Attract women

To many men the secret of attracting women never reveals itself. They can’t attract women and die desperate or settling for less. Don’t let it be you!

How? By reading the many, oh so many blog posts about how to attract women I’ve written over the years. They’ll show you the when, why, how, where, and more of attracting women.

They cover topics ranging from why women fall in love with bad boys, do women like rich guys and if not then what do they like, how you can attract women without pretending you’re someone or something you’re not and much, much more.

So what are you waiting for? Check out my blog posts about how to attract women below… » Attract womentitle_li=What women want

The Biggest Sign You Have a Chance With Her – and What to do Next!

Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted in Attract women, What women want | Posted on 01-09-2014


It’s tough to figure out if the woman you’ve been flirting with likes you or not. You definitely want to make sure you’re not misinterpreting her “nice” gestures towards you – and you don’t want to end up in the Friends Zone.

But, most importantly, you wouldn’t want to pass the chance if she does like you and waiting for you to make your move.

So, how would you know?

Check out this article, the BIGGEST sign will help you figure out if she’s into you – or not.


Stay Alpha,

- Carlos Xuma

Title: The Biggest Sign You Have a Chance With Her – and What to do Next!

There are two questions that I get asked more often than just about any other…

#1: When a guy first meets or goes out with a great woman, how does he know whether he has a “chance” with her?

#2: If he feels like he does have a chance, what should he do next?


All of this uncertainty is caused by one simple fact: once a guy gets the vaguest whiff of a woman who might be interested in him, he usually starts doing almost everything WRONG. His … » Attract womentitle_li=How to create attraction

Do you have “limitations”?

Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted in Attract women, How to create attraction | Posted on 01-09-2014


When it comes to natural limitations, I don’t like to encourage the view that they are “limitations.” Sure, we all have things about us we’d like to be more “ideal” or match some Hollywood expectation. But when you get right down to it, EVERYONE does.

For instance, most perceived limitations come in what I call the “visual variety.” All that stuff we’re told that we should have to be physically attractive to another person, like your musculature, your facial features, or even your hairline.


The one thing that most guys don’t realize is that we men believe that just because WE find women attractive (or not) based solely on appearance, that women are doing the same to us. The fact is that while we should maximize our *image* as much as possible, women are more attracted to our level of confidence and “dominance” when it comes to sexual attraction.

In many ways, this gives men the unfair advantage over women, since their genetics stamped them very early in life. For men, we can actually mold our sexual appeal by our behavior, which is what I’ve been teaching men how to do for over a decade now.

Think of Jack Nicholson. … » Attract women

How To Get Emotional With Women Without Being a Wuss

Posted by Carlos Xuma | Posted in Attract women | Posted on 21-08-2014


Feelings: for guys, it’s the final frontier. Let’s admit it – as men, we’re not big on sharing our emotions.

Case in point: Ever notice how many books on self-help for men that AREN’T on the market?

Instead of taking our emotions apart, most of us would rather tinker with our cars or analyze the             socio-political themes in Watchmen.

Now I know there are exceptions to this, so if you like talking about your feelings, then props to you.


But for the vast majority of dudes out there – particularly those interested in meeting women – they’re hurting their game by not tapping into their emotional network.

Starting a conversation isn’t enough; you’ll need to actively engage her on an emotional level.

Otherwise, you might as well be STERILE. Fortunately, it isn’t that hard to trigger a woman’s feelings.

And no, it doesn’t mean pretending to gush over Eat, Pray, Love just to create that spark of attraction.

First of all, it’s OK to actually hint that you like a woman. It’s a delicate rope to walk for sure; being too direct may give away the game and turn her off.

But if you’re not working towards creating sexual …

Is Learning How To Attract Women Ethical?

If you’re wondering whether learning how to attract women is manipulating them or not, then keep reading…

Frankly, in my opinion? Learning how to attract women is not manipulating them. NOT learning is!

Because would you give your best friend flowers, take him out to dinner, give him cholocate, give him compliments for the way he looks all the time, and the whole nine yards? Hell no.

So, what are you doing if you do this for women? You’re acting in a completely different way than the way you normally act around your male friends. THAT’S manipulation.

Learning how to attract women by using the character traits you already have isn’t manipulation however, because it’s simply trying to achieve your full potential. What’s wrong with that? It’s being yourself for crying out loud!

And now we got that out of the way, let’s look at some of the common mistakes men make when they want to attract women…

Common Mistakes That Don’t Attract Women

Let’s check out some obvious and not so obvious mistakes you’re guaranteed to make when trying to learn how you can attract women:

1) One of the biggest secrets of attracting women most men will never know is that because you think getting a woman is hard, you try HARDER when her interest in you seems to be lower than before. It’s the logical thing to do, but attraction is based on nothing logical. It’s based on emotions, so when you do your best and a woman puts you to the test? Do less! Being harder to get than everyone else gets you the girl.

2) There are a 1000-and-1 ways to attract women, but there’s no need to learn them all. The less experience you have with women and the more you learn… the more you’ll be confused and the less you’ll do! So, find one thing that works and keep doing what works ad infinitum (until you drop dead to the ground).

3) Although there are things (character traits) that attract women of all ages, shapes, sizes, and races? No woman is the same as the one before her. That means that while they all respond to playful teasing, an attractive character trait, some women respond very well to it and others only barely because of their experiences in life. So know that if you want to attract women, better said ANY women, you have to adapt to who she is to do it…

And if you want to know more about getting women beyond attracting women, like how to ask them out for a first date, what to do on a date, and more? Then I highly recommend you check out our page with a list of all the best tips on how to get with a girl.

Anyways, I hope you found my thoughts on how to attract women useful. Make sure to stay tuned to the Win With Women blog, because there are more tips coming soon!

To More Dating Success,

Dennis Miedema
Win With Women