How To Win With Women

Carlos Xuma's Dating Tips & Secrets

Author: Carlos

Attract women

Being Sexual…Is A Gentleman’s Game

You know…some people tell me I tease women too much, bust their balls too often or whatever you want to call it and that it’s very “beginner” of me to tease women the way that I do…and I don’t blame those dumb asses for not knowing me that well.

There are…also some people who think being sexual (one of the attractive character traits) is about being naughty and talking about sex all day…and I don’t blame THOSE dumb asses for knowing SEXUALITY not that well…

And today, I want to straigthen some things out and talk to all you readers out there about being sexual…and we’ll kick this series off with being a gentleman.

But Wait A Damn Minute! Isn’t Being A Gentleman, Being A WUSSY?

If you ONLY knew…because if there wasn’t no sex going on AT ALL during the 1800s, 1900s and so on because there was no attraction? YOU would not be alive today because of your dry spell great great grandfather!

You see, being sexual is always looked upon as “one thing” instead of TWO very unique mindsets. We have…
– The badboy mindset – raw sexuality, sex topics, being naughty, hard
– The gentleman mindset …

Inner game

True Inner Game

I´ve been away for a while (a couple of weeks)…away NOT as in chilling on some desolated beach with a boobie in my mind, but away as in exploring my deepest thoughts, insights and realizations I´ve had being in the game and did that together with a number of other highly respected PUAs. One of the realizations I had doing this, is this….Inner Game at it´s core is NOT your way of thinking!

Rule #1: There Is NO Such Thing As A “State”

When you first start with the game and are barely aware of what the game actually IS, YOU base your success on how you feel, a.k.a. your MOOD (emotions). Moods swing from day to day, hour to hour which is proven by your ups and downs `lifecycle` and letting your moods define your success means you´ll only know a current, a wave like pattern but it is never TRANSCENDING itself…no, it just goes up for -10 to 10, and than down from 10 to -10 without growth..PERIOD. This is what MANY in the community are experiencing when they’re asking “how do I control my state, because I feel…” WRONG! Your state of mind should never be …

Approaching women

Meeting Women Is All About Natural Innocence

I wanted to share this particular forum topic of mine with all of you readers out there, because I think it can mean a GIGANTIC shift in your state of mind.
So…do you dare to join the large fellas?

What IS Natural Innocence?

A man is in a state of natural innocence when he acts without design, trickery or clever routine. His inner nature will cause him to act authentic under all circumstances if his mind is not corrupted by calculated self-interest. His ‘expertise’, is intuitive and unintentional, because it is the open and automatic expression of his inner self, not his conscious mind. The VERY moment he begins to calculate his actions towards outcomes, personal advantages and rewards, innocence ceases to exist. When man’s nature is overridden by his desires and his inner spirit stifled by ambition, he DESTROYS the natural purity of his humanity and becomes capable of all kinds of fronting, masking, fear based responses, lying. And when he finally manages to completely silence his inner voice of innocence, he becomes totally corrupted, for his mind can devise all kinds of justifications for his own self-centered ways. But if he retains his innocence and keeps his spirit …