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Hi it’s Carlos Xuma from the winwithwomenblog.com here and I just crave to talk about the basics of having good “game”… the essentials of how to get the girl, of how to achieve dating success.

It’s also what I’ll be talking about during my FREE live tv show I’m going to broadcast live on the internet on January 23, 2010, because how can you be an attraction powerhouse with women when you didn’t got the foundations of the house right?

So consider this dating article to be a sneak preview of what I’ll be discussing during the show, during which you can also ask me for dating advice on your personal dating questions.

For more info about how to watch the show and what the show is all about go to:

http://win-with-womenblog.com/?p=1416

Onward…

There are 5 “building blocks” on your way to becoming an attraction powerhouse that can get ANY girl and you’ll need to build all of them if you want your success with women to last:

Building Block For Good Game #1:

Immortal Inner Game

Even if you would learn a 1000 techniques for meeting women, if you still fear rejection, then ALL those techniques will be built …

Let´s talk about one of my favorite subjects: having a guilty conscience… just kidding! I do want to talk about the so called ´shoulds´ and ´should nots´ though, the things that people tell you are not done and smart to do.

Let get straight to the point: people will tell you a whole bunch of crap, especially men when it comes to women & dating. You see, most men HAVE NO CLUE about what women want or what women are really attracted to. It´s not their fault or your fault though, no, it´s all because of our ´machismo culture´.

We as men are raised with the mindset that talking about our feelings is WRONG, that talking about women in a different context than sex or body parts is WRONG, and about problems with women? We simply DON´T talk. What men do is this:

Guy 1: ¨How you doing Todd?¨
Guy 2: ¨My girl just broke up with me man…¨
Guy 1: ¨Damn thats f*cked up man… want a beer?¨

And that´s it. Most men NEVER talk about the how to´s… how to get a woman´s phone number, how to call women, how to create attraction, and especially not the sensitive …

I’ve noticed a couple of trends lately in the “seduction community”, the entire collection of men that want to get better at meeting & dating women or teach others how to do it, that I find very amuzing and I thought I’d share them with you today…

1) Some dating gurus are a living paradox…
I teach men how to meet and date women too, but no this is not me bashing on the competition claiming how I’m so much better and what not. I’ve talked to guys like Adam Lyons (to some known as AFC Adam) and Carlos Xuma, and they’re cool guys… just like a lot of other gurus out there. The best of ’em actually have someone to say that you can learn from too, high quality stuff.

But what I don’t understand about some of these guys is…

If your goal is to help men become better men, become more confident and so forth… then why are you so insecure that you feel the need to ban people when they want to share a negative experience about you or want to help people themselves? It sounds like teaching how to build confidence when you aren’t confident …