, it’s better that you DON’T have pre-packaged material.

Before I drop the mic…

There might have been a time when that artificial stuff worked, but thanks to the internet, women have caught on. They’re going to smell that stilted dialogue a mile away. Keep it organic instead and pick a topic to talk about.

It may be something as inane as the weather if you’re outside, or the weird way the oranges are stacked at the grocery aisle (seriously – that’s how I got a girl’s number before). Make a funny comment, offer your opinion or simply make an observation.

That last one works pretty well, especially if you say something like, “You strike me as someone who hates 80s covers” or an equally cheeky statement that elicits a response from her. You just need to find a topic as a springboard for other topics later on.

What matters is you don’t think about it too much and just get your foot in the door, so to speak. I’m aware you’re STILL worried about things going south, but we’ll deal with that later on.

Right now, try to remember that this whole talking and flirting deal is a GAME anyway, so you should treat it as such.

Controlling attraction is the answer…

Have a little faith in yourself that you can power through those typical snags guys hit when starting out.

Let’s go a little deeper and move on, shall we?

Be Funny

Easier said than done, I know. But there’s no way around this if you want to catch a girl’s attention.The good news is that it’s also not as hard as you think. I suggest you watch some videos of funny guys in movies and standup sets.

I’m not saying you have to be a Jim Carrey or Dave Chappelle clone – that would be sad and cringe-worthy. What I want you to do is to get a feel of the different styles out there, and how humor and comic timing work.

Observe how the greats point something out from a situation and exaggerate it to a ridiculous degree.

Going extreme can really amp up the attraction…

You’ll find a particular approach that resonates with you, and you should emulate (read: NOT imitate) that. No matter what style you have, you need to have ONE to begin with. Again, don’t worry if your brand of humor doesn’t click with a particular girl.

There are a hundred different reasons (most of which have nothing do to with you) why she didn’t laugh at your clever 90s Seinfeld reference.

She might be having a crap day, her pet plant died, her boss might have chewed her out just a couple of hours earlier, or she just might be a mean person. It doesn’t matter – It just means it wasn’t meant to be and your time is better spent on someone else.

Nothing personal.

And when you jokes DO click with a certain girl, the rest of conversation will take care of itself.

She’s there for you…

She is out there, and you just need to find someone who will “get it.” Like your opener, jokes are just a means to an end – which is getting her guard down and making a connection.

Side note: Try not to use humor that’s too dark or heavy. Comedians like Jimmy Carr are masters at this, but it’s definitely NOT for everyone. It takes a level of familiarity before unleashing this kind of stuff on someone. Save it for much later when you’re sure she won’t freak out – and use it sparingly even then.

Be Shameless

Ok, don’t get me wrong. Acting like a douche, making overtly sexual jokes and getting too handsy will earn you a well-deserved slap in the face.

But on the other side of the pickup spectrum, don’t be so damn apologetic about yourself either.

Look, I know she’s hot and all, but that doesn’t give her a license to judge or talk down to you. Nor does it mean you should waive your right to having an opinion – even if it doesn’t line up with hers.

The hottest couples I know RARELY agree on most things. What keeps them going is the RESPECT they have for their differences, and you need to establish that as early as now.

Which means you shouldn’t be afraid to be REAL with a girl. Again, you can do this without being an actual jerk about it.

Here are some examples:

• – If your passion is building model cars in your basement, don’t act like you have the plague. When she asks you about your hobbies, answer honestly with a smile and be HAPPY about it. How she reacts to it is up to HER, not you.
• – NEVER be sorry about anything if you haven’t crossed any lines (i.e. being creepy, getting too personal, using inappropriate language, etc.).
• – Here are some low-value statements that lower her respect and kill any attraction she has for you: “I’m sorry I’m not your type”, “I’m sorry I’m not a dog person, I hope that doesn’t turn you off”, “I’m sorry for talking to you, I didn’t mean to bother you.”
• – Be upfront about your intentions. You don’t have to spell it out exactly, but the way you present yourself and communicate with her should tell her what direction you want to take with her (i.e. NOT taking the “let’s just be friends” route).
• – Don’t be surprised that women ALSO hate it when a guy would rather hide his feelings of attraction instead of coming out with it. If your goal is to get a date with her, accept that the possibility of a “no” comes with the territory.

Be a (little) Smart-ass

This is the perfect antidote to spinelessness. You may think that you don’t have it in you, but you never know until you try pushing back a little.

Women are 100% more likely to respect you for holding your ground and keeping your dignity – even if you’re being treated like crap. For women with a sweeter disposition, putting yourself out there (even if you’re terrified!) and being a decent human being to them is more than ENOUGH.

(And mind you, I’m not talking about the entitled I’m-such-a-nice-guy-why-don’t-you-love-me kind of decent).

The fact that you’re making the first move, trying to be funny and basically putting in the work will already get you in their good graces.

She’s yours for the taking…

But some women are a little feisty and have more bite than bark.  And fewer still are full-blown bitchy.

Like I said, it doesn’t matter. In cases like those, your basic strategy is to keep your dignity and NEVER let her see you bleed – regardless of the outcome.

Attachment to outcome is what does a man in. The less you care about it, the more liberated you’ll be.  But it takes experience to get to that higher state of mind, so you better buckle up and rack up those miles.

Trust me – it’s a fun ride if you embrace the chaos.

Right now, you’re probably thinking, “Wow, thanks a bunch Carlos, you’ve cured me. All I have to do is tell myself not to be a wuss, and I’ll have the confidence of a Black Ops Marine.”

Chill, man. I got you covered.

Here are some tips to help you survive a particularly unpleasant encounter:

• – Don’t ever try to defend or justify yourself to her. This is a close cousin to not apologizing unnecessarily, and the point is not allowing her nasty words to have leverage over you.
• – When she says, “Nice Star Wars” shirt, I bet all the girls are begging you take them home,” don’t act all hurt and try to “correct” her. You LOSE if you snap back with, “Excuse me, Star Wars happens to be one of the greatest sci-fi stories of all time and anyone who’s cultured will have some appreciation of it.”  
• – Stay in the game. It’s all about returning her serve, so lob that zinger right back and put the ball in her court. The best way to handle that Star Wars remark is by taking it to a ridiculous level: “Yeah, I’m the galaxy’s biggest stud, no doubt.”
• – Turn the tables on her by taking it further. Now, she might try to keep you on your toes with another condescending quip like, “Sorry, I don’t find sci-fi geeks attractive at all”, so you just recalibrate that reality with a statement of your own. “Well, don’t diss it ‘til you’ve tried it. Besides, millions of Big Bang Theory fans don’t have a problem with sexy geeks.”
• – She might take a jab at your appearance like your thinning hairline or bulging mid-section, to which you say respectively, “Yeah, balding is awesome – who needs all that wind resistance anyway?” and “What’s wrong with having more of me to love?”
• – Stay the course. Once you’ve gone down this path, don’t back down now. Keep up the verbal wordplay even if she ends up leaving. Finish the game strong and let it be a character-building moment.

Speaking of which…

Lose Graciously

So maybe it’s really not working out and she simply refuses to be won over.  It’s no big deal. No one will fault you for employing a dignified exit strategy.

You can lick your wounds when you get home. In the meantime, just finish things off with “Thanks for your time anyway, it was nice talking to you” and remove yourself from the situation.

Unloading your frustration on her will make a less-than-ideal scenario into a legitimately BAD one.

It helps to think of it this way:

Your goal isn’t to find The One Girl Destined For You.

You’re just here for the ride, so enjoy it.  If you do get a serious relationship out of it, that’s not worth thinking about until MUCH later on.

You can play coy, my dear…

Your immediate priority is getting your inner game sorted out and not being a doormat to women. 

And that takes us to the last part…

Rock-Solid Confidence Is a MUST

Obviously, I can’t hope to cover this entire topic right here and now. But this is important stuff because having a spine means believing in yourself.

If you felt you were lacking or defective in some way, this is 100% going to mess with your game.  You can “fake it til you make it” all you want, but the “making it” part is about developing good old-fashioned self-confidence.

That doesn’t mean though you have to hold off on interacting with women while you work on this part of yourself.

Yeah, that’s one thumbs up buddy

You can still build up that in-field experience while learning about the basics of being more confident.

Here are some basics to help you get started:

• – Think about the positives. Make a simple list of the stuff you’re naturally good at, and any interests and hobbies that make you, YOU. Also include stuff you’ve done in the past that a made a difference or impacted people positively. Having pride in who you are is a good start and a basic building block of confidence.
• – Deal with your hang–ups. I’m not trying to be your shrink or anything, but I want you to think about experiences growing up that might have shaped that narrative you have about yourself. People like your family, friends, classmates, ex-partners (like in Brad’s case) have an effect on your confidence and it’s important to acknowledge this.
• – Put an action plan down in writing. Maybe there’s a particular area in your life you’re not feeling great about, so come up with a list actionable items to help you work on it.Whether it’s being better at sports, playing music or being the world’s best hotdog eater, create a path to follow with milestones along the way (kidding about the last one of course). The more you check off these items off the list, the greater your confidence will grow.
• – Don’t be a slob. It’s sad to see a lot of guys not feeling 100% about themselves because of something they could totally prevent. You don’t have to look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney, but there’s no excuse for being out of shape and poor hygiene. That, and eating healthy (or at least trying to) are totally under your control.
• – Handle the Essentials. Even the basics like taking a shower, smelling good, brushing your teeth and having a sense of style will give you serious boost before you leave your place. Confidence is NOT worrying about these things when you’re dealing with other people – women included.
• – Get your Z’s. And while we’re on the topic of health, get your sleep life in order – your waking hours depend on it. Look up how to keep your circadian rhythm in harmony. The better you rest, the more stuff you get done in the day!

Hey, I know all of this is a lot to take in, but trust me that this will put you on the right path to unleashing the Awesome Alpha Dude in you.

When you cultivate a solid personality that comes from a place of fearless authenticity, women will sense that and respect you.

This could be your lap, man

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It’s easy to get caught up in “the perfect thing to say” that’s going to sweep her right off her feet. But what if that’s not nearly as important as you think?

What if the importance of your words is dwarfed by something that will make her actually feel something?

What if the way that you physically touch her, and how often you do it, is actually way more crucial to your success?

Why Touch Matters So Much

Scientific studies from the Southern Illinois School of Medicine and McMaster University in Toronto tell us that women have TWICE the amount of nerve receptors in their skin as men, and that these receptors are more tightly-packed together.

This means that women feel touch to their skin at least 2x more than men. According to researchers it could even be as high as 10x.

With these kinds of numbers, it’s an important skill to know and master.

Especially when you first meet her, how often and how much you touch her is going to determine how attracted and turned on you can make her.

It’s also going to affect how connected she feels to you, and whether or not she trusts you.

Here’s why.

The Chemical in Her Body that Turns Her On

When you touch her, you’re releasing a hormone inside her called “oxytocin.”

This has been called by researchers the “love” or “bliss” hormone, because it affects the part of your brain that makes you feel trust and connection with someone.

Think about it.

When someone hugs you or holds you close, don’t you feel some kind of comfort? Even when someone simply touches your arm in conversation, it gives you an indescribable, great feeling.

This is oxytocin being released.

Why This is So Important

The idea that: a) what you say to her and b) how you say it are the only things that turn her on can mess with every guy’s head.

If you’re a shyer/more introverted guy, you may think you have to speak up more and be louder and more dominant in conversation.

For guys who are more outgoing and naturally talkative, you may get caught up in saying the “perfect things.” Most likely you’ll end up coming off as inauthentic.

These mindsets both take away from what science tells us is staring us in the face:

Creating a physical connection through touch is the fastest, most sure-fire way for you to relax her, build trust, and turn her on.

Not learning the right routine.

Not saying cheesy lines she thinks you could have said to every other girl at the bar.

But creating a simple, but powerful connection through touch, and doing it in the right way.

Simple Formula on How To Touch Her

While this important skill can help you turn her on and create connection with ease, you want to make sure you do it the right way.

The way you initiate touch can be the difference between skyrocketing sexual tension…and her labeling you as “creepy” and vanishing into the night.

That’s why you need to read this simple, 3-step formula that will guide you through the entire process in a way any man can follow.

It was created by an all-star attracter and seducer named “Magic.”

Even if you’re:

a) Almost clueless about this process,
b) You’ve heard about the benefits but never tried it, or
c) it makes you feel wildly uncomfortable to have to initiate contact with girls you meet,

This system will guide you through it.

Thankfully, one of Magic’s students created a presentation on the formula, and it’s free for you guys for a limited time.

So if you ever feel nervous during conversation or you have trouble building a physical connection with girls you meet, don’t walk, run, to watch this presentation.

Click here NOW for free access while it’s still up…

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And it’s pretty riveting, to say the least.

I’ve known this guy for YEARS, and every time we’d see each other he’d complain about getting passed up for some jerk that treated women like dirt.

He couldn’t figure out for the life of him why women NEVER saw him as anything more than a “harmless friend”.

The last I heard from him, he was upset over a girl who was getting married to another guy. Scott was pretty torn up about it because he was totally into her and he KNEW her fiancé was an abusive douchebag.

According to him, he got the usual “You’re a nice guy, but…” speech before the woman he loved walked out of his life FOR GOOD.

Or so it seemed.

We hadn’t talked since then and I never knew what happened to him after that. Well, I ran into him again recently, and it’s like he turned into a completely DIFFERENT guy.

And it wasn’t because he got jacked like a bodybuilder or won the lottery. To be honest, he still looked the SAME (expect for the few pounds he gained) and he wasn’t driving around in a Ferrari.

The shocking difference between Old Scott and New Scott was that he now had a SMOKING HOT woman around his arm.

“Carlos, this is my girlfriend Sophie.”

I thought I’d seen it all, but I was FLOORED.

(After all, this was a hard 10 we’re talking about here…)

After how devastated he seemed before, I never expected him to bounce back like THIS.

So, I did my best to hide my utter shock and tried to keep up with the chit-chat. But in the back of my mind, I was like, “Am I in a body snatcher movie or what? This was the Scott who couldn’t save his life to open a half-decent conversation with a woman…”

Come to think of it though, there was SOMETHING ELSE different about him that I didn’t pick up on right away. Seeing him interact with his new girlfriend, I noticed he carried himself in whole NEW way – I just couldn’t put my finger on what it was…

As someone who’s been teaching guys how to attract women and get them into bed for over a decade now, I could sense how he naturally oozed of GENUINE CONFIDENCE.

Everything he said and did indicated this, but it was so subtle that I didn’t notice it at first.

Frankly, I found it a little eerie, but in a good way.

I spent the rest of the day thinking about Scott’s AMAZING transformation – and wondering HOW he did it. As much as I like the guy, I was well aware he was no Brad Pitt or Chris Evans to be able to get a gorgeous lady like that on his own.

When we met up again the same week, I asked him. “Alright dude, tell me how you did it,” I told him point blank.

Judging by the smug grin on Scott’s face, I knew he was WAITING for me to ask him that ever since I saw him and Sophie together.

It turned out she was the SAME chick he was moaning about not long ago. And it was pretty obvious that she changed her mind about getting married to that other dude.

So for the next hour, he told me about an unusual approach he called “Cross Escalation” – according to him, it UNLOCKED the man he was meant to be all along.

Thanks to this unorthodox psychological principle, Scott was able to effortlessly make women think about him to the point of OBSESSION.

As much as I’d like to share the details of his life-changing journey here, I think it would be better if you heard it from Scott himself.

To get the WHOLE STORY of how he changed from a shy, introverted mess of a guy to the confident Alpha male that women CRAVED, head on over here.

Trust me, you owe it to yourself to hear what he has to say. Click here to find out NOW…

And my good buddy has a new article up here that you might enjoy…

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Most guys go their whole lives thinking this is the most frightening part of meeting women, and that they will be rejected most of the time.

Let’s be real – if you knew you weren’t going to get rejected, would you approach and ask more girls out?

You bet your ass you would…

The truth is that if you know what you’re doing, you should almost NEVER be rejected by women.

That’s why I’m going to give you 3 secret ways to get her out on a date – and probably a whole lot MORE from her.

HOWEVER – I need to warn you that I’m going to explain some really ninja stuff here. So if you’re against using any kind of mind games with women, you might want to move on.

We’re going to get serious and straight to the truth.

If you want some wishy-washy nonsense about “just act confident” – this isn’t for you.

Secret Strategy 1: Keep your head in the game

Your mind needs to be relaxed and clear when the time comes to finally ask her out.

If you’re all tense and caught up in your own head (or worse – in HER head), you’ll give off a nervous vibe that will make her want to walk away. FAST.

One thing you should do to keep your head clear is NOT think about having sex with her.

I know, I know… that’s like asking a guy not to think at all. But that’s something that comes with practice – and experience.

The more you get laid, the less you need to get all weird about imagining this possible scenario with her in bed. And that means that she won’t get creeped out by your dirty-old-man vibe.

When it’s obvious that you’re planning sex ahead of time, you can really weird women out, which is why you have to push that out of your head.

Don’t worry – if it’s going to happen with her, it’ll happen without you lusting after her fun bags.

Another way to keep your head clear is to remember my Golden Rule of hot women: All Hot Women Poop!

Yeah, you read that right…

Every hot girl you’ve ever met has done the most disgusting things in the bathroom. She’s probably even picked her nose – and even sniffed her own farts.

Did that disgust you?

Well, that’s the kind of REALITY you need to keep in mind when you’re in that giggly, nervous-as-hell state of mind. For a lot of guys, this kicks in when they’re near an attractive woman and it simply overwhelms them.

So, my little Golden Rule will bring you back down to earth and make it easier to keep things in perspective.

After all, she’s just another human being.

If you act like a teenager with a boner every time you talk to a hot girl, she’ll immediately tell herself:

“This guy’s a total loser with girls. It’s highly unlikely he EVER gets laid, and probably won’t have the sexual experience to get me off the way I want. FAIL.”

If you think that sounds harsh, well my friend – that’s just what goes through her mind in the split second it takes to reject you.

And most women do this within the first second of meeting you. She knows that quickly if she’s going to bang you or not.

Don’t believe me? Ask any girl you know that has no problem being raw and real with you.

She’ll nod her head and say, “Hell yeah, buddy.”

Secret Strategy 2: Use the power of Response Potential

This is a fancy psychological term for building up tension in a person so that they are more likely to respond to you. Hence, the response potential.

It’s possible to create a state in a girl where she’s hanging on to your every word. She’ll be pulling on you, and begging you to give her the validation she wants.

Most of time, it’s the other way around. When you’re the one seeking her approval, it automatically destroys your leverage.

Think about it. If someone else wanted something desperately from you, would you consider that person as your EQUAL?

In the same way, you’re not going to earn a woman’s respect if you act NEEDY around her. It just upsets the “power balance” between you two.

You might be thinking, “Hold on a minute, Carlos…it’s not like I’m going beg her to sleep with me. Only an idiot would do that.”

Sure, but what most men don’t realize is that they’re transmitting this “message” to women without knowing it. Here’s what usually happens to a guy:

• During the conversation, his mind is somewhere else thinking about the what-ifs (e.g. “What if she doesn’t like me?”, “What if she thinks I’m a dork?”, “What if she says NO?”)
• Worse, he’s acting like she’s the last woman he’ll ever speak to. So obviously, he has to make it work.
• At this point, he’s so wound up with anxiety that he’s practically transformed into a ball of tension. This is very OBVIOUS to a woman, especially with his off-putting gestures and high-pitched voice.
• When she starts showing signs of disapproval, he’ll close the feedback loop with desperate thoughts like, “She’s going to turn me down just like the others”, “Looks like I’m gonna crash and burn *again*” or “Why do I even bother with these women? They’re all the SAME!”

Sounds familiar? Every guy I know has gone through this – including Yours Truly.

But that’s not an excuse NOT to do anything about it. Here are three basic ways to break this destructive cycle:

• On some level, you need to emotionally detach yourself from the end result. Otherwise, you’ll be too distracted and inevitably turn the conversation into a painful, boring exercise.
• Instead, approach the situation with a healthier mindset that says: “I don’t know what’s gonna happen, but I’ll just learn whatever I can from the experience.” This simple shift in thinking will help you have some actual FUN with a girl (instead of dreading the outcome).
• Manage your breathing. Like it or not, your physical self is also a part of the equation, so you need to get that under control, too. YouTube is a good place to start – type in “breathing exercises” (or a similar search term) to find videos that will help you reduce the tension in your body.

Make this a part of your approach routine, and you’ll loosen up around women. Remember, a happy and relaxed attitude tells them that you’re not intimidated by their beauty.

That means you’re in control and don’t need their approval. And when a girl picks up on this message, she’ll be the one chasing after you.

Secret Strategy 3: Use the superpower of FRACTIONATION

Fractionation is a very hush-hush technique in most circles.

What is “fractionation”?

It gets its name from the scientific definition of breaking something down into smaller parts.

When it comes to girls and dealing with how they think, fractionation is a combination of psychology, hypnosis, and persuasion.

In other words, it’s a powerful concoction that spells success for you if you know what to do.

Here are the 3 steps:

1: Build an emotional bond

Using the techniques I’ve taught you so far – and the ones you’ll get from me in my programs – you should have a pretty good understanding of how to do this.

Good conversation skills and an understanding of body language (both reading and “writing” your own) is a foundation for this. She has to open up to you, or else you’re just scratching the surface.

Get her to talk about herself if you want to make her feel comfortable. And this has the added benefit of creating an emotional connection since she will be fully engaged if she’s talking about herself.

Let’s face it – doesn’t matter if you’re a girl or a guy – your favorite topic is always yourself.

2: Build an emotional wave

The best movies and stories all have what I call a dramatic rollercoaster to them.

One of the best examples of this is – believe it or not – Toy Story 2.

It’s a great movie that demonstrates how you can not only make a sequel that is better than the original, but you’ll also understand the power of RISING TENSION.

At every turn, the main characters are being tossed and turned into increasing jeopardy. That creates an emotional wave for us as the viewer.

You want to create the same kind of ups and downs in your conversation – so that the girl you’re with feels an emotional conversation that will engage her and excite her.

3: Use sexual sparks to create attraction

When it comes time to ask her out, there’s no magic words here. Your success will be guaranteed – as long as you set things up right in advance by making her WANT to have a date with you.

I know, that sounds crazy right?

In fact, when a girl WANTS a date with you, you can almost walk away from her just to make her ask YOU out.

Remember: A woman is only in one of 2 modes with a man…

Mode 1: She rejected you in her mind in the first 2 minutes of talking to her. (Actually, it’s more like 20 seconds.) And you’re never getting out of the friend zone.

Mode 2: She wants you and she’s trying to figure out how to get you to want her back just as much.

So if you want to get her in Mode 2 – wanting you – you need to know how to flip her “slut switch” to ON.

Every girl has a nice side and a slightly dirty side.

For the first time, science has isolated the brain-body connection for how women become sexually aroused. And this discovery finally exposes the real reason behind what women SAY they want and who they really pursue and sleep with.

AND why women take risks with some guys, and play it safe with others…

This is the scientific reason why a girl sleeps with some guys on the first date, and with some men she makes them wait through weeks of courtship.

It’s why a woman keeps going back to a bad boy instead of dating the nice guy who treats her right.

And it’s why married women cheat on their husbands…!

There’s a mask that women wear – a mask that portrays them as pure, virtuous angels.

I’m going to tear that mask off today and expose a woman’s dark and primal sexual nature for you.

I’m going to show you how to bring out her inner slut. This is something that most men never get to see – let alone know that it exists.

Some have called this the Good-girl/Naughty girl Complex: either women are sluts, or virgins at their core.

All women have this inner “bad girl” that she can’t admit to (for fear of being shamed and shunned by society)…

…until the right dominant man comes along to awaken it.

CLICK HERE to discover how to awaken the Slut within her….

Oh, and if you haven’t seen my good buddy Chris’ blog, he’s got some great stuff here: https://www.waytoosocial.com/starting-conversations-with-women/

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Rejection is everywhere waiting to sneak up and ruin your plans.

But it doesn’t have to be so hard – or so brutal on you. You can avoid all the pain and suffering of dating rejection if you know how to get a girl to like you.

And most men don’t understand the value in knowing how to use physical touch to get a girl feeling that gut-level physical attraction.

In fact, most guys think that you need to get her interested and attracted to you BEFORE you touch her – which is a HUGE mistake.

It’s the other way around…

Because there are different ways to touch a girl, and each communicates something different…

But one thing is for certain:

In order for her to start thinking about you sexually, she needs you to initiate touch – in the right way.

Yeah, you gotta be smooth and natural with it. Because there’s actually nothing that will kill the attraction vibe faster than getting too touchy with a girl too fast.

But if you wait too long, you’ll risk her putting you into the Friends zone.

So right away, you need to make sure she’s in what I call the “touch zone.” This is the place where she feels she knows you enough and trusts you enough to let her touch you at all.

In the first few minutes, it’s probably not a good idea to get too “handsy” with her. But after a few minutes of conversation – high energy, interesting conversation – she’ll be ready.

One way you can touch her right away is simply to clasp her hand with yours when you meet her. Don’t shake her hand like a dude – just hold it gently in yours.

Almost like you’re going to do the old fashioned “kiss the hand” – but you’re not. (No, really, don’t. This is enough.)

You simply don’t want to wait TOO long to touch her, and this gets it out of the way quickly.

And the really cool part of using touch effectively with girls is that it has the side-effect of making her more compliant to your requests. She’ll be more in agreement with your suggestions, and you can lead her exactly where you want her to go.

This is because men who touch women are seen as dominant – the Alpha Men of the dating world. And girls are genetically programmed to desire the dominant man.

So when you touch a woman, part of it is meant to communicate that you’re the Alpha of the pack – and she needs understand this message early on with you.

So let’s go over how to touch a girl to create an unstoppable level of desire in her… and get her to like you within minutes.

Get her interested: Touching tip #1 – Be cool, and be casual

The first contact with her should be very laid back and non-sexual in nature.

The beauty of this is that it doesn’t matter what kind of touch it is – it still has the same effect: Her body will release the hormone Oxytocin – which creates a bond between her and you.

This happens below her conscious level of awareness.

You also want to keep the touch short.

If you lay a hand on her, or brush up on her for too long it will feel a bit creepy. And you always want your touch to end BEFORE she wants it to. That way she will feel attraction instead of a burst of “eww…”

Keep it short and sweet and it will keep her interested.

How to touch a girl tip #2: Mind your targets…

Knowing when to touch a girl is important. But just as important is knowing WHERE to touch her.

There are some hot zones on a girl’s body that you should know about:

– Her back:

The small of a woman’s back – just above her butt – is a perfect place to touch her. There seems to be an immediate erotic charge that erupts from her spine when a girl feels your hand there.

The perfect way to initiate touch there is to simply apply a little pressure with the palm of your hand as you’re passing by her.

It’s most convenient if you’re in a bar or club where the crowd already puts you close together with her. You can use the hustle and bustle as an excuse to move her with your hand.

– Her upper and lower arms:

You can start out by delicately touching her hand.

Later you can work up to her forearm. And then eventually to her upper arms.

Her arms are a fairly inoffensive area that doesn’t feel TOO sexual, but still gives her a sexual charge when touched effectively there.

A word of caution when you do touch her:

For some silly reason, guys tend to want to look as they touch a girl. They watch their hand when they touch a girl – as if they’re saying, “Holy crap! I’m touching a girl… This is A-MAZING!”

Don’t look at your hand as you touch her. It draws way too much unnecessary attention to your moves. It’s creepy, and it makes everything feel unnatural.

And you also want to be in close proximity when you do touch her. Nothing looks – or feels – weirder than a guy reaching all the way across a table just to touch a girl.

Eww…

Ready to touch – tip #3: Emphasize the high points

One of the best strategies for touching a girl is to touch her right when the conversation is at an emotional high point.

If she’s laughing at something you said, then you laugh along with her and put your hand on hers. Or touch her on the arm.

What you’re doing is anchoring the emotional peaks to … YOU.

When she experiences something positive, you make sure you’re a part of it. Then she’s going to associate you with it and think of you.

You can also cup her elbow gently for a nice emphasis point.

In the same way, you DON’T want to touch her if she’s upset or experiencing anything negative.

Remember what you’re trying to do with touch:

– Build sexual tension
– Anchor positive emotions
– Drive up sexual anticipation

Remember that you’re trying to touch her just a little LESS than what she wants. This creates the level of sexual anticipation and desire that you need.

Explosive Touch Tip #4: Connect with her when things get serious

Over the course of the conversation, you’ll want to take note when she starts opening up about the personal stuff in her life. This is ALSO a good time to connect with her physically because it will validate her feelings.

It’s a subtle way to acknowledge her deeper thoughts which will make her feel that you “get” her.

Like with the last tip, a well-timed touch in this situation will strengthen your emotional bond with her. That way, her mind will establish a connection between those key emotions and your presence.

Here are some examples of how to pull this off:

– When she talks about a recent accomplishment (like getting a promotion at work or passing a test), offer some words of praise (e.g. “You badass!”, “Hey, watch out, we’ve a got a badass over here!”) followed by a high-five or playful punch to the arm/shoulder.

– Give her a quick, sympathetic “there here” tap on the arm or hand if she tells about a difficult time she had to get through. Say something like, “Wow…that sucks, but hey, at least you got through it.” Giving her a brief, friendly rub with your hand to underscore the moment is another variation that works too.

Remember, this is just meant to punctuate those key moments, so don’t linger too much when touching her. It’s supposed to work as an afterthought, so it registers in the back of her mind without raising any “creep alarms.”

Touching Her the Right Way 5#: Find the right balance

As far as the big picture goes, you’ll have to walk the fine between overstepping her boundaries and being afraid to make physical contact.

One on hand, NEVER be sorry for doing it. If you act like there’s something wrong with touching a girl, she’ll pick up on that nervous energy and AGREE with it.

Don’t give her a reason to feel any shred of doubt when you make physical contact with her. The less you make a big deal out of it, the more confident you’ll seem.

This is single most important attitude to have when touching a girl. The best way to put her at ease is having confidence in the fact that there’s nothing wrong with breaking the touch barrier.

However, you’ll also want to avoid going to the other end of the spectrum. Leaning in too hard into her without a valid reason is going to ruin your chances with her.

The rule of thumb when touching a girl is always having some context BEFORE doing it. Otherwise, it’ll seem out of place and stand out too much in her mind.

Pay attention to her body language cues. If she flinches or doesn’t look at ease when you touch her, you need to work on raising her comfort level during the conversation before trying again.

Joking around and giving her a “hard time” are good ways to do this.

Don’t feel bad or let her see that you’re bummed out about it when she retreats – it just means she still needs a little more time to warm up to you.

However, there is a little known shortcut that will help you bypass ALL of her defenses. Once you figure out how to flip the hidden switch in her head that triggers her Lust Response (every woman has this!), you’ll find it WAY EASIER to touch her.

In fact, she’ll be the one who won’t be able to keep her hands to herself.

But not a lot of men know how to do this. If you’re interested to learn the dead simple way to unleash a woman’s wild side, click here to find out more.

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Texting has become one of the most important ways to communicate – probably as much as sending an email or posting on Facebook. It’s fast, easy, and immediate.

And it’s also one of the most common questions I get from guys:

“Carlos, how can I text a girl and flirt with her? I want to get her interested and out on a date with me…”

Fair enough. I’ll do my best to give you some high quality examples of texts that I use to spike a woman’s interest in me.

But first…

We have to clear something up right away: Your goal for texting girls is not to get her on a date with you.

Well, not directly anyway.

Your only goal for texting her is to keep you in her mind, and give her a little jellybean of “feel good” each time you do.

The biggest mistake guys make is to text a woman thinking that he’s going to be able to start a whole relationship using nothing but texts.

It just doesn’t work that way. And women get impatient with guys who over-use messages this way.

If the girl likes you already, then you can text her almost anything. But if she’s wondering why the hell she gave you her number, then almost nothing will work.

Good texting is simply a continuation of a good conversation between two people who like each other.

It’s not a means to make a girl like you in the first place.

So with that in mind, let’s dive into 10 text messages you can send to a woman to get her thinking about you…

Flirt Text 1: Her: The Deliberate Misunderstanding

This is one of my favorites, because it’s a great tool for getting her to scramble for a recovery – when she really hasn’t even done anything wrong.

You just playfully misinterpret something she said in a way that makes her look silly, or even like the aggressor.

EXAMPLE:

HER: Are you free to meet up on Wednesday?
YOU: Let’s do it… get together, I mean… not sex

You see what I did there? I playfully misinterpreted her proposal in a way that made her look like she’s being forward with me.

AND I also get to turn her down in a way – being the one to say “no” to sex.

Even though she never proposed it!

Man, I love this stuff…

Moving on to:

Next Flirtatious message #2: The Dirty Dream

Women live to be desired. If there’s anything you learn from me, let it be that one vital fact.

And let it steer all your decisions with girls. If you focus on making her feel that, you’ll be surprised at how responsive she can be.

So the dirty dream is a way to get her curious.

YOU: BTW I had the dirtiest dream about you last night… crazy

She will ask you about it of course, and you can just leave her hanging on it. When she presses you for an answer – and she will – you can just make up something about you two sitting on the beach in the rain, getting covered in wet sand and seaweed.

(Dirty, get it?)

Or that you had to stop her from cursing someone out in a parking lot. “What a filthy dream mouth you have!”

You’re breaking the barrier of sex in your conversation, which is an important step to take as early as you can.

And another good text message #3: Brighten her day

Here’s another goal for you: Be the first thought on her mind for the day.

The best way to do that is to send her a little ray of sunshine – in the form of a text, of course.

Here are a few you can steal from me:

YOU: Do you have a to-do list? If so, put me on it…

YOU: Hey, hot stuff… wear a smile for me today…

YOU: You looked great today
HER: When did you see me?
YOU: I didn’t. but I bet you look great every day.

And if you were wincing on that last one because you believe that advice that says you shouldn’t compliment a woman, you’re in for a rude awakening.

If you don’t send her something to at least flatter her a little, she’s going to lose interest. Playful teases only get you so far, man.

Use this one, and you will score major points:

YOU: Hey, I just realized who you look like…
HER: Who?
YOU: Not sure I should tell you this…
HER: C’mon! Tell me!
YOU: You look like Emma Stone… only cuter

Or just pick any actress that’s popular with women.

Yeah, it really does work.

The next text you should send #4: The Good Night Kiss

Yes, on the other end of the day, you should send her a text that finishes her day with a smile. If you’re the first AND last thing she thinks about, you’re well ahead of all the other guys in her life.

Here’s one you can use:

YOU: Sweet dreams… Maybe I’ll be in them.

Close it right – Message #5: Use the conversation ender

A big problem when texting is knowing when to stop. Most guys go way too far and too long.

You want your texts to be short, each of them, of course. But you also don’t want to keep a long conversation going without a lot of emotional back and forth.

So when in doubt, cut if off early. And do it in a way that says, “I’m getting the last word in here.”

You want that so that you control the conversation. If you let her do it, you’re losing a huge amount of dominance in the conversation, which makes you look weak.

Here’s what I will usually send her:

“Going to bed… be thinking about you…”

Or try this one, if you’ve got the balls: “Going to bed… Think about me later…”

The key here is that even if she texts you back, and even if she asks a question, you don’t respond to her. Let it go until the next day.

The longer you can leave her hanging, the better – because it will crystallize you in her thoughts. She’ll have a background program in her brain that wants the answer.

And that keeps her thinking about you.

Great way to text her #6: The Inside Joke

Some people call this “callback humor.” Meaning that you’re recalling a moment you two shared that she will remember.

When you do this enough, she’ll constantly find herself thinking about you.

Here’s an example:

YOU: Had a great time last night. Can’t get the image of you doing that funky dance move out of my mind…

Mention some detail about the date that she can remember easily. Things she was wearing are good, or just some joke you two shared that you can make your private catch phrase.

And finally – the best kind of text to send a girl – #7: The Setup

You want to give a girl an excuse to think dirty, and to misinterpret YOU as dirty. This is like a variation of the Dirty Dream technique – except it puts it completely in her court.

Here’s an example:

YOU: I just got done with an intense workout, it was so long and hard. How’s your day going?

Now you see what I did there, right? I basically left myself wide open to being misinterpreted.

You’re trying to create a fun and playful vibe.

Here’s another one:

YOU: Can’t wait to get off work and go to the beach. What time do you get off?

A woman wants the opportunity to break her image of being the “innocent angel.” Let her take your words out of context and flirt with you back.

Then you get to accuse her of being a “naughty girl.” Give her the license to misbehave that she wants so badly.

BONUS TEXT: Award her points

One of my most copied tactics is the point system. This is where you award a woman points based on her performing to your satisfaction.

It’s like a fish you throw a seal when they do the trick right.

YOU: “So what’s your favorite kind of movie?”
HER: “I used to like comedies, but lately it’s been superhero movies…”
YOU: “Whoah… nice! I like that… you scored 10 points.”

If she feeds you grief:

HER: “UH, points? Who said I was playing…”

You say:

YOU: “Whoops, you lost 5 for getting all serious…”

The idea here is that YOU are the one with the points to give out, and SHE has to earn them. You let her know when she does, playfully.

Not too serious or she can get offended.

The idea is to communicate that you’re the one who holds the power. Not directly, and not being a dick about it.

But in your world, you hand out the approval. Not run around looking for it.

And if you’d like to discover my stealth text messages that make a woman respond to you – even if she’s ignoring you right now – go check out my new program on texting her the RIGHT way.

This is a guaranteed, fool-proof, all-in-one strategy guide to get past her defenses and excuses – click HERE to start applying it TODAY.

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Uh, no. That’s not what it takes.

But what you have to understand up front is why girls DON’T like you.

And it’s not even really YOU they don’t like. It’s what you’re communicating to her.

The signals you’re giving off are giving you up.

So let’s jump into the 5 reasons why she doesn’t like you, so you can avoid letting her see these mistakes in the first place.

When you avoid these little mistakes, you’re going to immediately jump into the next level with your dating game.

Why doesn’t she like you? Reason 1: Your image sucks.

And I don’t mean that you’re a bad looking guy. The honest-to-gosh truth is that 95% of guys fall into the “oh, he’s cute” range for girls.

Really. They don’t care as much about looks as men do.

In fact, the only guys that care about their looks that much are typically the guys who are looking for an excuse for why they can just give up on dating.

“Oh, poor me… I don’t look like Adam Levine or whoever chicks say is ‘sexy’ this week.”

It’s lame and you just need to drop it.

I always remind guys that looks are NOT as important to her as they are to you.

BUT image is important.

Image is how you’re put together in the big picture.

– Are your clothes reasonably fashionable and fit well?

No t-shirts with dumb sayings. No cheapo running shoes with cuffed jeans.

I’m saying you might need to review your wardrobe a bit, and maybe upgrade a few items.

At least those shoes. Seriously.

– How’s the hygiene going?

Reality check… How often do you trim your nails, your wild crotch afro? What about that dry skin on your elbow or that halitosis?

Get yourself on a daily regimen of one shower, one shave, one trim, and one brush-floss minimum per day, and you’ll jump to the head of the line from most guys.

I feel like a broken record on this topic – but it’s worth chanting.

Really, you’d be amazed how much of an impact this stuff makes on a girl.

– Are you groomed well?

I have a friend who gets his hair cut every 2 weeks.

Why? So he doesn’t look like he just got his hair cut all the time.

He always looks well-groomed.

Sorry, but the Man-Bun was already out before it was in, and you gotta keep the hair under control. I still have my ridiculous 1990s soul patch that I have to trim, and some wild ear hairs.

But dude – I’m rocking that soul patch.

Just keep your personal hygiene on the top of your attention, and she’ll pick up on it.

Reason 2: No connection with her

If there’s one thing that will make a girl like you, it’s creating a connection with her that’s unique.

That’s a hard thing to put into words, though. I mean, what is a “connection” anyway?

Here’s the simple definition: A special understanding that you two share with each other.

It’s the thing that you create with each one of your friends and family…

It’s pretty obvious when you really think about it.

So take a look at the really grounded and meaningful connections you’ve made in the past, and you need to apply that to the conversations you have with girls.

Here are the critical parts of a real connection:

– She feels heard

This might seem like a “duh” – but you only have to be able to listen to her effectively to make her feel a special connection. Show her that you’re there, you’re present, and you’re understanding her situation.

Her girlfriends will do this, but I know for a fact most of them are doing it wrong. When a GUY can do it, she will lock onto you like a tractor beam in Star Trek.

– She feels you GET her

When you’re able to simply repeat back what a girl is thinking and saying – in slightly different words – she will become immediately infatuated. This is one of those things that I show guys how to do in my programs.

Let her know that you can see the “special little girl” inside her act. Every woman is secretly afraid that she’s not good enough, and you can reassure her like no one else can.

– She feels this is special

This comes automatically when you do the other things I’ve told you. She needs to simply feel that your connection is something she can’t get with the next guy that comes along with a cheap pickup line.

It’s priceless to her.

Now let’s move on to:

Why this chick doesn’t like you – #3: You don’t have any confidence

This one’s been said so much it’s a cliche. And I don’t blame you if you just rolled your eyes.

But hear me out…

A woman wants to see confidence in you – because that makes her feel safe with you – and herself.

Confidence isn’t arrogance or bravado, either.

It’s that feeling that you’re a guy who’s comfortably on your own path, and you’re not reacting to every little change in your environment like a twitchy squirrel.

Keep cool, and be non-reactive to women – or the things that threaten to knock you off center. That’s the essence of cool confidence.

Reason 4: You’re boring her.

Seriously, you have to understand that most guys talk about the most boring crap imaginable. And it’s not that she couldn’t be interested in these topics.

It’s just that she doesn’t have a reason to WANT to be interested if she doesn’t already like you and feel attracted to you.

Really, talking about your obscure guy hobbies, or geek interests will not really get her fully engaged in your conversation. Nor will it get her feeling sexy.

You should talk about things with EMOTIONAL content.

Talk about the things that SHE will find interesting.

It’s not hard.

Just talk about… HER.

Ask her questions that make her dig into who she is. The more vulnerable you get her, the more she will be emotionally open to your connection.

Remember that guys are guilty of talking too much about things and facts and numbers and data…

That’s boring to a girl.

Talk about the world of feelings and experience and you’ve just found her secret frequency of desire.

And finally…

The secret reason she doesn’t like you – #5: You don’t know the roadmap

What’s The Roadmap?

It’s the path to the goal that every guy has to know to get a girl from not knowing you, to liking you, to falling for you.

Most girls can tell when a guy knows this map. It’s obvious right from the first few minutes of talking to him.

She can feel if he’s got this path figured out – or if he’s just winging it.

In a way, this is related to confidence. Only this is more like SEXUAL confidence.

Remember what I said about confidence earlier: It’s that feeling that you’re on your own path, and you’re not reacting to every change or challenge that comes along.

The same is true of your ability to lead a woman to the goal of your relationship: physical intimacy.

Sex.

And that’s her goal, too. She just won’t talk about it because she’s too afraid of being seen as promiscuous or “slutty.”

All my teachings – are about helping men meet, attract, and date the girl you want.

I am NOT about:

– Misogynist attitudes towards women

– Using manipulation or deception to have sex

– Anything that demeans or mistreats women

– Coercing women into unwanted sex

IF that’s your goal, leave right now…

Carlos LOVES and RESPECTS women. And my material is ONLY for guys who feel the same way.

Ultimately this is all for your self-improvement and betterment as a MAN, not as a womanizer or jerk.

Enjoy the material I teach, and understand any focus on sex and sexuality is to help achieve the goal that BOTH men and women have in a relationship. Sex is what ultimately completes a relationship for both of you.

So when you know the roadmap to sexual success, you’re serving both of you. It’s a win-win.

If you’d like to discover how to trigger a girl’s “Lust Response“, you need to check out this killer program I put together for you.

I’ll show you the stealth secrets for turning on the “Lust Switch” in a girl’s mind. You can get started TODAY by clicking HERE.

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You can’t expect to lure a woman into your bed with your Magic: The Gathering card collection, or your life size Bruce Lee figure.

Too weird, dude.

(Though, I did hook up with a long term girlfriend by showing off my $150 Lamborghini Countach model… that’s a story for another time.)

The big problem is that most guys don’t know what REALLY gets women hot for a guy. If you ask a man, you’ll get either a man’s programmed response: “Money! Big wanker! Nice Car!”

Or you’ll get a woman’s programmed response: “Be funny! Be Confident! Be sensitive!”

Now, some of those are right. but not as much as you might think. In fact, the real answer is much more frustrating for a guy to hear…

But let’s clear out the “elephant” in the room right now… do you need to be rich to attract women?

Being wealthy indicates power, security, comfort and even a certain amount of exciting energy. This is very attractive to women who crave all these feelings.

After all, there are PLENTY of women dating poor guys.

And that’s really what women want. It’s not the money itself.

It’s the FEELINGS the man makes her experience when she’s around him.

Everything you do, everything you say, everything you communicate with your lifestyle will create a feeling in a women.

So the fastest way to get her attracted to you is to give her the FEELINGS she desires.

Let’s jump right in, and I’ll give you 5 qualities that makes women attracted to men.

(And I’m promising you right now that it’s not about the shampoo or shower gel you’re using…)

Here we go with:

#5 quality to attract a girl is: Speaking to her true self.

If you can get past her defenses and the walls she puts up around herself, you can truly speak to the real person inside of her.

You’ll be one of the few men in her world that understands her. This makes you very significant to her, and will make you attractive like no other.

You see, most women talk about almost anything and everything.

The part that most men don’t know about is that women don’t have a very strong sense of self. They’re more fluid with their self-perception than man are.

Chances are, SHE doesn’t even know who she is in her heart of hearts.

So when you’re able to talk to her and perceptively tell her what you see in her, she will listen to you as if you’re speaking the gospel.

Tell her what you see in her personality. If you spot something worth noting (and hopefully you do, otherwise – why are you talking to her?) point it out.

95% of guys have no idea this works, much less how to do it, so make sure you put that bullet in the chamber.

#4 trait that attracts women to men is: Conviction.

No, I’m not talking about doing 10-to-15 years for bank robbery…

I’m talking about how much conviction you have in yourself.

Your life. Your beliefs.

What this one boils down to is how unshakeable are you? How content and happy are you in your own skin?

The easiest way to do this is to simply start forming opinions about stuff. Not pig-headed and dumb, but just have an opinion worth talking about.

Things like politics are good, but also more philosophical ones as well.

This is the essence of the “Power Question” technique I teach in my programs. You can ask questions that will not only make her think, but also tell her that you’ve got your own beliefs and stand on things.

A woman instinctively knows that a man who doesn’t take a stand is not of strong enough character to protect her.

Another way a man has conviction is that he knows what he wants in life. He’s decisive.

This is the real essence of “confidence” that you hear everyone talking about. You can’t just “get confident” – but you can easily start being more convinced of things in your life, can’t you?

Anything is fair game to have an opinion on.

– Best pizza

– Worst time to surf Facebook

– Favorite TV show

– Best place for late evening dessert

Start stocking up on your opinions and convictions. What’s important to you?

What do you believe in?

If you’re not sure, now’s the time to find out.

#3 trait that women dig: Skill.

What kind of skill?

Any kind of skill is attractive to a girl. For example:

– Playing a musical instrument

– Racing cars or motorcycles

– Being a good cook or chef

– Being extremely good with computers

And especially if that skill demonstrates the following things:

– It took you some time to acquire it. This says that you have the self-discipline to work for something.

– It challenged you. This says that you have the belief in yourself to keep going after the goal.

– It was voluntary. Meaning that you had to make the choice to acquire this skill. Which shows that you are not a quitter.

These are all examples of masculine qualities that girls find attractive.

When a woman looks to a man to protect her and keep her safe, the same qualities that you used to acquire that skill are the same ones she knows will serve her in the relationship.

Yeah, it’s a little bit selfish, but women survive by being cautious with their safety.

Related to this quality is the next one on our list…

#2 characteristic that makes a man attractive is: Dominance and strength.

This doesn’t mean that you’re a bully or a brute, nor does it mean that you have to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger (in his prime.)

Dominance simply means that you DOMINATE. As in, you have achieved authority, mastery, or command over something.

Hell, it could be dominating in checkers, as long as you do it well.

Girls are – by nature – submissive. Men are naturally more dominant and authoritative.

Not to be sexist in any way, but it makes the world work better. This is the natural order of things.

There are a ton of ways to demonstrate your dominance:

– Physical fitness – which is not to say incredibly ripped abs, or 48″ biceps. Just be FIT – which means trading in an hour of television regularly to get some exercise. Just being trim and in shape will instantly communicate dominance to her.

– Leadership ability – Aspiring to manage people is a great way to cultivate the attraction quality that women can’t resist. Fact is, girls sleep with their bosses not because they were pressured to; she did it because she gets hot for men in authority positions. Pretty much every woman does.

– Being good with kids and animals – Yeah, you read that right, being good with kids (even if you two never have any) and fuzzy little critters is something that almost NO GIRL can resist.

– Be DRIVEN and ambitious – This shows that you’ve got the aggressive motivation that she can count on – especially if it came down to survival. Are you a survivor? You should know that before you walk out the door every day.

And finally, the top of the qualities…

#1 Quality that attracts girls to guys is: Social value

This one is a catch-all that encompasses many others. You don’t have to have them all, and that’s the beauty of it.

You can pick and choose like it’s a buffet. She only needs to see some of them from time to time to know that you have social value.

What is Social Value?

It’s how much you’re valued by your friends, family, and people you work with. If you command respect from them, you have social value.

Here are just a few of the ways that social value is demonstrated:

– Fun: Are you a fun person to hang out with? Do you have a positive attitude and aura about you? Being a “Donnie Darko” isn’t going to be attractive, no matter how much you try to justify that mindset.

– Generosity: Are you a giver or a taker? Do you have the spiritual openness to be un-selfish when you can?

If you’re a giver, this tells a girl that you’ve got the relaxed attitude of a man with resources. With abundance, instead of scarcity.

If you’re a taker, you’re not going to be generous to her with what she needs, which is emotional support, love, and a certain amount of adoration.

– RELAXED: This shows that you’ve got a light approach to life. You’re not uptight. Guys who are structured and tense are typically this way because they don’t feel secure about their ability to handle life. Which also tells a woman that she’s with a guy who might not be a good pick when it comes to betting her genetic legacy.

Guys who have an angry, defensive air about them are NOT socially valued. In fact, they’re avoided.

Social value may sound pretty serious when I put it into these terms, but it’s important for you to understand how powerful it is when it comes to your life.

Guys with the ability to communicate social value are the most successful, the happiest, the wealthiest, and the most secure.

In study after study, these guys also live the longest, and typically get laid WAY more than other men. It comes down to your level of SEXUAL POWER as a man.

And that alone should motivate you to focusing on these qualities that make you more attractive to girls.

It’s that solid foundation of rock solid masculinity that women CRAVE, and I’ve put together a program to help you with that. It’s called Alpha Sexual Power – this course teaches you how to harness your inner qualities as a man and AMPLIFY them tenfold.

Click HERE to get started with this TODAY.

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It’s hard to compete.

So I say DON’T even try… Instead, you only need to know how to navigate and negotiate with her Digital Bouncer.

It’s true – her little smartphone is now her personal electronic bodyguard. And unless you know how to get past her gatekeeper, you could find yourself struggling to connect with every woman you meet.

So let’s dig into these 5 tricks you can use to get past her Bouncer and into her life. (And maybe – shhh…. into her bed.)

First – Do you call her right away?

TRICK 1: Use the “reconnection text”

Let’s say you got her number using my tips and tricks. You used my sure-fire number closer and now you’ve got the digits.

What now?

Well, the first thing you should do is to text her a quick message, preferably near the end of the evening. If you met her in a social situation of some kind, you want to make sure you’re on the top of her mind.

Who knows how many goobers and goons have tried to hook up with her…?

Well, pretty much all of them.

Which is why you need to refresh her memory with a quick text:

“Hey, Tina – it’s Carlos – making sure you remember who made you laugh your drink out your nose… TTYL”

It helps here to use some callback to your previous conversation – meaning you bring up something from your conversation that will make her instantly remember you.

Did you come up with a cool nickname for her? Use it in your text.

If you two talked about her working as a 24 Hour Fitness coach, you could joke about how she should make sure you have a towel waiting for you when you work out the next day.

The point of the text is to do 3 things:

– Remind her who you are – because a girl’s memory is short. And you want her knowing which number you’ll be contacting her from.

– Remind her of the fun she had with you

– Set her up for a future conversation with you.

Boom.

If you can do that, you’re out-performing 95% of the other men out there.

NEXT: After you text her, when do you call her?

TRICK #2: Know how to time the call.

My advice is that if you’ve sent the reminder text, and you had at least a 15 minute conversation – you can wait until the END of the following day to call her.

Calling her that day is too soon, and calling her the next day will let the other goobers and dorks get a foot in the door.

If you met her on Friday, wait until Sunday afternoon. You don’t have any business being available on a Saturday night, after all.

But if you met her on Saturday, wait until Sunday night. And the same for the rest of the week.

But now your question is… HOW do you call a girl?

TRICK #3: Make sure you don’t scare her off on the first call

You don’t want to be calling her up, getting her voicemail, losing your nerve, calling her back again… only to leave an awkward message that sounds like you just woke up.

Yeah, I know you might read that and think: “Hell, I’d never do that…” but most guys do. They screw it up royally on the first phone call, leaving her with a completely justified opinion that he’s a complete loser.

So first of all, don’t leave her a message on your first call. Just let it ring through to voicemail and then hang up.

If you did your pre-work, she has your phone number, and can also look up any texts she’s had from your number. She doesn’t have to be Sherlock Holmes to get that.

The next time you call, if she still doesn’t answer, you need to leave a short message busting her on her inability to answer calls.

A small tease right here will do the trick. Don’t be mean, just act as if she’s your annoying little sister.

“Hey, you… I guess you couldn’t find your phone at the bottom of your purse… again. Anyway, ring me back.”

Or just leave a curiosity comment that she will HAVE to call you back about:

“Hey, I was just out at the store, and there’s a girl here that is your double. Do you have a twin sister? Ring me back.”

Keep it short and sweet, because the more you keep talking, the more likely you are to say something stupid that ruins it.

I can hear your next question: “But, Carlos… what if she doesn’t call me back?”

That’s when you move on to my next bit of advice:

TRICK #4: Get Her To Call You Back With Disinterest

First of all, make sure you’re not calling her at dumb times, like dinner or when she’s probably at the gym.

This goes without saying.

When you leave that message, you have to have a certain level of disinterest in your blood.

Here’s why: If you’re too concerned about this one girl, it means that you probably don’t have a lot of other prospects. Which means you’re probably too focused on this one.

Which means eventually you’ll act a little too needy and scare her off.

Your calls and messages will scream one thing to her loud and clear: “I tolerate and even pursue women who ignore me and don’t call me back.”

If you were out talking to girls every day, and getting numbers frequently, would you care all that much if this girl calls you back?

Nope.

You’d have called her, told her to call you back, and then probably forgotten about her. Because you got busy seeing OTHER girls who were interested.

Ya feel me?

If she doesn’t call you back after a text and a phone call, just text her this:

“What? Playing hard to get already? Nice… call me.”

And when she finally picks up and says that she is busy, she’ll probably say something like “Oh hey, I’m busy, can I call you back?”

You need to show her that you’re not desperate to talk to her.

When she asks you if she can call back, just say “No, don’t worry about it – I’ll try to call you later… if I remember.” She’ll be surprised that you’re not going to make a big deal about talking to her.

NOTE: Losers and chumps make a big deal out of EVERY call they get with a woman, which is why you’re communicating the opposite. That she’s no big deal.

I’ll bet you she calls back before you can…

And when she does finally call you back, let it ring a few times. Don’t pounce on her call like you’ve been staring at your phone screen all day.

Let her experience the joy of uncertainty.

TRICK #5: Make sure you’ve got a full plan

Most guys are running around out there without any idea of how to handle women through their phone. Most don’t even know that you can use her phone as a “black ops” stealth tool – like a remote control for women.

If you wing it, if you just try any old thing that pops into your head…

Or even worse, if you listen to the advice of your friends who likely have almost no game with women – you’ll crash and burn almost every time.

You need a plan to call girls on the phone.

You see, most of the time, I get emails from guys that say: “Dude, it sounds like you’re telling me to act like a jerk to attract girls.”

Well, first of all, how good is the Nice Guy thing working for you?

Not so much, huh?

And the battle cry of the Nice Guy (AKA – dude who isn’t getting any), is that anything you do to challenge or not immediately kissing the ass of a beautiful woman is somehow abusing her.

Women are complimented, fawned over, and ogled all day long. They’re looking for the one man who shows them the secret signal of confidence: Indifference.

If you want to know the attitude of the guys that win with women – and how you can have it…

AND how to dominate the phone using a few simple texts that I’ll show you (for free) – then click here to get started TODAY.

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But eventually, we want to find that one special woman. That cool chick to hang out with – Netflix and chill on a Saturday night.

You don’t want to end up a sad dude who sits at home with a virtual reality headset and a plastic girlfriend, right?

You want to get a real girlfriend with real bumps and squishy parts.

So let’s talk about a few of the basic ways you can get a girlfriend without having to compromise.

And maybe even date a little out of your league…

1. Know what you’re looking for.

If you want to find a girlfriend that’s right for you, you have to know what you want right from the start.

I’m talking about the qualities that make you happy – that turn you on.

A lot of guys make the mistake of only thinking about the physical qualities, like a 38DD chest, or a booty that would make the Kardashians green with jealousy.

All things considered, you only need a girl that you’re sexually attracted to. It’s the other qualities that will eventually make or break the relationship.

So start out with a thorough list of the qualities you NEED for the long haul. Stuff like, common interests, life direction, and attitude towards life.

Write ’em all down, and really ask yourself which ones are must-haves, and which are nice-to-haves.

And yes, even (gasp) parenting style!

Face it, man. If this thing gets REALLY serious, she could be the mother to your kids.

The one thing that most guys don’t consider is how to CHOOSE a woman. In fact, it’s the one thing that will make your life a heaven on earth – or a living hell.

Ask any man who’s facing his divorce square in the eyes what he was thinking when he chose her, and you’ll get a double shot of reality.

Guys get pulled into some uncool situations in the pursuit of getting laid.

Know what YOU want – before you get sucked into something you don’t want.

2. Be cool…

Most guys give off waves of desperation the second they start talking to a girl. You have to relax and let her feel comfortable enough with you.

Most guys don’t realize that a woman is always on alert for her safety around men. So when she dares to go out and mix and mingle, she carries a little ambient anxiety.

It’s your job as a man, to help her feel safe around you first.

Yes, attraction is important, but a lot of guys are still trying too hard. And that doesn’t do much to help her feel relaxed.

So when I say be cool, I mean also not acting like this girl is the only chance you’ll have to mate this year.

Just breathe, be cool – and carry on.

3. Get your look together

Your “look” is comprised of 4 things:

– Hygiene

You gotta brush those teeth, scrape that tongue, and put on a little bit of deodorant to keep you smelling like a clean guy. Of course you should go further if you can with some hedge trimming (for you excessively hairy dudes), and don’t forget the nose, ears, and fingernails.

– Fashion/Style

A lot of guys think they have to be good looking to attract women, which is actually a complete lie. Just because you hear girls oohing and ahhhing over the latest Bieber Boy-Band look-alike doesn’t mean that’s who she would go after in a crowd.

In fact, there was a time when Patrick Stewart (yeah, bald Captain Picard on STTNG) was considered uber-sexy. And he’s an older guy, too.

It’s not looks – it’s how you carry yourself. How put-together you look.

So spend some time at the clothes store getting a good look put together. You don’t need to be a dorky fashion animal, just make sure it fits right, and it gets a female store clerk’s thumbs up approval.

– Grooming

This one goes hand-in-hand with hygiene.

Take care of your beard, your haircut, and even the things you might not think are getting in the way of your appearance. Guys tend to diminish the importance of their grooming, while women tend to OVER value it.

You just need to look like you’re taking care of yourself. That’s it.

Because women know that she can’t expect to be taken care of by you any better than that. It’s her signal of how well she’ll be looked after.

Simply make yourself look pleasing to the touch. You do want her to touch you, right?

So make it easy by looking like a guy that looks touchable.

Pay attention to your skin… a little lotion wouldn’t kill ya.

– Health

This one is easy.

Go to the gym. Get some exercise.

Somehow… just do it.

You see, most people think about exercise like it’s a chore and difficult, which is why they avoid it. The discomfort challenges their tiny bubble of happiness, and as a result they get used to losing.

Yes, as in “being a loser.”

Don’t let that loser-boy voice in your head take control of your life and drag you down.

I talk to guys every day who say, “Man, I really gotta get back in shape.” As if him saying that means that I can now excuse just how grossly overweight and sickly he looks.

Ignore the reluctance and resistance. Find something fun to do that gets you moving around.

And then do it!

Could be basketball, or going to a Zumba class, or even yoga. Just do *something*.

‘Nuff said…

4. Don’t be confident

WTF??

Did I just say that?

Yeah, I did. Because I’m tired of lame articles that tell you to “BE Confident,” or “Exude confidence…”

Seriously, if you could do that, you WOULD do that, am I right?

Yes, we know that women want you to be confident, and that confidence is attractive.

But thinking about or focusing on being confident will almost always make you less confident. You become all up-in-your head.

Don’t do that, brother.

Just relax and stop focusing on confidence.

Confidence is a myth. It’s just the illusion created when you know you can do something.

And fear is created when you focus on “what if I can’t…?”

Confidence is a slow, warm vibe of “Everything will be okay.” And any guy can adopt this attitude at will.

It doesn’t require a course in confidence, or a 30 day Tony Robbins bootcamp.

Remember that courage is not that you feel 100% confident and on top of the world. It simply means that you’re ignoring the voice of doubt.

You’ll find it easier to walk up to girls, and to keep the kind of “confident vibe” a possible girlfriend would want.

5. Spread the Love

Look, to get a girlfriend in this day and age, you gotta learn the fine art of flirting. No two ways about it.

So if you’re going to be a good flirt-technician – you gotta learn that the best way to look attractive to a possible girlfriend is to spread the love around a bit.

Good flirting comes down to just socializing a little.

Sometimes that can be stressful for introverts and guys who aren’t used to it, but it’s a lot easier when you don’t put pressure on yourself to be the “life of the party.”‘

I’ll give you a small hint: He’s not the guy that’s always getting laid.

Be the guy that has talked to and associated with a few people in a party or social situation, and you’re already ahead. People are more likely to open up and draw you in if you are connected to more people.

Plus, it feels great to “play host” and introduce people to other people.

6. Know how to play the Lego Game

The Lego Game of dating is knowing how to connect – and RE-connect with a woman.

This means being able to get her contact information in some way. Which is actually incredibly easy, if you don’t make it a big deal.

You see, women hand out their phone number like she’s passing out tic-tacs at a garlic festival.

She does this because 1) she knows she doesn’t have to answer it, and 2) a phone number these days is meaningless. It’s just a possibility.

So the real effort you need to put in is when you finally call her. Just take a second to remind her of the fun you had with her – whether you’re texting her or just leaving her a message.

Remind her of who you are, and the feelings she had when you were together.

Ultimately, that is what she will use to determine if she’s going to go out with you or not. Is it going to be worth her while?

7. Know the rules, baby

The fact is that if you want to get a girlfriend, you have to know how the game is played. I know a lot of people that hate it when dating is called a “game” – but it is.

What most guys feel like, though, is that they are always the victim of the game, not a player.

And when you feel like the rules are against you – or they’re getting changed every 5 minutes, you can feel pretty beat-up after a while.

Look, ultimately you have to remember that your girlfriend isn’t your life.

In fact, if you act like she is, you’ll probably lose her – and fast. Because once you get a girl in your life, you need to stay in touch with the other stuff that makes you a man.

Having a girl to bang doesn’t make you a man. Having the lifestyle of a man does, and the women will just follow.

If you want a look at the complete rulebook – the complete guide on how to get the girlfriend of your dreams into your life, then you need to check out my course “Get a Girlfriend Fast” and find out what the ONE thing women want in a man.

When you have the rules, you own the game – CLICK HERE to find out how.

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She’s smiling, laughing, plays with her hair, slaps you on the arm, yadda yadda.

Well here’s the deal..

It’s just as important – if not more – to know when she DOESN’T like you. You don’t want to stand there buying this girl drinks, making small talk, if she doesn’t want anything to do with you.

I’ve stood there hanging around a hot girl, hoping she was interested, only to find out she was eyeing my wingman. It was pretty humiliating.

I could have saved myself the time and money (and embarrassment) if I had only picked up on her signals.

So how do you know if a girl isn’t interested in you?

I’ll show you 5 easy clues so you know when a woman is leading you on or not.

The first signal she isn’t into you: She’s constantly checking her phone.

This one is a must – you have to get her to stop texting and checking the time on her mobile. If she’s paying attention to someone who ISN’T there, then you’re not doing too well, my friend.

YOU need to be her primary focus. You don’t have to be a singing, dancing monkey of course.

But you do have to keep her engaged enough that she puts her phone away.

If she even glances at her little blue screen, you have to call her on it, too.

Nicely, of course…

“Hey, is that the president calling again? I told him to stop monitoring my friends.”

“There’s no way that person is as fun as me. Tell them to stop ruining your chances with me.”

“Hey, can I text them a dirty limerick?”

You want to let her know that you notice her behavior and you’re willing to say something. Most guys just sit there and nervously smile, waiting for her.

You have to show her she needs to respect you from the very first minute you meet.

Don’t be a dick. Just be clear that you value your time, and so should she.

Signal she isn’t attracted to you #2: She keeps bringing up her boyfriend, or ex-boyfriend.

Look, I consider any woman that’s out in a singles bar or public event without her man to be fair game.

After all, if they were really close, he’d be there. But I’m also respectful if it’s obvious that she’s sincerely attached or married.

But if a girl keeps bringing up the subject of her boyfriend – whether he’s the current one or not, I have to question her motivations.

She’s not doing it to impress me or turn me on. And it’s not likely she’s trying to make me jealous to inspire some competition.

She probably just doesn’t dig me all that much. Which is fine.

It’s more pathetic to stand there and try to keep the conversation going when the writing is on the wall.

So I know when to let it go.

Women just don’t bring up the B word unless she’s really got one, or really doesn’t want me to bother.

Here’s the #3 clue that she doesn’t like you: She keeps going back to her conversation with her girlfriends.

This one is right up there with using her cell phone while she should be talking to me. If she’s giving TOO much attention to her friends, she’s not that into me.

In fact, if she’s not that into me, she will have probably have given her friends a signal with her eyes at some point. Girls have a signal they put out called the “help me” eyes.

It’s an intense eye contact that she gives to one of her friends that tells her to help her break free of the conversation.

So if one of her friends suddenly starts getting in the way, you can bet that the girl you’re talking to signaled her to do it.

It’s okay, just find another willing target to focus your attention on.

She isn’t attracted to you – signal #4: Her texts suck, and she never answers her phone.

Okay, so maybe you got her number last night, and now you’re trying to re-establish contact with her. So you send her a text like: “Hey, how are you today? The music was great last night”

You wait for a couple hours, and you get this back: “Yeah…”

WTF?

Lame.

So you try again: “I was going to hit my favorite coffee shop today… In the mood for an incredible Espresso?”

Another 20 minutes goes by, and you get: “Maybe”

Maybe?

MAYBE?

Look, here’s a good time for me to share my absolute rule of dating with you:

If a girl isn’t ENTHUSIASTIC and EXCITED to be with you, then she’s not worth your time.

Think about it. If she’s anything less than STOKED to be with you, that only means an uphill battle for you. You’re basically saying, “Yeah, I’ll take what I can get.”

No way. A busy, social, active guy doesn’t have time or energy to waste on low quality prospects.

It’s a bit like sales in that respect. If you don’t have someone that’s excited to buy what you’re selling, you’re in for a fight.

It’s hard enough to get into bed with a girl who really likes you, so you’re really making it hard on yourself if you start out with a handicap like this.

Not to mention the reality that first impressions don’t usually improve over time – especially with girls.

So when a girl gives you half-assed replies to your texts, or generally doesn’t give you a whole lot of positive mojo early on, she’s not into you.

Time to move on.

And the #5 – and final signal that she doesn’t like you that much: She tells you you’re “sweet” or “nice”

If she’s putting you into words like this, that means she’s probably trying to make you feel good about the future fact that you’re not going to get to sleep with her.

Or kiss her. Or anything, really.

A woman’s vocabulary is pretty consistent. She’ll only call you “sweet” if she thinks you’re a nice guy without any strong masculine edge.

She will only call you “nice” if she sees you doing stuff for her that makes her start to feel obligated to you.

You see, there’s a behavioral quirk in girls that makes her feel weird when a guy does stuff for her, and she’s not feeling attraction for him. She doesn’t want to be in his debt.

So she’ll need to get out of this situation before she starts to feel like she’s using you.

Some girls have no conscience about this, but most do. And that’s another reason why you don’t want to do too much for a girl you’ve just met.

Sure, you can buy her a drink, but after that first one, she should be offering to buy you one soon if she’s feeling that magnetic pull.

Listen to how she talks about you in that first conversation for a clue about where her head is at.

BONUS TIP: Here’s a quick little test to figure out if she’s attracted to you…

At some point in your conversation, tell her: “Hey – I’ll be right back. I have to find my friend.”

Go find your friend – then, find your way to stand near her like you don’t see her.

See if she flags you down or tries to get your attention. If she does, she’s still interested.

If she doesn’t, well you might want to take this opportunity to move on and find another target for your interest.

Now, if you haven’t seen any of these signs, that doesn’t mean you’re home free. It just means you’re in a better situation than most of the guys out there.

It’s up to you to make her forget her sexual program and jump on the opportunity with you.

If you don’t know, a woman’s sexual program is the set of steps she goes through from meeting you to pushing you down on the bed and pulling your pants off.

This sexual program is her roadmap – and she will take you along for the whole ride if you’re not careful.

You need a shortcut to the end of her map, whether you’re just looking for a night of fun, or a long time girlfriend.

If you want to know more about how to hack her sexual program, go take a look at my gameplan for making sure she’s always interested in you – CLICK HERE NOW

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Youth is always attractive.

Young skin… smooth… firm…

None of those qualities are bad.

There’s a scientific reason you like those qualities: They indicate youth – and youth means fertility.

It’s an evolutionary design that WORKS for a reason.

If you hook up with a girl who demonstrates the signs of youth and fertility, you have a greater chance of getting your DNA into the next generation. It’s how we were programmed by Mother Nature.

But guys are made to feel guilty and “dirty” if they find younger girls naturally attractive. I urge men out there to watch for these little subtle ways that we are made to feel guilty for our natural biology.

It’s how men are whipped into sad, defeated puppies that beg for girls instead of showing their noble masculinity.

When it comes to dating younger girls, guys are portrayed as shallow horny creeps who manipulate women for sex. Women are then painted as helpless victims.

Even though women are – on average – ten times more socially manipulative than men are.

But let’s get back on track here before I get off on a rant.

My girlfriend is 7 years younger than me.

The accepted formula for how young you can go is supposedly half your age plus 7.

So if you’re 40, that’s 20 + 7.

27 is okay, then.

But if you’re 26, you’re SICK.

I’m just kidding, of course. Formulas like this are just another way of victimizing men.

Interestingly, the age of a girl that guys find most attractive is… 20. That’s until about age 60, when I guess guys finally either give up, or realize that a 40 year age gap is a lot to ask. Unless you’re really looking for a gold digger.

So it’s pretty much a universal desire of guys: We’re attracted to younger women.

But here’s something you might not know: Girls are attracted to older men.

She knows that a guy who is more “established” in the world is going to be a better bet to support her. He’ll have had time to cultivate some resources (money).

If she’s going to risk having children with a guy, she has a biological drive to make sure they will have a solid chance to survive.

I know that sounds kind of clinical, but it’s also ruthlessly effective.

So let’s say you understand this little quirk of human mating – and you want to get yourself a younger girlfriend. How do you do it?

Here are 5 ways you can date a younger girl… without feeling like a creep.

The first thing you have to do is get rid of that creepy “pedophile shame” you’re carrying around.

I don’t actually care one bit about formulas or standards. Look at Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones.

He was WAY older than her when they got together.

There are so many examples of older guys and younger girls it’s ridiculous. So let’s let go of that crap right now.

The truth is that no matter what a girl SAYS (like “ew” or “ick”), she’s lying. She is biologically programmed to want older men.

Don’t let that fool you for one minute.

This outdated taboo should be laid to rest once and for all. Mostly because it makes guys feel like perverts.

Sorry, I got started on my rant again…

Just resolve to make your first step to dating younger women being PROUD of wanting a younger woman.

It’s usually just older, bitter women who don’t understand how to be sexy anymore that complain about this desire. If she wants a younger guy, that’s her option, too.

A woman physical attraction peaks earlier than men. Women are most attractive at 20, men are most attractive in their 30s, 40s, and even into their 50s if they take care of themselves.

A woman also knows that an older man will probably satisfy her more sexually, by the way.

So when she goes “eww…” just smile and wink at her. You know the real deal.

By the way, calling someone shallow because they like what appeals to their eye is actually even MORE shallow. It’s judgy and ignorant.

It’s what you want – so go for it. F*** ’em if they don’t like it.

The next step to dating younger women is to act normal.

I see it all the time… a guy starts trying to be all “hip young dude” to cover up his age. This make you look a lot older than you are, so drop the act.

You don’t need tattoos or an eyebrow piercing.

Just be yourself. Don’t act intimidated and weird just because you’re around a girl you want.

Let her youth energize and invigorate you instead of making you act more weird.

You gotta be cool.

You have to have an air of dignity and calm about you all the time. If she gets you riled up, your ship is sunk my friend.

No matter what she says or does, no matter what kind of drama she throws your way, you have to be frosty and in control.

Remember that the difference that makes the difference, is indifference.

If she freaks, you need to be stone cold. Sympathetic and reassuring, but you can’t get perturbed by her hysterics.

This also means you can’t be chasing her around like a lost puppy. An older guy has options and stability, something that younger women are attracted to.

When you act like you’re a guy who just fell off a turnip truck and is all gooey with love, you’re going to send her running.

Chill, man.

Seriously – stop that crap.

Be COOL.

The next step: How to date a girl that’s younger than you – Tease her.

I’m not going to recite my whole teasing strategy here. It’s already viral… you’ve probably heard it called “cocky and funny,” “tease to please,” etc.

The basics are the same. Just act like she’s you’re annoying little sister. (She will probably already be slightly annoying if she’s in her 20s anyway.)

Just make fun of her. Call her on her immature girl stuff that she says and does.

You don’t want to patronize her or be condescending, but you want to carry yourself with an air of authority.

This is the dominance a woman wants from an older guy. She actually expects it.

Keep in mind when dating a girl that’s younger, is that you have to pace yourself. You can’t make a move too soon.

Most women have had an older guy get all pervy on them at some point or another. Most of the time it was wussy, needy guy behavior that would have made him a creep at any age.

But since there are a lot of older dudes out there who still don’t have a clue how to act around women, they poop in the pool for the rest of us.

So her past experience is what makes her say “yuck” about older men. Not that she doesn’t actually find older guys sexually appealling.

Next tip – #4: Be a gentleman.

This means you have to show her the very thing that she needs in a man your age: Chivalry.

Younger guys don’t have a clue about doing the little things that make women moist.

You need to start pulling her chair out for her. Helping her with her jacket.

Walking on the street side of the sidewalk. Opening the doors for her.

I guarantee you the younger guys aren’t doing this, and it’s your ace card up your sleeve when it comes to getting her thinking about you non-stop.

And finally – #5: Be scarce my, friend.

One thing most guys don’t understand very well is how easy it is for a younger girl to fall for an older guy. She can become very emotionally dependent on you.

That means she can smother you fast if you’re not careful. And that takes a lot of the fun out of dating a younger woman.

I don’t care how great the sex is, there’s always a guy who finally got tired of her.

Keep the frequency of contact down.

Don’t call her more than once or twice a week. Don’t fall into that needy guy habit of texting her every day, either.

Frequency of contact is the emotional trigger that tells her if you’re her “fun guy,” her boyfriend, or serious commitment.

Plus, you can’t really see her more than once a week at the most, or you’ll risk either becoming boring to her, or she’ll get attached to you way too fast. I’ve seen it go both ways, and it’s not that fun.

I’ll give you one more bonus tip to dating younger girls…

You also need to remember that a girl between the age of 18 and 24 is in a state of near constant change. She’s finally growing into being a woman, and she will be seeking to establish her own identity.

That’s why you can’t meddle in her life or try to daddy her.

She’ll be unreliable, bratty, indecisive, and constantly changing her mind. It’s the nature of this phase of her life.

So you need to know how attraction works. You have to know how women think, and what women want in men.

In fact, if you don’t have a solid foundation understanding women, you will more than likely trip and mess things up. Everything I just explained will back fire on you.

In my Alpha Sexual Power program, I show you the most powerful secrets of creating and keeping a girl in your bed – and in your life.

These are the secrets your dad wished he could have given you – if he’d known them.

You can discover Alpha Sexual Power yourself by going here.

And finally have the attraction skills that will make almost any woman see you as “more than friends.”

Younger girls can smell a real man a mile away. Here’s how to be that guy she wants – click HERE to get started.

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But girls aren’t computers, last I checked.

So we have to figure out how to “hack” her system another way to make her like you and want you.

I’m going to share 5 ways to get her to want you using simple tricks of psychology. The best part is that they work on a subconscious level that she won’t even register.

The first one is:

How to make her desire you with body language: Exaggerate your shoulders

One of the interesting things I see in guys I coach is that almost every guy who has a tough time with confidence inhibits or constrains his body language. Almost as if he’s smothering his self-expression.

The easiest way to overcome this is to consciously take control of your body language for a while until you break this habit. Chances are you’re being far too restricted with your movements.

One of the best ways to communicate confidence with your body is through exaggerating your shoulder movements as you walk.

Don’t go overboard like you’re about to break into a song and dance routine from “West Side Story.” Just let your shoulders move a little more freely.

Your shoulders communicate your focus of attention, so use them when you’re talking to her, too.

When you want her to feel heard and focused on, face her with your shoulders.

When it’s time to take away a little attention, look away with your eyes and shoulders as well.

It seems kind of small and insignificant, but it will make a huge difference in how she responds to you.
The second tip is…

Get her to want you by slowing down and being more fluid…

This is another body language tip. Again, most guys are far too nervous and jerky with their bodies.

They come across like nervous birds.

And girls are very responsive to your mood as they sense it from your body movement.

So when you talk to her, make sure you’re moving as if you’re underwater. Very slow and fluid motions of the body that feel almost graceful.

Focus on your head, eyes, and hands as they are about 90% of your expression when you’re talking to her. Of course, avoid talking fast.

Even go so far as to slow down your breathing, blinking, and your laughter.

At first this will feel almost cartoonish and exaggerated, but that’s only because you’ve become used to moving so quickly all the time. Just relax and fall into a slower groove.

If you catch yourself speeding up again with your speech or movement, just tell yourself to relax, and bring it back down to a more grounded movement.
The third tip is…

Make her like you with your attitude: Tease to Please

By now most guys have heard of my strategy of teasing girls. Some guys call it “cocky and funny.”

It boils down to the same thing: Girls respond to verbal challenges.

So let me give you a quick example:

– You’re on a date and she fumbles her water a little

You say: “Careful… I might have to cut you off from the hard stuff.”

OR: “Should I get you a sippy cup, or are you going to be okay?”

The key is to smirk a little when you deliver that.

And until you’ve got a good feel for how much is TOO much, I suggest you use my words. Those are field tested and approved.

Another way to tease a woman is to let her express her taste in something like music, movies, art, whatever – and then act like you disapprove.

I do this by covering my forehead with my hand and shaking my head.

Then I say: “Oh, man. You were doing so well up until now. Look, I’ll let you have a do-over. I’ll pretend that didn’t happen.”

The reason that teasing works so well with women is that it triggers something inside her that makes her feel as if the connection has been shaken up.

A woman’s natural instinct is to never jeopardize the connection between her and anyone else. So she’ll backpedal and try to make a save.

You’ll be tempted to hold back and play it cool early on, but that’s a big mistake. You need to risk a little early on or she’s going to think you’re dull.

Let me be clear here: This isn’t manipulation or insulting her to make her feel inadequate. This is playful energetic conversation.

Anything else is a waste of both your time.

The fourth sneaky way to get into her heart and trigger her feelings:

Make her like you by taking her to eat spicy food…

This one is a secret weapon in my arsenal.

Spicy food is a way to do three important things:

First, it increases blood flow. It gives her a rush of heat and she’ll associate this feeling with you.

Next – it sparks a little feeling of danger in her. It will spike her adrenaline bit, enhancing that rush she’s feeling.

And finally – spicy food breaks down the social front women put on. She’s going to sniffle a bit, maybe even tear up.

And that’s going to get her a little more REAL with you.

If you can’t get past her pretense and nice girl act, you’re going to have a tough time getting her into bed.

Scratch that… you probably WON’T get her into bed if you can’t get her real with you. Period.

So use a nice spicy Mexican or Thai meal to break down the barriers.

Now, the last secret method for making her want you and crave you:

Make her like you by using texts to sneak into her mind…

I used to hate texting. I never wanted to send a text when it was just as easy to call her up and talk to her.

But then I realized that most women don’t answer their phones, so you have to go through her texts to get into her life.

And now you can use texting for almost every part of dating, from meeting her to getting her to sext you some hot photos, to showing up at your door late at night…

Here’s why texting women works so well:

First of all, texting engages a woman’s mind through her imagination.

She has to invent her own image of you to go along with the words. Which means that you can be naughty and playful without any risk of backlash.

And especially if you’re a shy guy.

Second, you can take your time to think up a reply.

It’s like a conversation machine where you don’t have to be “ON” all the time. You can read what she sends you, and then take your sweet time to send her a reply.

And the longer you take, the more she’ll be interested.

You can even keep a library of great texts like the ones I teach ready on your phone at a moment’s notice.

And finally, the best reason to text women into attraction is to make sure she’s thinking about you all the time.

You can’t be there all day long, and you can’t even control how often she checks her email, but you can send a text at key times of the day and plant yourself firmly in her mind whenever you want.

There is only one thing holding most guys back…

And that’s knowing what to say to get her to want you – and get her to TEXT YOU BACK.

Did you know that girls get HUNDREDS of text messages every week?

You have to be able to cut through all that NOISE to get her attention… The fact is that most guys simply wind up getting ignored, or simply forgotten and lost.

That’s why I created a guaranteed way to get through her digital bouncer: Her cell phone.

I spent about ten months testing out text messages to see what worked and what didn’t – and I pulled them together for you.

I call these “Black Ops” texts – and they are guaranteed to make her text you back.

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I’ve been working on cracking the code of women and what they say.

So how do you know if a girl really likes you, or just wants to be friends?

Does she want to date you? Will she be attracted to you?

I’ll give you a common pattern that guys experience:

– Guy talks to a girl, maybe gets her phone number

He thinks it’s ON!

– Guy calls girl, sets a date

– If he gets the date, she flakes or backs out

– Or if she goes on the date, he pays for a meal or some kind of event, and she just gives you a kiss on the cheek at the end…

And you’ll probably never hear from her again – no text, no call.

You might wonder if you did something wrong, or if she was just a gold digging tramp who wanted a free meal…

Or if she just said yes to be nice and polite – but wound up wasting your time.

The truth is that you can save your time and energy – and emotions – if you just pick up the signals she gives off when she likes you.

If you knew this up front, you could know right away if she’s really interested in you or if she only wants to be friends.

Let’s open her skull and take a look inside the female mind.

Here are the most common signs a girl likes you:

Signal 1: First of all, is she flirting with you – or is she just being nice?

There’s only two kinds of flirting a woman does:

Flirt type 1: Polite

Yeah this is where she appears to like you, but then when you start to make it real, she backs away faster than a hit and run on “Cops.”

You talk to her and have a great time, lots of smiles and eye contact. Then you try to set up a date and she gets all weird.

Suddenly she has a dozen appointments to color or cut her hair…

Whatever.

This isn’t the flirt you’re looking for, young Skywalker.

She’s just trying to get attention and get you to express interest so she can prove she’s still got the ability to make men desire her. (This is the primary sexual power women crave most.)

You want this type of flirting:

Flirt type 2: The Real Deal

When a girl is flirting with you for real, she will do a few things differently.

First of all, she’ll find a way to touch you. You’re watching for her to put a hand on your arm or playfully smack you.

This is an involuntary action every girl makes when she really wants to take her flirting to a new level. She basically wants you to know her interest in you is real.

Now… the next signal a girl really likes you is…

Signal 2: She gets closer and uses her body more seductively

Girls know that the first thing they need to do to get a guy they want is to swoop in and stake that claim.

The way she does it is with proximity and body language.

She’ll get closer to you, usually within about 18 inches or so. And she’ll make it a point that other people sense that she’s laying that claim.

She’ll also use more seductive physical signs, like playing with her hair, laughing excessively at your jokes, etc. You’ll also get a ton more eye contact from her.

By the way – the younger the girl, the more she’ll do these things, and the more obvious she will be.

Signal 3: She will work to make the conversation work

Ever have one of those conversations with a woman that feels like you’re trying to extract information from a cold-war Soviet spy?

She barely shrugs or contributes, and you feel like you’re carrying the whole conversation.

That’s a sure fire signal that she’s not that interested. Especially if she isn’t even trying to be polite about it, which I consider to be one of the most heinous and rude things women do to guys.

Especially if you consider how hard we work up our courage just to talk to a woman.

But if a woman likes you, she’s going to put in her share of the effort. You’ll find that the conversation just flows along.

This is because instead of trying to get her to open up – which is like squeezing blood from a stone when she’s resisting you, it’s more like falling down a hill.

The subjects come easily…

She contributes her own stuff into the conversation…

The same thing applies to texting. If she consistently sends you one-word texts, she’s just not that into you.

And here’s a HUGE one –

While you’re talking to her, she should occasionally interrupt you to throw her own insights into the conversation.

You see women who aren’t into talking to you will simply not want to add anything. Her energy will be on “stand by.”

But if she’s really into it, she will be eager to put her own thoughts out there. This one is a big signal that she probably likes you.

And that leads us to the next hint that she’s interested in you:

Signal 4: She shares genuinely personal information…

Women try to maintain an edge of impersonal conversation when they’re not that into you. She will talk about everyday stuff like where she’s from, what she does for work or school, etc.

But if you want to get her feeling attraction for you – one of the most important things you must do is get her to share information that is personal. Stuff that has emotion in it.

For example, if you’re talking about your day, you want to use the conversation as a kind of trail that you’re creating. She’s walking on this trail, so you have the power to lead her where you want to go.

You could mention that you got a call from your dad, who you haven’t heard from in a while. You might mention that you and your dad used to be pretty close, but you’ve grown apart.

This allows you to ask her about her family. See if she opens up about her relationship a little.

Maybe offers up something personal about her relationship with mom or dad.

If all she does is sympathize, or just glosses over it, she’s telling you that she’s not into any deep conversation.

(By the way, if you find that she resists giving up anything personal to you, you need to use my conversation strategies to open her up and get her attracted. Click here to check it out.)

Signal 5: She doesn’t hesitate to agree to a date when the chance comes up.

That’s right – if she’s really interested in you and attracted to you, she will jump at the chance to go out with you. Anything else is game playing.

I’ve encountered a line of thinking that I want to share with you. Mostly because it’s something I’ve seen when coaching women, too.

What happens is this:

– Boy meets girl…

– Girl seems interested

– Boy gets girl’s number

– Boy calls girl later, or texts her

– Boy gets a lame (or no) response

– Boy keeps trying, thinking that she must still want to get together… After all, they hit it off so well

– Girl keeps being halfheartedly interested, wastes boy’s time

– Boy gets disgusted and pissed that women are so back-and-forth

The principle you need to remember is: “Her actions always tell the story.”

Which means that she will always tell you exactly how she feels by how she behaves.

We all do this.

You see, if a girl likes you – she’s going to act on that feeling. She doesn’t have some kind of imaginary willpower to play hard to get by being a bitch.

Women have lower self-image when compared to men, and if they like you – they’re going to make it happen.

Think about yourself. The last time you liked a girl, did you play a bunch of “push her away and act disinterested” games?

No, you went after her!

And that’s why you must always treat her as if her actions are the exact projection of her inner state.

We always act in accordance with what we’re thinking.

So if she isn’t getting back to you – it could be circumstance. But if she’s replying with less than an equal amount of enthusiasm, you need to keep moving on.

The girl that likes you will not hide it. She’ll go along with your plans for a date.

It’s important NOT to ignore these signals I just gave you because they’ll clue you in on what’s really going on in that pretty head of hers. Once you know what’s what, you’ll figure out much sooner if you should push forward or start over with another girl.

But what if you could turn a girl on with nothing more than small talk?

What if you could make her feel attracted to you simply by knowing how to guide a conversation in the right direction?

Imagine being able to do this even though she’s giving you ALL the signals of disinterest – wouldn’t that be something?

Remember when I told you that I was working on decoding what women say? Well, my new course on how to talk to women explains the meaning behind her cryptic statements that throw you for a loop.

The thing is, women are always testing you (in three ways, to be exact) and you need to know how to deal with this before even approaching them.

If you want to learn how to power through a woman’s tests and attract her by the time the conversation’s over, you’ll want to click HERE to get started TODAY.

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Last I checked, this fear of talking to a hot woman was somewhere after the fear of death and the fear of being launched into outer space wearing nothing but a strap-on sex toy.

But even if you learn how to talk to girls, you’re still going to find the occasional hot chick that just throws you for a loop.

And if anything distracts you, it’s going to be a girl with a huge rack.

That’s right – boobs.

Knockers.

Hashtag: #BlouseBunnies.

And I sure do like the way they hop…

Yes, I’m a breast man, so I know how cleavage can hypnotize. In fact, they will overwhelm you with nervous excitement.

With that in mind, I want to reveal 3 secrets about talking to women with big breasts that will save you from a painful crash and burn.

These tips aren’t just for the girls with ample bosoms – it could be any trait that just wows you sexually and makes it hard to concentrate on what she’s saying.

Which actually leads us to tip #1: You have to behave like it’s no big deal.

And yes, that pun was intended.

The fact is that most guys are way too obvious. They can’t keep their eyes off her prized assets.

And she’s used to it, too. So you have to make sure you don’t approach with an air of pervy lust, or you’re done before you start.

If you get all warm and rubbery talking to a girl with a fantastic balcony – well, you’re going to probably immediately give her too much credit.

You’ll find yourself thinking about proposing to her before she’s won YOU over with all the other stuff that makes a great girlfriend.

Scientists call this the Halo Effect – where a strong attractive physical quality makes you give that person way too much credit. And ta-tas will blind you before you can make a proper decision.

You have to be completely unaffected by her funbags. It’s gotta be as “so what” as painted toenails to you.

Let me give you 2 ways to change how you think about her:

– Remember she poops, too.

Every time I bring this one up with my classes or bootcamps, I always got a bunch of guys squirming in their chairs. I don’t know any guy that enjoys the image of a hot chick on the Throne pushing one out.

But you know what?

They do.

In fact, what most guys tend to do is over-idealize women up front. They immediately assume that because she’s beautiful, that she has no negative qualities.

They’re intimidated from the first moment because they started up their “wild eyed dreamer” mode instead of their “calm, rational thinking” mode.

It’s that damn Halo Effect again.

As a result, these guys become completely awestruck, and start acting like a goofball teenager.

An idiot…

A nice guy.

And in case you weren’t aware: Nice guy = not getting laid guy.

I just want to be clear about that.

So the next time you catch yourself putting her up on a pedestal too quickly, take a second to imagine her on the porcelain, panties around her ankles, maybe even grunting a bit.

It’s not attractive, but it will help ground you so you don’t start drooling.

– No matter how hot she is, there’s a guy somewhere that’s sick of her sh*t.

This tip goes right along with the whole poop visualization I gave you.

When you first meet a girl, you think she can do no wrong. She’s perfect in your eyes.

Even if you’re a “butt guy” – a splendid set of knockers isn’t going to stop you from wanting to make her yours, right?

But the reality is that every girl has behaviors that would drive you friggin nuts after a while of dating her.

Hey, so do guys.

My point is that you will probably jump in headfirst based on her hot qualities. You’ll actually resist any attempt from your friends or family to talk some sense into you if they see some obnoxious red flags show up.

You won’t want to see those warning signs, because – gosh, in about 30 seconds all you’ll see are those plump delicious melons.

Remember, you don’t need to worry about feeling LESS attracted to a girl.

You need to worry about feeling out of control around her. That’s far more dangerous.

And really, the only way you’re going to pull this off is to…

Tip# 2: Practice with a simulator.

One of the most effective things you can do to talk to a girl with a phenomenal set of jugs is to make it “no big deal.”

One of my favorite tips for guys to do this is to create a distracting situation for him to practice without risking anything.

Something I call a “simulator.”

What you do is get a Playboy centerfold, or just print out a pinup of a hot naked girl.

Tape it up to the wall at about eye level. Make sure it’s an image where she’s making eye contact with you.

The more distracting her body is to you, the better.

Then you just practice walking up and opening a conversation with her. Use your best “line” or routine.

Walk up multiple times, always keeping the eyes from going south. If you slip up, walk away, clear your head, and try again.

(Just be sure to take it down before you invite her back to your place…)

The key here is not to let your eyes wander down to her cha-chas. Or anywhere else for that matter.

You want to look as if you locked eyes with her and can’t see anything else.

The better you can do this, the better chance you’ll have of getting on her radar as a “yes” instead of a “hell no.”

Keep those eyes under control.

The best way to do that is to always keep her eyes and her face as your primary focus.

If you can make her boobs a low priority, and dial up your curiosity about who she is as a person – you’ll have no problem getting a conversation going that will warm her up to you.

#3: Sneak a peek…

Look, the fact is that you’re going to go insane if you can’t check out her gorgeous set of mammaries. It will literally make you freak out if you DON’T look.

So what you have to do is time your peek for when you’ve already got the conversation going. There will come a time when she laughs and closes her eyes, or looks away, or down at her phone…

And when she does, you can drink in the vista of jubblies before you. Go ahead, you earned it.

Take a second to imagine yourself pressed between them. Then look away before she can catch you staring when she looks back at you.

What you’re doing is glimpsing instead of leering at her like a sex-starved fiend.

Just focus your efforts on not checking out her boobs for about the first minute or so of talking to her. That’s all you gotta do, man!

Remember that if she gives you an initial cold-shoulder, it has nothing to do with you. Women with big tits are ogled all the time, and she’s used to every man’s interest in her being just one thing – sexual.

She’s just built up an instinctive defense mechanism over the years.

She has had to handle the lusty stares from men who were clueless idiots, as well as the jealous anger of other girls who see her as a huge threat. (Which she is, by the way.)

Be the guy who wants to get into her brain as much as her bra and you’ll stand a real chance at making her yours.

And that leads us to the last tip…

#4: Know what to say to win her

Look, if you don’t have any idea of what you’re going to say to her before you walk up, it’s almost guaranteed that you’ll make one of these hideous errors:

– You’ll talk yourself out of it completely.

And don’t think you’re “off the hook” either. If you fail to approach, it’s still a failure.

You’ll never get to meet her, and it’s an opportunity you messed up.

In the words of Wayne Gretzky – I miss every shot I don’t take.

Or you’ll make this error:

– You’ll go in without a clue, and she’ll just brush you right off like lint on her sweater.

Most guys think there’s something noble about approaching and talking to a girl without a plan. As if it’s fake or deceptive to have a good idea of what you’re going to say in advance.

Or they feel it’s “wrong” to use tried and true conversation starters that get you talking with her in the first place.

The simple fact is that the one thing that will make you a success with women in general is to have a rock solid strategy for talking to her.

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Hey, I’m sure that a lot of guys think of tricks as manipulative and slightly deceptive. But they’re not if they start a conversation you might not have had before.

Or get you talking to a woman you might not have had the courage to approach.

A trick is a trick only when it works at the expense of someone. And nothing I’m about to reveal to you will hurt anyone.

Quite the contrary – it’s a win-win for both you and her.

These are all meant to be simple, no-cost methods of standing out to women.

Impress her – Trick 1: Get her attention.

If you don’t have her attention before you walk up to her to talk, you’re going to have to rely on a wickedly good first impression to grab her interest.

And I hate to break it to you, even the best looking guys make cruddy first impressions.

Here’s a little trick I learned that does wonders for making your initial conversation powerfully compelling:

– Make a big entrance

I don’t mean walk into a party or a bar and yell, “BOO-ya!” at the top of your lungs.

But you want to walk in with a smile, confident body language, and as many people as you can.

This will create a magnetic focus of attention on you as you come in. It’s always a good idea.

My friend Will used to walk into everywhere he went and point his finger at nowhere in particular, nodding and smiling. Like he’d just been spotted by a friend.

And there was no one there he knew. It was his own personal way of making himself feel wanted and welcome everywhere he went.

Delusional?

Nope. Will got women EVERYWHERE he went.

If that’s delusional, I’ll be a complete lunatic…

Impress that girl trick 2: Give her the triple-play treatment

This is a combo that I use when I talk to women that works like crazy to get women to feel attraction and desire.

First part of the Triple Play: Listen intently to what she says.

Most women are used to guys coming over and talking her ear off, bragging about this and that to make her impressed with how massively cool he is.

Truth be told, this always works in the opposite direction. It makes women run away.

When you come over and ask a good soul-searching question (spoiler alert: I’ll show you one in a second) – and then after it you just shut up and pay attention to her answer, you’ll be shocked at the level of interest you’ll get from her.

Second part of the Triple-Play: Make evaluative eye-contact.

Look at her like you’re figuring her out. Evaluating her as a possible addition to your life.

Go ahead…try it.

I’m not suggesting you act rude here, not at all. but you should always be evaluating her in terms of her value in your life.

Most guys are not out there just trying to find someone to sleep with, contrary to what the media would have you believe. Sure, it’s one of the things on your to-do list with a girl, and it sure is a motivating factor.

But the truth is that men are looking more often to find a cool chick they can make into their girlfriend. And that they can have wild monkey love with too.

But when you focus solely on the sex part of the equation, you’re going to miss things about her that you need to see early on.

So keep your eyes open and really take a good close look at her – before lust blinds you.

Here’s a little dose of reality for you: Most men don’t evaluate women strongly enough.

Most women are not a good match for you. And if you let her into your life by default – just because she puts out for you – you could wind up in a really bad relationship.

Evaluate her with a keen eye for what works for you…

And the third part of the Triple Play is this: Slow, open body language.

If you watch the body language of most guys, you’ll see a lot of things that broadcast low self-esteem and low self-confidence.

He’s got his hands either shoved into his pockets, or arms are crossed in a guarded posture. He’s rocking on his feet, or nervously looking around like a bird that needs food.

Slow your gestures down.

Slow your scanning eye movements.

Let the world come to you – because that’s what confident men of the world do.

I’ll spare you the “watch James Bond movies” advice…

HOWEVER – he’s the best of the best to model when it comes to cool, confident body language. Ignore him at your own risk…

(And if you need a little work on this part of your game, you can tighten it up real fast with my free CD called Badass Body Language)

Impress that girl trick 3: Ask her a question that makes her sit up and take notice.

I’ve been coaching guys for years on my Power Question technique. It’s a guaranteed way to impress any woman, and stand out in her mind.

The basics are this:

– You ask one simple question that makes her realize you’re not like “all the other guys.”

I’ve got a bunch of these, but I’ll share one of my best with you here:

“Hey if money weren’t a consideration, where would you be and what would you be doing right now? Besides having a delightful conversation with me, of course.”

This line is a beauty. It makes her think a little – and it also establishes that you are confident in the conversation you’ve started.

And really listen to her answer, because it will tell you if she’s a small thinker or a BIG thinker that deserves a shot at being with you.

The more advanced stuff I teach guys in my talk to women programs… but that’s more than enough to get you into a delicious conversation with almost any woman.

Impress that girl trick 4: Be polite and chivalrous – no matter what.

A gentleman does certain things for a woman that says you’re a man of class and prestige. Again, James Bond is impeccable for this.

Even if the woman he’s with is a total drag, he always finds a way to show his chivalrous side.

Here is a simple short list of things that men do that impress women:

– Help her with her coat – whether it’s putting it on or taking it off.

– Pull her chair out for her when she sits down. Just don’t make her fall on her butt…

– Open the door for her – or other women…

– Do any or all of these things for her friends as well…

You’d be AMAZED at how many men don’t have a CLUE about the art of Chivalry, and how it’s one of the easiest ways to impress a woman.

Extra points to you if you can make your chivalrous gesture a part of your introduction. Holding the door for a woman, or letting her go first is a great way to start a conversation.

Impress that girl trick 5: Be indestructible and unshakeable.

I do a lot of coaching and advising. I’ve done it for years, and it’s something I really enjoy about my work.

That being said, I’ll tell you that most guys are … well, they’re pretty wimpy.

Seriously, most guys would lose their cool if the car they were in got a flat, or if the restaurant he was taking to her turned out to be closed. Or if anything out of the ordinary happened to him.

No one likes inconveniences, I get it. But you have to be made of stronger stuff.

You need to have an air of steadfast durability about you. Like nothing can shake you up. No one can rattle your cage.

You’re a ROCK.

Women can pick up on this vibe about you – and it oozes out your pores. It’s also the SECRET to success in life at a level that most guys only play and dream about.

You must be unbreakable.

You’re smart enough and strong enough to deal with anything.

When she thinks this about you, you are literally unstoppable with women. They will beg, borrow and steal just to walk through your shadow.

Play life like the game is ON.

Now this attitude also includes something that most guys don’t quite understand. Let me explain it with one sentence:

Do what you say you’re going to do – when you’re going to do it.

Period.

This is what I call the Word Of The Man. It’s a statement of your integrity, and your confidence on many levels.

One of the disturbing trends I see today is that no one really takes anything very seriously when it comes to making plans with other people.

Everyone plays it like nothing is written in stone, and you should always be on the lookout for a better offer at all times.

Which leads so many people to come across as fake and insincere.

Early on, I made a decision that there was something I wouldn’t sacrifice when I started dating: I wouldn’t give up either my dignity, or my character just to get laid.

It’s worked out really well, let me tell you. I’ve had women who initially blew me off come crawling back and literally beg for a second date.

I turned them down for the same reason I turned her down in the first place – even if I probably could have gotten her into bed.

In fact, I’ll wager that I could have had twice as many overnight girlfriends as I did if I’d just put aside my own strict code. But in the end, I’m glad I didn’t make that bargain with the Devil.

You get to make one choice in your life that will determine the height of your success and the altitude of your attitude: What will your character be?

If you can ask that question of yourself, and then answer it, you’ll see why mere pickup tricks cannot stand up to the incredible power of being the Alpha Man.

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Attracting and dating them? That’s a little trickier.

It’s the most frustrating feeling, isn’t it? They’re right at your fingertips, but you don’t have a CLUE how to connect with them…

It seems like you can’t do anything else aside from drooling over their profile pics.

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For the longest time, we’ve been “trained” to think that women are the gatekeepers to the ONE thing we want.

That gives attractive women leverage over guys because it always seems like WE’RE the ones who want something from them.

But I can teach you something called the Attraction Judo Move to REVERSE that dynamic and give you an UNFAIR advantage over girls – especially the HOT ones.

Once you learn this, you’ll understand what women want from men – then you’ll have THEM chasing after you!

Here’s another problem with meeting women on Facebook: most guys SCREW UP by falling into the Friend Zone and getting stuck there permanently.

No matter how much they try to flirt with a girl, she’ll NEVER consider them as potential boyfriend material.

The reason is simple – they accidentally flipped a switch in her head, making it impossible for her to see them as anything aside from a platonic friend.

That’s why I’ll also tell you how to avoid springing the Friend Zone Trap.

But what if you’re ALREADY in the Friend Zone?

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The best part is that this is strictly under-the-radar stuff, so women won’t have a clue about what’s going on.

Just think how awesome it would be to use Facebook to slip past their defenses like a ninja – they WON’T know what hit them!

Stay Alpha,

– Carlos Xuma

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A multi-million dollar blockbuster hit, of course.

Remember when that sparkly vampire film came out years before? A good segment of the public bitched about Twilight while the creator laughed all the way to the bank.

And it’s happening all over again; talk about history repeating itself.

Once again, women are dragging guys to a movie that, for the most part, is meant for the female demographic. And like before, the people behind the franchise are raking in serious stacks of dough.

Oh, and here’s a fun fact: Fifty Shades of Grey originally started out as Twilight fan fiction (i.e. when people write about their favorite characters and put them in situations beyond the original plot).

So, it’s no surprise that women are eating up Fifty Shades of Grey, especially since its roots go back to the same place.

As for me, I watched it just to see what the hype was about. Like Christian Grey told Anastasia Steele, “Try to keep an open mind.”

And that’s exactly what I did. Funny thing was, it wasn’t as bad as I’d expected it to be.

Sure, the performances were a bit wooden and there were some eye-rolling lines of dialogue. In spite of all of that, the film wasn’t without some important takeaways.

(And hey, Dakota Johnson certainly helped the movie’s visual appeal…if you catch my drift.)

As I sat through two hours of the movie, a few thoughts occurred to me:

#1: Dress to Impress

Christian Grey may not exist in real life, but he does know to how project that I’ve-got-my-act-together vibe to women.

However, you don’t have to be a multi-billionaire like him to make the ladies swoon. Whatever your job is, you need to give women the impression that you’re passionate, driven and self-sufficient.

And that starts with the packaging; so dress like a grown-ass man if you want women to take you seriously as an adult.

You don’t have to overdo it and dress like a trendy D-bag though. Ask your well-dressed friends, research online, consult with the sales clerks at your local men’s store and check out some men’s magazines.

Once you’ve upgraded your style and found a look that works for you, you’ve already taken a huge step in being more attractive to women.

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