Attract women

To many men the secret of attracting women never reveals itself. They can’t attract women and die desperate or settling for less. Don’t let it be you!

How? By reading the many, oh so many blog posts about how to attract women I’ve written over the years. They’ll show you the when, why, how, where, and more of attracting women.

They cover topics ranging from why women fall in love with bad boys, do women like rich guys and if not then what do they like, how you can attract women without pretending you’re someone or something you’re not and much, much more.

So what are you waiting for? Check out my blog posts about how to attract women below… » Attract women

5 Things You Can Do Today to Become More Alpha

Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted in Attract women | Posted on 29-10-2014


Approaching women, knowing what to say and how to act around them are all part of a guy’s toolkit. Without it, attracting women would be next to impossible.

But there’s another part of the equation that you need to take care of to be an Alpha Male in the most complete sense of the word.

And that means transforming yourself, one step at a time.

A huge part of being attractive to women is about cultivating an attitude and mindset that help you successfully interact with the opposite sex.

Even mastering the best pickup lines and approach methods won’t be as effective without that inner core. It’s that seemingly elusive quality that makes a man a dyed-in-the-wool Alpha male.

So what I’m trying to say is that you can benefit from a personality upgrade. And it’s not impossible at all to pull off.

This isn’t an overhaul and you don’t have to change who you are inside. I’m just asking you to uncover the best version of yourself by taking that first step.


#1: Lay Off the Labels

This is the first milestone in your personal transformation. It’s a simple shift in thinking, but it will have a profound effect … » Attract womentitle_li=How to talk to women

Say All the Right Things On Your Next Date

Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted in Attract women, How to talk to women | Posted on 26-10-2014


It’s funny, after managing to meet a girl, get her number and ask her out, some guys tend to freak out over what do next. A wave of panic washes over them, thinking that so much could go wrong. And the funny thing is that there’s really no reason to panic.

Dating might seem like a random, luck-of-the-draw kind of deal, but in reality the success of your evening largely depends on the stuff you say (and mostly DON’T say) to her.

Never underestimate the impact of a good (or bad) conversation during a date. Guys who often say the wrong thing (or the right thing at the wrong time) aren’t aware that women have both Attraction Switches and Dealbreaker Triggers in their heads.

The good news is that it’s not rocket science at all. We’ve broken down the communication do’s and don’ts during a date, so here’s a rundown of what to expect:

Full Disclosure: Topics That Can Wait for MUCH Later

Ok, so one of the biggest blunders is giving a girl too much information on the first date. It’s kind of disturbing how many guys actually think that diving into stuff that’s too personal or intense will … » Attract women

3 Ways To Bounce Back From a Brutal Breakup

Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted in Attract women | Posted on 16-10-2014


She packed her bags, gave a last, tearful speech and slammed the door shut. She’s gone from your life for good, and she may as well have torn out your heart before she left.

You’re sitting there, feeling numb from shock as you’re trying to process what just happened. After a while, a dam bursts inside you and the emotions start flooding you so fast you don’t know which way is up.

It’s ok, we’ve all been through this crap one time or another. Here’s how you can keep your head above water and see that light at the end of the tunnel:

#1: “Let it Hit You Like a Truck”

You’re feeling absolutely horrible right now, and you want to sift through the rubble of your failed relationship. Don’t – now is not the time to figure out what went wrong.

That part comes later. Right now, focus on just dealing with the all those emotions beating down your door.

Here’s my advice: let them in. It’s the first step of your healing process.


Comedian Louis C.K. once said that when you have those moments of sadness (which is what defines a breakup), you need to let those emotions …

Is Learning How To Attract Women Ethical?

If you’re wondering whether learning how to attract women is manipulating them or not, then keep reading…

Frankly, in my opinion? Learning how to attract women is not manipulating them. NOT learning is!

Because would you give your best friend flowers, take him out to dinner, give him cholocate, give him compliments for the way he looks all the time, and the whole nine yards? Hell no.

So, what are you doing if you do this for women? You’re acting in a completely different way than the way you normally act around your male friends. THAT’S manipulation.

Learning how to attract women by using the character traits you already have isn’t manipulation however, because it’s simply trying to achieve your full potential. What’s wrong with that? It’s being yourself for crying out loud!

And now we got that out of the way, let’s look at some of the common mistakes men make when they want to attract women…

Common Mistakes That Don’t Attract Women

Let’s check out some obvious and not so obvious mistakes you’re guaranteed to make when trying to learn how you can attract women:

1) One of the biggest secrets of attracting women most men will never know is that because you think getting a woman is hard, you try HARDER when her interest in you seems to be lower than before. It’s the logical thing to do, but attraction is based on nothing logical. It’s based on emotions, so when you do your best and a woman puts you to the test? Do less! Being harder to get than everyone else gets you the girl.

2) There are a 1000-and-1 ways to attract women, but there’s no need to learn them all. The less experience you have with women and the more you learn… the more you’ll be confused and the less you’ll do! So, find one thing that works and keep doing what works ad infinitum (until you drop dead to the ground).

3) Although there are things (character traits) that attract women of all ages, shapes, sizes, and races? No woman is the same as the one before her. That means that while they all respond to playful teasing, an attractive character trait, some women respond very well to it and others only barely because of their experiences in life. So know that if you want to attract women, better said ANY women, you have to adapt to who she is to do it…

And if you want to know more about getting women beyond attracting women, like how to ask them out for a first date, what to do on a date, and more? Then I highly recommend you check out our page with a list of all the best tips on how to get with a girl.

Anyways, I hope you found my thoughts on how to attract women useful. Make sure to stay tuned to the Win With Women blog, because there are more tips coming soon!

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women