Posted by Carlos | Posted on 19-11-2009
If you’ve been paying any attention during the last couple of weeks and read my other tips for improving your inner game, you would know by now that almost all of your inner issues boil down to a lack of confidence.
If you haven’t read my other blog post about inner game yet I highly recommend you do so because my articles contain CRUCIAL techniques for getting rid of your limiting beliefs… of the obstacles that stand in your way of getting the success with women and the lifestyle you want.
Here’s a quick summary of the insights I shared in my previous blog posts about inner game:
1) Jealousy – jealousy is a problem of the ego. Men (and women too by the way) automatically assume that once our loved ones are given a choice between us and a potential other mate, they won’t choose us… and that my friend, has lack of confidence written allll over it!
2) Stereotypical attraction – we automatically assume that women are attracted to looks, social status, fast cars and money but here’s the catch: even the guys with looks, lots of status, 6 cars and lots of money think they don’t have enough of it yet. These assumptions about what women are attracted to and that we don’t have enough of it stem from a sense of feeling unworthy, which is a result of not having (enough) confidence.
3) Fear of approaching women – most guys don’t approach a dozen women a day to improve their social and conversational skills… it does not fit into their comfort zone. Your comfort zone is the little bubble of activities and people you feel comfortable doing and comfortable around, but not stepping outside of your comfort zone means getting the same results with women you’ve always been getting: little to one.
Your lack of confidence thus literally stands in the way of getting more results because of AT LEAST 3 reasons… and that’s more results with ANYTHING: women, work, social life, etc.
Do you realize what not doing anything about your inner game, your lack of confidence means?
Becoming more desperate, more needy, and… over time… even more insecure, which will only work against you when you’re trying to meet and date more women my friend. Inner game is the key to winning the dating game, because you win women over with your personality. Not fancy cars. Or money. Or fame.
Personality = inner game
But WAIT – there’s more…
Most of your fears (fear of rejection, of failure, of criticism, etc.) and insecurities are based on limiting beliefs: on bad assumptions about yourself, women, and the world that LIMIT you in your thinking and doing… and which will only PREVENT you from getting what you want.
As such it’s extremely important, no essential… that you tackle and get rid off these limiting beliefs or suffer the consequences.
How to get rid of those limiting beliefs you say?
First off, you need to know what the hell is bothering you so much that you feel uncomfortable around women… and that you assume that smoking hot chick you have your eye on is out of your league. To help you figure out and then get rid off your insecurities, I wrote a special newsletter filled with free tips on how to get rid of your lack of confidence.
It’s called (surprise surprise!) the Inner Game newsletter and I highly recommend you check it out so you can get rid of your lack of confidence not tomorrow, but today!
And if you still want more, even after the newsletter, then check out my blog post about how to improve confidence.
To More Dating Success,
Win With Women
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