Attract women

To many men the secret of attracting women never reveals itself. They can’t attract women and die desperate or settling for less. Don’t let it be you!

How? By reading the many, oh so many blog posts about how to attract women I’ve written over the years. They’ll show you the when, why, how, where, and more of attracting women.

They cover topics ranging from why women fall in love with bad boys, do women like rich guys and if not then what do they like, how you can attract women without pretending you’re someone or something you’re not and much, much more.

So what are you waiting for? Check out my blog posts about how to attract women below… » Attract women

How To Meet Women – With No Fear And No Rejection – Part 1

Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted in Attract women | Posted on 24-07-2014


Why do we do this to ourselves?

Why do guys force themselves to walk up to women and start a conversation?

Well, I suppose the answer is really pretty basic and obvious. If we didn’t, nothing would really happen. Women understand intuitively that it’s the man’s job to approach.


I believe that this one burden men have to bear is part of a bigger picture of evolutionary design. After all, we are demonstrating that we have the balls and the fortitude to talk to her – and risk possible rejection.

If we couldn’t do that, could she expect us to protect her and to keep her safe?

Probably not.

So the unfortunate side effect is that if we don’t find the courage to chat a girl up, we’re at risk of being kicked out of the gene pool… for good. But the real danger is that most men will rush into a relationship with a woman that is below their standards – they will settle – simply because their inner fear of having to approach women (or be alone) will get the better of them.


You might even find this fact shocking: Many hot women have told me that they … » Attract womentitle_li=How to create attraction

How do I know I’m in love?

Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted in Attract women, How to create attraction | Posted on 15-07-2014


You’ve been dating this chick for months, and she’s amazing! You smile when you think about her, and you want to be around her all the time.

But, there’s a part of you that’s confused.

You might wonder if this is really love. After everything that had happened to you, now you’re unsure, maybe even a little pessimistic.

How would you know if you’re really in love wit her?

Read this article, it has some good insights. And at the end, you’ll be thinking “Oh, THAT’s how I’ll know”.

Stay Alpha,

- Carlos Xuma

Title: How do I know I’m in love?

When people ask me, I always answer with a question, one that I learned from an old man. There is always an answer.


Eleven years ago, I was in the last throes of despair with my ex-wife. I didn’t much like her, nor she me. Within a year, we would be divorced. She was the kind who slept in another room — sometimes another room in a nearby city. Me, I gleefully flew off to Scotland on a moment’s notice. It was like that. We tolerated one another, and no more.

In matters of love, tolerance is … » Attract women

Can You Love TWO Women At The Same Time?

Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted in Attract women | Posted on 25-06-2014


Can you fall in love with two women? The simple answer is yes, but the level of love will probably be different. The first could be out of commitment and the second out of lust.

It’s always different, but the most common situation is that a guy would fall in love outside of his established long-term relationship. That means, you could either be married or have been with your girlfriend for a long time when another woman comes along.


A survey from showed that men fall in love quicker than women – 54 % of guys say they’ve felt love at first sight, compared to 44 % of women. Pretty crazy, huh? Most people would have guessed the opposite.

Also, 77 % of women say having personal space - that time to themselves – is important to them and rarely go out, while 23% of men need to have regular night outs with their friends.

This means, men would have a lot of women in their network. And finding that someone to connect with or fool around with will most likely present itself.

When a guy falls in love, it doesn’t happen instantly. We go through stages, which will …

Is Learning How To Attract Women Ethical?

If you’re wondering whether learning how to attract women is manipulating them or not, then keep reading…

Frankly, in my opinion? Learning how to attract women is not manipulating them. NOT learning is!

Because would you give your best friend flowers, take him out to dinner, give him cholocate, give him compliments for the way he looks all the time, and the whole nine yards? Hell no.

So, what are you doing if you do this for women? You’re acting in a completely different way than the way you normally act around your male friends. THAT’S manipulation.

Learning how to attract women by using the character traits you already have isn’t manipulation however, because it’s simply trying to achieve your full potential. What’s wrong with that? It’s being yourself for crying out loud!

And now we got that out of the way, let’s look at some of the common mistakes men make when they want to attract women…

Common Mistakes That Don’t Attract Women

Let’s check out some obvious and not so obvious mistakes you’re guaranteed to make when trying to learn how you can attract women:

1) One of the biggest secrets of attracting women most men will never know is that because you think getting a woman is hard, you try HARDER when her interest in you seems to be lower than before. It’s the logical thing to do, but attraction is based on nothing logical. It’s based on emotions, so when you do your best and a woman puts you to the test? Do less! Being harder to get than everyone else gets you the girl.

2) There are a 1000-and-1 ways to attract women, but there’s no need to learn them all. The less experience you have with women and the more you learn… the more you’ll be confused and the less you’ll do! So, find one thing that works and keep doing what works ad infinitum (until you drop dead to the ground).

3) Although there are things (character traits) that attract women of all ages, shapes, sizes, and races? No woman is the same as the one before her. That means that while they all respond to playful teasing, an attractive character trait, some women respond very well to it and others only barely because of their experiences in life. So know that if you want to attract women, better said ANY women, you have to adapt to who she is to do it…

And if you want to know more about getting women beyond attracting women, like how to ask them out for a first date, what to do on a date, and more? Then I highly recommend you check out our page with a list of all the best tips on how to get with a girl.

Anyways, I hope you found my thoughts on how to attract women useful. Make sure to stay tuned to the Win With Women blog, because there are more tips coming soon!

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women