5 Tips For How To Get That Girl
Over the 13 years or so that I’ve been helping guys like you be successful with women, I’ve seen a lot of mistakes, and I’ve also seen those same mistakes turn into some really great lessons on how to get the woman you want.
Doesn’t matter if it’s for a weekend or for months, either.
And I don’t just want to show you how to get a girl to LIKE you… I want these women to fall madly in love – where they would literally drag you into bed for sweaty, no holds barred passion that would embarrass an adult film star.
So what I thought I’d do is to share 5 of my tips for how to get a girl in your life – and in your bed.
Tip 1: Talk Yourself Up – Without Being a Douche
Guys instinctively know that they need to get their accomplishments out on the table in front of her as fast as they can. Unfortunately, most guys do this buy bragging. And that just comes across as douchey.
What you need is a method to tell her about who you are and what you’re capable of, without making it sound like you’re boasting. And – at the same time – you do still want to come across as confident.
But not TOO confident, right?
Damn, this attraction stuff seems hard sometimes.
Well, it’s not really all that difficult if you know HOW to tactfully talk yourself up.
If you speak another language (even if only a little), or you snowboard, or play the piano, you definitely need to let her know about that.
Any skill that you have is something that says “I’m confident and capable” to her. She needs to know that you’re competent.
Skills or talents you have are sexy to women, and effectively revealing them makes you appear more dynamic to her.
The trick is sliding them into conversation naturally, so you don’t come off as awkward — or like you’re blowing you’re own horn. Wait for the right opportunity, and slip it in nonchalantly. She will notice it.
Just be subtle.
Tip 2: Use Your Masculine Voice
Don’t shout at her, but you should be using your projection when you talk to her. If she has to say “Huh?” all the time to get you to speak up, you’re going to look like a wuss.
Remember, confidence is not communicated in a soft, delicate voice. It’s in the deep resonance of your chest and stomach that will hit her right in her turn-on button.
Especially because your voice will tend to get pinched and nervous when you are. So you have to relax, use deep breathing, and even hum to yourself before the date. This will serve to get your voice in proper shape for talking to her.
According to a new study, men and women make subtle changes in their voice when talking to someone they are attracted to.
The study, performed by Stirling University, reviewed the vocal ranges of men and women in dating scenarios.
The research, led by Stirling’s Juan David Leongomez, also found that these subtle voice changes make the speaker appear more attractive to the person they’re talking to. The research team studied 110 heterosexual individuals, who were either English of Czech native speakers. (The findings are true globally, however.)
They compared the vocal patterns of men and women. When they were talking to people they perceived as attractive versus people they thought were unattractive, the vocal changes were significant.
Men were found to speak in a more ‘sing-songy’ voice when talking to women they found attractive.
They weren’t actually singing, mind you. Just using more vocal variation.
They also spoke deeper to make themselves sound ‘more masculine’ which is very effective.
So don’t be afraid to be heard…
Tip 3: Tease To Please
By now you’ve probably heard of my formula for attraction, and one of the critical elements is knowing when and how to tease a woman.
You see most guys play it way too safe, and they wind up being “blocked” in her head. She immediately classifies them as “too safe” and “boring.” And then she can never go back to thinking of him sexually again.
This is usually because most guys hold back and watch what they say. They also go out of their way to agree with what she says, which totally kills attraction.
One of the best ways to make sure she never puts you into the friends zone is to tease her a little bit. Disagree with her on occasion.
Just keep it lighthearted and funny, NOT mean-spirited.
Conversation with a woman should always be flirtatious and playful – with a lot of up-and-down energy to keep her interested. Guys try too hard to keep the energy either aggro or way too calm.
You want her laughing, having fun, and feeling challenged all at the same time.
Tip 4: Be Vulnerable
This one is critical.
So many guys try to keep themselves up on a pedestal, portraying themselves as being invulnerable and heroic, but they forget that a woman needs to see a small amount of his human weakness in the mix.
Scientists have actually quantified what makes people become friends (and eventually more). And to create any kind of trusting bond, you have to have a minimum amount of vulnerability, or there will always be a distance.
You don’t have to tell her the deepest, darkest things about you, but you should have a good story you can pull out that will get her feeling you’re relateable. Tell a story that highlights a goofy or awkward moment.
Talk about your first time skiing or parasailing, including the part about how you took a spill on the lift, or how you stumbled through your landing.
Stories with a little self-deprecation show a woman that you’re comfortable in your own skin. And that you’re resilient enough to handle tough situations with a positive attitude.
Tip 5: Know When to Get Help
I often do research on the “state of the union” when it comes to men’s dating advice. I’m always blown away by the pathetic advice a lot of the so called “gurus” and advisors out there give.
One site I saw suggested that you “take her out to Thai.” As in, go to a Thai restaurant with her.
Seriously? This is “Advice”?
What if she doesn’t like Thai? Is there a substitute?
C’mon, guys deserve better than this.
Even more annoying is the fact that dating tips like this always say pretty much the same thing:
“Try and impress her with the same lame crap that nice guys everywhere use to meet women. Spend money on her, compliment her blindly, and then try to disguise your sexual desires as much as possible. And if you’re LUCKY, you might get a kiss goodnight.”
Tell me, how often has that approach worked for you?
Probably not much.
And I don’t like leaving my love life up to fate and chance. I want to make it kneel before me and give me what I deserve.
Look, the reason you’re still here reading this is because you’re probably not getting the level of success with women you really want.
Maybe you’re not dating at all, and you want some new options for dating.
Maybe you’re dating on occasion, but you can’t seal the deal.
Maybe you’ve got some women in your life, but you feel like you’re settling.
And no matter what the situation, you want MORE.
You want what the other guys seem to get without having to try…
And you know what? You’re right for wanting that.
That’s when it’s time to get some help from someone who can give you the success you want.
I’ve put together a program to help you do exactly that: Succeed with women.